Step Three

Made a decision to turn our will and our lives
over to the care of God as we understood Him.


Hi friends.

My name is Shlomo and I am a food addict and compulsive overeater. After discussing how and why we take step 3 it is time to make the decision and take it.

The Big Book suggests saying a prayer that will express our making a decision.

Here is the third step prayer:

"Many of us said to our Maker, as we understood Him: 'God, I offer myself to Thee -- to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, Thy Love, and Thy Way of life. May I do Thy will always!' We thought well before taking this step, making sure we were ready; that we could at last abandon ourselves utterly to Him. " page 63.

In this prayer, we ask God to help us do His will, so that we will be a living proof of His Power, Love, and Way of life.

Then the Big Book suggests how to say that prayer:

"We found it very desirable to take this spiritual step with an understanding person, such as our wife, best friend, or spiritual adviser. But it is better to meet God alone than with one who might misunderstand. The wording was, of course, quite optional so long as we expressed the idea, voicing it without reservation. This was only a beginning, though if honestly and humbly made, an effect, sometimes a very great one, was felt at once. " page 63.

The words of the prayer are just a suggestion. We can use our own words as long as they convey the ideas in the Big Book prayer. We also have to say the prayer aloud to someone who understands what we are about to do. This person can of course be our sponsor, or another OA member, or any understanding person.

By saying that prayer in this way, we take step three. That is all there is to it.

Step 3 is only a decision and as such can be considered only as a prelude to what has to follow. It cannot stand by itself and has no lasting effect if we don't continue immediately with the rest of the steps. We have to understand that the only way to carry out the decision we made in step 3 is to continue immediately to take step 4. The only way in this program, to remove the obstacles that block us from the care, direction and guidance by H.P., is by working all the 12 steps.

Here is how the Big Book says it:

"Next we launched out on a course of vigorous action, the first step of which is a personal housecleaning, which many of us had never attempted. Though our decision [step 3] was vital and crucial step, it could have little permanent effect unless at once followed by a strenuous effort to face, and to be rid of, the things in ourselves which had been blocking us. Our food was but a symptom. So we had to get down to causes and conditions. Therefore, we started upon a personal inventory. THIS WAS STEP FOUR." pages 63-64.

So when do we begin step 4? AT ONCE!!!! The minute after I take step 3.


1. Take step 3 by reading the step 3 prayer aloud to your sponsor or to another suitable person.

2. The Big Book gives some conditional promises about how we may feel after taking this step.

"If honestly and humbly made, an effect, sometimes a very great one, was felt at once." page 63.

What was the effect of taking this step, on you?

3. After taking step 3, are you willing to begin immediately to take step 4? If not, than pray to H.P. for willingness, and be ready to take it with us.

4. Do you like riddles? Here is a riddle for you.

How do I know if I have taken step 3 properly?

Next post will be on step 4.

Have a nice day.

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