A Wellspring of Hope
Newsletter of The Recovery Group


October 2001
Volume 3, Issue 10



ser*en*dip*i*ty ~ (noun) First appeared 1754:
the faculty or phenomenon of finding
valuable or agreeable things not sought for.


FEATURED ARTICLES

From Our Editor
Founders Corner
From Our Administrators
Working The Steps
From the Loops: Spotlight of the Month
Danny's Corner
Tools of Recovery
Recovery Meditations
From the Recovery Group Members
From the Literature
Letters to the Editor
The Recovery Group IRC Meeting Schedule
AOL Meetings - A&R Forum
Overeaters Anonymous Contacts
Recovery Group Contacts
Serenity Prayer



~ FROM OUR EDITOR ~

Dear friends in recovery,

Welcome to the October edition of Serendipity. So much has happened in the last month, and I, like so many others, feel that nothing will ever be the same. Nevertheless, life, and recovery, and this newsletter, go on .....

The horror of September 11 is the prevailing theme throughout this edition of Serendipity. TRG founder Mari shares her thoughts on Tradition Nine and the value of service, as well as announcing a page on The Recovery Group website for all of us to share our thoughts on the September 11 tragedy. John, on behalf of TRG's Administrators, talks about the effects of the terrorism on TRG, and also makes a plea for member service, particularly for sponsors for the new Working the Steps step study beginning October 1. Jo invites everyone to participate in the fourth quarter 2001 step study beginning on the WTS loop on October 1, and offers suggestions on how to join and how to proceed with the step study. Our loop spotlight of the month is Recovery & FFOA (Family and Friends of Alcoholics), a Twelve Step email discussion loop for compulsive eaters who love and/or live with an alcoholic. We have also included a description of the Meditations Project, to give our newer members an idea of where we are going with this project. Since we were denied permission by OA to use their meditations on our loops, Mari and several members got together and decided that with thousands of members in TRG from around the world, we could create our own daily meditations book. We encourage all of you to contribute at least one meditation to this wonderful project. Next is our newest feature, Letters to the Editor, in which our members share their reactions to the newsletter. Unfortunately, none of our readers were moved to share with us your thoughts on the September edition of Serendipity, but we believe that many of you will be willing to take a few minutes to write about the present edition! Then, in the Tools of Recovery, an article reprinted from the May 2001 lifeline discusses the many flavors of recovery - the tools!

This month in Danny's Corner, in his conversation with God, Danny talks about the next right thing, and shares a timely quote: "Evil and people who do it are a small pitiful bunch and cannot exist but for good people who remain silent." The section dedicated to shares from Recovery Group members reflects our struggles in dealing with the September 11 terrorist strike. Sue Grace has written a beautiful poem "To Those I Never Knew." Anne shares her difficulty in dealing with the overwhelming feelings brought up by both personal and world tragedies Robin talks about living in the now, Thumper writes about the danger to recovery of hatred, anger and the desire for vengeance, and SueG shares her determination to continue to be the best she can be in light of such an atrocity. In the Literature section, we continue with 12 months of The Promises from the Big Book, as well as Step Ten from Reflections on the Twelve Steps of Recovery. This month's edition ends with directions to on-line meetings and a current list of the meetings, as well as contact information for the latest changes to the meetings list, OA and TRG contacts, and the Serenity Prayer. September 11 has shown me, and I hope many others, how precious life, recovery, and this wonderful Recovery Group are. Please, please, please help to continue this newsletter by sending a share to
SerendipityNewsletter@yahoogroups.com. We are in desperate need of member shares of your experience, strength and hope, and of the tools of recovery. We also need letters to the editor to let us know your ideas on the newsletter and its member shares. We have thousands of members world-wide - if each of you would send just one share, on a topic of your choice, we would have enough ESH to last for a long time to come. What a beautiful thought!!!!!

Peace, my dear friends.



Love in recovery,
Suzanne, Editor
SERENDIPITY


SERENDIPITY SUBSCRIPTIONS



~ FOUNDERS CORNER ~


On behalf of all the members of the Recovery Group, I want to express our deepest sympathy to the families of the victims of the September 11th attack on our country. In a way, we were all victims ... and life as we knew it will never be the same. A page dedicated to the tragedy is on our web site and we hope you will take a moment to express your personal feelings on that page. http://www.TheRecoveryGroup.org/september11.html

Over the past eight months I have been writing about the Twelve Traditions and how The Recovery Group honors these important traditions. The Recovery Group is not a "professional organization." In fact, we like to think of ourselves more as a community than an organization ... but in order to make our beloved community work we must have administration of some type. We call those who give service in this way Trusted Servants ... and all of our Trusted Servants are volunteers from within our community.

