The Twelve Step Newsletter Of The Recovery Group
THE FIRST DECADE OF THE RECOVERY GROUP
Volume Seven ~ Issue 10
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ser*en*dip*i*ty ~ (noun) First appeared 1754:
the faculty or phenomenon of finding valuable
or agreeable things not sought for.
THIS MONTH IN SERENDIPITY
From The Serendipity Team
Recovery Meditation ~ Secrets
Quotation of the Month
Founder's Corner ~ Vulnerability
Letters to Serendipity
TRGAdm ~ The Administrative Hub
The Recovery Group ~ Administration Highlights
ODAT Loops Division
Recovery Loops Division
Discovery Loops Division
TRG/OA Online Meeting Division
TRG Programs And Services Division
TRG Sponsor Program
TRG Telephone Angels
TRG Trusted Servants
New WTS Quarterly Step Study
From The Literature ~ The Big Book
The Serenity Prayer
Overeaters Anonymous Contacts
Recovery Meditations Calendar
The Recovery Group Contacts
The Serendipity Team
FROM THE SERENDIPITY TEAM
Welcome to October's edition of Serendipity. Each
month we endeavour to provide you with information
about events taking place in our community. We
always value your input and invite you to let us
know what you think. Reader suggestions and articles
are encouraged and welcomed! Each month, our TRG
administrators, coordinators and other trusted
servants report about what's occurring in our
various divisions, programs and loops. We want to
get our message of hope and recovery out to as many
people as possible, so we urge you to use our
newsletter as a personal resource and to share it
with others. Mail it to friend, or invite someone
to look at Serendipity on the website.
This month, along with our regular articles, we have
a brand new column called Newcomer's Corner wherein
each month we'll get to know a little about some of
the newcomers to Program. You'll also be hearing about
a new appointment to TRG Administration, a new WTS
Quarterly beginning October 1, as well as a new TRG
Program called the TRG Topic Team
I hope you have a wonderful October! Enjoy reading
this month's edition of the Serendipity newsletter.
Love in recovery,
The Serendipity Team
RECOVERY MEDITATION ~ SLEEP
Sleep is the best meditation.
~ Dalia Lama ~
I wasn’t sleeping enough when I first came into
program. I had no idea that fatigue was one of
the sources of my unhappiness, grouchiness,
impatience, touchiness, sadness, procrastination,
desire for extra food, fear, and stress.
But as I got into recovery I began to see what a
threat fatigue is to abstinence. I discovered that
I needed an hour or two more of sleep per night than
I had been getting! I also discovered in myself a
lot of resistance to doing less and sleeping more.
Plenty of times it seemed impossible. I had set up
expectations in myself and others that made it
Now I know that if I want to be in a bad mood, see
my serenity crumble, struggle with my program, and
watch my effectiveness plummet, all I have to do is
start skimping on my sleep. It’s taken me years to
learn this, but getting enough sleep is now a
cornerstone of my self care.
One Day at a Time . . .
I will get an adequate amount of sleep to ensure I
can be at my best.
~ Artemis ~
QUOTATION OF THE MONTH
To the mind that is still, the whole universe
~ Lao Tzu ~
GIVE IT UP!
"After all, our problems were of our own making.
Bottles (food) were only a symbol. Besides, we
have stopped fighting anybody or anything. We
. . . . . . P. 103, The Big Book
If you truly have the disease of compulsive
eating and if you live long enough, you will lose
the fight. COE is stronger than any ten men and
it will grab you by the shoulders, look you
squarely in the eye and shake you until you fall
to your knees. If you've never been there, know
that it will happen. Denial will keep you out
of reality for a few years or decades.
If you have an issue that you're intent on winning,
quit fighting it. If there's an unreasonable person
in your life you're trying to deal with, quit trying
to reason with them. If you think you can do
this alone, forget it. It won't happen. If you
believe a "good diet" is the answer, stop right
now and realize that no matter how "good" the
diet, it will take the weight off. But the disease
will put it right back on.
Give it up. You're not going to win. Accept - it's
your only sensible choice. Admit powerlessness,
but do the footwork. Take action and follow the
guidelines which will lead to the promises.
