Step Ten

Continued to take personal inventory
and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.






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Leader's Share and Step Questions


Step Ten is the first of the “maintenance steps.” I have faced my powerlessness and utter dependence upon God for my recovery and serenity. I have assessed my assets and liabilities for my usefulness to God and others. After clearing away the debris left by the effects of my addiction, I am ready to accept that the underlying principle of working these Twelve Steps is spiritual character building rather than comfort and convenience. I am coming to accept that my purpose here on earth is to do the will of God more and more completely, but I will not be able to grow spiritually in recovery without working this step continuously.

The concept of this step is similar to the rigorous exercise program that marathon runners use to prepare for their events. A marathon is a strenuous mental and physical challenge, and success required focused, purposeful energy. Recovery is also a marathon, a strenuous challenge that requires similar purposeful, focused energy to achieve. I must take one day at a time with consistent discipline to assure continuous sobriety and serenity. Step Ten allows for planned, disciplined time to develop spiritual strength and agility.

Physical exercise is hard to do consistently. I may complain that it seems boring and tedious. To “continuously take personal inventory” may also seem tedious and needless a real downer when I want to enjoy my recovery. These are defects of ego and pride that are part of my sinful nature. The disease of addiction can use them to keep me from long-term recovery.

By adopting this spiritual exercise, I practice, regular ego/pride deflation that allows humility to continue to develop in our souls. The rewards are often delayed, but I am laying the foundation for staying sober and clean under any circumstances. I need to search myself spiritually to identify addictive thinking and out-of-control emotions before they throw us off balance. If I assess my defects as they arise, I can correct them promptly and stay on the path of recovery.

The Tenth Step is also written to remind us that we are human beings and that I will frequently be wrong! The step does not say “IF but “WHEN” I am wrong! This also levels my pride and helps to keep us emotionally right.

The word PROMPTLY is written in this step for the addictive self in us that recognizes wrongs and faults, but delays in letting anyone know because of pride or ego. If I promptly admit and correct ourselves I prevent the diseased thinking from taking hold in my mind and heart, and I stay close to God.

I must never weary of taking Step Ten. Each day I can do spot-check personal inventories and push toward spiritual growth. This diligence allows me to achieve continuous sobriety and serenity. When I suffer, I often grumble and complain asking “why me?” I may resist having to take inventory of myself again, but admission of faults and willingness to correct my wrongs being eternal reward in the spiritual realm. In other words, The labor involved is worth the suffering and the ego-puncturing that result from working the Twelve Steps, especially Step Ten.

After achieving sobriety and being lean for a time, I may think that all of my other defects should be taken care of once and for all. This would mean that I have no sin and I am fooling myself! “Continuing to take inventory” and admitting my faults allow humility to grow in my character as God does the forgiving and cleansing and showing that his word has a place in my heart. When my addiction once made me oblivious to my wrongs/sins, my conscience is being restored. God’s word lives in us and I recognize my need for him.

My life requires an ongoing evaluation of my thoughts, deeds, desires and motives. I also need to evaluate my relationships and interactions with others to admit to myself that I’ve been wrong. When I admit that I’ve been wrong to the person whom I have wronged, I initiate reconciliation and open the possibility of a deeper connection. Admission of a wrong is not evidence of a lack of recovery or a weak recovery. In fact, a humble heart and honest confession have always been the hallmarks of successful recovery. My recovery is never stronger than when I am open, honest, and humble enough to admit I have made a mistake.

Tenth Step Prayer I pray I may continue: To grow in understanding and effectiveness; To take daily spot check inventories of myself; To correct mistakes when I make them ; To take responsibility for my actions; To be ever aware of my negative and self-defeating attitudes and behaviors; To keep my willfulness in check; To always remember I need Your help; To keep love and tolerance of others as my code; and To continue in daily prayer how I can best serve You, My Higher Power.
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Tenth Step Prayer God, I pray that I continue to watch for selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear. When these crop up I humbly ask You to remove them at once. I pray that I discuss them with someone immediately and make amends quickly if I have harmed anyone. I pray that I turn my thoughts to someone I can help. I pray that love and tolerance of others be my code. I pray for a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of my Spiritual condition. Everyday is a day I must carry the vision of Your will into all of my activities. How can I best serve Thee--Thy will, not mine, be done. Amen.
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10 Step God remove the selfishness, dishonesty, resentment and fear that has cropped up in my life right now. Help me to discuss this with someone immediately and make amends quickly if I have harmed anyone. Help me to cease fight anything and anyone. Show me where I may be helpful to someone else. Help me to react sanely; not cocky or afraid, “How can I best serve Thee--Thy will (not mine) be done.” (p 85 BB)

STEP TEN “Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.”

