Step Ten

Continued to take personal inventory
and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.






Leader's Share and Step Questions


Welcome back and welcome home family of choice on this happy journey to destiny to recovery! We do recover, how wonderful is that? We are living in the solution, or as I like to remember, we are living in the soul-lution :) We are blessed with this daily reprieve based on our daily fit spiritual condition, called abstinence.. now abstinence is HOW we eat, NOT WHAT we eat. "All things are permissible, not all things are beneficial." We don't all have the same food items on our Alcohol food lists. What triggers off the compulsive over eater in me, may not trigger off the over eater in me. I am willing not to eat, to fully abstain to those food items on my Alcohol food list to be free from the big BINGE or (Believe, I'm Not Good Enough) Food Behavior; satan's Lie. I will not eat those Lies again, those foods have lost their favor to me. They make me sick. Just as I am deathly ill of Penicillin, I would not want to sit down and eat Penicillin for I would surely die. So would I if I sat down and ate all the foods on my Alcohol food list. I don't know if I have another abstinence in me, I don't know if I could get my recovery back. I will choose to admit just for today I am powerless over food, my life has become unmanageable. I believe God can restore me to sanity, and I humbly make the decision to fully surrender my will, food, life and all over to the loving care of God.

I work Steps 1, 2 & 3 Every day, all day long if necessary to stay free, to maintain my abstinence, and many times a day, say, "Thy will be done," the mini Surrender Prayer. I pray you had a blessed, serene food clean abstinent week, one day at a time. Let's enjoy this one abstinent, serene day together.

Did you find victory, freedom, more and more joy, strength and healing through your amends last week? I know I did. I was so blessed to right so many wrongs and to put into action amends from all the pain from my past.A few cards and gifts went out to different states this week, and it was such a blessing to give from my heart. Letters read on behalf of those whom other wise I would harm, or those who are no longer with me. Plans moving forward for the rest. The amazing thing about God is while I was taking care of my side of the Street. Some amazing amends came back to me, and yes even from the grave!!! My best friend died from her 4 year fight with breast cancer, and the message her Mother had for me, was so amazingly healing, tears are still streaming down my face. Amends hold such healing power. Remember we will be making these amends for the rest of our lives. Take advantage of righting wrongs. I am proof positive of the power of wrongs sat right! Of hurts healed. May you remain willing to be willing to make restitution to those you have harmed, so that you and those can heal, it is such an amazing healing journey we are on. The amends to self included of course eating healthy foods at healthy times in healthy amounts. Now new physical and occupational therapy and pain management exercises. Private intimate time of just refreshing and renewal time with Christ Jesus instead of studying only to learn to help others only. (Although I love being a Student of the Word and am going for my Master's Degree in Theology and Counseling this year, and just received my Bachelor's Degree 3 weeks ago) However, I need to just relax, breathe in and allow the love of God to pour into me, and feel and full fill me! Precious time of refreshing. My amends to God is to love Him more than food, more than breath. To spend time in prayer and not just surrender my will, food, and life to Him, or asking Him for things, or telling Him what I though He should do. Oh my heart breaks for how SELF ish I used to be, I am so sorry Father for how much I must have grieved You, and the Holy Spirit, and You Jesus for You are love, and I did not see it, nor choose it, nor live it, Now I just want to live it, be it. I want Jesus heart in me. I deny myself, taking up my Cross and I am following Him one day at a time now. He is the ONE who changes me. His love reaches even me. Amends to Him is love, love and more love <3 Just one drink of seeing my value through Christ Jesus, and I realize my cup will never run dry. He is the living water and I am His daughter. I am not the number on the scale. My identity is found in Christ Jesus because true love hung on that Cross.

I used the perfume, the handbag, the outfit, the makeup, saved up for a special occasion. I gave myself a facial and manicure. pedicure down for this week. Ordered my favorite lotion. I took a nap, when I was tired, and am praying for willingness and ability to get healthier sleeping habits and to set up some much needed Dr's appointments to make that happen in the great city. I will schedule them, this week.Self care on track.. how about you friend?