Tradition Nine tells us that the Recovery Group ought never to be organized; but that we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve. In keeping with this Tradition we have four business groups to handle the administration of TRG. All of our Trusted Servants are members of the Trusted Servants and Meeting Trusted Servants groups. Here they interact with one another and learn from each other. Each of our lists has a Coordinator or Co-Coordinators and they make up the Recovery Intergroup. And finally, we have an administration team made up of three experienced Trusted Servants who work daily with the Intergroup and the Trusted Servants and Meeting TS lists. The administrators work together as TRGAdm.

I hope each member of our group makes it a point during the coming year to give service to others through the Recovery Group. In doing so, not only do we help others ~ we help ourselves.

Wishing all of you a peaceful autumn.



@-}-}-}------
Love in recovery,
Mari
The Recovery Group
www.TheRecoveryGroup.org



~ FROM OUR ADMINISTRATORS ~

Dear Recovery Group Members~

The month of September was one of national crisis, and the Recovery Group did not escape unscathed. At least some of our people were directly involved in the terror, although we believe no one died. Our hearts go out to those who lost their lives and their loved ones in this time of national pain.

Nor were we unaffected. The St. John's loops -- Maelstrom -- are some of our largest and oldest loops, and for some time were totally inaccessible to us. Maelstrom's ISP was located in the World Trade Center, and was destroyed on September 11. Eventually they were able to find another which could serve them, but it was over a week later. During that time we could contact only those members of HOTJ, Big Book, WTS, Recovery Loop, Anorexia and Bulimia, and OA Friends who were members of other loops. Mari quickly set up alternative sites along with our other Yahoo Groups, but of course the numbers were much smaller. After Maelstrom was back in operation, we closed the Yahoo parallel groups.

But many of our people must have felt abandoned, at least until they came to realize where St. John's is located, and figured out the reason. Abandonment is not a good feeling for a CO type person to have to suffer. I am just thankful we all came through, and are back together again. We keep no master list of peoples' addresses, in order to ensure anonymity.

The Recovery Group, despite our many teapot tempests and occasional acts of random lunacy, continues in an overall sense to flourish. Right now, our biggest concerns are for service, which from the end of the stick the Administrators hold seems an unending struggle. This is the case in most face to face meetings I know of as well. Whether it is true of other anonymous groups I don't know, but it is certainly a CO feature. One friend of mine who has quite a few years of abstinence is given to the slogan, "Don't let the little you can do keep you from doing the little you can do." Service is one way of doing the Twelfth Step. People who refuse service are not so much into the Twelfth Step, I would guess. And this is not good, not for the loops nor for the individual. Too many of us want to wait until we have a perfect program before giving service. Guess what isn't going to happen!

One change we've made will not affect many people directly, but we believe and hope will make for a better future for TRG. We have had two active Trusted Servant loop for all those who do any kind of service, one related to loops, the other to meetings. But we had done little with Intergroup, although it technically existed. During this month we have tried to get everyone in a Coordinator position to join intergroup. This is still a large group, but much smaller that TS. Furthermore, the Coordinators are loop or meeting loop leaders, so they are well acquainted with the troops in the trenches. As Intergroup activates, it will take more and more responsibility in the decision making process, which will definitely help the Administrators, as well as the way we run our loops.

WTS starts another quarter of its Step Workshop, and desperately needs sponsors, as you know from letters Mari has written recently. Let me just underscore that. There are 300 people looking for a sponsor, and when we first got the word, we had only 10 sponsors. I am sure there are some more now, but the need is still great. Please help out if you can.

Have a great and abstinent today.

Love in recovery,
John,
for the Recovery Group Administrators
TRGAdm@TheRecoveryGroup.org


~ WORKING THE STEPS ~


~ 12 STEPS IN 12 WEEKS ~
An Invitation

The WTS loop (Working the Steps) invites you to work "12 Steps in 12 Weeks".

Hi, to Serendipity Readers from JO and from Tinman, WTS Co-Coordinators. We'd like to invite you all to study the Twelve Steps with WTS (Working the Steps) during October, November and December of 2001 - 12 Steps in 12 Weeks. Our WTS Step Leader this 3rd quarter of 2001 is Sue G.