SPIRITUAL PRINCIPLE: Perseverance

(Promptly: with little or no delay; punctual)
(Admit: Confess it to be true, or to be the case)

(Please see the Step Ten Inventory Samples Provided Below)

SUGGESTED READING:

AA Big Book
(p 84 second paragraph - p 85)

OA 12 Steps and 12 Traditions
(p 83-90)

AA BIG BOOK

Through the first name steps of the program, we have made a beginning on an entirely new way of life, one that is leading us out of the mire of compulsive food onto the solid ground of sane eating and successful living. Though primarily intended to help us clear up the accumulated debris of the past, action on these nine steps has also laid down patterns for us to follow in the future--patterns which will enable us to thrive, grow spiritually, and be happy without excess food. Step ten calls for daily repetition of these actions, following the new patterns, so that we may experience recovery every day.

The tenth step begins with the word “continued,” our first clue that perseverance is about to become a key aspect of our recovery program. Now we will need to be stubborn about working our program, even during those times when we feel as though it isn’t working or we aren’t recovering quickly enough. Stubbornness turned to such good use becomes perseverance as we continue--day after day--to apply to our lives the same concepts we learned in steps four through nine.

Step ten asks us to continue this practice daily. The purpose of step ten is to identify and remove from our path today’s stumbling blocks, those manifestations of pride, fear, anger, self-pity, greed, and other emotions which are bringing pain into our lives and keeping us from growing today. We have found that all of us inevitably encounter these feelings and it only makes matters worse if we deny we have them or try to will them away. Step ten allows us to recognize our emotions and walk through the pain they cause us but then to let go of them, and turn them over to our Higher Power or God so that we can regain our emotional balance. We now want to continue strengthening these connections and we have a way to do that through our practice of step ten.

There are many ways to take inventories, the easiest is mental. Self analysis is possible with practice and time spent taking the inventory. Putting our thought and feeling down on paper or describing a troubling incidents helps us understand our actions and reactions in a way of thinking or talking would not do. There are many ways to draw up this inventory, from a daily review of our emotions and behaviors of the last twenty-four hours.

Looking a listing where fear creeped in we review our defect list to see if we fell into any of the defects of character behaviors ( I will copy the list on this email for you; see below) And then we go to the second half, “when we were wrong, we promptly admitted it.” We discuss this with God, Sponsor, or Spiritual Advisor, and move forward in asking help to remove these defects, and then expressing gratitude when these defects are removed.

As we repeatedly act on Step Ten, we begin to see the remarkable way the Steps will from now on to continue to remove unnecessary turmoil and pain from our lives.

OA 12 STEPS AND 12 TRADITIONS

This thought brings us to Step Ten, which suggests we continue to take personal inventory and continue to set right any new new mistakes as we go along. We vigorously commenced this way of living as we cleaned up the past. We have entered the world of the Spirit. Our next function is to grow in understanding and effectiveness. This is not an overnight matter. It should continue for our lifetime. Continue to watch for selfishness, dishonesty, resentment and fear. When these crop up, we ask God at once to remove them. We discuss them with someone immediately and make amends quickly if we have harmed anyone. Then we resolutely turn our thought to someone we can help. Love and tolerance of others is our code.

And we have ceased fighting anything or anyone--even compulsive food. For by this time sanity will have returned. We will seldom be interested in compulsive food. If tempted, we recoil from it as from a hot flame. We react sanely and normally, and we will find that this has happened automatically. We will see that our new attitude toward compulsive food has been given us without any thought or effort on our past. It just comes! That is the miracle of it. We feel as though we had been place in a position of neutrality--safe and protected. We have not even sworn off. Instead, the problem has been removed. It does not exist for us. We are neither cocky nor are we afraid. That is our experience. That is how we react so long as we keep in fit spiritual condition.

It is easy to let up on the spiritual program of action and rest on our laurels. We are headed for trouble if we do, for compulsive food, a subtle food. We are not cured of compulsive food. What we really have is a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of spiritual condition. Everyday is a day when we must carry the vision of God’s will into all of our activities. “How can I best serve Thee--Thy will (not mine) be done.” These are thoughts which must go with us constantly. We can exercise our will power along this line all we wish. It is the proper use of the will.

