9th Step Prayer
God give me the strength and direction to do the right thing
no matter what the consequences may be. Help me to consider
others and not harm them in any way. Help me to consult
with others before I take any actions that would cause me to
be sorry. Help me to not repeat such behaviors. Show me the
way of Patience, Tolerance, Kindliness, and Love and help me
live the spiritual life. AMEN (p. 78-80 BB)
When making our amends it's important to remember that we stick to our side of the street. We don't tell anyone their part, we never say "if I hurt you".....we are making the amends because we know we did. We keep our amends clean. There are amends
that we will make easily, those that we put off for awhile, or at least want to, and those we feel we will never make. As time goes on and we see the rewards coming from the amends we do make, we will want to continue on because the feeling of being free
and clean is new and so very worth the effort. It is an excellent suggestion that we consult our sponsor before making an amends to make sure we are "keeping it clean."
That isn't to say that all amends will accepted, I made amends to a few folks who would not forgive and that really was okay because I knew that I had made a good amends and cleaned up my part of the street. I never allowed anyone's reactions to affect me because the bottom line was always that the amends were for me and my relationship with the God of My Understanding. The amends were sincere and I had done my part.
My father had passed on and so I wrote my amends to him and attached them to a helium balloon and set it free. It was a wonderful event for me.
Most of our amends will be of the "living" type. The restored faith in us by others comes about because how we now leave our life.
Those around us, will come to trust us because we are honest in living the principles of the steps one day at a time to the very best of our new-found ability.
"There may be some wrong we can never fully right. We don't worry about them if we can honestly say to ourselves thaat we would right them if we could. Some people cannot be seen---we send them a honest lettter. And there may be a valid reason for postponement in some cases. But we don't delay if it can be avoided. We should be sensible, tactful, considerate and humble without being service or scraping. As God's people we stand on our feet, we don't crawl before anyone.
"Remember also that the way we make amends to society and those we may never be able to contact is by staying sober a day at a time, practicing all the steps in all our life's affairs, continuing to help one another, doing all things out of LOVE. In this manner we come to peace within ourselves, and able to carry a message of Love and Hope and Peace into the world." ` Barefoot
These are the 9th step promises:
If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through.
We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness.
We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.
We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace.
No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others.
That feeling of uselessness and self pity will disappear.
We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows.
Self-seeking will slip away.
Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change.
Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us.
We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us.
We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.
Be sure to read Step 9 in the "Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions" and also "Alcoholics Anonymous" pgs. 76 - 84.
These are very important readings
1. Is something blocking you from beginning your amends?
2. Can you share an experience from an amends you have made?
3. Is the feeling of freedom beginning to take root?
We continue on with Step 9 with our living amends each day of our life.
If you have any questions, as always, you can contact me via phone (number below) or email. I am
very available to be there for you. If for some reason I do not answer the phone, please leave a message
and I will definitely and without doubt get back to you.
All my love,
The Twelve Steps