Sue G. came to OA three years ago after being diagnosed with depression. She was introduced to OA by a coworker who gave her a phone number. Sue made the call and her life began a change that is continuing to this day. She is now enrolled in a four year college course in Education.

"None of this would have been possible if I had not walked through the doors of OA. I not only found the tools of recovery but also found a relationship with God from whom my strength, wisdom and courage comes," Sue said. "In short, OA has not only changed my life, but by the grace of God it has given me life."

We are privileged to have Sue as our leader for the twelve weeks we work the 12 steps.

This Step Study starts on the WTS loop on Monday, 10/01/01, and you are all invited to join WTS to participate in it, or to participate by reading Sue G.'s Step Essays and Shares on our WTS website. They will be posted on the WTS web site within days of Sue G. posting them on the WTS loop.

The WTS web site is at:
http://recovery.hiwaay.net/wts/index.html

WTS (Working The Steps) is one of our Recovery Group email loops. It is an in-depth quarterly study of the Twelve Steps for compulsive eaters. As a WTS member, you receive an Essay and Step Leader's Share every week, one step per week for 12 weeks, starting with Step One on 10/01/01, and ending with Step Twelve near the end of December. Then we start over again each quarter, working Step One the first week in January, April, July and October. A Step Leader - a different one for each quarter, writes these Essays and Shares.

WTS members are invited by the Step Leader to share on the step being studied that week, or are welcome to share on the step they are currently working on, whatever one it is, all year long. They are also welcome to post reply shares to what other WTS members have posted, supporting and encouraging WTS members and furthering the study of the step they shared about. These past two quarters of 2001, the shares on WTS and the reply shares have been very beautiful and open and honest, very inspiring and thought-provoking, very caring and encouraging - and we expect the same this 4th quarter of WTS that starts 10/01/01.

The WTS Step Leader's Essays and Shares are also put on our WTS website several days after they are shared on the WTS loop. The entire twelve-week Step Study from the 1st, 2nd and 3rd quarters of 2001 are now up on the WTS website for you to read and use, as are the yearly Step Studies for 1996 through 2000.

To join our WTS loop and study the 12 Steps in 12 Weeks:

1. Sign up for WTS by sending an email addressed to: listserv@maelstrom.stjohns.edu
You don't need to put anything in the Subject line. In the body of your email message, type:
    "subscribe WTS firstname lastinitial"
    Example: subscribe WTS Lynne T.

2. Get a sponsor, if you don't have one already. Your Step Sponsor does NOT have to join WTS, although they are welcome. If you do not already have a sponsor, the best way to get a sponsor is to ask someone on your home loop to sponsor you, whose sharing reflects what you want to have in your own recovery. Or, if you would like a temporary Step sponsor for your 12-week Step study at WTS, you can email our WTS Sponsor List Coordinator, Mickie, at and ask her to email you our WTS Sponsor List (it has the names, email addresses and brief bios of all our WTS sponsors, so you can read about us and choose a WTS sponsor).

Please email me if you have any questions about WTS, or about our 12 Steps in 12 Weeks.

Yours in ESH,
JO
WTS Co-Coordinator
Jodall@nalu.net




~ LOOP SPOTLIGHT ~


~ RECOVERY AND FFOA ~
Family and Friends of Alcoholics

Recovery & FFOA (Family and Friends of Alcoholics) is a Twelve Step email discussion loop for compulsive eaters who love and/or live with an alcoholic. While we are not affiliated with either Alanon, OA or AA, many of our members are. We are a fellowship of men and women whose lives are affected by the abuse of alcohol by a family member or friend. The primary message of Recovery and FFOA is "Keep the Focus on Ourselves". By working our own program of recovery we are able to "detach with love" from the alcoholic in our life.

To subscribe, please go to the loop's web page at
http://recovery.hiwaay.net/special/ffoa.html
Or send a blank e-mail to RecoveryAndFFOA-subscribe-request@lists.therecoverygroup.org




~ DANNY'S CORNER ~

~ The Next Right Thing ~

Dear God,

Good morning and thanks for the beginning of a new day in abstinence. What is done with this gift I leave to You and I will do my part. BRB. I've been meaning to speak with You about this system of expelling things after drinking. It is very inconvenient, although it does give a chance to refill the coffee mug. Oh well, guess I'll just have to live with it. When my eyes opened this brand new day there was some debris left over from the ball game last night and while I am now at peace with this it bears airing.

