Step Nine

Made direct amends to such people wherever possible,
except when to do so would injure them or others.

Step Questions
Leader's Share





Dear Brothers and Sisters in Recovery;

Here are the questions that pertain to step 9.

STEP NINE QUESTIONS:

  1. List something positive that you have done for somebody else and you were not noticed. Have you sought to help others for the recognition?

  2. Write about a resentment you have. How are you using the program to be free of it?

  3. How have righteous indignation and resentment wreaked havoc in your life? How do you handle anger today?

  4. Discuss and reflect on the idea that nothing pays off like restraint of tongue and pen. How have you used this to avoid conflict?

  5. Discuss and reflect on your willingness to approach those individuals that you have harmed. Also, discuss and think about what attitude you should have in making an amends.

  6. Have you made your amends list? Are you working on making amends? Do you make direct amends on a daily basis? If not, make your list.

  7. Describe the lengths to which you would go for victory over eating compulsively.

  8. Besides your eating, what other defects have you had to live with?

  9. Have you experienced any of your most severe critics meeting you more than half way when making admissions and amends? How do you stay in balance when this happens or quite the opposite happens?

  10. Are you delaying making amends because you are afraid? If so, how can you move into the "spirit" of Step Nine?

  11. Write on the scariest amend you have to make and how you will move into action to make it.



LEADER'S SHARE


        During the last week, I helped the students in the disabilities ministry at my church and others may see me, but I give service out of love. The students express great joy and gratitude when somebody just simply says ďhiĒ to them.

        I have worked through my resentments and when they come up (they most definitely do!!), I work on the resentment as soon as I can. My most common technique is to pray for the other person and for God to heal the hurt and resentment in my mind.

        I used to be a very bitter and angry person. Other times, I would not express anger when it was appropriate to do so. I handle anger the same as resentments.

        Iíve learned to restrain my tongue, pen, and email. I used to send emails with flames shooting out from the sides. I do not do that anymore.

        Iíve made my amends. However when the need for one comes up, I make it right away. When making amends, I take the attitude of cleaning my side of the street only and I do not expect anything from the other person.

        I am willing to do anything that comes to my attention to maintain victory over compulsive overeating. The other defect I had to live with is procrastination and not being able to get angry when I should.

        Iíve had people who would give me wise cracks when making amends. I ignore the remarks because my mission is to clean my side of the street. If the other person chooses to be a jerk, it is not my problem.


Love In Recovery,

Dennis Tisdale






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