Love in recovery,
LETTERS TO SERENDIPITY
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All comments and suggestions are welcome.
I am a brand new sponsor. I would like to join the
sponsor email loop. How do I do this?
I have tried to join the WTS group. I got the email
with instructions and replied to it, but I lost the
web site link again and can find it. I'm not sure if
I actually am considered in the list. Please help
me to join the group , thanks.
THE RECOVERY GROUP - ADMINISTRATION HIGHLIGHTS
FROM THE ADMINISTRATION TEAM
Featuring Online Sponsors
The Recovery Group Administration is very pleased
to announce that Audrey email@example.com
has joined us as an administrator, in training.
Audrey has been an integral part of Recovery for
the past six years. She has held various service
positions during that time, but her greatest
passion has been our OA Online Meetings. She is
Co-Chair of the Meetings Division at present,and
trains the new leaders. She also works closely
with StarChat Network, the hosts of our meetings.
We're very glad to have you aboard, Audrey!
When we think of using the OA tools of Sponsors,
most of us think of getting and using a sponsor.
This is very important. But there is another side to
this tool - being a sponsor. The founders of AA
discovered that working with others was the best
way to maintain abstinence.
So are you qualified to be a sponsor? The program
says that you can sponsor up to the level of your
experience. If you have worked the first three Steps
and are abstinent, you may be ready to sponsor
newcomers. You can also ask your sponsor to tell you
if you are ready to take that step.
The Recovery Group (TRG) has a wonderful online
sponsors program. It is headed by Patt and Cate.
They work tirelessly to get the sponsor information
to all who ask. We'd like to recognize the service
that they do.
So if you see Patt or Cate around, thank them
for all their hard work, and please ask yourself if
you are willing to pass on the tradition of
Dodee and Nancy,
THE DISCOVERY LOOPS
The Discovery Loops are part of the ODAT Group's
loops for men and women who have eating disorders
and a working a program of recovery. Two of our
loops are for children and the parents of children
who are struggling. We have a kitchen here, a
wonderful yellow brick road, and even a loop for
those who are exercisers. Are feature loop this
month is called COKids.
Are you a parent concerned that your child may
develop an eating disorder or may already have
an eating disorder?
Are you a teacher, therapist or physician who
works with a child who has an eating disorder?
Are you a parent with an eating disorder and
concerned about how your behaviour has affected
or may affect your children?
There is a support group available that can help
address all of these concerns. It is called COKids.
The purpose of the group is to determine ways to
help our children avoid or, if already affected,
recover from their eating disorders.
Members of the COKids community include parents,
grandparents, therapists, teachers, relatives and
close friends of these innocent victims of our
disease. We in COKids share with one another in
a private discussion group the problems children
encounter as a result of compulsive eating. A
companion list called KIDS is also available for
the children themselves to interact with one
another in supervised discussion groups of their
For further information, or to join COKids, send a
blank email to:
Help your child and help yourself - join COKids today!
Discovery Division Chair
THE ODAT GROUP LOOPS
The ODAT groups is a division of TRG, with
many opportunities for people with specific
interests or challenges. Everyone here is part
of OA, and has the disease of compulsive
overeating in common.
If you are a COE who has a specific physical
challenge, you might want to join our
Disabilities, PMS, or Pain loop. If you
are addicted to other substances, you might
want to join our AA, Drug Abuse, Spending, or
Sex & Love Addiction loops. People who are
Jewish, Mormon, Christian, or Pagan can find
others of the same faith to share their recovery
Our featured group this month is Grey Sheet.