Anthony (7), R.J. (6) and I were joined by several other gramps and dads at the ball park. When our national anthem was played three very large young men remained seated. Anger was swift and my mouth let them know they were being disrespectful. I was ready to go to battle right there and almost forgot there were children to protect. Besides I'm old, fat and out of fighting trim. Calmer heads prevailed; however, a pall settled over what should have been a nice outing. So this morning I wake up with the question in my fuzzy brain, did I do the right thing?

When I read the "Today's Thought" from Hazeldon, my question was answered. A phone call from another gramps furthered the answer. Several small boys and maybe some dads learned that it is not ok to stand by and ignore bad behavior. Evil and people who do it are a small pitiful bunch and cannot exist but for good people who remain silent. Silence is not one of my defects. I am confronted every day with decisions and choices, some with no clear cut or black and white way to go. These are the hard choices and time for meditation and this I do most of the time.

The woman You sent to run my life is due home today with her sister in tow. She is a sweetie and nice to have around (really good cook) so a special looking after for them while driving home. You might watch over my family, friends, fellow loopies, those who still are stuck on Step Four, the Jets, Giants, Bills and all the NFL. Please include the people I don't like also. Another football season ... another reason to rejoice. The wisdom to know and power to do Your will is needed ... just for today.



And Why Not?
Danny




~ TOOLS OF RECOVERY ~
Sampling Flavors


Before I joined Overeaters Anonymous in 1989, I had my favorite foods and flavors. I always went to my favorite flavors first, but when they weren't available, I found a second, third or fourth choice. Regardless of taste, I went to any length to get my food.

The same is true for me now, but the difference is that instead of choosing food, I turn to my tools, Steps and Traditions.

As with my favorite food flavors, I have favorite OA tools. Some are easier, safer or more satisfying for me to perform, but all eight tools are always there, waiting for me to choose recovery rather than destruction.

Even within the tools I have my favorite flavors. There are some meetings that I prefer to attend, some OA literature that has special meaning for me, some people I call first. When my favorite flavor isn't available, I have a second, third or fourth choice.

I may not be able to attend my favorite meeting if I'm busy, but another meeting is usually available to me. I may not be able to attend a meeting if I'm away, yet I can always pack my OA literature. If I can't find a phone, I can always write. So it goes with each tool-while I have my favorites, there is always another choice. Today, the many flavors of OA (tools, Steps and Traditions) are always there for me, regardless of time or place. If I continue to go to any length, not only will I choose recovery, I will also see my program flourish. That is better than any flavor before OA!

- T.C., Woburn, Massachusetts USA, reprinted from Lifeline, May 2001, Volume 29, No. 5.





~ RECOVERY MEDITATIONS ~
One Day at a Time


The members and trusted servants of the Recovery Group take pride in presenting to you their original recovery reflections and meditations relating to the 12 Steps. This is a work in progress and will be completed when the Committee reviews, edits and chooses 365 of what we hope will be the most inspired collection of the experience, strength and hope of compulsive eaters ever put together.

The completed project will be published and bound in a leather-like cover with a gold Recovery logo and matching satin bookmark. The ends of the pages will be golden and the working title of the book is Recovery Meditations ~ One Day at a Time. Beautiful color photos of nature will introduce each month's reflections. It is our prayer that we can find the resources to publish and distribute this book at no cost to Recovery members and that it will reach and inspire COEs from one end of our world to the other.

This ambitious project is a labor of love. Members in more than 100 recovery loops and meetings are submitting their very best to us. With God's help, we will one day have this complete for you on the Recovery website, in a beautiful hard copy book and possibly even on audio for those who have difficulty in reading the written word.

If you would like to take part in this collective effort, please send your submission to us at All submissions become the property of the Recovery Group and no names will be used in the publication. As each completed entry is approved, it will find a resting place on our beautiful website until it's time to go to the publisher to be joined by 364 others.