My Son was here this week, and we got another song recorded for the album. Amends made by him hearing, and seeing me sing and play the piano, to move and care for myself in front of him, to care for myself in front of him, and offer him service, instead of needing him to serve me. What a dynamic change! He asks me questions now, questions for help, I get to encourage and engage, and gently lead, and not thump him over the head by the Bible, or my exacting remarks or perfect wisdom, rather just love him like Jesus, His yoke is easy and His burden is light. I don't have to be analytical, judgmental, I get to be love, the love of God, "there is a way that seems right to man, in the end therein is destruction." I no longer chase him away with his wrongs, I get to simply love him here, and be here and be present with him, and encourage him in all the ways and things he is right in. I have been transformed by the renewing of my mind by the love Christ Jesus has made me new in. As I see clear, I am clear, it is never again just about me, it is about Him, about my Father, about Jesus, and His great love for me, and as Jesus became shame on the Cross, so I don't have to know shame even in my 500 pound body, that I could know love, because God and Jesus are love and because they first loved even me. I got out of my way. I was the biggest stumbling block of my life. I never saw myself as selfish until I worked the Steps and realized the 3 fatal roots of all addiction are: selfishness, rebellion, and pride. Certainly at 745 pounds I must be selfish, rebellious and pride full. Yes.. No longer a slave to sin. I am a child of God. I've been born again as a child of God, surrounded by His songs of deliverance, liberated from this bondage of self, and bondage to food, to sugar. He split the sea, so I could walk right through it. My fears were drowned in His perfect love. He rescued me, so I can finally play and sing, and I am a child of God.

I was taken completely out of my "comfort zone" this week. I have been awaiting an appointment with the Social Worker since the day of my fall in the drive way. The orders fell through the cracks with the Home Health Care Agency caring with me. So new orders were given by my Doctor, and to the RN. who came to treat my wound, give me my injection, and to care for me on Friday, so possibly this Tuesday she will come, so we shall see what course of intense help and action plan is available for me. In the meantime. they sent Physical Therapy/?Occupational Management to Rate me. I accepted the appointment. It was a man. Plain and simple. I opened the door for a man to come in and rate my physical condition. i was not happy. I was in fear. I wanted to go in shame and fear, plus my pain level is still so great. Yet my spirit wanted to be of service and be pleasant, and to to be kind and true to who I am, and not let that spirit of fear, (to which God did NOT give me), pull me under!"For I did not give you a spirit of fear, but Power, love, a sound mind, self discipline, and self control." So I prayed and surrendered and said, "THY will be done," many times during this visit. He did many, many uncomfortable things to me and with me. He moved my belly to measure my legs and knees, he touched my flesh, NOT in an inappropriate way WHATSOEVER, in a medical way, but in a way this 500 pound woman lost her comfort zone with. I had to walk in front of him, He had to watch me carry this flesh and hear me struggle to breathe and walk at the same time. He apologized. He rushed my heart rate up to 142 with just 100 steps, after already doing way to many exercises and tests. I was totally OUT of my comfort zone! He sat me up with totally new exercises. He just left working for a Rehab Hospital., so I know it was by Divine Assignment that he was my Physical therapist that day, He showed me some exercises to minimize pain, how to lower my laps to lower the heart rate, and to add new exercises for strength and endurance. Once he left. I needed a nap. I had truly worked out. I had left my comfort zone for just what I needed; a plan to get well, to live and not die. Comfort zone's can kill you. I know I did not want to sit in mine and die!! The amazing thing about this man, was his spirit was so kind, yet so highly professional and skilled. I asked him when we were done if I could speak a blessing over him, if I could pray for him? He said sure, please! So I did. He said, "Wow, thank you so much! Usually I am the one praying for everyone. I am the Youth Pastor at my Church and I have really been going through some stuff, I truly, truly appreciate your prayer!'I was very blessed to be of Service, NOT in fear, NOT in shame, rather willing to get well, to live and not die. Thank You God for willingness!!

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Tenth Step Prayer I pray I may continue: To grow in understanding & effectiveness; To take daily spot check inventories of myself; To correct mistakes when I make them; To take responsibility for my actions; To be ever aware of my negative & Self-defeating attitudes & behaviors; To keep my willfulness in check; To always remember I need Your help; To keep love & tolerance of others as my code; & To continue in daily prayer how I can best serve You, My Higher Power.

