Leader's Share and Step Questions
Step One, Quarter 1, 2018
We admitted we were powerless over food — that our lives had become unmanageable.
The First Step Prayer:
Today, I ask for help with my addiction. Denial has kept me from
seeing how powerless I am and how my life is unmanageable. I need to
learn and remember that I have an incurable illness and that
abstinence is the only way to deal with it. Amen
Principle of Step One:
In Step One we learn the principle of honesty as we admit our personal
powerlessness over food, and the fact that without help we cannot
successfully manage our own lives. Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Overeaters
Anonymous, page 103.
My Step One:
Hi, I am Cindi, a compulsive overeater.
You will here me say that every time I share with you, whether it is here in this study or at a meeting.
I need to ADMIT that I am a food addict. At my very first meeting, it was so hard to open my mouth and say those words. Me? An addict? Why me?
What did I ever do that made me an addict? Was it my fault? Am I to blame? Maybe I am too weak? Too stupid?
Nah, none of those things are true. I am an addict simply because that is how I am made. I have brown eyes. I am an addict. I am 5’4”.
I am an addict. I have OCD – obsessive compulsive disease. I am an addict. Addiction is simply a part of who I am. I did nothing wrong.
I am not to blame. It is not my fault. I am not a weak person and I am certainly not too stupid. And you know what else? NEITHER ARE YOU!
So, now that I can admit that I am an addict, can I also admit that I have absolutely no power over food myself?
Food – plain and simple – has little to do with my addiction. Huh? That is right – for me. Sure, I am physically addicted to sugar.
When I ingest sugar into my system, it sets up the phenomenon of cravings. I hate those cravings.
They make me want to eat more and more and more and it still will not be enough. So, for me, I must abstain completely from all sugar products.
BUT, that is still not enough to stop the OBSESSION with food. Even though the sugar might be out of my system, I can still obsess about other foods, amounts of foods, my weight gain or loss and so on.
It is the OBSESSION that is the true addiction.
How can my life be unmanageable because of food? I weighed between 250 and 300 pounds most of my adult life.
I had to seek out stores that carried extra large sizes. I also began to have numerous health problems beginning in my forties.
Yes, when I was younger I could diet and get the weight off but once I hit forty, dieting went out the window and did not return.
I had high blood pressure, spurs in both heels, arthritis in my back and Diabetes Type II. And that was just the beginning!
I also had anxiety and panic attacks, phobias, severe depression periods and spent several years covered with hives from my head to my toes.
I also had trouble getting hired again when I lost my good job and ended up in another career with less money and no benefits.
So, yes, my life had become unmanageable and I needed help!
It was at that point that my life became so painful that I needed to seek out help and that help came in the form of the Twelve Step program.
Truly they saved my life! Which is why I am here, with you, trying to continue to save my life. There is no cure for addiction.
There is simply a one-day reprieve from the obsession with food and we get that by working the Twelve Step program. Together we really do get better!
Read the first chapter on Step One of The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Overeaters Anonymous.
You may also want to read the following chapters of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous to understand the concept of addiction:
A Doctor's Opinion, There is a Solution and More on Alcoholism.
1. Are you able to admit your powerlessness? If not, what is holding you back? How do you feel when you admit you are an addict? Do you still tend to blame yourself? Why?
2. How does food addiction affect your life? Emotionally? Physically? Spiritually?
3. How is your life unmanageable? Do you have health problems? Relationship problems? Financial problems? Job problems?
4. Are you in touch with your feelings? Can you experience fear, pain or anger? Are you able to express feelings of joy, contentment or serenity?
5. Are you willing to work to save your life from addiction? Make a list of what you are willing to do to have good recovery. Make another list of what you are NOT willing to do. Compare lists.
Send your shares to this email address: WTS@LISTS.THERECOVERYGROUP.ORG
Love in recovery,
1st Quarter 2018
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