Newsletter Of The Recovery Group
1995-2005 ~ THE FIRST DECADE OF THE RECOVERY GROUP
Volume Seven ~ Issue 9
SERENITY MAGAZINE and SERENDIPITY NEWSLETTER are
sent monthly to all members of The Recovery Group.
SERENITY, the color 12 Step monthly magazine for all
is available to non-Recovery members by sending a
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ser*en*dip*i*ty ~ (noun) First appeared 1754:
the faculty or phenomenon of finding valuable
or agreeable things not sought for.
THIS MONTH IN SERENDIPITY NEWSLETTER
From The Serendipity Team
Recovery Meditation ~ Service
Quotation of the Month
Founder's Corner ~ Vulnerability
Letters to Serendipity
TRGAdm ~ The Administrative Hub
The Recovery Group ~ Administration Highlights
ODAT Loops Division
Recovery Loops Division
Discovery Loops Division
TRG/OA Online Meeting Division
TRG Programs and Services Division
TRG Sponsor Program
TRG Telephone Angels
New Programs and Services Division Chair
New WTS Quarterly Step Study
Recovery Group 12 Step Anniversary Date
New Support Groups On The Horizon
From The Literature ~ The Big Book
The Serenity Prayer
Overeaters Anonymous Contacts
Recovery Meditations Calendar
The Recovery Group Contacts
The Serendipity Team
FROM THE SERENDIPITY TEAM
Welcome to September's edition of Serendipity. Each
month this newsletter provides you with information
about events taking place in our community. We
encourage the input of our readers and invite you
to let us know what you think. Your suggestions and
articles are always welcome! You will hear from our
TRG Administrators, Coordinators and other trusted
servants about what's occurring in our various
divisions, programs and loops. It's our mission to
get our message out to as many people as possible,
so we urge you to use our newsletter as a personal
resource and to share it with others. You can mail
it to friends or, perhaps, invite them to look at
Serendipity on the website.
This month, along with our regular articles, you'll
be hearing about a new appointment to our Programs
& Services Divison and about a new WTS Quarterly
Step Study beginning October 1. We'll explore two
new loops: Divorce and Cancer as well as learning
about a new TRG Program called 12 Step Anniversary.
I hope you have a GREAT September and enjoy reading
this month's edition of the Serendipity newsletter.
Love in recovery,
The Serendipity Team
RECOVERY MEDITATION ~ SERVICE
Give and it shall be given unto you; good measure,
pressed down, shaken together, and running over.
~ The Bible ~
An important lesson in life is that in order to get
something we need or want, we first have to give some
of it away. If we want friends, we have to be a
friend. If we want to be loved, we have to love. If
we want recovery, we have to help others recover.
Then we begin to "get it." The tingling excitement
of hope is aroused in us. A source of power to live is
discovered inside of ourselves.
Giving service is as important a part of recovery as
abstinence or working the Steps. It includes
everything from organizing materials at a face-to-face
meeting to hosting meetings online. It's sharing our
problems and our solutions on the loops as well as
sponsoring. Just as someone once said that love is
nothing until you give it away, it seems that recovery
is incomplete until it is shared by giving service to
the program or to individuals. It's remarkable how
service brings us closer together, allows us to make
friends, helps to end our isolation and gives that
feeling of self-worth and confidence that we so
desperately need. Simply put, service is as much a
lifesaver to us as it is to those we reach out and
I want to be a giver to the program so it is always
available to those who will come after seeking their
freedom from this dread disease.
One Day at a Time . . .
I strive to give love, support, comfort, cheer and
encouragement, knowing it will come back to me pressed
down, shaken together and running over.
~ Dottie ~
QUOTATION OF THE MONTH
The best way to find yourself is lose yourself
in the service of others.
~ Mahatma Ghandi ~
"There can be no vulnerability without risk; there
can be no community without vulnerability; there
can be no peace, and ultimately no life, without
. . . . M. Scott Peck, "The Road Less Traveled"
Dear Serendipity Readers,
I've been doing a lot of thinking about vulnerability
this week and how we as compulsive eaters share this
trait. Time and again I have tried to measure my own
vulnerability with that of others and wondered if my
make-up was more sensitive in this regard than others.