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Tenth Step Prayer God, I pray that I continue to watch for selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear. When these crop up, I humbly ask You to remove them at once. I pray that I discuss them with someone immediately and make amends quickly if I have harmed anyone. I pray that I turn my thoughts to someone I can help. I pray that love and tolerance of others be my code. I pray for a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of my spiritual condition. Every day is a day I must carry the vision of Your will into all of my activities. How can I best serve Thee – Thy will, not mine, be done. Amen

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10th STEP God remove the Selfishness, dishonesty, resentment and fear that has cropped up in my life right now. Help me to discuss this with someone immediately and make amends quickly if I have harmed anyone. Help me to cease fight anything and anyone. Show me where I may be helpful to someone else. Help me react sanely; not cocky or afraid. How can I best serve You - Your will, not mine be done. AMEN (p. 84-5 BB) "How can I best serve Thee—Thy will (not mine) be done." (p. 85 BB)

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STEP TEN: "Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it."
SPIRITUAL PRINCIPLE" Perseverance

(Promptly: with little or no delay; punctual)
(Admit: Confess it to be true, or to be the case)

(Please see the Step Ten Inventory Samples Provided Below)

The purpose of Step Ten is to identify and then to remove from our path today's stumbling blocks, the character defects, such as pride, fear, anger, self-pity, greed, & other emotions bringing pain into our lives and keeping us from growing today! I have to stay out of self or I will surely pick up the food and eat at what is eating at me. These character defects are the very triggers that pull the gun of the next BINGE (Believe, I'm Not Good Enough). I am very happy to take the inventory and promptly admit it.

Step Ten allows us to realize our emotions such awareness of our emotions, because of the wreckage of the past is cleared away, and now we can walk through the pain the negative emotions caused us and now we let them go over to the care of God! Turn them over to the care of God so that we can regain our emotional balance. I know for me "EMOTIONAL SOBRIETY" is as much or more important to me as my abstinence. No more snapping, cursing, flipping out, can't handle it, suicidal, want to jump off, jump out. Stop the world I want off. I have everyone and everyone hates me. No balance, Serenity a heart full of God's love. I am human. I still get hurt. My best friend just died,. I am sick i fell, I live in the real world but sanity, " is doing the same thing over and over, expecting the same results" just as insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result. So here in Step Ten we LEARN the SANE way to walk through emotional pain. ALL of recovery is pain management. Welcome.

I have used several forms to get into a daily habit of taking this daily Step Ten inventory. They say it takes 21 days of DOing something in a row to create a habit, so I encourage you to use a form or an email or tablet, some true form of accountability, albeit your Sponsor, or your Spiritual Advisor. The Big Book tells us if we do the work of Steps One through Nine and apply the Tenth Step on a DAILY basis, God WILL remove the obsession to compulsively over eat! This alone should be enough to make you willing to get into this spiritual practice, discipline or practice. However, if it is not. Please pray, God make me willing to be willing to daily continue to take personal inventory and when wrong to promptly admit it, in Jesus Name Amen (My H/P). I realized the Step asks for me to take this daily inventory so I don't go backwards into my "Stuff" and get stuck in my stuff, and get back into my character defects and develop resentments, fear, and pick up, and eat at what is eating at me!! So to Promptly do it, is so those defects do not have a chance to grow and fester within me!

Step Ten tells us when we were wrong we promptly ADMIT it! It doesn't say we Justify it, or make excuses or deny it! The first three Steps bring us to a place where we become willing to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God. Steps Four through Nine are HOW we turn our will and our lives over by removing what blocks us from actually taking the action, and the last three Steps are how we KEEP our will and our lives turned over to God indefinitely.

The middle of page 84 in the AA Big Book, the key to Step Ten are the words, "Continue to take personal inventory."The Big Book emphasizes the importance of continuing to take the Steps and I have constantly stayed in the Steps and they have constantly been the source of my abstinence being maintained and my 230 pound weight release! Step Ten suggests we continue to take personal inventory and continue to set right any new mistakes as we go along. Vigorously live this way, clean up the past, making amends. We have entered the world of the Spirit.Our next function is to grow in understanding and effectiveness, of being in and inspired by the world of the spirit. This is not an overnight thing. This is a lifetime matter. We live recovery one day at a time, or a twenty four hour plan. We continue to take inventory. Continue to make amends, and continue to help others, Every day! I love it, this is so life giving, This is living in the soul- lution! The Big Book has just informed us that our lives have changed! As a result of taking Steps One through Nine, we have had a Spiritual Awakening! How could that be? I'ts very simple. No newcomer can get through these Steps alone. Not only have we developed a belief of God of your own understanding, we have come to rely on God to help us through the inventory, and the restitution process. We ARE NOW living in the Solution or my "soul-lution" You may not yet realize it, the "Psychic change" that Dr. Silkworth mentioned in "The Doctor's Opinion" as being ESSENTIAL has now occurred!!. Welcome home!