Many people are curious about the Grey Sheet
food program, and can take benefit from the
choices provided through its planned program of
eating. If you interested in following a food
plan, or want to talk with those who do,
our Grey Sheet group is for you. For further
information about any of these groups, please
contact our Donna at firstname.lastname@example.org
Submitted By: Donna, Odat Division Chairperson
THE RECOVERY GROUP LOOPS
The Recovery Loops Division is made up of TRG's
Twelve-step general sharing support groups. Our
common mission is to provide a safe and supportive
space for anyone who wants to recover from the
disease of compulsive eating to share their
experience, strength, and hope with others. In
addition, some of these loops also have a special
focus. The loops that make up this Division are:
Anorexia and Bulimia, The Big Book, 200 Plus,
Journey to Recovery, Meditations, OA Friends,
OA Newcomers, OA Recovery, Relapse, Sponsor-
Sponsee-Talk, Working the Steps (“WTS”), and
We welcome January (AngelBQuick@aol.com)
as the new Coordinator-In-Training for the WTS
and WTS Weekly loops. The current WTS study is
getting ready to wind down and a new series
will be beginning next quarter starting on
The majority of the loops in this Division are
doing very well with lots of members sharing their
experience, strength and hope on a daily basis. In
particular, the OA Recovery loop has really blossomed
under the care of its two dedicated coordinators.
There are two special purposes loops, however, that
could use a boost from existing and new members. One
of these is the Meditations loop and the other is
the Sponsor-Sponsee-Talk loop. Both of these loops
need coordinators. If you are interested in becoming
a coordinator for one of them, please email me at
The Recovery Group Loops Division
FROM THE ON-LINE MEETING DIVISION
Meetings Around the World ~ Around the Clock
One of our recent meeting topics was, "If we are to
experience permanent recovery from compulsive eating,
we will have to repeat,day after day, the actions
that have already brought us so much healing."
(The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Overeaters
One member shared that she "had been saved by the
‘power of habit’ of coming to meetings" and at the
conclusion of her share, other members responded with
"I REALLY needed your encouraging words tonight!"
"That was so good for we newer members to hear ...
Thank you for sharing such great experience, strength
and hope tonight." The message was clear - on line
meetings are a GREAT source of recovery - so keep
Thank you to all our great leaders who provide their
time and topics for our wonderful meetings - our
membership is expanding, recovery is strong and the
fellowship is awesome.
In loving service,
Terri, Barry, Audrey and Christine
On-Line Meeting Co-ordinators
THE RECOVERY GROUP PROGRAMS
AND SPECIAL SERVICES DIVISION
The Programs & Special Services Division is a dynamic
wing of the Recovery Group and encompasses a diverse
number of OA areas and projects. The sphere of
Programs & Services Division operations includes TRG
Sponsor Program, TRG Telephone Angels, Serendipity,
Serenity, Recovery Meditations, Recovery Meditations
Book Project, Recovery Message Board, Recovery Photo
Album, Recovery 12 Step Anniversaries, Recovery Talk
Room on Main Website, Recovery Guestbooks and
Counters, Recovery Bravenet Features (Polls, FAQ,
etc.),Outreach Programs with other Online Groups,
and the Writer's Series.
We also have a brand new brand called the TRG Topic
Team. The TRG Topic Team's mission is to help loops
enhance their sense of community, to model good
sharing skills, and to help get loop members
motivated and sharing. If you could use help in your
loop, have further questions or would like to become
part of TRG Topic Team please contact Rob at
Love in Recovery
TRG Programs And Services Division Chair
The Recovery Group
THE RECOVERY GROUP SPONSOR PROGRAM
People often ask, how do I learn to be a Sponsor?
The honest answer is, you learn by being sponsored!
Once you have been sponsored through the steps,
you have received the directions you need to sponsor
another member through the steps!
Here are some other helps that you may want to
use in sponsoring and being sponsored
If you go to www.oa.org place your cursor at the top
of the page where it says: 'Online Store' and a menu
comes down click where it says 'Online Shopping'
and when that page comes up scroll down to where it
'Program Literature' and click there.
On this page you will find these listed:
A Guide for Sponsors
When and how do you become a sponsor? What are the
different styles of sponsoring? What should you do if
you slip or relapse? Describes the many aspects of
A Guide to the Twelve Steps for You and Your Sponsor
An in-depth guide to each of the Twelve Steps and
instructions about how to use them in sponsorship. A
valuable resource forsponsors and sponsorees.
When you are ready to begin sponsoring, please write
to us and we will be happy to add your name to our
TRG sponsor List!
