Became entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
Leader's Share and Step Questions
"Became entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character."
In action it sounds relatively simple: We examine our 4th step, and outline the changes that will bring us to a better place.
Spiritually it has a reputation for being really difficult. Two words jump out at me. Entirely! All! This is where we start to contemplate significant jumps toward recovery. It's important to point out that it's not easy to really be willing to change. Wanting to change (who would not want to change) and being willing are two different things. Just as wanting to be thin and putting down the food are two different things, the same principle holds true for letting go of anger, or whatever other character defect has jumped off the page. So where do we get willingness? It's a gift.
That doesn't mean that we can sit back and wait to be reformed. We pretend that we are willing. We act as if. If we struggle with fear, we name our fears, and then take action. We look at our challenges in life and see them as opportunities. (Currently I have been given a wonderful gift, I'm getting a chance to grow in faith.)
For each character defect that was named in your fourth step, name the asset that is the opposite. Ask yourself, what do I need to do to act as if ... Write about bringing the asset into your life.
If you think this is impossible, consider that God has already given you a miracle. There is no better explanation for becoming willing to put down the food. The AA 12 & 12 asks, if God has done that, it's a small thing to deal with our character defects. "He asks only that we try the best we know how to make progress in the building of character."
What does it mean to be entirely ready? We are encouraged to try.
1. Have you made parallel lists of defects and assets?
2. Have you answered the question: what do I need to do to become...?
3. Write about perfectionism and step 6. Can you get past Entirely and All?
4. What are you unwilling to give up?
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