Step Four

"Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves."



STEP FOUR

STEP FOUR, PART 1
STEP FOUR, PART 2
STEP FOUR, PART 3
STEP FOUR, PART 4
STEP FOUR, PART 5

Step Four: "Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves."

The Second column of our Fourth Step will be headed: "The Cause." (Why are we angry?)

I am resentful at: The Cause." (Why are we angry?)        
           
           
           
           


Remember that this is a searching and moral inventory of ourselves not those we resent. Therefore we keep the long descriptive aspects out ....we write what happened in a simple sentence or a few more as needed.

If you notice in "Alcoholics Anonymous" pg. 65, The example given is perfect. The first column lists: I am resentful at: "Mr Brown." and the 2nd column, "The Cause" says:

<His attention to my wife.
Told my wife of my mistress
Brown may get my job at the office.>

Simple sentences, no frills and complete. Nothing more.

It was while filling out the 2nd column that I realized that some of my "causes" were exactly the same for some folks and so I made some adjustments to the first column and clumped those folks together so I didn't have to keep repeating the same thing. This made my list a little shorter. Instead of over 100, the list narrowed down to 80 something. :o) If you have clumps of folks with the same resentment you can adjust your list accordingly as well. It helps for the sake of clarity. It was an eye opener to me to see how some of the things that made me angry repeated themselves over and over. I had this ongoing theme of betrayal - Amazing....different person, place or thing, but same old thing. This very aspect of my 4th step proved to be an important piece of the puzzle for me after all the different the parts of the 4th step were completed.

Although some feelings did arise that were uncomfortable, I was able to simply feel them using the focusing method. I realized that when I used this method, I was experiencing what is called "the witness self." If anyone is interested, this is the method:

FOCUS on "body experience" of feeling and don't try to stop it. (This will stop internal dialogue and also dissipates emotional energy)

Feel the body without interpretation.

This part about feeling without interpretation made all the difference in the world for me. Most of what I was feeling was old stuff and when I focused on the feeling in my body and didn't interpret it, then my mind couldn't run with it and the emotional energy really did go away and I was left with peace. This simple method never ceases to amaze me. I clear out and move on now in no time flat!

If you have any questions about column 2 of our Fourth Step. Please feel free to contact me: dreenagoode@earthlink.net

I will be sending Part Three of Step 4 on Thursday, October 24th.

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Questions:

1) What was it like to write the cause in simple sentences?

2) Did you use the focusing method when necessary and did it help? Or do you have another method? and can you share it with us?

3) Are you moving right along, and if not what is stopping you?
What can you do to help yourself move forward?

4) List three people, places of things that you are grateful for.



All my love,
Dreena


"We went back through our lives. Nothing counted but thoroughness and honesty." AABB pg. 65.




STEP FOUR, PART 1
STEP FOUR, PART 2
STEP FOUR, PART 3
STEP FOUR, PART 4
STEP FOUR, PART 5


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