Cate and Patt
THE RECOVERY GROUP TELEPHONE ANGELS PROGRAM
Dear Friend in Recovery,
There is an opportunity available for you all to give
back what you have been given by carrying the message
through the use of the telephone. Simply by being
willing to accept phone calls from fellow members of
TRG, you can have an impact on other COE's in
need and possibly help keep someone from that first
Our program can be very simple, yet just by a member
of a loop, reaching out, and making a phone call from
a list available to them, lives can be changed. So
many times I have been going through a tough time and
picked up the phone and with the kind words spoken on
the other end I was able to express my pain thus
preserving my abstinence one more day.
And sometimes just the act of dialing the phone and
releasing the negative energy is enough, so even if
the person is not home, the negativity or obsession
becomes lifted and another tool can then be utilized.
On the other side, there have been many times when I
received a call and just the right thing was said.
I know a lot of times I would thank callers for
keeping ME abstinent because listening to them helped
keep me out of my own head and cravings.
So please consider being a Telephone Angel. It is
such an amazing way to give back and serve at the
same time. I always love what Rozanne said in her
promise: "I put my hand in yours and together we
can do what we never could do alone......" We all
share a common bond and need each other. Sometimes
online email is enough and sometimes we need something
more - like a telphone connection.
To join our list of telephone angels - and share your
recovery with others through this service -- please
In your email please include the following:
Email address ~ Your name
Your PHONE NUMBER
What State you live in
Your ~ area code and number plus time zone
Best times to call
Leave message or not?
Thanks in advance for considering giving service.
The Recovery Telephone Angels
THE RECOVERY GROUP TRUSTED SERVANTS
In early recovery, when we decide to serve,
we make a decision to help other compulsive
overeaters (COE) find and maintain recovery.
Most of us don't have a lot of experience, strength
and hope to share at 30 days abstinent. In fact
some old-timers will tell us in no uncertain
terms that what we can do best is listen.
But at 30 days, we do offer something to that COE
just coming into the rooms struggling to get that
first 24 hours of abstinence. That struggling COE,
whose only the desire is to stop eating compulsively
can hardly imagine anyone staying abstinent for a
year or two years or ten. But he or she can relate
to those fellow COE's within a few days of abstinence.
Service is something that is our unique gift -
something that no one can take away from us. We give
and we get. Through service, many of us start on the
long road to becoming whole human beings again.
I am happy to serve as the TRG Coordinator of Trusted
Servants and am asking you to step up to the plate
and share what you can. My personal experience tells
me that when I give service I remain focused on my
own Recovery and thus continue to grow physically,
spiritually and emotionally.
The Recovery Group reaches out to people all over the
world. To ably spread our Recovery message we require
people in many areas of service. I am asking you to
volunteer your time. Please respond and add a whole
new dimension to your own Recovery.
With love and joy.
NEWCOMER'S CORNER ~ MEET HEIDI L.
Newcomers meeting are Monday and Tuesday &
Heidi L. first heard about OA from a friend of hers
25 years ago. It was not until 2 months ago, however,
that Heidi felt ready enough to join in and start
In her own words ".. everyone there was talking about
ME... they each were mirroring my problem.... and I
knew then that it was the right place to be."
Suddenly, Heidi started attending several meetings a
"Mostly I enjoy the meetings as I get something from
each meeting I go to... the honesty is so wonderful...
and I find OA to be an incredible equalizer... coe
knows no race, age, sex, income, religion, or any
other typical qualifiers".
"I need them... and since I am home a lot, I am drawn
to the fridge round the clock ...or else I go to my
computer and hit as many meetings as I need to...
thank God for the internet."
Usually when Heidi attends meetings, she has her
sidekick Tiago ( a chihuahua puppy) with her. "He
sits on my lap thru most of my meetings.. and lets
me be ME... without any airs."
Heidi, do you have any advice for other newcomers
who are just getting started?
"Start sharing ASAP... because just by typing those
words onto a computer for someone else to read... it
makes you honest with yourself...... and... don't
beat yourself up expecting perfection... I keep
hearing over and over again that this is a program
of progress, not perfection.. and those words mean
so much to me."