Further on down page 84 we are told how to take a Tenth Step, moment, by moment, inventory.

"Continue to watch for selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear. (We did this in Step 4.) When these crop up, we ask God at once to remove them.(As we did in Steps 6 & 7) and it is not suggesting that we ask God to at once to remove them," it's saying that we "At once ASK God to remove them." "When these crop up, NOT..IF these crop up. so we need to stay aware of when selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear, rise back up within us, and throughout our lives. Step Ten is not only to be taken at night or in the morning as many say, this is to be an ALL throughout the day. WHENEVER these things crop up, moment by moment, as soon as we become aware of them. "we discuss them with someone immediately" (Step Five) and make amends QUICKLY if we have harmed anyone (Steps Eight & Nine). Then we turn out thoughts and take action to help someone, to be of Service. Love and tolerance of others is our code! <3

"And we have ceased fighting anything or anyone- even food," sugar, white flour, whatever your trigger foods, or whatever your foods on your alcohol food list are. I always picture the boat and I can either choose upstream paddling on a raging rapid, or turn the boat around and coast downstream. Acceptance is the answer to all of my problems today! This part of Step Ten is easier said than done, it's important for us to make it a priority and to start moving in the direction of no longer fighting with anything or anyone.

The Big Book gives us instructions on how to rid ourselves of self-centered behaviors. Firs we MUST continue realizing, having that awareness, as we did in (Step Three) that self-centered behaviors are NOT consistent with God's plan for our lives, and they will ONLY lead us back to the big BINGE (Believe, I'm Not Good Enough) or Restricting, or Purging. Next, we MUST continue taking the action necessary to move away from self-will to move toward God's Will. We ask God to remove these shortcomings. We discuss these with our Sponsor, or Spiritual Advisor, and we set them right (to the best of our ability) ANY wrong WE have done. Then we focus on someone we can help. So it is; "Watch, Ask, Discuss, Amend, and Turn!"

The Big Book tells us if we do the work of Steps One through Nine and apply the Tenth Step on a DAILY basis, God WILL remove the obsession to compulsively over eat! This is another of the many beautiful, strong Promises we find throughout the Steps in the Big Book. They are the Tenth Step Promises; sometimes called, "The Forgotten Promises" because we usually only refer to the Ninth Step ones. Most of the Steps have specific Promises with them. At the bottom of page 84, they write:

"And we have ceased fighting anything or anyone - even alcohol. For by this time sanity will have returned. We will seldom be interested in compulsive overeating. If tempted, we recoil from it as from a hot flame. We react sanely and normally and we will find that this has happened automatically. We will see that our new attitude toward compulsive food has been given us without any thought or effort on our part. It just comes! That is the miracle of it. We are not fighting it, neither are we avoiding temptation. We feel as though we had placed in a position of neutrality - safe and protected. We have not even sworn off. Instead the problem has been removed (and the problem they are talking about here is the mental obsession and the spiritual malady.) It does not exist for us. We are neither cocky nor are we afraid. That is our experience. (Now here a warning.) That is how we react so long as (or IF) we keep in FIT spiritual condition."

So let me ask you, What is part of keeping fit spiritually?.. Taking a daily inventory!! What is our reward you ask me? A daily reprieve!!! Wow.. do you see the worth now? I am living the worth of it :) There is a recovery saying that describes the Tenth Step perfectly, "If we remove our garbage PROMPTLY, our house doesn't stink!" I'm sure if you think about it, you will want what we have, and everyone can relate to that :)