I have decided that it isn't, and that vulnerability
itself is increased or decreased by one's life
In connection with vulnerability, I have also been
thinking a lot about the Coordinators of our support
groups ~ that dedicated group who serve you night and
day as you find your place in our community. A
Coordinator has a personal life just like the rest
of us. A Coordinator has vulnerabilities. As I look
around at the remarkable men and women I work with
daily, I am in awe of how they can put aside their
personal issues in order to do the best possible job
I've seen devoutly religious coordinators go into a
loop not of their persuasion and handle an issue with
the love and concern that they would a group of their
own religion. I have seen a Coordinator who suffers
from the worst possible issues of abuse, pain,
isolation or illness and spend time with those who are
suffering from the very same issues without even
mentioning their own problems. I have seen
Coordinators struggling with their own program taking
the hand of someone who comes into their loop close
to the disease's bottom and giving them hope. I
daily witness our Coordinators experiencing
heartbreak, loneliness, pain, ageing, debilitation,
anger, depression and many other "life things"
without so much as thinking to put aside their
commitment to others in deference to themselves.
I have seen our Trusted Servants experience a
death or other loss and grieve while at the same
time giving comfort to others who may be experiencing
the same pain.
Our Coordinators, Meeting Leaders and other Trusted
Servants take psychic risks for a greater good - the
greater good of the community they serve. "Part of
the territory" is an expression I often hear.
Happy September, Loopies.
Love in recovery,
LETTERS TO SERENDIPITY
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THE RECOVERY GROUP - ADMINISTRATION HIGHLIGHTS
FROM THE ADMINISTRATION TEAM
When we think of using the OA tools of Sponsors,
most of us think of getting and using a sponsor.
This is very important. But there is another side to
this tool - being a sponsor. The founders of AA
discovered that working with others was the best
way to maintain abstinence.
So are you qualified to be a sponsor? The program
says that you can sponsor up to the level of your
experience. If you have worked the first three Steps
and are abstinent, you may be ready to sponsor
newcomers. You can also ask your sponsor to tell you
if you are ready to take that step.
The Recovery Group (TRG) has a wonderful online
sponsors program. It is headed by Patt and Cate.
They work tirelessly to get the sponsor information
to all who ask. We'd like to recognize the service
that they do.
So if you see Patt or Cate around, thank them
for all their hard work, and please ask yourself if
you are willing to pass on the tradition of
Dodee and Nancy,
The Discovery Loops
This month we have added two new coordinators --
Myrlene in Cokids and Dar in Abstinent Kitchen.
We very much appreciate their service, and hope
those of you who haven't visited these two loops
will do so soon.
Our feature this month, The Yellow Brick
Road is a loop like no other. There are no
coordinators, guidelines, or restrictions on
membership. This loop is spiritual but not
religious. You may find yourself on a
spiritual journey with others that begins in
childhood or you may want to talk about
issues particularly intriguing to
As we proceed to the
potential, we are free to argue, debate,
inspire one another, or learn new exciting
things. Our members, from all over the
world, will resemble The Tin Man, Glenda
the Good Witch of the North, or Dorothy.
Maybe the Scarecrow, the Lion, the
Wicked Witch of the West. You may
discover yourself here, as you really are.
Welcome to Oz, Fellow Traveller. Come
check out the
Discovery Division Chair
The ODAT Group Loops
The ODAT groups are special-focus groups for
OA members who want to discuss their OA recovery
with those who share their special focus. We
have groups for people who share a faith (Christian,
Latter Day Saints, Jewish, Pagan), groups for people
who share an age level (Teens, Silver), groups for
people who are challenged by their physical condition
(Disabilities, Pain, PMS, Depression, Diabetes) and
groups for people addicted to other substances
(AA, Drug Abuse, Sex & Love Addiction, Spending).
Please go to the home page of the Recovery Group
(www.recoverygroup.org) and check out our numerous
ODAT groups. In these groups you will find people
with eating disorders, and who also share whatever
your special focus is.
Submitted By: Donna, Odat Division Chairperson
THE RECOVERY GROUP LOOPS
The Recovery Loops Division is made up
of TRG's Twelve-step general sharing support
groups. Our common mission is to provide a
safe and supportive space for anyone who
wants to recover from the disease of compulsive
eating so they may share their experience, strength,
and hope with others. In addition, some of these
loops also have a special focus. The loops that
make up this Division are: Anorexia and Bulimia,
The Big Book, 200 Plus, Journey to Recovery,
Meditations, OA Friends, OA Newcomers, OA Recovery,
Relapse, Sponsor-Sponsee-Talk, Working the Steps
(WTS), and WTS Weekly. As you know, the WTS loop
started a new in-depth study of the 12 Steps on
July 1. There was so much interest in doing this
quarter’s step study that the membership limit
for this loop had to be expanded. This has proven
to be an excellent series.
