Dear Fellow Travelers,
Step Five Essay
Step five is not one of those things that was difficult for me to do -
except for the fear of allowing another human being to know the real
me. This step, then, is a turning point in recovery. I remember reading
somewhere: "The truth will set you free." The AA BB tells us on page 63
or 73 that if we are to live happily in this world we need to be honest
with at least one of our fellow human beings. For those who have been
separated from any form of higher power, this step, handing our 4th step
to another, has the ability to be a deep healing and a sense of well-being.
Look at how far you have already traveled on the road of happy destiny.
This is but one more step to live.
Until we actually sit down with another person and hand over our lives,
there is no house cleaning. The willingness to open up all our hidden garbage is another key in the door to recovery, and until done, we are just paying lip service to doing the next right thing. What then is the purpose of this 5th step? It is not to hold us
up to ridicule nor to make us appear as martyrs! No indeed! It is what
opens the door to change, for without revealing who and what we are to
God and another person, our recovery is at a halt. It will go no further.
There are many among us, reading this right now, who know this to be true.
What to do about this is up to you. Hit your knees and ask the God of
your understanding for the willingness and courage to move forward.
Let's look at what we get to keep by not doing or going further with our
steps. We get to act as if we are doing the next right thing along with
the envy towards those who have. We live in constant fear and anxiety
that we will be exposed and once again humiliated in some way. Or we
can walk in the light of God's grace knowing we are the children of God
and the need to hide or cover up our self with food is just, well, it is
just gone. One day at a time.
Who we hand our 4th step inventory to, is of course up to each individual,
and both the AA and OA 12&12 give some excellent suggestions. As much as
I disagree with his politics our late President uttered these very true words,"we have nothing to fear but fear itself."
These words are so true of the 4th and 5th steps. Please do not fast
forward to any of the later steps, as you will find no high walls topped
with broken glass and razor wire to climb. To my fearless fellows comes
the promise that our collective HP will be there for us as for countless
millions before us. If you are reading this then the written fourth step
inventory is waiting to be shared with the person of your choice. I beg
you not to lose courage as you have seen the wisdom of these God-given
steps and what they have to offer. Share your fears and suggestions with
us but do not post your 4th step on the loop. This is surely something
to be done f2f except in certain circumstances, none of which come to
Hey you out there, see how far we have traveled together on this road?
Hopefully many who started this adventure in better living realize just how ready
you are to sponsor the guy one step behind you. I say this because I
know I must share the gift of recovery with those who still suffer or
surely lose my precious gift.
AND WHY NOT......Danny