My name is Shlomo.
I am a food addict and compulsive overeater.
Someone asked me the following: 'I understand that in step seven we humbly ask God to remove our defects and we should do our part by practicing the conjugate assets. Can you recommend a way to practice courage, humility, forgiveness, restraint, and some other assets?'
'Sure' I answered. 'Do steps eight and nine.'
Step Eight: "Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all."
Willingness is the key to step eight.
Let us get to the assignments.
1. Read the Big Book page 76: "Now we need more action...for victory over alcohol."
Mark the sentences that resonate with you. Pay attention to the following: we already have a list, definition of amends, prayer for willingness, any length (also page 58). Reflect and share with us.
2. Read step eight in the A.A. 12&12.
Mark the sentences that resonate with you and the sentences that describe you. Pay attention to the following: forgiveness, their wrongs and our wrongs, difficulties of face to face, excuses of hurting only ourselves, restitution, examination of personal relationships, different kinds of harm, gross and subtle harm. Reflect and share with us.
3. Step eight action:
Go over your inventory list of people you harmed by your sexual and general conduct. Remember that harm can be physical, financial, or emotional. Reflect and check if there are any people that are missing from your list. If there are, add them to your list (the word 'all' in step eight). Go over the list again and check for willingness in each case. When you feel you are not willing to make a certain amend, pray for willingness. Reflect and share with us.
I suggest you pray for willingness on a regular basis.
The Twelve Steps
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