Much has already been said about receiving strength, inspiration, and direction from Him who has all knowledge and power. If we have carefully followed directions, we have begun to sense the flow of His Spirit into us. To some extent we have become God-conscious. We have begun to develop this vital sixth sense. But we must go further and that means more action.

NOW YOUR PART: QUESTION FOR STEP TEN

In order to restore trust in relationships, what particular weaknesses do I need to set boundaries around?

Do certain behaviors and character defects that show up in my Step Ten inventory point to a pattern? Which ones? What is being revealed about me?

What is my first response when I am angry? Lashing out? Stuffing down? Avoidance and covering up?

As this continued inventory is important for spiritual fitness, where in my daily routine can I set aside time to make self-assessment part of every day?

How do I see my recovery as a war against addiction and as a fight for my soul?

Have I been quick to recognize but not to take action in a particular area of my life or defect of character? If so, I can take action without self-criticism by going back through Steps Six and Seven, then Eight and Nine on that particular area or defect.

Have I hoped for immediate release from my defects, as I may have had from my addiction? Have I perhaps unknowingly hoped that by doing all this step work I could attain perfection? Write any thoughts and feelings that arise from reading this meditation:

What have I learned from Step Ten?

Gail W.



SAMPLE OF STEP TEN INVENTORY:

Step 10 Inventory
"God, please help me review my day. Please grant me the willingness to see what you would have me see,
in the light you would have me see it: free from morbid reflection, fear, obsessive guilt, and dishonesty."

1. Have I been resentful?

2. Have I been selfish?

3. Have I been dishonest?

4. Have I been afraid?

5. Do I owe an apology/amend?

6. Have I been thinking of myself most of the time or was I thinking of what I could do for others? How I can help others especially the elderly friends I have

7. Have I been kind and loving toward all?

8. Is there anything I could have done better?

9. Have I done anything that I wish I had not done?
10. Have I left anything undone that I wish I had done?

11. Have I been worrying about yesterday or tomorrow?

12. Did I allow myself to become obsessed by anything?

13. Have I been too hungry, angry, lonely, tired or serious?

14. Do I suffer from any physical, mental or spiritual problems? I can be obsessive about things and want to control things at times

15. Have I done anything to cause harm to myself or to another?

16. Have I kept something to myself which should be discussed with another?

17. What have I done to be of service to God and the people around me?

18. What are my gratitudes for the day?

"God , please forgive me and tell me what corrective measures should be taken.
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SAMPLE OF STEP TEN INVENTORY:

TENTH STEP NIGHTLY REVIEW

ABSTINENT _YES _NO

EXERCISE _YES _NO

USED 9 TOOLS (WRITE YES OR NO)
MEETING _______________
SPONSOR______________
PHONE_________________
ANONYMITY_____________
LITERATURE____________
PLAN OF EATING_________
WRITING________________
ACTION PLAN____________
SERVICE________________

SPIRITUAL TOOLS___YES___NO
PRAYER_____YES-________ NO
BIBLE_______YES_________NO
PRAISE______YES________ NO
FELLOWSHIP__YES_______ NO
MUSIC________YES_______NO
MEDITATION____YES______NO

Daily Overview and Step 10 Inventory
Date:

Breakfast:
AM Snack:
Lunch:
PM Snack:
Supper:
Comments on Food:

Exercise for the Day:

Step 10 Inventory
"God, please help me review my day. Please grant me the willingness to see what you would have me see,
in the light you would have me see it: free from morbid reflection, fear, obsessive guilt, and dishonesty."

1. Have I been resentful?
2. Have I been selfish?
3. Have I been dishonest?
4. Have I been afraid?
5. Do I owe an apology/amend?
6. Have I been thinking of myself most of the time or was I thinking of what I could do for others?
7. Have I been kind and loving toward all?
8. Is there anything I could have done better?
9. Have I done anything that I wish I had not done?
10. Have I left anything undone that I wish I had done?
11. Have I been worrying about yesterday or tomorrow?
12. Did I allow myself to become obsessed by anything?
13. Have I been too hungry, angry, lonely, tired or serious?
14. Do I suffer from any physical, mental or spiritual problems?
15. Have I done anything to cause harm to myself or to another?
16. Have I kept something to myself which should be discussed with another?
17. What have I done to be of service to God and the people around me?
18. What are my gratitudes for the day?