~ FROM THE RECOVERY GROUP MEMBERS ~


To Those I Never Knew


I may not have known your choices
Or what brought a smile to your face
I may not have known your joys and trials
Or what took you to that place

I may not have known what spurred you on
Or what brought a tear to your eye
I may not have known your family life
Or ever know the reason why

I may not have known your name
Or what you liked to do
I may not have known what brought you there
But I will remember you



Sue Grace
Tuesday, 11 September 2001




Feelings


I used to pride myself on being able to think my way through many a thing, a character trait that has done me more harm than good! In my pre-OA days, there were many emotions that I just found impossible to process. One of them was grief. In my childhood years, I grew up in an environment where many of those close to me died, and rather than express the sadness, I was taught to maintain the stiff upper lip and show the world that all is ok. I built the strongest mask and a big layer of fat to shield me from the grief. I used sugar to suppress those rising sobs and I used my bulimia to express the sharp pain and hurt that was deep in my heart.

In the early days of my recovery, at the first sign of any pain and suffering, I would run for cover, under a layer of calories. I could maintain my abstinence for a while, but I just could not make it through the hard times. At the first sign of raw, harsh emotions, I would start to white knuckle it. But it wasn't the food I was white knuckling it with, I was white knuckling it with the Program. I became totally self absorbed, I became a victim, I stopped doing all the things I needed to do to keep living and to stay abstinent - committing my food, writing to my sponsor and most importantly, maintaining my conscious contact with the God of my understanding.

This evening I sit and contemplate the last few months. They have been months of both sadness and joy. I have had personal tragedies as two very dear people in my life have died and my mother has been diagnosed with a progressive degenerative illness. And then this week, we have had a world tragedy, one that had touched so many lives, with the enormity of the tragedy, the pain, the suffering and the loss. I have sat transfixed to the TV watching over and over again the tragic events and feel totally powerless in such a situation. I feel the pain of the families, the anger towards the terrorists, the fear of the world and the quest for peace. I look at the faces around me and I see the shock that such a thing can happen in a peaceful country. And I sit amazed at what this Program gives me. It has taught me how to feel, has given me the freedom to let down that mask and express what is inside me, rather than burying it alive. It has shown me that I can work through these feelings and that they won't paralyse me. And it has shown me, that all I need to do at times like this, is to keep holding on to my safety net - and that safety net is no longer the food, but my Higher Power. I used to control so much, but I know that I need a power greater than me to control these things in life - death, tragedies, illness - they are all out of my control and when I stop hanging on, I can move through and let my Higher Power show me the way - cause I have no idea!!!



Anne




NOW


Hi ... Robin here ... and I am a compulsive overeater ... I am grateful that I have life today ... that I woke up and have another chance to live my life here in this body. I think of all of those people who had no idea that their lives would end that tragic day when the planes hit the World Trade Center, Pentagon, and in Pittsburgh ... that it would happen so quickly and painfully ... and how they probably would have done some things differently had they known. I heard in a meeting about how life is so precious. None of us are guaranteed tomorrow or even 5 minutes from now ... So, today, I am thankful for NOW.

In the clutches of my disease, I get caught up in perfectionism ... that all or nothing thinking that always seems to get me into trouble. Because of this perfectionism, I began purging again this week ... rationalizing (but certainly knowing better) that it would somehow make what I ate that was not on my plan of eating "ok" ... This is the insane thinking that comes with my disease. I don't have to be perfect ... all I have to do is progress. I cannot reverse anything that I did in the past, and I do mean the past as in minutes, hours, weeks, months, OR years ago. All I have is NOW ... if I can be abstinent right NOW ... that is all that matters ... because that is all that I have. The future is uncertain and the past is over. Today, I admit that I am powerless over my food addiction and that my life has become unmanageable. I believe that my HP can and will restore me to sanity. I make a decision RIGHT NOW to turn my will and my life over to the care of God of my understanding. I commit to being Spirit-led as much as possible today. I commit to getting on my knees at least once ... even if it is just to say ... thank you GOMU for allowing me to be here one more minute so that I can be an instrument of faith, love, and service to my fellows.



Robin




A True Test of My Spiritual Fitness

Our world has seen trouble beyond anything I'd expected to see in my lifetime, and the trauma of these recent horrendous events has left me temporary bereft of the serenity and peace of mind I had gained since coming to this program. These gains had come about as a result of working the 12 steps to the best of my ability and from maintaining abstinence from compulsive overeating. Where love once dwelled, hatred now fights for residency. Instead of joy, I feel anger. My willingness to live and let live has been replaced with an appetite for vengeance, destruction, and death. Contentment has turned to resentment. And, not surprisingly, the food is once again calling out to me.