The majority of the loops in this Division are
doing very well with lots of members sharing
their experience, strength and hope on a daily
basis. There are two special purposes loops,
however, that could use a boost from existing
and new members. One of these is the Meditations
loop and the other is the Sponsor-Sponsee-Talk
loop. Both of these loops need coordinators.
If you are interested in becoming a coordinator
for one of them, please email me at
Cheryl S, Chair
The Recovery Group Loops Division
OA TRG ONLINE MEETING DIVISION
Meetings Around the World ~ Around the Clock
Seasons come, seasons go. People change, lifestyles
differ. But the one thing that is always there for
us - WITHOUT DOUBT - the most powerful force on this
earth - is our relationship with our Higher Power and
our amazing OA program.
It’s very heartening to see our leaders so willingly
giving their time to our meetings and following our
Program as written. When our group is strong - our
recovery is strong. Our meeting leaders have
certainly contributed to that strength through their
willingness to regularly lead meetings, sometimes
more than one, and also in substituting for leaders
who cannot make their meetings, so that those who
suffer always have an opportunity to recover.
Thank you to all our leaders for your generous gift
of service to our wonderful fellowship and may you
be richly blessed in recovery by your willingness
Submitted by: Terri, Barry, Christine and Audrey
TRG Meeting Division Co-Chairpersons
TRG Programs & Services Division
The Programs & Special Services Division is a dynamic
wing of the Recovery Group and encompasses a diverse
number of OA areas and projects. Our mission is to
provide assistance for anyone wishing to recover from
an eating disorder. Thus far, the sphere of Programs &
Services Division operations includes TRG Sponsor
Program, TRG Telephone Angels, Serendipity, Serenity,
Recovery Meditations, Recovery Meditations Book
Project, Recovery Message Board, Recovery Photo Album,
Recovery 12 Step Anniversaries, Recovery Talk Room on
Main Website, Recovery Guest Books and Counters,
Recovery Bravenet Features (Polls, FAQ, etc.), Outreach
Programs with other Online Groups, and the Writer's
Love in Recovery
TRG Programs and Services Division Chair
The Recovery Group
THE RECOVERY GROUP SPONSOR PROGRAM
A sponsor is a TRG member who is living the
12 steps and 12 traditions and is willing to
share their recovery with other members
of the recovery community.
Sponsors share their recovery up to their
own level of experience. A sponsor can be
available to help you with all three areas of
recovery: spiritual, emotional and physical.
As you read to the shares of others through
the loops and online meetings, you may
find that someone has the recovery you
are seeking. You are welcome to ask that
person if they are available to be your sponsor.
If you want to know more about The Recovery Group
Sponsor Program go to this link:
Cate and Patt
TRG TELEPHONE ANGELS
THE TELEPHONE TOOL
Most of you who have been in Twelve Step recovery
long enough are very familiar with the Tools of
Recovery. One of the most important of these Tools
is the telephone. Have you ever needed someone right
then? NOW? Maybe there was no face-to-face meeting
in sight; perhaps even the expedient e-mail sharing with
your home loop was not quick enough for you. You simply
were in need of human contact as soon as you could possibly
The Recovery Group is blessed to have lots of angels who
do many different jobs. Some of these angels have chosen
to given service by being available to talk with others by
phone. Their names and telephone numbers are found in the
Recovery Telephone Angel Directory. We can't emphasize
emphatically enough that this is a very private directory
and available only to members of the Recovery Group. When
you call someone in this directory, you should tell them
where you got their name and which loop you're a member of
- and that you are calling them because you saw their name
in our directory and needed some help.
Once a month you will be sent a copy of the directory. If
you need it before then, it is available by writing January,
the Telephone Angel Coordinator at StayAngelStay@yahoo.com.
If you would like to be a volunteer and have your name listed,
give her the information about yourself, your time zone, phone
number and if you have a private answering machine. We don't
want our members pouring out their hearts to a machine that will
be heard by others. You should also let us know the hours you
are available to receive calls. Simply by responding to a call
- you could make the difference between abstinence or relapse
for a fellow COE in need. Become a Phone Angel today!
WELCOME TO OUR NEW TRG PROGRAMS & SERVICES DIVISION CHAIR
We take pleasure in announcing the appointment of Rob R as
our new TRG Programs And Services Division Chair. You may be
familiar with Rob from his service as TRG online meeting leader,
Rob will be working alongside the other Division Chairs, Donna,
Cheryl, Athena as well as TRGAdm and Mari as part of the
Administrative Team. Thank you Rob - and thanks to ALL members
who provide time and effort in service.