"God , please forgive me and tell me what corrective measures should be taken."
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SAMPLE STEP TEN INVENTORY:

On retiring at night constructively review your day:

Was I :

resentful, selfish, dishonest or afraid?

Do I owe an apology?

Have I kept something to myself which should be discussed with another person at once?

Was I kind and loving towards all?

What could I have done better?

Was I thinking of myself most of the time?

Or was I thinking of what I could do for others, or what I could pack into the stream of life?

be careful not to drift into worry, remorse, or morbid reflection, for that would diminish your usefulness to others.

After making the review: God , please forgive me and tell me what corrective measures should be taken


you can add or subtract anything that fits you. like what were the tools that I used today...................hope this helps if not let me know we can whip up another........love me
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SAMPLE STEP TEN INVENTORY:

My Daily (Step 10) Personal Inventory
LIABILITIES to watch for: Check for each day for: SELF-WILL (Column 4) NO POWER Mon Tues Wed Thurs Fri Sat Sun

1. Resentment
2. False Pride, Arrogance, Self-loathing
3. Envy
4. Jealousy, Distrust, Suspicion
5. Dishonesty, Lying, Exaggeration, Stealing
6. Selfishness, Self-Seeking, Self-Centeredness
7. Laziness, Sloth, Boredom
8. Inconsideration, Intolerance
9. Lust, Infidelity
10. Immoral Thinking, Vulgar Talk
11. Hate, Wrath, Anger, Irritability
12. Greed (money) or Gluttony (food)
13. Slander, Gossip, Spreading Rumors
14. Impatience
15. Fear of...
ASSETS to strive for:
Check for each day for: GOD'S WILL (Column 5) POWER Mon Tues Wed Thurs Fri Sat Sun

1. Forgiveness
2. Humility
3. Contentment
4. Trust
5. Honesty, Integrity
6. Unselfishness
7. Activity, Zeal, Promptness
8. Tolerance, Acceptance
9. Intimacy, Chaste
10. Purity
11. Love, Kindness
12. Generosity
13. Praise Others, Look For The Good In Others
14. Patience
15. Faith, Trust God

