My share on Step Seven
The principle of Step Seven is humility. Before the OA program, if you had asked me the definition of humility, I would have been uncertain of what to say. In my mind, humility had something to do with being humiliated or, at least, that is what I thought back then. Program opened my mind to a much different concept of humility. Being humble allows me to be on equal footing with the rest of the people of the world, neither above nor below anyone else. When I am humble, I am a part of the human race, open to being taught new ideas and conceptions.
In OA, we have discovered that humility is simply an awareness of who we really are today and a willingness to become all that we can be. OA Twelve & Twelve, page 60.
I do not know about you but I am very willing to become all that I can be. All my adult life, I wanted to be a better person but I simply did not know how to do so. The Twelve Steps teaches me that very thing! I came to OA to lose weight but I found a completely new way of living my life. OA has allowed me to be the very person that God meant me to be when He created me.
Step Seven asks us to pray to God to remove our defects. In Step Six, we took a good look at what the defects were costing us and became willing to let them go. For me, Step Seven works best if I am on my knees with a list of my defects before me. I pray to God to remove each defect and why. I pray for the willingness to let go of said defect and to allow my Higher Power to remove it from me. Then I conclude with my gratitude and thankfulness that this option is available to me.
Does this mean I will be defect free? No, being human I will always have defects because I am not a perfect being. However, for me, taking Step Seven means that a particular defect will no longer CONTROL my actions. Fear was always my number one defect and I am still a fearful person. BUT each time I must face my fears, I take Step Seven and allow God to handle the fear for me. The defect no longer holds me back from doing what needs to be done. I may have fear but with the help of my OA support team, I am able to walk through the fear and not allow it to control me any longer.
Great individuals are in a state of complete freedom from themselves; their character defects do not control them. OA for Today, page 119.
Love in recovery,
Step Seven: Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
Seventh Step Prayer:
My Creator, I am now willing that You should have all of me, good and bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness to You and my fellows. Grant me strength as I go out from here to do Your bidding. Amen
The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous: Page 76
Principle of Step Seven:
In Step Seven we began to understand the meaning of humility. We practice this principle today by continuing to let go of status seeking and of thoughts and actions by which we belittled ourselves and others, and to humbly trust God for the removal of our shortcomings.
The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Overeaters Anonymous: Page 105
To help comprehend the questions, please read the Step Six chapter in The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of OA. Also read in the BB of AA, page 76. (Fourth Edition)
1. What was your concept of humility before OA? What is your definition of humility now?
2. What are your lists of defects? Why do you want your HP to remove your shortcomings?
3. How do you cultivate the willingness to have your defects removed?
4. How does practice of Step Seven affect your relationship with your Higher Power?
5. How will you formally take Step Seven?