During last week, I gave a sponsee some strong words of encouragement that she needed.
I was the type who always allowed others to control, manipulate, and take advantage of me. Many of the worst resentments in my past resulted from this trait.
I make amends as soon as I know I need to. Step 8 was a fairly easy step for me. To be in harmony with God and others, making amends was necessary in order to remove all of the guilt and shame from my past and to have my body, mind, and spirit free of all encumbrances.
In my past, I have done significant emotional harm to myself from eating, isolation, self-pity, resentments, fear, low self-esteem, and allowing others to take advantage of me.
I’ve harmed others by acting out when I reached my boiling point. I would say things to others or do something and deny it later. Because of my fear or others, I would say things looking the other way and do things when nobody is looking.
I have made my step 8 amends and new amends are now handled in step 10. Forgiveness is critical in working this step. Sometimes others have harmed me and I need to forgive them before I can make an amend to them. I say the prayer I shared in step 5 whenever there is somebody I need to forgive.
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