We will be taking two weeks to cover step 4... I would suggest that you complete each corresponding Character Defect/Asset pair before you move on to the next. (But feel free to do the pairs in whatever order works for you. Maybe pick the easy ones first!) It is all too easy for most of us to come up with a long laundry list of our CDs....and to overlook the assets that we have and exhibit. I am hoping this format will help you make a balanced inventory of yourself. Macrina Weidekher once said, “God, please help me believe the truth about myself....no matter how beautiful it is.” That is my prayer for you.
This list is adapted from a Big Book Study, and is similar to the “On the Beam, Off the Beam” list that you can find in AA literature.
Your 4th step work is for YOUR edification...it is critical to your recovery. The principle of Step 4 is Courage. The deeper you are willing to go, the larger the degree of honesty you are willing to embrace, the more this step will help your recovery. Be kind to yourself...this is HARD work...you may find you are extra tired after working on this....Emotional truth telling is tiring work. BUT, it is oh, so worth it. We will share whatever portions of Step 4 you would like to share with the loop in the Step 5 week. That is also when you will share this with your sponsor.
I have included some questions...for before and after you write your Step 4...which you may share with the loop during these two weeks.
Here are questions which pertain to Step 4.
1. What are your biggest fears around Step 4?
2. What are your biggest hopes around Step 4?
3. Have you done Step 4 before? If so, what was your experience like?
4. We are as sick as our secrets, as they say. Are you willing to bring your ‘dirty little secrets’ to light so that they don’t have to fester inside of you anymore? This is not the time to worry about with whom you will share this....Right now, this is all about you and what YOU need to recover.
5. If not now, then when?
4th STEP CHART~ Please fill in your experiences that correspond to the CD or the CA indicated. There are some empty boxes in the bottom if you have other things you need to write about.