The Big Book describes a daily reprieve in the middle of page 85. "It is easy to let up on the spiritual program of action and rest on our laurels (Our laurels are our past victories. This is a warning.) We are headed for trouble if we do. for compulsive overeating is a subtle foe. We are not cured from compulsive overeating. What we REALLY have is a daily reprieve CONTINGENT (or dependent) on the maintenance of our spiritual condition. EVERY day is day when we MUST carry the vision of GOD's WILL into ALL of our activities. How can I best serve Thee? Thy will (not mine) be done. These are the thoughts which MUST go with us CONSTANTLY. We can actually exercise our will power along this line here for here is the proper use of our will, or an act of our will. Another reward is we have been developing a God-consciousness - direct contact with God or your Higher power. In the next paragraph on page 85, it says, "Much has already has been said about receiving strength, inspiration and direction from Him who has ALL knowledge and power. If we CAREFULLY followed direction we have begun to sense the flow of His Spirit into us. To some extent we have become God-conscious. We have begun to develop this VITAL sixth sense. But we MUST go further, and that means MORE action." Once again it is declared our lives have changed! We've already had the Spiritual Awakening! They say we have become conscious of the Spirit of the Universe, and we are now receiving strength, inspiration and direction from this Spirit. Not only that, but they say this sixth sense is Vital or Absolutely Essential. Now it is time to Proceed.

I have used several forms to get into a daily habit of taking this daily Step Ten inventory. They say it takes 21 days of DOing something in a row to create a habit, so I encourage you to use a form or an email or tablet, some true form of accountability, albeit your Sponsor, or your Spiritual Advisor.

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SUGGESTED READING:

AA BIG BOOK:
(p 84 second paragraph - p. 85)

OA 12 STEPS & 12 TRADITIONS:
(p 83-90)

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AA BIG BOOK:

We continue to take personal inventory and continue to set right any new mistakes as we go along. Continue to watch for selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear. When these crop up, we at once ask God to remove them. We discuss them immediately with someone and make amends if we harmed anyone. Then we turn our thoughts to someone we can help. Love and tolerance of others is our code. We have ceased fighting anyone and anything, even compulsive food. By this time sanity will have returned. We will seldom be tempted by compulsive food and recoil from it as if from a hot flame. We react normally and sanely. We find this happened automatically. It just comes, this is the miracle! We are in a position of neutrality, the problem has been removed. We are neither cocky nor are we afraid, that is how we react as long as we are in daily fit spiritual condition.

ABSTINENCE: What we really have is a daily reprieve Contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition. Every day is a day we must carry the vision of God's will into all of our activities. How can I best serve Thee? Thy will, not my will be done! (These are thoughts that must go on constantly). We use our will power here for it is an exercise or choice of our will.

Here we receive strength, inspiration and direction from God who has all knowledge and Power if we have carefully followed directions, we have begun to develop the flow of His Spirit into us. To some extent we have become God-conscious. We have begun to develop this vital sixth sense.

We must go further. That requires more ACTION!

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OA 12 STEPS & 12 TRADITIONS:

Repetition is the only form of permanence that nature can achieve. If we are to experience permanent recovery we will have to repeat day after day the actions that brought us so much healing! Primarily intended to help us clear up the debris of the past, action on these Nine Steps gives us patterns to follow which will enable us to thrive, grow spiritually, and be happy without excess food Step Ten calls for daily repetition of these actions following the new patterns, so that we may experience recovery every day. In the past we may have been stubborn about our destructive eating habits now we must be stubborn about persevering through working our programs even when we don't see them working or when we feel like it, or we are not recovering quickly enough, or the weight isn't releasing quick enough. Stubbornness turned to such good use becomes perseverance. The purpose of Step Ten is to identify and then to remove from our path today's stumbling blocks, the character defects, such as pride, fear, anger, self-pity, greed, & other emotions bringing pain into our lives and keeping us from growing today! Step Ten allows us to realize our emotions and walk through the pain they cause us and then let them go over to the care of God! Turn them over to the car of God so that we can regain our emotional balance.

There are many ways to take inventories, the easiest is mental. Self analysis is possible with practice and time spent taking the inventory. Putting our thoughts and down on paper describing troubling incidents helps us understand our actions and reactions in a way thinking or talking would not do. There are many ways to draw up this inventory, from a daily review of our emotions and behaviors of the last 24 hours. Looking and listing where fear creeped in, we review our defect list to see if we fell into any of the defects of character behaviors (I will copy the list on this email for you; see below) And then we go to the second half. "when we were wrong, we promptly admitted it." We discuss this with God, Sponsor, or Spiritual Advisor, and move forward in asking help to remove these defects, and then expressing gratitude when these defects are removed. As we repeatedly act on Step Ten, we begin to see the remarkable way the Steps will from now on continue to remove unnecessary turmoil and pain from our lives.

