Leader's Share and Step Questions
"Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs."
Step 5 is the follow up of step 4. You need to share your inventory with another human being. This is usually your sponsor, but does not not have to be. This is an essential step, if you wish to recover.
“Most of us would declare that without a fearless admission of our defects to another human being, we cannot stay sober.” (AA 12&12)
"Ego Deflation" (AA 12 & 12)
I certainly had no idea when I walked into the rooms in 1997 that the problem was my ego. I didn't know that a "backwards ego" (How bad a person I am) also counts. It's also a perverse sort of pride. The most common response to step 5 is astonishment that our story is neither shocking or surprising. Step 5 also sets us up for one of the primary values of the program ... I am only as sick as my secrets. Sharing what's going on with your sponsor, or other trusted advisors is a basic coping skill as we move forward.
One of the most basic benefits of step 5 is that we are no longer alone. Someone is walking alongside you, helping to carry your burdens.
The OA 12 & 12 reminds us that we are part of the human race, neither worse or better. I need to be continually reminded that I am "just another bozo on the bus."
"Begin to see ourselves as capable, strong and honest." OA 12&12.
One of the great miracles of the program is that it has turned me into a capable and strong human being. One of my favorite stories in the Big Book is "Grounded." This is a story of an airline pilot who had lost his lisence because he got caught flying a commercial airliner drunk. He rebuilt his credentials, one step at a time. How often have I reached for his strength and understood that I can achieve great things, by doing what is in front of me today.
“I had learned how to do many things one day at a time, one small step at a time...” (Big Book, 528)
“Once we have taken this step, withholding nothing, we are delighted. We can look the world in there. We can be alone at perfect peace and ease. Our fears fall from us. We begin to feel the nearness of our Creator.... we begin to have a spiritual experience. ... We feel we are on the Broad Highway, walking hand in hand with the Spirit of the Universe.” (Big Book, pg.75)
Have you made plans to do your fifth step?
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