My name is Shlomo.
I am a food addict and compulsive overeater.
Those of you who have missed my previous shares and assignments can read them on the website: http://www.therecoverygroup.org/wts/2008 Fourth quarter.
Those who follow at a slower pace shouldn't be discouraged. Continue to do the work at your pace. I suggest that after the end of the workshop you continue with your sponsor and read my shares and assignment on the website. It is important to work all the 12 steps and not just some of them.
Now to Step Seven:
When we are willing to have God remove all the things which we have admitted are objectionable, and are willing to pray for willingness when we still cling to some defects, we are ready for step seven: "Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings." Since we are powerless over all the aspects of our disease we cannot remove our defects. That is why we turn to God of our understanding.
Let us get to the assignments.
1. Mark and copy the sentences in the Big Book that contain the words humble, humbly, humbling, and humility, pages: 12, 13, 57, 59, 63, 72, 73, 83, 568(third edition), 566(fourth edition). Pay special attention to the explanation of what is not meant by humble on page 83. Reflect and share with us.
2. Read page 58 in the A.A 12&12. Mark and copy the definition of humility. Reflect and share with us.
3. In step seven we turn to God. That means a prayer. Read the seventh step prayer in the Big Book page 76. Mark and copy the prayer. Pay attention to how the definition of humility from assignment 2 is used in this prayer.
Also mark and copy the third step prayer on page 63. Pay attention to the differences in those prayers that stem from our progress in working the steps; i.e., Bondage of self, difficulties, vs. Every single defect of character. Now we know what our defects are. This is something we could only be aware of generally in step three.
The seventh step prayer ends with the word "amen" which concludes prayers. The third step prayer doesn't end with "amen." This can mean that the the third step prayer is the first part of a complete prayer and the seventh step prayer is the second and final part.
Reflect on the meaning of those prayers. Share with us.
3. Read step seven in the A.A. 12&12. Mark the sentences that resonate with you and the sentences that describe you. Pay special attention to the following: humility as the foundation of the steps, lack of humility as an handicap in our life, additional definition of humility on page 72 and its importance, first step to liberation, turning point-seeking humility as something we really want. Reflect and share with us.
4. Read tradition twelve in the A.A. 12&12. Mark the sentences that resonate with you. Pay special attention to the connection between anonymity and humility. Reflect and share with us.
5. Read step seven in the OA 12&12. Mark the sentences that resonate with you. Reflect and share with us.
6. Copy and mark the sentence after the word "Amen" on page 76 in the Big Book. This means that by saying the prayer we completed our turning to God, but it doesn't mean that this is all there is to step seven. This is an action program and in this program prayer is always a prelude to action and not all the action. I think the reason the needed action is not given here in detail is because we were given quite detailed instructions on the actions we have to take when we dealt with the inventory, with particular emphasis on resentments, fears, and sexual conduct. Those were really the action instructions for step seven implemented in the working of our inventory.
A) Read pages 64-67 in the Big Book. Reflect on how the Big Book directs you to deal with resentments. Do you recognize here the turning to God and the action that should accompany it? Let us remind ourselves how the Big Book directs us to deal with resentments. We write a resentment inventory. We share our inventory with our sponsor. We turn to God in prayer to remove our resentments and change our attitude towards the people we resent to an attitude of tolerance and patience and helpfulness. The actions we take after praying are to practice restraint. We avoid retaliation and argument. Share with us your recognition of step seven in action here.
B) Read pages 67-68 in the Big Book. Reflect on how the Big Book directs us to deal with fears. Do you recognize here the turning to God and the action that should accompany it? Let us remind ourselves how the Big Book directs us to deal with our fears. We write a fear inventory. We pray to God to remove our fears and direct our attention to what He would have us be. Then we act to approach gradually to what God would have us be. The prayer and the action are the essence of step seven. Share your recognition of step seven in action here.
C) Read pages 68-70 in the Big Book. Reflect on how the Big Book directs us to deal with our sex conduct. Do you recognize the turning to God and the action that should accompany it? Let us remind ourselves how the Big Book directs us to deal with our sex conduct. We write a sex conduct inventory, we write a sex conduct ideal, we turn to God to help us live up to the ideal, we practice doing the right thing, we help others, we pray for willingness to make amends, and we do amends in step nine. Share your recognition of step seven in action here.
D) To sum up we begin with awareness of acting out a defect, we turn to God to remove it. And we practice the asset that should replace it. For example: If the defect is lying, we practice saying the truth. Write down some of your defects and how you propose to apply step seven to them. Share with us.
You are invited to ask questions.