Step Twelve

Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps,
we tried to carry this message to compulsive eaters,
and to practice these principles in all our affairs.






Leader's Share and Step Questions


Welcome Home, Welcome back, and who can believe we are on Step Twelve? I must say I am truly amazed at how fast the time did go, and that just as soon as I hit the send button on Step Twelve, ten million other things will hit me that I would have loved to have shared with you. That is the wonderful thing about Recovery is that we are Life Long Learners and Sharers on this journey to happy destiny as we recover one day at a time! I applaud you! You are the winners, you made it, you did the work and your life, your recovery will continue to show it. Keep coming back, please do not leave before your miracle!! I ever so humbly thank you for blessing me to walk along side of you while you recover and thank you for your shares of your very own experience, strength and hopes. I thank you so much for blessing me with so much encouragement and hope! You are paving the way and helping save the life of the next struggler on the path and road to recovery. So here we go with Step Twelve, where we learn to give it away to keep it. Share it or wear it. That's what Step Twelve is all about. Service and more Service.

STEP TWELVE: "Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry the message to compulsive overeaters, and to practice these principles in all our affairs."

SPIRITUAL PRINCIPLE: "Service"
Service:"the action of helping someone."

“Freely ye have received; freely give…” is the core of this part of Step Twelve.

I must say God is so good, and even though my health has been really rough, God continues to work miracle after miracle in my life. Me surviving that infection and being with you is a miracle! I want to emphasize and smash home the stark reality that this dis ease is just as fatal, and every bit of a killer as cancer, or any other form of a life taking sickness out there. I really didn't know if I would be here for Step Twelve but God has a greater plan, and I am happy to say the plan is still for me here on earth today, one day at a time. At 745 pounds the chains of DENIAL (don't even notice, I am lying) were taking me out. I was so body dysmorphic, I really imagined myself to be a 165 pound woman in that body. When I was 165 pound and less anorexic, I imagined myself to be the 745 pound woman. Today I live in the reality of this 500 pound maimed and disfigured body. However I am a recovering compulsive overeater. I am not dying in my dis ease. I am living to tell you the story of how to survive. It is only through a daily humble admission of God, I admit I am powerless over food, sugar, my life has become unmanageable, I believe you can restore me to sanity and I NOW make the decision to turn my will, food, sugar, life and all that I am and have over to Your care, saying Thy will be done in Jesus Name amen. This surrender to God frees me. It is through staying in that decision, and abiding in God, with God in constant communion with Him, fellowship with Him; that moment by moment conscious contact with God that keeps that obsession of my mind from calling me to the food, that triggers off the allergy in my body! This is HOW it works for me, and How God through the 12 Steps has freed me from 230 pounds so far. There will be plenty more weight to come off. I have faith in that. Just as soon as I am able to breathe and walk at the same time again, I have physical therapy already in place and God has plans for me, or I wouldn't be here :) I have faith and I am taking action in my faith. I had physical therapy sitting down twice last week. That's how good God is. My Son came over and was so happy to know even in my sickness I was still pursuing physical activity, and was really happy with me to not just lay in it, no, I had to take up my sick bed and walk. I encourage you to do the same thing. DO not let this dis ease take you out. It wants to. God wants you to live, Choose life! We have a daily choice to make; abstinence, spiritual action is choosing life. Compulsive overeating is sowing death. Choose life! Trust me being the 745 pound woman is very painful in unimaginable ways. I got here from an anorexic woman, and the weight flies on with this dis ease. I pray you choose life friend, and DO the possible, while you trust God for the impossible.

STEP TWELVE: "Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry the message to compulsive overeaters, and to practice these principles in all our affairs."

So giving Service is a result of a spiritual awakening and boy did I need a spiritual awakening. Such low self esteem, like being fat is the worst thing, the worst person on the planet. Let's see a murderer, rapist, child molester, and me a fat woman in the room. The only person's who could be openly judged for her wrong doing would be me. So I judged myself a zero. I had lost my health, My singing, my career, on oxygen, wheelchair. my worth was below zero, But God met me on my death bed. He reached even me at 745 pounds and started loving on me. His love reaches even me. We have free access to God we can live with Him and approach God all the time, this is conscious contact with God. The goodness of God leads us to change. God has so loved me thoroughly because I see who He is through Jesus Christ. I am not mandated to live right, or be right, my value is in and through Him, I am free from myself, from sin, from compulsive overeating because He loves me, cleanses me, fills me, and frees me. God sees me blameless, holy and above reproach and that's what changes me and my heart to change. I don't have to try and live right,or eat right, I can simply be wiling to surrender my will over to His loving care. I am just in love with God with Jesus, and fellowship, communion, surrendered to His will. The daily miracle of relationship with God, over relationship over food, produces such a miracle of freedom, where there is no striving or trying, with failure, and pain, or trying to life right to please God, that's impersonal, I am enjoying being a daughter, and enjoying Him coming and giving me strength and life and a purpose, that's identity, just out of knowing Him, continues to make all the difference, that spiritual awakening of being a daughter, and that His love fills me, and satisfies me, and as I surrender my will over to His care, He does for me what I could never do for myself. That freedom from the obsession of the mind and the allergy of the body is miraculous!