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1. What has your spiritual Awakening been as a result of taking Steps One through Nine?

2. What amends did you make to Self??? or will you make?

3. How do you see your Recovery as a War against addiction and as a fight for your soul? Share an example.

4. How do you see yourself as an athlete for the marathon journey of recovery and serenity?

5. Where do you lose heart in fighting, training, & working through the 12 Steps?

6. On what area or defect do you need to take action today? This week? This Month? Are you yet willing?

7. How important is your Abstinence to you and to what lengths are you willing to go to? How about your Emotional Sobriety? Of what value does it hold to you, and to what lengths are you willing to go to?

8. Now share your take away, or something positive about your take away on Step Ten.

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SAMPLE OF STEP TEN INVENTORY:

Step 10 Inventory
"God, please help me review my day. Please grant me the willingness to see what you would have me see, in the light you would have me see it: free from morbid reflection, fear, obsessive guilt, and dishonesty."

1. Have I been resentful?

2. Have I been selfish?

3. Have I been dishonest?

4. Have I been afraid?

5. Do I owe an apology/amend?

6. Have I been thinking of myself most of the time or was I thinking of what I could do for others? How I can help others especially the elderly friends I have

7. Have I been kind and loving toward all?

8. Is there anything I could have done better?

9. Have I done anything that I wish I had not done?

10. Have I left anything undone that I wish I had done?

11. Have I been worrying about yesterday or tomorrow?

12. Did I allow myself to become obsessed by anything?

13. Have I been too hungry, angry, lonely, tired or serious?

14. Do I suffer from any physical, mental or spiritual problems? I can be obsessive about things and want to control things at times

15. Have I done anything to cause harm to myself or to another?

16. Have I kept something to myself which should be discussed with another?

17. What have I done to be of service to God and the people around me?

18. What are my gratitudes for the day?

"God , please forgive me and tell me what corrective measures should be taken.

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SAMPLE OF STEP TEN INVENTORY:

TENTH STEP NIGHTLY REVIEW

ABSTINENT _YES _NO

EXERCISE _YES _NO

USED 9 TOOLS (WRITE YES OR NO)
MEETING _______________
SPONSOR______________
PHONE_________________
ANONYMITY_____________
LITERATURE____________
PLAN OF EATING_________
WRITING________________
ACTION PLAN____________
SERVICE________________

SPIRITUAL TOOLS___YES___NO
PRAYER_____YES-________ NO
BIBLE_______YES_________NO
PRAISE______YES________ NO
FELLOWSHIP__YES_______ NO
MUSIC________YES_______NO
MEDITATION____YES______NO

Daily Overview and Step 10 Inventory
Date:

Breakfast:
AM Snack:
Lunch:
PM Snack:
Supper:
Comments on Food:

Exercise for the Day:

Step 10 Inventory
"God, please help me review my day. Please grant me the willingness to see what you would have me see, in the light you would have me see it: free from morbid reflection, fear, obsessive guilt, and dishonesty."

1. Have I been resentful?
2. Have I been selfish?
3. Have I been dishonest?
4. Have I been afraid?
5. Do I owe an apology/amend?
6. Have I been thinking of myself most of the time or was I thinking of what I could do for others?
7. Have I been kind and loving toward all?
8. Is there anything I could have done better?
9. Have I done anything that I wish I had not done?
10. Have I left anything undone that I wish I had done?
11. Have I been worrying about yesterday or tomorrow?
12. Did I allow myself to become obsessed by anything?
13. Have I been too hungry, angry, lonely, tired or serious?
14. Do I suffer from any physical, mental or spiritual problems?
15. Have I done anything to cause harm to myself or to another?
16. Have I kept something to myself which should be discussed with another?
17. What have I done to be of service to God and the people around me?
18. What are my gratitudes for the day?

"God , please forgive me and tell me what corrective measures should be taken."
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SAMPLE STEP TEN INVENTORY:

On retiring at night constructively review your day:

Was I :

resentful, selfish, dishonest or afraid?

