Leader's Share and Step Questions
"Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves".
Fourth Step Prayer:
It is I who have made my life a mess. I have done it, but I cannot undo it. My mistakes are mine and I will begin a searching and fearless moral inventory. I will write down my wrongs, but I will also include that which is good. I pray for the strength to complete this task.
Principle of Step Four:
In Step Four, we learn courage as we faced the truth about our defects of character. Applying these principles in all our affairs means that we are no longer ruled by a fear of admitting our mistakes.
The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Overeaters Anonymous: Page 104
In the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of OA, Step Four is divided into four different sections: Pride, Fear, Resentments and Honesty. This is the second part of Step Four: Resentment Exercise and Honesty questions. There is also another Asset Exercise too. Donít forget that one!
As I always instruct my local step study, DO NOT SHARE with us anything that is too personal, too private or you will regret later. Share only a few examples of what you feel comfortable in sharing. You will share ALL of your inventory in Step Five with another person (preferably your sponsor, but it can be a therapist, minister or priest or an understanding OA member or friend.) I am available to read your Step Five. My email address is: CindiLou62@hotmail.com Be sure to keep all of your step work!
REMEMBER TO SHARE WITH US ONLY A FEW EXAMPLES OF WHAT IS COMFORTABLE FOR YOU TO SHARE. WE DO NOT NEED YOUR ENTIRE INVENTORY. THANK YOU!
THIRD SECTION: RESENTMENTS
In this section, please follow this format which is described in The Twelve Steps - A Spiritual Journey:
I resent ______ because ______. This affects _____. This activates ______. This makes me feel _____.
Here are some examples of my own resentments.
My example: I resent my mother growing old. This affects my sense of security. This activates fear. This makes me feel like I will be left alone in the world without any emotional support. (My mother passed away in November 2016.)
My example: I resent not getting a college education. This affects my self-esteem and my economic security. This activates anger, self-pity and fear. This makes me feel less than I am when I cannot support myself well.
My example: I resent not being able to be open emotionally with my family and friends. This affects my sense of security. This activates fear and anger. This makes me feel left out and unloved.
My example: I resent my physical pain and the limits it places on me. This affects my sense of security. This activates fear and anger. This makes me feel very vulnerable.
FOURTH SECTION: HONESTY
1. Have we ever stolen anything? Make a list of each incident we can remember in which we have taken money, food and/or other things which did not belong to us.
2. Have we kept money or items we found instead of returning them to their rightful owners? Have we ever damaged anyone's property and not paid for the damage? Have we ever cheated anyone out of money or property? Make a list of each incident we can remember.
3. Self-deception is a form of dishonesty. Do we dwell on the dark side of things? Are we grateful for what we do have in life? Are we optimistic or pessimistic? Do we indulge in self-pity or do we play the martyr? Do we devalue ourselves with negative thoughts?
As with any inventory, we must list not only the liabilities but also the assets. This exercise is meant to give you a more balanced view of yourself as a person.
Name six character or personality traits of yours that you really like and why. Please do not list physical attributes. Although having beautiful blue eyes is great, it does not define who you are.
Example: I am grateful that recovery has allowed my gift of writing and sharing to surface and be used in this step study. To have such a gift has given me much needed self-esteem.
I admit the exercises and questions will take some time for each of us to complete. My suggestion is to work on one section at a time then give yourself a break before moving onto the next section. That seems the easiest way to handle it. You have the entire week so use it. If you have any questions, please ask. I am here to help. You can email me at: CindiLou62@hotmail.com
Love in recovery,
WTS: 1st quarter 2018
Love in Recovery,
First Quarter, 2018 WTS
Step Four-part 1
The Twelve Steps
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