But do I deserve having the food calling to me? Is not my anger justified? Don't I have righteousness on my side? Weren't we, collectively, innocent victims of an evil madman? Haven't we been wronged so deeply that nothing short of eye for an eye justice can make it right again? Does not the fact that my single voice joins a unanimous and inarguable chorus of objection provide invulnerability to my disease?

Our literature tells us that resentments have the power to kill and it makes no distinction between resentments that are well deserved and those based on an illusion. When we harbor resentments, no matter what the cause, we close ourselves off from the spirit and the insanity returns, and with the insanity comes compulsive overeating. But these acts committed against us were so terrible; why would I want to let go of my resentment? Aren't some offenses unforgivable? In view of what has happened, how could I ever be expected to find forgiveness for these people?

Why do I fear forgiveness? Am I afraid that offering forgiveness softens my claim to having been wronged, that it lets the offenders off the hook? Did I not buy a t-shirt today featuring our flag and emblazoned with the words, "We Are Not Afraid?"

An emotional dilemma of epic proportion confronts me upon reading the words of wisdom on page 552 of our beloved Big Book. It suggests that if I have a resentment against someone, and that if I want to be free and live again, that I should subject myself in prayer and ask that the object of my resentment be given all the happiness and good fortune that I'd gladly bestow on myself or a loved one. It asks that I do it daily for two weeks if need be. It tells me that I don't even have to mean it, that my words can be hollow and void of sincerity, but that I am to do it anyway.

So this is the true test of my spiritual fitness. All it requires is an action, not an attitude. Can I do it? Am I willing to do it? Can I say the words?

Love,
Thumper





September 15th, 2001


The weather in England has turned damp and subsequently the pathway to the door of our home is strewn with slugs and snails. I have watched these creatures meandering their way across the path, their progress is tediously slow, and from where I am standing their world seems small and yet their journey immense.

To these slugs and snails, however, every slow and contemplated moment must seem as significant as the next, their world being only what lies in front of them at any given moment.

They know nothing else but how to be themselves, in spite of what mayhem is occurring around them!

This is where I am at today and have been ever since the atrocities of Tuesday 11th September, a day that neither I nor the rest of the world will forget. I do what is required of me in my every day life. I go to work, although yesterday was my last day; I stock our cupboards and freezer shelves, I run my Beaver Scout colony and attend my church meetings. I live my program the best way I know how and seek God's guidance every step of the way. To all intents and purposes I am who I am meant to be at any given moment. Yet inside I am screaming for it all to stop so that I can pay my respects to those who so savagely died at the hands of some pretty sick and inhumane people.

I feel guilty that my life continues, that I am required to be who and what I am. I feel shame in sharing my life with you all because it is so insignificant compared to the shattered lives of people from all over the globe, yet I share because despite what I am feeling, I am who I am and know no other way to be.

The world is forever changed, the lives of thousands are forever distorted and my life is forever altered. The only thing I can do is continue with this new strength and resolve to make the world a better place, in the best way I know how.

Today I feel sad, angry, and yet resolved to seek a better world if for nothing else but in the memory of those who perished. I owe it to God, I owe it to them, I owe it to you and I owe it to me to be the best me I can be and to prove that but for a handful -- and in comparison to the population of the globe it is a handful -- but for a handful of twisted and distorted people this world is my world, your world and our world and I will not be chained, I will not imprisoned and I will not be forced to think, worship or live a life any other than the one I have now which is free and will ALWAYS be free, so help me God.

God Bless America
God Bless the World and its people
God Bless me!

SueG




~ FROM THE LITERATURE ~


The Promises from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous


We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness.
We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.
We will comprehend the word serenity.
And we will know peace.
No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our
experience can benefit others.
That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear.
We will lose interest in selfish things and gain insight in our fellows.
Self-seeking will slip away.
Our whole attitude and outlook will change.
Fear of people and economic insecurity will leave us.
We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us.

We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.





~ Reflections on The Twelve Steps of Recovery ~



"Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it."

~~THE 10th STEP~~
The Twelve Steps of Recovery

I believe deep down in my heart of hearts that I used to think that there would be a permanent recovery to my addiction. I don't like to admit that I thought that now but I'm sure I did. Much like when I started working the steps. I thought that when I finished working the Twelve Steps of OA that I was, more or less, finished for good. HA! What I realized was that I had "finished" something that was never-ending. Furthermore, I had barely begun.