Do I owe an apology?

Have I kept something to myself which should be discussed with another person at once?

Was I kind and loving towards all?

What could I have done better?

Was I thinking of myself most of the time?

Or was I thinking of what I could do for others, or what I could pack into the stream of life?

be careful not to drift into worry, remorse, or morbid reflection, for that would diminish your usefulness to others.

After making the review: God , please forgive me and tell me what corrective measures should be taken

you can add or subtract anything that fits you. like what were the tools that I used today...................hope this helps if not let me know we can whip up another........love me

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SAMPLE STEP TEN INVENTORY:

My Daily (Step 10) Personal Inventory
LIABILITIES to watch for: Check for each day for: SELF-WILL (Column 4) NO POWER Mon Tues Wed Thurs Fri Sat Sun

1. Resentment
2. False Pride, Arrogance, Self-loathing
3. Envy
4. Jealousy, Distrust, Suspicion
5. Dishonesty, Lying, Exaggeration, Stealing
6. Selfishness, Self-Seeking, Self-Centeredness
7. Laziness, Sloth, Boredom
8. Inconsideration, Intolerance
9. Lust, Infidelity
10. Immoral Thinking, Vulgar Talk
11. Hate, Wrath, Anger, Irritability
12. Greed (money) or Gluttony (food)
13. Slander, Gossip, Spreading Rumors
14. Impatience
15. Fear of...

ASSETS to strive for:
Check for each day for: GOD'S WILL (Column 5) POWER Mon Tues Wed Thurs Fri Sat Sun

1. Forgiveness
2. Humility
3. Contentment
4. Trust
5. Honesty, Integrity
6. Unselfishness
7. Activity, Zeal, Promptness
8. Tolerance, Acceptance
9. Intimacy, Chaste
10. Purity
11. Love, Kindness
12. Generosity
13. Praise Others, Look For The Good In Others
14. Patience
15. Faith, Trust God

LIST OF CHARACTER DEFECTS:

