Step Three

Made a decision to turn our will and our lives
over the care of God
as we understood Him.

Leader's Share and Step Questions

Step Three: Made a Decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

"It is impossible to take step three until we have taken the first two steps. Once we have fully acknowledged our fatal powerlessness and have come to believe that there is a solution, however, the third step is simple. If we want to live free of the killing disease of compulsive overeating, we accept help without reservation from a Power greater than ourselves. We now say yes to this Power, deciding from here on to follow spiritual guidance in making every decision."
(The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Overeaters Anonymous, pg. 19)

Hello My Friends in Recovery,

One of the great spiritual masters said that he was a coward and lazy and that was why he took the path of "surrender."     Me too.   :)    I have always seen the Third Step as stepping on to the path of surrender.
It says quite clearly that we turn everything (our will (thinking) and our very lives) over to the God of Our (own) Understanding. Nothing is held on to. Steps four through nine are the action of our surrender. Steps ten through twelve not only maintain what we have been so generously given, but they catapult us into the fourth dimension. It becomes clear that we are not in charge and it is a wonderful thing. Do you want to know happiness, joyfulness and freedom? If so, make the decision.

At this point if you do not have a sponsor it is suggested that you get one now. He/She will guide you through steps 4 through 9 and we need the guidance and encouragement of someone who has walked the path before us.

Keep it simple. In Step One you admitted: "I can't; in Step Two you gain faith (hope) that God can; in Step Three you make the most important decision in your recovery which is to let the God of Your Understanding take the reigns.

The Third Step Prayer

from page 63 of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous

God, I offer myself to Thee-
To build with me
and to do with me as Thou wilt.
Relieve me of the bondage of self,
that I may better do Thy will.
Take away my difficulties,
that victory over them may bear witness
to those I would help of Thy Power,
Thy Love, and Thy Way of life.
May I do Thy will always!

Step 3 Questions:

Please read Step 3 in the A.A. or O.A. 12 and 12.

Question #1: If you have read about Step 3, what have you learned.

Question #1: What does it mean to you to step aside?

Question #2: Have you taken quiet time and made the decision to turn your will and your life over to the God of your understanding? If not, do it now and let us know how it goes.

If you have made the decision, congratulations you have taken Step 3. (should you forget at any time, you will get a spiritual a nudge that reminds you that the decision is already made so get back on track where your spirit already is, waiting patiently.

You don't have to pick up that first bite no matter what. You are not alone, we are all in this together. Feel free to contact me using the email below or by calling me.


“Now we our failure to keep God's law except by trying our very hardest (and then failing). Unless we really try, whatever we say there will always be at the back of our minds the idea that if we try harder next time we shall succeed in being completely good. Thus, in one sense, the road back to God is a road of moral effort, of trying harder and harder. But in another sense it is not trying that is ever going to bring us home. All this trying leads up to the vital moment at which you turn to God and say, "You must do this. I can't.”
- C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity

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