LIST OF CHARACTER DEFECTS:
194 Character Defects

1 Abusing Others for enjoyment

2 Action, failing to take

3 Aloof

4 Anger Anger 37, 66, 88, 108, 135

5 Antagonistic

6 Anxiety

7 Anxious, overly

8 Apathetic

9 Apologetic, overly


10 Appearances, preoccupied or obsessed with

11 Argumentative

12 Arrogance

12 Arrogance

13 Avarice

14 Avoiding confrontation

15 Beating yourself up

16 Beauty, obsession or preoccupation with

17 Bigotry

18 Blaming others for disease

19 Blaming self for disease

20 Boastful

21 Boundaries, not setting

22 Busybody

23 Cheating

24 Choosing easy prey, gossip

25 Choosing easy prey, physical

26 Closed-mindedness

27 Codependenc

28 Coldheartedness

29 Communication, avoiding

30 Communication, poor

31 Companions, seeking corrupt / lower

32 Compassion, lack of

33 Competitive, excessively

34 Complaining

35 Conceit

36 Condemning

37 Confrontation, avoiding

38 Controlling

39 Controlling Others

40 Cowardice

41 Critical

42 Crude

43 Deceptive, deceiving

44 Dependency, dependent

45 Dependent on parents

46 Destructive

47 Devious

48 Different, thinking you are

49 Disease, feeling responsible for/taking credit for

50 Disease, making excuses for

51 Disease, not accepting

52 Dishonesty

53 Dishonesty by omission

54 Disorganized

55 Egotistical

56 Envious

57 Exaggeration

58 Excess

59 Faith, lack of faith in God

60 Fanatical

61 Fantasizing

62 Favoritism, playing favorites

63 Fearful

64 Filthy-mindedness

65 Financially dependent on others

66 Financially insecure

67 Following through, failing to

68 Frustration

69 Gluttony

70 Gossiping

71 Greed

72 Guilt, about sexual fantasies

73 Guilt, excessive feelings of

74 Guilt, feeling guilty for things beyond control

75 Harsh

76 Hate

77 Hatred of others

78 Hatred of self

79 Health, irresponsibility with or neglect of

80 Help, refusing/not asking for

81 Hopelessness

82 Ignorance Ignorance 2, 20, 107

83 Ill wishes toward others

84 Immodesty

85 Impatience

86 Impulsive purchaser

87 Inadequacy, sense of

88 Incompassionate

89 Inconsiderate Inconsiderate 69, 82, 108, 125

90 Indecisive Indecision 86

91 Indifferent

92 Injustice

93 Insecure in your own skin

94 Insecure in sexuality

95 Insecurity, financial

96 Insensitivity

97 Insincerity Insincere 96

98 Intolerance Intolerance 50, 103, 120, 135, 160

99 Intolerance of sick people

100 Inventory, taking other’s

101 Irresponsibility

102 Irresponsibility, financial

103 Irresponsible

104 Isolating

105 Jealousy

106 Judgmental of others

107 Knowing it all

108 Laziness

110 Leering, crude toward Lewd

112 Lifestyles, not accepting others’

113 Love and friendship, refusa

114 Lustful

115 Lying

116 Making excuses for disease

insecure

118 Manipulative

119 Measuring self against others

120 Meddling

121 Messy

122 Miserliness

123 Negative body image

124 Negative Thinking

125 Negatives, focusing on or magnifying

126 Neglectful

127 Opinionated

128 Opinions, not respecting others’

129 Overcompensating for projected wrongs

130 Overcompensating for weaknesses

131 Perfectionism

132 Pessimism

133 Physical appearance, obsession or preoccupation with

134 Physical health, neglect of

135 Playing God

136 Playing God with self

137 Positives, not looking at

138 Possessive

139 Preachy

140 Prejudice

141 Pride, False

142 Pride, Intellectual

143 Pride, Spiritual

144 Procrastination

145 Program, working other’s

146 Psychoanalysis of others

147 Reckless

148 Remorseful

149 Resentment

150 Revenge, vengefulness

151 Rude

152 Sarcastic

153 Secretive

154 Seeking attention

155 Seeking negative attention

156 Self Condemnation

157 Self Deprecating humor

158 Self Importance

159 Self Justification

160 Self Pity

161 Self reliance

162 Self Seeking

162 Self Seeking

163 Self, putting self on pedestal

164 Self-absorbed

165 Self-centeredness Self-centeredness 14, 61, 62, 64, 111*, 124

166 Self-hatred

167 Self-indulgence

168 Selfishness Selfish 7, 21, 61, 67, 69, 82, 84, 86, 87

169 Self-loathing

170 Setting expectations

171 Sex, hidden

172 Sex, lack of appreciation for

173 Skeptical

174 Sloth

175 Stealing Stealing 68

176 Step on others to get to top

177 Stewardship of assets, poor

178 Suspicious

179 Thoughtless

180 Thrill-seeking

181 Uncharitableness

182 Uncleanness

183 Undependable

184 Undisciplined

185 Unfaithful

186 Ungrateful

187 Uniqueness, terminal

188 Unreliable

189 Untrustworthy

190 Valuing the opinion of a sick mind

191 Vengeful

192 Vulgar Immoral Thinking

193 Wasteful

194 Worry

A 10th Step prayer for Growth and Effectiveness: "God, please help me Watch for Selfishness, Dishonesty, Resentment and Fear. When these crop up in me, help me to immediately ask you to remove them from me and help me discuss these feelings with someone. Father, help me to quickly make amends if I have harmed anyone and help me to resolutely turn my thoughts to someone I can Help. Help me to be Loving and Tolerant of everyone today. Amen"(84:2)

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Tenth Step Prayer My Higher Power, My daily prayer is to best serve you, I pray I may continue to grow in understanding & effectiveness; Help me to watch for selfishness, dishonesty, resentment and fear; Help me to be willing to have You remove them at once; I must be willing to discuss them with someone immediately; I will make amends quickly if I have harmed anyone; And then I will turn my thoughts toward helping someone else; Please help me to remember to practice love and tolerance of others. (84:2)

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Tenth Step Amends Prayer "God, please forgive me for my failings today. I know that because of my failings, I was not able to be as effective as I could have been for you. Please forgive me and help me love thy will better today. I ask you now to show me how to correct the errors I have just outlined. Guide me and direct me. Please remove my arrogance and my fear. Show me how to make my relationships right and grant me the humility and strength to do thy will."(86:1)

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GREAT work and willingness, I am so humbly blessed as you allow me to walk along side of you on this happy road to destiny on this road to Recovery one day at a time.






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