Step 7 - "Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings."
"Step Seven is change in attitude which permits us to move out of ourselves toward God."
(AA 12x12 pg. 7)
The attitude that I came to adopt from working Step 7 is in knowing now, after working Steps 4, 5 and 6 what I had decided in Steps 1, 2 and 3. I can't, God can, I quite simply must let Her/Him.
The humility found in Step 7 is a natural progression after taking Steps 4, 5 and 6. We really get to see what happened to us in our lives and what we have done with what happened to us. The sick behaviors and negative thinking smothered us in old ideas that stuck to us like glue because we were not open to other reference points due to our life experience and our former interpretations of that experience.
It is such a blessing to me to realize that it is due to my disease of Compulsive Overeating that I was able to find and learn to connect with a Higher Power so that I could begin to live life on life's terms. I had been living my life on my terms or your terms and nothing was making much sense. I had moments of happiness but hours of despair.
In Step 7, knowing that of myself I can do nothing, I turn to my Highter Power and ask for help with a humble heart that grew as I grew in the knowledge that I simply can't do it. I have had these defects for such a long time and they are heavy vibrations around me and lifting that veil is something I simply don't have the power to do.
But I know God can. I know because I have come this far and I could not have done this without the help of a Power Greater than myself.
It is a paradox that from letting go because I simply can't do it, I gain the strength to move forward. I evolve out of myself and into the world of God. By shining the spiritual light of humility on my character defects, I open myself up to my God so that She can do some character building, that I may become that which She intended.
So with humble hearts we pray:
"My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me,good and bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows. Grant me strength, as I go out from here, to do your bidding. Amen."
(AABB pg 76).
And so we complete Step Seven.
Step 7: "Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings."
Step Seven Questions:
1) The AA 12x12 says regarding Step Seven: "The chief activator of our defects has been self-centered fear --- primarily fear that we would lose something we already possessed or fail to get something we demanded. Living upon a basis of unsatisfied demands, we were in a state of continual disturbance and frustration. Therefore, no peace was to be had unless we could find a means of reducing those demands. The difference between a demand an a sinple request is plain to anyone." (pg. 76).
Can you see your old way of living and being in the world in this paragraph? How does this paragraph speak to us of the need for a humble heart when asking for our defects to be removed?
2) In order for God to build character, that is, to fill us with Her light, Her love and Her way of life, we need to be empty . . . no room for God when there is me, me, me filling every nook and cranny. Are you ready to take Step Seven to the very best of your ability at this point in your recovery?
3) What was it like for you to say the Seventh Step Prayer?
4) Now that you have taken Step Seven, have you experienced a change in attitude which will permit you to move out of yourself and toward your Higher Power? Please describe, if you can, what that is like in your experience.
5) What are some of the things you are grateful for at this point in your recovery?
All my love,
"The way of the earth is to empty that which is full,
and fill that which is empty. True Humility brings