"I put my hand in yours, and together we can do what we could never do alone."


One of the OA Tools for Recovery is Sponsorship. The Recovery Group is pleased to have an extensive sponsor program using dedicated OA members who are living the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions to the best of their ability. They are willing to share their recovery with other members of the Fellowship and are committed to abstinence. We ask a sponsor to help us through our program of recovery on all three levels: physical, emotional and spiritual. By working with other members of OA and sharing their experience, strength, and hope, sponsors continually renew and reaffirm their own recovery. Sponsors share their program up to the level of their own experience. Ours is a program of attraction. To find a sponsor, go to meetings or join an email loop and look for someone who has what you want, then ask how he or she is achieving it, then ask, "Would you be my sponsor?" A member may work with more than one sponsor and may change sponsors at will. It is to your advantage to find someone you want to help you. The sooner you start working with someone, the better you will work the program.


As your Sponsor ...

  • I will not help you to stay and wallow in limbo.

  • I will help you to grow, to become more productive, by your definition.

  • I will help you become more autonomous, more loving of yourself, more excited, less sensitive, more free to become the authority for your own living.

  • I cannot give you dreams or "fix you up" simply because I cannot.

  • I cannot give you growth, or grow for you. You must grow for yourself by facing reality, grim as it may be at times.

  • I cannot take away your loneliness or your pain.

  • I cannot sense your world for you, evaluate your goals for you, tell you what is best for your world; because you have your own world in which you must live.

  • I cannot convince you of the necessity to make the vital decision of choosing the frightening uncertainty of growing over the safe misery of remaining static.

  • I want to be with you and know you as a rich and growing friend; yet I cannot get close to you when you choose not to grow.

  • When I begin to care for you out of pity or when I begin to lose faith in you, then I am inhibiting both for you and for me.

  • You must know and understand my help is conditional. I will be with you and "hang in there" with you so long as I continue to get even the slightest hint that you are still trying to grow.

  • If you can accept this, then perhaps we can help each other to become what God meant us to be, mature adults, leaving childishness forever to the little children of the world.

In service to all,

The Recovery Group Sponsor Program Trusted Servants

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