Greetings in recovery!!! So happy to continue service with WTS. I have gained so much from all of your shares. I appreciate each person here, and lift you all up in prayer for personal emotional and physical healing and growth. This week we are on Step 10.
Definition of perseverance: Steadfastness in doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success
I think of all the steps and principles thus far, this one resonates the most with me. When you read the Step 10 Chapter in the OA 12 and 12, you will notice the words “perseverance” and “continue(d)” repeated several times. We continue to take personal inventory. Let’s take a look at what that means using the AA Big Book, starting with the 2nd full paragraph on page 84 through page 85. First, we are told that this is not an overnight matter. “It should continue for our lifetime.” We are to watch for four main things: Selfishness, dishonesty, resentment and fear. There are a few ways of doing your 10th step each day. You can do it mentally, thinking through your day, reviewing your activities and your reactions, then seeking for your Higher Power to reveal where you reacted with anyone of the four things mentioned above. Another way is to actually write them down. I have used a wonderful tool called the OA Journal at times to review these things. I also spent a couple of years writing them down in a nightly check in e-mail with my sponsor.
What does the Big Book tell us we should do once we recognize that we have behaved either selfishly or dishonestly, or find ourselves experiencing resentment and/or fear? “… we ask God at once to remove them. We discuss them with someone and immediately and make amends quickly if we have harmed anyone.” I want to focus on three words/phrases here: “at once,” “immediately,” and “quickly.” Why is this concept repeated? Because it’s important! None of us wants to sit in our resentments, self-pity, fear, etc. It’s uncomfortable! It feels awful! And, for us, it leads us back to the food if not resolved as soon as is humanly possible.
This formula is simple, but not easy, as is most of this program. We recognize the defect, we ask God to remove it, we talk to someone about it (our sponsor, spiritual advisor, another person in recovery), and then we make amends where necessary. For me, I also add that I forgive quickly. Often I don’t owe an amends, but I do owe mercy and forgiveness in order for me to be clear, to move on, and to stay spiritually fit.
The Big Book adds one more step that I think is often overlooked. “Then we resolutely turn our thoughts to someone we can help.” After we speak to someone about how we are feeling, we have turned over the situation to God, and we make amends if necessary, we are to turn our thoughts to someone we can help. What a wonderful opportunity to make a phone call or send an e-mail to a person who you know may need encouragement! And when we reach out to that person, we don’t rehash our own issue – we listen to them and offer whatever help we can.
Another thing I seem to have missed in the past when reading Step 10 as presented in the AA Big Book is the miracle that happens when we practice this step on a daily basis. Neutrality around food. Please read these passages in the AA Big Book this week and highlight those passages that tell you what you receive as a gift from working this step. It is absolutely amazing. I have been living these miracles recently, and I wish this for each person reading this share today.
1. Please share with us what you see as the miracles this Step 10 gives recovering compulsive overeaters.
2. How do you currently work Step 10 (If you have gotten to this step)?
3. How important do you feel the principle of perseverance is with regard to working your program?
4. What do you think neutrality around food looks like?
5. What does being in “fit spiritual condition” mean to you?
The Twelve Steps
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