Faith is the spontaneous result of knowing Him. He really is my Father, He saved me, washed me clean, He loves even me, He can carry even me, restore me, make me new, a new way of thinking, a new way of being. He died for me because I am His daughter, I have a life to live because of Him, I am in the family portrait. Why would He go to the extent of dying on the Cross? Just so I can end up in Heaven one day? How about for a daily moment by moment conscious contact with God? How about so I can know Him now, and walk with Him now, and have Heaven inside of me, and I can look through His eyes and understand purpose and truth, and destiny. He defines me. I am a daughter of the Most High God of Heavens Armies, I love Him because He first loved me. I am absolutely free from sin, my identity is righteous through Christ. Grace carries me, unmerited favor, I don't deserve it, He gives it freely out of His love toward me. His love fills that God shaped hole in my soul, so I don't have to fill it with a bag, or box, or bar, or, or or.. empty calories. Everyone's spiritual awakening will be different. Some gradual and some instantaneous. A spiritual awakening is a psychic change that eliminates our obsession to compulsively overeat. I love the fact that recovery begins the moment one compulsive overeater begins speaking with another overeater. Of course all we have to share is our very own experience, strength and hopes, and the wonderful thing of that is, is that is all that is needed!

Nothing will ensure immunity from compulsive overeating as giving Service with other compulsive overeaters.

Helping others is the foundation stone of our recovery.The joy of living is found in OA's Twelfth Step, and action is the key word. Here we give to our fellows, and actually get back so much in return, in so many different ways. Believe me service has it's own reward! From being a Sponsor, and hearing the light bulbs go off, from hearing the chains of denial fall, the death grip of the dis ease give way. The heart break and power of the past lose it's power over your brother or sister in recovery, just miracle after miracle. From families restored, sanity restored, health restored. weight release. I have been blessed to partake of,miracle after miracle, simply for being willing, showing up and sharing what God has given me, and what He is doing in me ;the willingness to work Steps 1, 2 and 3 every morning, along with my time with God, Then to do a nightly Tenth Step praying through freedom from character defects and daily keeping up on any amends due. Simply sharing my own experience, strength and hopes, either at a Meeting, online, or through Sponsoring, well the rewards of giving it away in Service are so humbling and tender at times it can only be the hand of God blessing me through divine alignments and divine assignments. It all happens through a willing spirit for God to use me. If you have not yet picked up your first Sponsee, I encourage you to Sponsor to your level of Recovery. We can ask someone, we can offer our Service. We do not have to wait to be asked. We see it in the Big Book, they sought out their first strugglers, we can too. Through Service you will find you are more willing to work your own Program. You are more willing to surrender and work for your abstinence, because you know you are going to be sharing about it. You listen for wonderful promptings and teachings from God and The Holy Spirit to share and give away. Such blessings and help to your own recovery come. It makes me so much stronger to give.

If you look at the last three Steps we did, you'll notice Tenth Step talks about "continuing" the Eleventh Step talks about "Seeking and improving" and the Twelfth Step talks bout in ALL our affairs," so our Program leaves no room for complacency or coasting. Continuous spiritual action required. If we keep moving we will get to that next level., if we slow down or stop moving we get right back to where we came from. I DESPERATELY do not want to go back to where I came from, you? 745 pounds? No thanks! No emotional sobriety? No thanks! No peace? No thanks! Now that we've made conscious contact with God we have received the greatest gift of this Program - a spiritual awakening. God guides us in a way that is miraculous! Some will have a gradual spiritual experience and others right away! The wonderful thing for me is that in Recovery, my relationship with God and my spiritual awakening just continues to unfold and be such a miracle every day! I have plenty to share and give away from the well spring and blessings God continually showers me with.

