Dear Brothers and Sisters in Recovery,
Wow, what a journey! Reading each of your shares really touched me in a very special way. Each and every one of you has blessed me in so many ways and I will always be grateful. I consider each of you to be my brothers and sisters and I love each one of you as such. Thank you for allowing me to be your leader for this quarter.
Some of you have shared that certain questions were too personal (in particular, step four). For any questions you do not feel comfortable sharing with the loop, PLEASE share with your sponsor or someone you trust. The purpose of the questions is to remove the guilt and shame that is associated with the subject of the question. Compared to feelings of resentment and anger, feelings of guilt and shame also has the same effect on our eating behaviors.
Please feel free to email me privately (at firstname.lastname@example.org) anytime you want to ask me questions or just to follow up. I love receiving emails from program people.
Here are the questions that pertain to step 12.
STEP TWELVE QUESTIONS:
1. Now that you are at step 12, discuss what your plans are in program. Do you plan to work the steps again during next quarter? Do you have plans to give service here in the recovery Intergroup or in your local F2F OA meeting? The program teaches us that we cannot keep what we have unless we are willing to give it away.
2. For step 11, question 1, you were asked to tell god, through prayer, about something that is making you sad or feeling hurt. What have you learned from this?
3. Are there any questions from steps 1 through 11 that you have not yet answered or shared with somebody else? What is standing in the way of sharing your answers to another person?
4. Have you been able to maintain abstinence during the last three months? If not, make a detailed list of the barriers in your life to achieving abstinence. Also, write out your personal action plan to overcome the barriers you identified.
5. Did you have a spiritual awakening? Was it vital to your recovery? When did it take place? Can you define it?
6. Reflect on and discuss the idea that the basic antidote for your fears is for you to have a spiritual awakening.
7. Discuss and reflect on how "acceptance is the answer to all of your problems.Ē
8. Write about how working the program has brought joy to your life.
9. Discuss what needs to be done by you to be most effective in helping those who still suffer.
10. Are there areas where you are currently giving service in the program?
My intermediate range plan is to sponsor people in the recovery group. I give service wherever I am needed. The main area I really like giving service is helping people with disabilities. Since I grew up with a 70% hearing loss, I seem to connect with people who are challenged with disabilities. I love sponsoring people in program with disabilities.
When I pray for something that makes me sad or feel hurt, the feelings are taken away after praying for about one week. God always hears my prayers and He is just and faithful. God is my heavenly father. By Godís grace, one day at a time, I have maintained abstinence during the study. My abstinence is a gift from God and I give all praise to Him.
Iíve had many spiritual awakenings, mostly the garden-variety type. However, one was the lightening bolt type and that was at an OA menís retreat during the late 1980ís. It was then I felt completely connected with God and that connection has never left me. When I am fearful or uneasy about something, I turn it over to God. Every time, God comes through for me without fail.
Being able to accept things as they are and trusting that God is in charge is the answer to my problems. I seek Godís will one day at a time. Thy will be done, not mine.
The program has made me a happy person. I used to be angry, sad, depressed, resentful, and bitter all the time. The program got me through all this garbage and has allowed me to live in the light. I have a life that is a gift from God.
I commit myself to giving service to those needed my help. Leading this step study has brought joy to my life. Giving service always brings joy. Helping those who suffer requires me to be willing to reach out and give service. Also giving service to those outside of program brings joy to my life too.
Those who wish to be a leader must first be a servant.
Through God all things are possible!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My Deepest Heartfelt Love In Recovery,
The Twelve Steps