Step One: We admitted we were powerless over food - that our lives had become unmanageable.
Step One is about Honesty and Acceptance: "And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today." This is a quote from Dr. Paul's story in the Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous), pg. 417. The good dr.'s story is definitely worth reading.
As for honesty, we all know what that is......and isn't. Getting honest with myself was important and being honest with others, most especially my sponsor is just as important. But it starts with me, I got honest when I stopped trying to fool myself into thinking that I could do this alone. I can't. I got honest when I
stopped trying to fool myself that somehow I didn't have to do the steps (again). I got honest with myself when I looked at my life, especially my inner life and realized that it was unmanageable. I got honest when I realized that I needed to have a plan of eating for each and every day. If I fail to plan, I plan to fail.
Acceptance is not about liking something or even saying that it's okay. There is no judgement, it simply is what is at this time and this place. And that includes what I may be feeling at any given time, this acceptance is a new way of thinking and it is healthy and healing. When I accept someone or something just as it is and leave the judgment to the GOMU it brings me peace.
Remember, you are not becoming what God intended because you are already that. Michaelangelo said it perfectly:
"In every block of marble I see a statue as plain as though it stood before me, shaped and perfect in attitude and action. I have only to hew away the rough walls that imprison the lovely apparition to reveal it to the other eyes as mine see it."
Nothing changes if nothing changes. I needed a new way of life and I found it through this excellent program for recovery.
As we work each step, we are hewing away the rough spots that imprison our true self...who is waiting patiently to be free.
Step One Prayer:
God Of My Understanding,
I admit that I am powerless over my compulsive overeating.
I admit that my life is unmanageable when I try to control it.
Help me this day to understand
The true meaning of powerlessness.
Remove from me all denial of my compulsive overeating.
Questions to Ponder:
(You are more than welcome to send your answers to the group, in fact it would be very helpful).
Homework: Read Step One Chapter 1 and/or step one in the OA or AA 12 and 12.
Question 1: Are you ready for this journey?
Question 2: What is your plan of action for living abstinently?
Question 3: Have you done any reading about Step One? and if so, what have you learned?
Question 4: Do you accept that you are a compulsive overeater and that your life is unmanageable?
If so, you have taken the first step. Congratulations!
You don't have to pick up that first bite no matter what. You are not alone, we are all in this together.
Feel free to contact me using the email below or by calling me.
“Acceptance of the unacceptable is the greatest source of grace in this world.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
The Twelve Steps
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