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SUGGESTED READING:
AA BIG BOOK (p. 89-102)
OA 12 STEPS & 12 TRADITIONS (p. 99-106)

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AA BIG BOOK (p. 89-102)

Nothing will ensure immunity from compulsive overeating as giving Service with other compulsive overeaters. We are not evangelists or reformers, however, we are uniquely useful to other compulsive overeaters. We share our account of how sick we were and how we realized it, the mental twists, the sprees. We share our malady and they draw their own conclusion. We talk about the condition of the mind and of the body which accompany it, talking about our own experience. We talk about the hopelessness of this disease and offer the solution. Our protege' will be very curious how we got well. We tell them exactly how we got well, and STRESS the spiritual feature freely. Even if they are agnostic or atheist, we simply use every day language and offer a Power greater than himself in simple spiritual terms. If they are people of faith we respect that and not instruct them on faith. We are dealing only with spiritual principles not religion. We never talk down to anyone from some spiritual hilltop, we simply lay out the kit of our spiritual tools. If he is to find God the desire must come from within him. We make ourselves available. Helping others is the foundation stone of our recovery. Every person can get well. The only requirement is that we trust God and clean house. We must walk in daily spiritual progress, and such miracles will come. The things that come to us when we put ourselves in God's hands are far better than anything we could have planned. We are to be sure we are on solid spiritual ground, because our job is now to make sure we are at a place of being of maximum helpfulness to others. Keep on the firing line of life with these motives and God will keep us from being unharmed.After all our problems were of our own making. We have ceased fighting anyone and anything-we have to!

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OA 12 STEPS & 12 TRADITIONS (p. 99-108)

We now have a message of hope to carry to our fellows. By learning to trust God we have a whole new set of skills, skills for living. We no longer have to live in fear., rather we have a way to treat each situation squarely and sanely. We are no longer afraid of food, nor controlled by it. The obsession has been lifted. We can find comfort and help from the Steps instead of compulsive eating. We need to keep moving forward in recovery, keep developing our spiritual consciousness, if we are to remain spiritually awake if we are to keep fully alive.

We will be unable to keep our recovery unless we share our own experience, strength and hopes with others. We are not able to keep our emotional balance or abstinence in isolation. The greatest joy in recovery is sharing it with others in recovery. God helps people through our willingness and keep ourselves on the path of spiritual growth and progress.s. We are moving in a new direction of spiritual growth. We practice this principle by seeking an awareness of God's presence in all of our affairs, and by continuing to nurture our spiritual sensitivity through prayer and meditation.

Those of us who live this Program, don't simply carry the message, we are the message. Each day that we live well we are well, and we live the joy of Recovery that attracts others who want what we have. We are always happy to share our secret in OA; The 12 Steps which empower us to live well, and be well one day at a time!


Twelfth Step Prayer
Dear God,
My spiritual awakening continues to unfold.
The help I have received I shall pass on & give to others,
Both in & out of the Fellowship.
For this opportunity I am grateful.
I pray most humbly to continue walking day by day
On the road of spiritual progress.
I pray for the inner strength & wisdom
To practice the principles of this way of life in all I do & say.
I need You, my friends, & the program every hour of every day.
This is a better way to live.

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NOW YOUR PART:
QUESTIONS FOR STEP TWELVE:

1. What is your spiritual awakening at this point?

2. How are you practicing these principles in any of your affairs other than your food?

3. How have you passed through the pain and despair from the enslavement of food and moved into healing and freedom?

4. What changes in your life can others observe since you are now in Recovery and working the 12 Steps?

5.What is your attitude about sharing your story of Recovery? Are you reluctant? or want to share too much, too soon, with too many people? Where are you at with this?

6. How are you seeing yourself being of service to others in Recovery? (Sponsoring? Sharing at meetings? making coffee? secretary at Meetings? )

7. What is something positive, or your take away for Step Twelve?

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May today there be peace within you.
May you trust God that you are exactly where you are meant to be.
May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith.
May you use those gifts that you have received,
and pass on the love that has been given to you.
May you be content knowing that you are a child of God.
Let His presence settle into your bones,
and allow your soul the freedom to sing,
dance, and to bask in the sun.
It is there for each and every one of you.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person or people involved; and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships, and areas of your life.

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Humble, Humble thanks for blessing me, allowing me to walk along side of you on this road to happy destiny!

MUCH love
God bless n prayers,
Linda <3






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