Hi, friends. My name is Penny, and I’m a compulsive eater and leader for this quarter’s WTS step study.
Now that we are ready to have our Higher Power remove our defects of character, or are at least willing to become ready, we move ahead quickly to Step 7. Whether we take Step 7 on each individual character defect or just let go of the whole lot of them is immaterial as long as we move forward.
A cornerstone is something that is essential, the foundation on which something is constructed. The cornerstone of Step 7 is humility.
I used to confuse humility with humiliation. Humiliation was what I had been handed for years: it meant being shamed, mocked, debased, and emotionally abused. When I heard that I was now supposed to maintain a position of humility, naturally I rebelled.
Fortunately I had sponsors and teachers who gently brought me back to reality.
Humility is a personal value that places me exactly where I am, no better no worse than anyone else. Humility is the value that says I am a creature of this world, created to be the best person I can be, deserving of my share of air, love, and attention. Humility says that I am teachable, open to learning from others. As one of my teachers puts it, humility is the equivalent of sitting on a bench, taking up my own space and making sure there is room on the bench for others who wish to sit there while not giving up my own space.
It’s crucial to bring an attitude of humility to Step 7 because the whole point of Steps 6 and 7 is to let my Higher Power remove character flaws that otherwise detract from my being the best person I can be. I’m not asking – demanding – that my Higher Power remove the flaws so that I can better than anyone else; I’m doing it so that I can be at one with my universe
I am not “humbly asking” if I go into Step 7 expecting to be made perfect, especially if I hope that other people will notice my newly formed perfection. I am humbly asking if I acknowledge that removing my flaws and defects will make me a better Penny because that way I can be useful to my universe (and to myself).
From the Big Book:
“When ready, we say something like this: “My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good and bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows. Grant me strength, as I go out from here, to do your bidding. Amen.” We have then completed Step Seven.” Alcoholics Anonymous World Service (2014-01-05).
Questions for journaling:
Thank you for letting me be your leader this quarter!
- How do you define humility?
- Why do you think humility is the essence of Step 7?
- If you have worked Step 7, what did it feel like afterwards?
- If you are just at Step 7, what do you think you will feel like/experience after taking Step 7?
The Twelve Steps