I have stopped typing for a minute and asked myself if I can think of anything in this world that is truly permanent. I BELIEVE THE ONLY THING THAT CAN GIVE ME ANY MEASURE OF PERMANENCE IS WORKING MY PROGRAM ONE DAY AT A TIME. And so, today I'm committing myself to accepting that fact. Between that and powerlessness there is sanity.

Each day as I bump into a problem (and these days there are many), I use the same methods I used in working the 4th step to do my 10th step inventory. In doing so I notice the same character defects seem to be popping up and by doing a daily inventory, it gives me a chance to work on these character defects. It's sort of like killing two birds with one stone (God ... I just thought how awful that old cliche is ... I will never use it again ... birds are a big part of our life on this island). Anyway, the opportunity to note what I'm doing wrong in my life, seeing one's character defects each day and relating that to a wrong-doing accomplishes two purposes: (1) Correct the CD and there's less I will do wrong, and (2) the fewer things I do wrong, the fewer amends I will have to make.

I've taken my inventory today and I've seen some things I've done wrong. I've already made one phone call and written two personal letters. I have yet another personal letter to write and the day isn't half over. But for today ... at least the rest of it ... I'm going to be very aware of my CDs and I'm going to try to do things right ........ so that tomorrow when I wake up, I'll have less inventory than I had this morning.

Dear God,
Please help me
wake up in the morning
with a happy heart and
a lighter inventory.





~ LETTERS TO THE EDITOR ~

*PLEASE* send your letters to the editor of Serendipity to SerendipityNewsletter@yahoogroups.com

Without your input, we have no gauge of how we are doing here at SERENDIPITY -- Newsletter of The Recovery Group!



~ ANNOUNCEMENTS ~


Dear Friends,

As many who attend OA Meetings in Stepping Stones or use the Food Addictions Message Boards on AOL know, the Addiction and Recovery forum (where we are located here at AOL) is closing as of September 12, 2001.

However, we will still be online at AOL and we will still be following our current meeting schedule.

It's our understanding that we will still be able to use the Message Boards and the Meeting Room for the foreseeable future, but you won't be able to get to them using a Keyword. You'll need to have them Favorite Placed/Bookmarked. You can do this quite easily by clicking on the little red heart icon in the upper right hand corner.

If there is a time when our "official" meeting room is no longer available and we haven't found a new home yet, we will be meeting in a private chatroom also called Stepping Stones. (Type in Keyword: PrivateChat, then type in: Stepping Stones)

When we have relocated to our new home at AOL, we will inform folk by whatever means we can. If you have any questions or need further assistance, please contact (Jen)
RMTalia@aol.com or (Lisa) RMPax2000@aol.com.

In Fellowship, Jen and Lisa (formerly hostanrtalia@aol.com and hostanrpax@aol.com)






We invite all of you to attend our online meetings. We have many dedicated meeting leaders and we have several meetings each day. The simplest way to enter the #Recovery Room is to go to:
http://starchat.net/recovery/ Be patient! It takes several minutes for the page to download because of the chat software (called an applet). If a screen comes up asking you if you want to accept the Java Link, click YES. (Not all computers get this message.)

  • -- On the Nick Name line, type in a nickname you want to use, or your first name. (Just type right over the word "Recovery" )
  • -- Click on the Connect button at the bottom.
  • -- Wait a few minutes without doing anything, and you go right into our chatroom. Type on the line across the bottom and hit enter (or return) to send what you wrote to the chat room.
There are other ways to enter the room depending on your server....so go to this page and you will see the instructions: http://www.therecoverygroup.org/support/meetings.html

Here is a copy of our latest Meeting Schedule:


