The principle behind Step Seven - HUMILITY.
First let us talk about humility. When I came into OA I believed I had enough humility. I certainly didn't think too highly of myself. In fact, after decades of compulsively overeating, I didn't think much of myself at all. But what I discovered was that although I didn't think much of myself - that was all I thought about - MYSELF. "I'm not good enough... I look stupid... people are staring at me... I need... I want... I deserve... I, I, I, I. What I have learned is that true humility is taking my rightful place in the world. I am not more than, but I am not less than either.
Humility means lacking pretense and being so comfortable with yourself that you accept yourself for who you are, where you have been, and where you could go. I had to recognize and accept what I could do, what I couldn't do. (Sounds like the serenity prayer :) )
Further, humility is talked about in AA's 12 & 12 pg. 72 it states, "As long as we placed self-reliance first, a genuine reliance on a Higher Power was out of the question. That basic ingredient of all HUMILITY, a desire to seek and do God's will, was missing.
Also on pg. 75: "Everywhere we saw failure and misery transformed by HUMILITY into priceless assets." Further down on this page, "We need not always be bludgeoned and beaten into HUMILITY. It could come quite as much from our voluntarily reaching for it as it could from unremitting suffering." And still later, "HUMILITY, we discovered, was a healer of pain. We began to fear pain less, and desire HUMILITY more than ever."
For me, my old beliefs about humility had to be smashed and I had to come to a new understanding of humility. With that new understanding, I became ready to take Step 7.
I could now humbly ASK God to remove my shortcomings. I do this with the knowledge I cannot remove my shortcomings on my own, they can only be removed by my HP. I do not TELL God what to do. I just give myself to Him - good and bad - then I just "act as if". That is my part - "acting as if." I wait until HP removes these defects (in His time), but while I am waiting I "act as if they had been removed" to the best of my ability.
Read in AA's Big Book pg. 76 the first two paragraphs, praying to HP to remove your character defects. You have taken Step 7!
Answer and share with loop these questions:
1. Can you take something you thought to be a character defect and relate it to the four character defects (selfishness, dishonesty, self-seeking and fear) discussed by the Big Book.
2. What have I learned about humility?
3. Why do I want God to remove your shortcomings?
Well fellows, we are well on our way. Your step work has been outstanding! You are outstanding! Keep close to your HP, and continue your journey towards permanent recovery. Yes, I said permanent recovery as promised by the Big Book - one day at a time.
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