Thank you so much, Heidi, for sharing your experience
and being such an active member of our OA online
Love in recovery
Newcomer's Meeting Leader
WTS ~ TWELVE STEPS IN TWELVE WEEKS
The WTS Step Study begins on October 1st and we
welcome all of you who want to experience working
the Twelve Steps of Overeaters Anonymous with the
group. We are ending the Third Quarter Step Study
with Lawrie Cheriack as our Step Leader. The
Fourth Quarter leader will be Auds, a long-time
member of the Recovery Group.
We encourage you to get a Step Sponsor to guide
you through the Steps. We have them available.
If you begin the WTS Step Study, make a commitment
to yourself that you will finish the study. Make it
a priority in your life and don't let a day go by
that you don't work on this commitment.
WTS is not a general sharing support group. The
mission is to share only about the Twelve Steps.
Anything other than this is cross-talk. It is
inappropriate to write the list for subscription
information ... we have an address set up for that.
WTS is restricted to 600 members and all posts
to WTS are subject to review.
Membership is extended to all and not restricted to
just Recovery Group members.
If you are a newcomer, please join our OANewcomer's
list before registering for the Step Study.
Here are some addresses ... please bookmark them.
To join WTS:
To join OANEWCOMERS:
To write the list:
To get a sponsor:
To unsubscribe from the list:
FOR MORE INFORMATION:
The Recovery Group Administration is very pleased
to announce that Audrey email@example.com
has joined us as an administrator, in training.
Servants presented to Recovery Intergroup for vote
FROM THE LITERATURE ~ BIG BOOK
"We do not like to pronounce any individual as
alcoholic/ COE but you can quickly diagnose yourself.
Step over to the nearest barroom/fastfood drive-thru
and try some controlled drinking/ eating.......
Try a drink/ trigger and stop abruptly!! Try it more
It will not take long for you to decide, if you are
honest with yourself about it!! It may be worth a
case of the jitters if you get a full knowledge of
c. 1976, Alcoholics Anonymous, pp. 31-2
Thought to Consider . . .
I have learned that I did not get here a day early
or a drink/ binge short.
Y A N A = You Are Not Alone
I especially liked this Big Book passage because it
tells it EXACTLY like it is. I know I could not go
through a Fast Food restaurant and not order my
favourite "unhealthy and forbidden" food. It is simply
not possible for me. So I have to stay completely away
Once I have tasted this food, I am gone and will not
be able to resist for a long time. We all have our
own triggers and know what we can or cannot eat!!
In fact, I can't even go to our County Fair anymore
because it instantly brings up the memory of long,
lost days when I used to partake and wasn't in the
condition I'm in now.
Heart problems and overweight go hand in hand. It
isn't a fun exchange, believe me! But nothing is
worth my going through what I went through last time
in the ER - I wouldn't repeat it for any of my
favourite foods in the whole world! If you ever
have the "Paddles" for life-saving, you will NOT
forget that experience. Once is quite enough -
I learned my lesson and I just pray that you have too
and can stay abstinent with the help of your Higher
Power! We are never alone with our HP, loopies and
cyberfriends walking alongside us. :)
Much love and many hugs on your Journey to Recovery,
THE SERENITY PRAYER
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
OVEREATERS ANONYMOUS CONTACTS
World Service Office (WSO)
PO Box 44020
E-Mail Address ~ firstname.lastname@example.org
"I put my hand in yours ...
and together we can do what we could never do alone."
Rozanne, OA Co-Founder
RECOVERY MEDITATIONS CALENDAR
Visit our beautiful scene for October.
To receive the daily meditations, send a blank email to:
THE RECOVERY GROUP CONTACTS
Serendipity Team ~ SerendipityNewsletter@yahoo.com
Recovery Group Administrators:
"In the deepest part of the soul of a compulsive eater is the
realization that recovery begins when we find one another.”
Best Wishes to all From the Serendipity Team,
the Recovery Administration, the Meeting Leaders
and the Trusted Servants of Our Community.
Contact Address: SerendipityNewsletter@yahoo.com
The Recovery Group and our newsletter has as its
mission that of carrying the message of recovery
to those who suffer from the disease of compulsive
eating. We are an anonymous organization and follow
the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Overeaters
Anonymous. Your articles and announcements are
welcome. All opinions in this newsletter represent
only the opinions of the writers and not those of the
Recovery Group or Overeaters Anonymous.