RECOVERY GROUP 12 STEP ANNIVERSARY DATE
Do you remember the date when recovery
"happened" for you? Was it when you first
admitted you were a compulsive eater?
Was it the day you became abstinent for the
very first time? Walked into your first OA
meeting? Finished the Steps? Was it when
you had a spiritual awakening? Most of us
remember the exact moment when we finally
"got it" and did something about it. When
that day arrives year after year, it is as
special to us as our birthday.
If you would like to be remembered on your
12 Step Anniversary Date, please send your
e-mail address and date to TRGODAT@aol.com.
Put "12 Step Anniversary" on the subject line.
If you would like to volunteer to help with the
project by keeping the directory or sending out
cards, let us know.
SUPPORT GROUPS ON THE HORIZON
The Recovery Group is blessed to have a plethora
of support groups for compulsive eaters who want
to know the serenity and comfort of sharing with
others as they work their 12 Step Recovery Program.
Yet, we still are asked to begin more loops with a
We are currently studying four new special focus
needs and hope to launch two of them in the months
to come. They will be for compulsive eaters who
are dealing with two major issues that can affect
recovery .... cancer and divorce. This will give us
a total of 36 Twelve Step Special Focus ODAT Loops.
Donna is Division Chairperson of these loops.
NEW WTS QUARTERLY STEP STUDY
We welcome you to join the new WTS
Quarterly Step Study beginning October 1.
The WTS Study lasts for 12 weeks. Beginning
with the First Step each quarter, the
study continues with a new Step each week
for 12 weeks. Membership is open to
individuals with a desire to stop eating
compulsively and who wish to work the 12
Steps of OA as part of their Program. To
join or to receive more information, please
Servants presented to Recovery Intergroup for vote
LITERATURE ~ BIG BOOK
"Practical experience shows that nothing will
so much insure immunity from drinking (COE) as
intensive work with other alcoholics. It works
when other activities fail. This is our twelfth
suggestion: Carry this message to other
alcoholics (COES). You can help when no one
else can. You can secure their confidence when
others fail. Remember they are very ill.
Life will take on new meaning. To watch people
recover, to see them help others, to watch
loneliness vanish, to see a fellowship grow up
about you, to have a host of friends--this is an
experience you must not miss. We know you will
not want to miss it. Frequent contact with
newcomers and with each other is the bright spot
of our lives. (AABB, Page89)
I have been blessed every day for nearly four years
to meet and talk to newcomers and veterans of OA.
It's been a very gratifying experience for me as I
gained computer skills and went online to meetings
to hear OA members share and tell stories which
sounded just like mine. I have found my niche.
I decided to do service in the Big Book because I
love it so much. It has saved so many lives for so
long. I get a thrill every time I share a passage
from it, or my own share, and have someone write back
telling me it was just what they needed to hear, or
that they would never have thought of that particular
viewpoint and how helpful it was. What a blessing to
give service in an area where I love the work and
where I am helping someone else find the recovery and
serenity that I found several years ago. Service is
so rewarding. I plan to give service on Big Book as
long as my health holds out and I can do it.!! :)
Many blessings on your Path To Recovery,
For many more articles, recovery stories, poetry,
food tips and inspirational writings, please read
our new SERENITY MAGAZINE in your mailboxes
soon. If you have 12-Step friends who would like
to subscribe, the address is:
THE SERENITY PRAYER
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
OVEREATERS ANONYMOUS CONTACTS
World Service Office (WSO)
E-Mail Address ~ firstname.lastname@example.org
"I put my hand in yours ...
and together we can do what we could never do alone."
Rozanne, OA Co-Founder
RECOVERY MEDITATIONS CALENDAR
Visit our beautiful scene for September.
To receive the daily meditations, send a blank email to:
THE RECOVERY GROUP CONTACTS
Serendipity Team ~ SerendipityNewsletter@yahoo.com
Recovery Group Administrators:
"In the deepest part of the soul of a compulsive eater
... is the realization that recovery begins when we
find one another."
Best Wishes to all From the Serendipity Team,
the Recovery Administration, the Meeting Leaders
and the Trusted Servants of Our Community.
Contact Address: SerendipityNewsletter@yahoo.com
The Recovery Group and our newsletter has as its
mission that of carrying the message of recovery
to those who suffer from the disease of compulsive
eating. We are an anonymous organization and follow
the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Overeaters
Anonymous. Your articles and announcements are
welcome. All opinions in this newsletter represent
only the opinions of the writers and not those of the
Recovery Group or Overeaters Anonymous.