Step Three

Made a decision to turn our will and our lives
over the care of God
as we understood Him.

Leader's Share and Step Questions

Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

The idea of turning our will and our life over to God seems like a risky idea to many of us at first. After all, many of us have spent a lifetime convinced that we need to control everything in order to be safe, or to avoid pain. I spent many years in early recovery worrying that I wouldn’t like what God had in store for me. Then I started experiencing demonstrations of God’s work in my life, and was very impressed with what I saw. I got out of the results business. I started being much more willing to do the footwork, to “suit up and show up”, because I felt able to let go of the outcome. This worked great in job interview situations, because I came to understand that it was only my job to show up and do the best I can, and leave the results to God. There is a wonderful saying about living the spiritual life: “Begin where you are, step out in faith, do the best you can, expect God to help”. This is how it has worked for me and countless other recovering COEs. There is another slogan “in God’s time, not mine”. This is about the patience that is required to live the spiritual life.

On the question of abstinence, my experience has been that the more I rely upon God, the better my life goes, the better I feel, the less I need to numb myself with excessive eating or druggy foods. It has also been my experience that when I am abstinent, the channel of communication between me and God is wide open. The intuition that is spoken of in our literature is present. Our instincts are lined up with the powers that be and we are “in the flow”. It’s a pretty nice way to live.

I highly recommend using the third step prayer from the Big Book of AA in your daily prayer practice. It is a beautiful petition to God for guidance: “God I offer myself to Thee – to build with me and do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better doThy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power. Thy Love, Thy Way of life. May I do Thy will always!”.

The three legged chair of recovery is spiritual, emotional, and physical. It’s a tall order, but with God’s help, anything and everything is possible. Making a decision to seek God’s will in all our affairs is the taking of the third step, and it gives us support and confidence that prepares us for the soul searching work of the steps ahead.

Questions for reflection:

Let go and let God is a timeless slogan of the program. What would you like to let go of today and let God take care of besides your food problems? Please try and be specific as possible.

What are your fears about letting go and letting God?

Are there people in your world who exemplify the success of living the spiritual life, i.e., belief and reliance upon a higher power? What is it about them or their lives that you admire?

In loving service,

Nancy A.

One more Step Three Thought.....

Letting go and letting God always produces the results that are right for you. There is a difference between "lip service", and in your heart, knowing that you have run out of steam and are going to step aside and trust, and wait for God's help. In matters of relationships, work problems, circumstances that appear beyond hope, responsibilities that seem almost impossible to meet, getting to that point that you honestly will step aside in faith, stop struggling, "be still and know", and trust with all your heart that all will be resolved in your best interest - that is letting go and letting God. Strive for that, and you will be taken care of.

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