Step Four. “Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.”
"Next we launched out on a course of vigorous action, the first step of which is a profound housecleanng, which many of us had never attempted. Though our decision was a vital and crucial step, it could have
very little permanent effect unless at once followed by a strenuous effort to face, and to be rid of the things in ourselves which ad been blocking us. Our liquor was but a symptom. So we had to get down to causes and conditions." (Alcoholics Anonymous, pg. 64).
Hello my dear friends in recovery,
Last week we wrote out our resentment and fears inventory, using the 4 columns as per the suggestions
(instructions) found at the website I sent along: www.barefootsworld.net/aa4thsteptips.html
This week, we will write our "sex and harm to others" inventory. At the above website it is suggested that we not do this part of the 4th step via the columns, but rather answer the 9 questions found on pg. 69 of the BB.
We reviewed our own conduct over the past.
1. Where had we been selfish?
3. or inconsiderate?
4. Whom did we hurt?
5. Did we unjustifiably arouse jealousy?
7. or bitterness?
8. Where were we at fault?
9. what should we have done instead?
Keep it simple.
All of this is what was.....what is, is a different story and what will make it so very different is taking stock and clearing off the shelves of all the stuff that is out of date. We began clearing ourselves of outdated patterns and behaviors with our written inventory. By the time we are through (steps 5, 6, 7, 8 and 9) our shelves (selves) will be pristine and available for our recovered selves....our new life walking in the sunlight of the spirit. As I finish my 4th step, I keep that image front and center.
4th Step - pre-inventory prayer:
"God, please help me to honestly take stock. Help me to search out the flaws in my make-up which caused my failure. Help me to see where resentment has plagued me and resulted in spiritual malady, but more importantly help me to understand my part in these resentments. Help me to resolutely look for my own mistakes and to understand where I had been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and frightened. Please help me to be searching and fearless in my endeavor to write my inventory." (p. 64:2, 64:3, 67:2)
Over to you:
1. Have you become aware of unwanted and unneeded (out-dated) patterns of thinking (old ideas) and behavior?
2. Are you ready to be free?
Congratulations on completing your 4th step. The rubber met the road and you were up to the challenge.
Now set a date with your sponsor or trusted person to do your 5th step. Which will be next week.
If you have any questions, as always, you can contact me via phone (number below) or email. I am
very available to be there for you. If for some reason I do not answer the phone, please leave a message
and I will definitely and without doubt get back to you.
All my love,
The Twelve Steps
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