This is our last session together. You've gone through the twelve steps and now should have an excellent anchor for your continued abstinence and recovery. When I take sponsees through the steps, we then study the traditions!
How we do this is to read each tradition to see how it applies to you as a member of Overeaters Anonymous. They say that the steps keep us from suicide and the traditions keep us from homicide! If you have never done a tradition study, I highly recommend it. Maybe TGR will invite me back to do a real tradition study some day. ;o)
But let's look at the traditions this week. They not only are helpful to our fellowship but I've used them in every group in my life - family, work, church, civic groups. Perhaps you will find them useful too. The OA 12x12 is the best tradition study out there. So grab your 12x12 and dig in. Here's some questions that might help you to see where you can use the traditions in other areas of your life
Tradition 1 - Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon OA unity.
How can you practice unity first in OA, your family and other groups where you are a member?
Tradition 2 - For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority - a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.
How are you a trusted servant in OA and your life? Do you try to be a leader, rather than a servant?
Tradition 3 - The only requirement for OA membership is a desire to stop eating compulsively.
What are the requirements for membership in your family? Do you try to control what goes on at work and at home?
Tradition 4 - Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or OA as a whole.
Do you feel like your way is the only 'right' way? Does that affect your relationships at work and home, in your social groups?
Tradition 5 - Each group has but one primary purpose - to carry its message to the compulsive overeater who still suffers.
Is there a primary purpose at work or home? How do you carry the message of recovery to COE's outside of OA?
Tradition 6 - An OA group ought never endorse, finance or lend the OA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary purpose.
Do you allow money, property and prestige to divert you from your real purpose in life, to be of maximum service to God and your fellows?
Tradition 7 - Every OA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.
Are you self supporting through your own contributions? Do you take your financial responsibilities seriously at work, home and other groups where you are a member?
Tradition 8 - Overeaters Anonymous should remain forever non-professional, but our service centers may employ special workers.
Do you present yourself as a 'guru' in OA? How about at work, home or other groups where you are a member? Are you just another bozo on the bus or do you try to be 'in charge' all the time?
Tradition 9 - OA, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.
Do you use the word 'organize' to cover up your need to control in OA, family, work and other groups?
Tradition 10 - Overeaters Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the OA name ought never be drawn into public controversy.
Are you a maker of harmony or controversy?
Tradition 11 - Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, television and other public media of communication.
Do you maintain anonymity in your personal relationships by refraining from gossip? How can gossip affect someone's anonymity in their personal affairs?
Tradition 12 - Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all these Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.
Ah, placing principles before personalities. How can you do that at home, work and other groups to be part of a solution, rather than part of the problem?
So, that's it. I'm done. Thanks for participating in this step study. I got so much from what you were kind enough to share with me. Your step work was beautiful I'm honored to have been invited to serve you and grateful for the friendships I've made along the way.
TRG is always looking for good step study leaders. Maybe you are being called to do this also. Pray about it. And thank you to so many who have been praying for me this week. I was in a car accident on Monday last week which really could have been tragic. God has truly spared me for something else in my life. Not sure what it is but I'm so grateful and hope to just give back whatever I can for what has been so generously given to me.
Hey, don't forget to keep abstinence first. Absolutely.