RECOVERY GROUP MEETINGS

All Meetings US Eastern Time
All IRC meetings on Starchat Channel

All IRC meetings in #Recovery with the exception of the Spanish meetings which are held in #SpanishRecovery and Christian meetings held in #Christian&Recovery
MONDAY:
7:00 AM IRC OA Topic
9:30 AM IRC Christian & Recovery
10:30 AM IRC Recovery Meditations
2:30 PM IRC Big Book Study
7:00 PM IRC OA Topic
9:30 PM IRC OA Topic
11:00 PM IRC OA Topic
TUESDAY:
7:00 AM IRC OA Topic
10:30 AM IRC Recovery Meditation
2:30 PM IRC OA Topic
7:00 PM IRC Step Meeting
8:00 PM IRC #Christian&Recovery
9:30 PM IRC OA Topic
11:00 PM IRC OA Topic
WEDNESDAY:
7:00 AM IRC OA Topic
10:30 AM IRC Recovery Meditations
2:30 PM IRC OA Topic
4:00 PM IRC #CCA
7:00 PM IRC OA Topic
8:30 PM IRC #Christian&Recovery
9:30 PM IRC OA Topic
9:30 PM IRC #CCA
THURSDAY:
7:00 AM IRC OA Topic
10:30 AM IRC Recovery Meditations
2:30 PM IRC OA Topic
4:00 PM IRC #Christian & Recovery
7:00 PM IRC Tools of Recovery
8:00 PM IRC Ask It Basket
9:30 PM IRC Big Book
11:00 PM IRC OA Topic
FRIDAY:
7:00 AM IRC OA Topic
9:30 AM IRC #Christian&Recovery
10:30 AM IRC Recovery Meditations
2:30 PM IRC OA Topic
7:00 PM IRC Step Meeting
9:30 PM IRC OA Topic
11:00 PM IRC Newcomers
SATURDAY:
7:00 AM IRC OA Topic
10:30 AM IRC OA Topic - #CCA
2:30 PM IRC OA Topic
4:00 PM IRC Christian Talk
7:00 PM IRC OA Topic
9:30 PM IRC OA Topic
11:00 PM IRC OA Topic
SUNDAY:
7:00 AM IRC OA Topic
10:30 AM IRC Recovery Meditations
11:30 AM IRC #CCA
2:30 PM IRC OA Topic
3:30 PM IRC #Italian&Recovery
7:00 PM IRC OA Topic
9:30 PM IRC OA Topic
*11:00 PM IRC OA Topic


AOL ONLINE MEETING SCHEDULE
All Meetings US Eastern Time
All AOL meetings held in Stepping Stones on AOL (A & R Forum)
MONDAY
1:00 PM AOL How It Works
9:00 PM AOL Open Topic
10:30 PM AOL Recovery Chat
TUESDAY
12:00 PM AOL OA Topic
10:00 PM AOL Relapse & Recovery
11:59 PM AOL OA Topic
WEDNESDAY
9:30 PM AOL 100 Pounders
THURSDAY
9:00 PM AOL OA Topic
10:30 PM AOL Recovery Chat
FRIDAY
8:00 PM AOL Beginners/Step One Study
11:00 PM AOL 12 Step
SATURDAY
8:00 PM AOL OA Topic
11:59 PM AOL OA Topic
SUNDAY
3:00 PM AOL Anorexic/Bulimia
9:00 PM AOL How It Works


All Recovery meetings held in #Recovery Room on IRC
All Spanish Meetings are held in #SpanishRecovery Room on IRC
All Christian Meetings are held in #Christian&Recovery Room on IRC
All Swedish Meetings are held in #SwedishRecovery Room on IRC
All AOL meetings held in Stepping Stones on AOL
All times Eastern Daylight Time


Meetings Information ~ The Recovery Group
http://recovery.hiwaay.net/support/meetings.html
or RecoveryMeetings@yahoo.com


To volunteer as a meeting leader or substitute leader, please contact us at
RecoveryMeetings@yahoo.com

Meetings Information ~ AOL
http://recovery.hiwaay.net/support/aolmeetings.html
or RMTalia@aol.com




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"I put my hand in yours ...
and together we can do what we could never do alone."
~ Rozanne, OA CoFounder ~





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Newsletter Editor ~ SerendipityNewsletter@yahoo.com ~ Suzanne
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Sponsor/Telephone Angel Directory ~ sophie@coiinc.com ~ Cate
Special Interest Loop Coordinators ~ hopeful@teleport.net ~ Sande
ICQ Angels Directory ~ bingebuster@hotmail.com ~ Natalie
IM Directory ~ bingebuster@hotmail.com ~ Natalie
Technical Support ~ RecoveryTech@mail.com ~ Steph
Recovery Group Administrators ~ TRGAdm@egroups.com ~ John, Cate and Patt
Recovery Group Founder & List Owner ~ Marisok@aol.com ~ Mari


"In the deepest part of a compulsive eater's soul . . .
Is the realization that recovery begins when we find one another."
~ Mari, Recovery Group Founder ~


Grant us the SERENITY to accept the things we cannot change;
The COURAGE to change the things we can;
And the WISDOM to know the difference.

What we could never do alone ~
We can do together.

One day at a time ~
One step at a time.




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