Step Three

Made a decision to turn our will and our lives
over the care of God
as we understood Him.

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Principle – Faith

After having done Steps One and Two I’m ready for Step Three! I’m ready to go! Or am I? “Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him” First I ask myself, why do I want to turn my will and my life over to the care of God? Well, the BB tells us “The first requirement is that we be convinced that any life run on self-will can hardly be a success” (pg. 60). Yes I agree with that, in fact I have lots of examples of how I tried and failed, tried and failed, tried and failed (Steps One and Two). This leads me to “now what do I do?” (Step Three).

So, now I’m ready for Step Three. Wait a minute….my will AND my life. Surely they don’t mean ALL my WILL and ALL my LIFE. No, they can’t mean that. Wait am I suppose to do…not think…not have feelings….what will happen to me….. what will happen to others if I don’t try to control things?? This scares me until I go back to Step Two and reflect on what exactly my HP is. My HP is loving, caring, kind, protective, all knowing. When I believe that, really, really believe that, I can make that decision. In fact, I want to make that decision! Yes the decision to turn my will and my life over to the care of God (as I understood Him) is something I am willing to do. I will leave things, people and circumstances to the care of HP.

I have found the key to this step is willingness. I had to be willing to make a decision and that decision involved change. The change I am talking about is changing from life run on self-will to a life run on God’s will. Now I am not saying that once I made that decision Step 3 was over. No, for me I have to remind myself daily – actually throughout the day - that I made that decision. And truth be told I have reversed that decision and taken my will be many a time (and let me tell you, it has never turned out good when I did that). But, though the grace of God, I now have a program, which I can turn to and get, right back on the beam, and right my wrongs.

Step 3 Assignment
Read in the Big Book “How it Works” pg. 58 to the bottom of pg. 63.

Reflect: What things, people or circumstances have you tried to control in the past and how has that turned out? Do you think God could handle your life better than you could have?

If you have made the decision to turn your will and your life over to the care of God you have taken Step Three. If you are uncertain can you “act as if”?



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