194 Character Defects
1 Abusing Others for enjoyment
2 Action, failing to take
3 Aloof
4 Anger Anger 37, 66, 88, 108, 135
5 Antagonistic
6 Anxiety
7 Anxious, overly
8 Apathetic
9 Apologetic, overly
10 Appearances, preoccupied or obsessed with
11 Argumentative
12 Arrogance
13 Avarice
14 Avoiding confrontation
15 Beating yourself up
16 Beauty, obsession or preoccupation with
17 Bigotry
18 Blaming others for disease
19 Blaming self for disease
20 Boastful
21 Boundaries, not setting
22 Busybody
23 Cheating
24 Choosing easy prey, gossip
25 Choosing easy prey, physical
26 Closed-mindedness
27 Codependenc
28 Coldheartedness
29 Communication, avoiding
30 Communication, poor
31 Companions, seeking corrupt / lower
32 Compassion, lack of
33 Competitive, excessively
34 Complaining
35 Conceit
36 Condemning
37 Confrontation, avoiding
38 Controlling
39 Controlling Others
40 Cowardice
41 Critical
42 Crude
43 Deceptive, deceiving
44 Dependency, dependent
45 Dependent on parents
46 Destructive
47 Devious
48 Different, thinking you are
49 Disease, feeling responsible for/taking credit for
50 Disease, making excuses for
51 Disease, not accepting
52 Dishonesty
53 Dishonesty by omission
54 Disorganized
55 Egotistical
56 Envious
57 Exaggeration
58 Excess
59 Faith, lack of faith in God
60 Fanatical
61 Fantasizing
62 Favoritism, playing favorites
63 Fearful
64 Filthy-mindedness
65 Financially dependent on others
66 Financially insecure
67 Following through, failing to
68 Frustration
69 Gluttony
70 Gossiping
71 Greed
72 Guilt, about sexual fantasies
73 Guilt, excessive feelings of
74 Guilt, feeling guilty for things beyond control
75 Harsh
76 Hate
77 Hatred of others
78 Hatred of self
79 Health, irresponsibility with or neglect of
80 Help, refusing/not asking for
81 Hopelessness
82 Ignorance Ignorance 2, 20, 107
83 Ill wishes toward others
84 Immodesty
85 Impatience
86 Impulsive purchaser
87 Inadequacy, sense of
88 Incompassionate
89 Inconsiderate Inconsiderate 69, 82, 108, 125
90 Indecisive Indecision 86
91 Indifferent
92 Injustice
93 Insecure in your own skin
94 Insecure in sexuality
95 Insecurity, financial
96 Insensitivity
97 Insincerity Insincere 96
98 Intolerance Intolerance 50, 103, 120, 135, 160
99 Intolerance of sick people
100 Inventory, taking other’s
101 Irresponsibility
102 Irresponsibility, financial
103 Irresponsible
104 Isolating
105 Jealousy
106 Judgmental of others
107 Knowing it all
108 Laziness
110 Leering, crude toward Lewd
112 Lifestyles, not accepting others’
113 Love and friendship, refusal to accept
114 Lustful
115 Lying
116 Making excuses for disease
117 Insecure
118 Manipulative
119 Measuring self against others
120 Meddling
121 Messy
122 Miserliness
123 Negative body image
124 Negative Thinking
125 Negatives, focusing on or magnifying
126 Neglectful
127 Opinionated
128 Opinions, not respecting others’
129 Overcompensating for projected wrongs
130 Overcompensating for weaknesses
131 Perfectionism
132 Pessimism
133 Physical appearance, obsession or preoccupation with
134 Physical health, neglect of
135 Playing God
136 Playing God with self
137 Positives, not looking at
138 Possessive
139 Preachy
140 Prejudice
141 Pride, False
142 Pride, Intellectual
143 Pride, Spiritual
144 Procrastination
145 Program, working other’s
146 Psychoanalysis of others
147 Reckless
148 Remorseful
149 Resentment
150 Revenge, vengefulness
151 Rude
152 Sarcastic
153 Secretive
154 Seeking attention
155 Seeking negative attention
156 Self Condemnation
157 Self Deprecating humor
158 Self Importance
159 Self Justification
160 Self Pity
161 Self reliance
162 Self Seeking
163 Self, putting self on pedestal
164 Self-absorbed
165 Self-centeredness Self-centeredness 14, 61, 62, 64, 111*, 124
166 Self-hatred
167 Self-indulgence
168 Selfishness Selfish 7, 21, 61, 67, 69, 82, 84, 86, 87
169 Self-loathing
170 Setting expectations
171 Sex, hidden
172 Sex, lack of appreciation for
173 Skeptical
174 Sloth
175 Stealing Stealing 68
176 Step on others to get to top
177 Stewardship of assets, poor
178 Suspicious
179 Thoughtless
180 Thrill-seeking
181 Uncharitableness
182 Uncleanness
183 Undependable
184 Undisciplined
185 Unfaithful
186 Ungrateful
187 Uniqueness, terminal
188 Unreliable
189 Untrustworthy
190 Valuing the opinion of a sick mind
191 Vengeful
192 Vulgar Immoral Thinking
193 Wasteful
194 Worry

A 10th Step prayer for Growth and Effectiveness: "God, please help me Watch for Selfishness, Dishonesty, Resentment and Fear. When these crop up in me, help me to immediately ask you to remove them from me and help me discuss these feelings with someone. Father, help me to quickly make amends if I have harmed anyone and help me to resolutely turn my thoughts to someone I can Help. Help me to be Loving and Tolerant of everyone today. Amen"(84:2)

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Tenth Step Prayer My Higher Power, My daily prayer is to best serve you, I pray I may continue to grow in understanding & effectiveness; Help me to watch for selfishness, dishonesty, resentment and fear; Help me to be willing to have You remove them at once; I must be willing to discuss them with someone immediately; I will make amends quickly if I have harmed anyone; And then I will turn my thoughts toward helping someone else; Please help me to remember to practice love and tolerance of others. (84:2)

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Tenth Step Amends Prayer "God, please forgive me for my failings today. I know that because of my failings, I was not able to be as effective as I could have been for you. Please forgive me and help me love thy will better today. I ask you now to show me how to correct the errors I have just outlined. Guide me and direct me. Please remove my arrogance and my fear. Show me how to make my relationships right and grant me the humility and strength to do thy will."(86:1)

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GREAT work and willingness, I am so humbly blessed as you allow me to walk along side of you on this happy road to destiny on this road to Recovery one day at a time.

MUCH love
God bless n prayers,
Linda <3






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