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~ SHARING WITH ONE ANOTHER IS SERVICE ~
A few days ago I read a post by a fellow loop member who
thanked someone for their share, saying, "It was exactly
what I needed to read!"
~ "SHARING" ~
As you shared your words with ease.
Your words a mirror of my soul.
Your encouragement brought me peace.
Some days I go to meetings.
For today, the Web's the place
Where I make my God-connection,
Where I sense God's power and grace.
Don't think your words are trivial.
Don't say, "I'm not that smart."
Together we can do what can't be done alone,
And all of us have a part.
Each of us has our own special voice.
Each of us is here for a reason.
We are all on the road to serenity.
It will always be "progress season."
Sometimes I need prayer, and your words soothe my soul.
Sometimes I need joy, and your smile cheers me.
Sometimes I just need to know I'm not alone.
When I read your posts, God's spirit nears me.
I read your post this evening.
I'm thankful that you're here.
You give service in your honesty.
Your struggles are so clear.
Keep coming back! One day at a time!
We need each other; that's true.
For today you have helped me just by being here,
And I'm grateful. God's blessings to you!
~ Compulsive Eaters and Portion Control ~
More is not better. Fast food restaurants are beginning to
realize that; however, most restaurants don't. There is an
obesity epidemic, and yet when we go to a restaurant, it
seems they have not yet heard the news. In this article,
buffets won't be discussed ... but for a compulsive eater
who is active in the disease, walking into the doors of a
restaurant serving a buffet can do great harm to a plan of
~ Derek's Story ~
Hi, I'm Derek, and I'm a compulsive overeater. I can't ever
remember being "normal" with food. I always remember being
the biggest, even at junior school. One of my very early
memories (I was around 6 years old) is of walking home from
school and being bullied by an older boy - won't go into
details here - but the point is that after I made it home,
I know that I ate to "get over" it. In a way, that seemed to
be a pattern in my life - food was my friend and comforter.
~ Sexuality ~
I was touched when I read the above poem written by a compulsive eater who had endured what many of us have with our perception of our bodies. It has taken me many decades to be able to write the words which follow.
Our bodies are beautiful. They truly are. For those of you who raised your eyebrows when you read that, maybe you have been listening all these years to rhetoric that says your body is NOT beautiful.
Look right now at your hands. Look at each of those ten fingers with little creases in each of them and the smooth nail on the end. Is that not beautiful? If you were at some sort of Trade Show and they displayed a model of just one of your hands, would there not be crowds and crowds of people around you exclaiming how beautiful and functional and perfect it is?
Put your hand on your hair. Take both of your hands and run it through each side of your hair. There is nothing more beautiful than our hair ... all colors and textures ... and so many things we can do to it to make it even more beautiful. Shampoos and conditioners ... beautiful bows and barrettes ... hair colors, frostings ... special haircuts. But the main thing is that when you put those beautiful hands up to that beautiful hair it is just all so awesome.
Feel your stomach and your chest. How soft everything is. How flexible and perfect. So what if it has wrinkles or folds. It's still soft and flexible and perfect. Is there anything more beautiful than breasts... no matter how small or large? Another item in a trade show that would be state-of-the-art in terms of function and design.
Our legs. My legs were the only part of me that didn't match the other parts of me. If I'm overweight, they're normal but if I'm not overweight they're skinny! Legs are just wonderful things. The knees and the calves leading to our feet. Rivaled only by the hands, the feet are incredible.
And then there is that other part. Explore it. Wonder at it. Get your lover to do the same. It's wondrous. It's awesome. God created it. It has a purpose. We need to learn it's purpose. And to have that purpose fulfill us.
"When my beloved first stands before me naked, all open to my sight, there is a feeling throughout the whole of me; awe. Why? If sex is no more than an instinct, why don't I simply feel horny or hungry? Such simple hunger would be quite sufficient to insure the propagation of the species. Why awe? Why should sex be complicated by reverence?"I believe, of everything I have ever read in The Road Less Traveled, these are the most beautiful words I have ever read by Dr. Peck. It is poetry in motion ... spirituality at its best and says volumes about sex as God has created it. The human body to someone in love is awesome. During those moments of a sexual encounter it is even more so.
Just imagine, though, if one is ashamed of their body. Try to imagine if one has been made to feel his/her body is not beautiful. In that event one of the most beautiful gifts God has ever given to us can turn into a nightmare. Instead of ecstacy, it can cause us pain. Rather than happiness, we are embarrassed. Instead of tranquility and peace, great anxiety.
Because our disease manifests itself with layers of fat, we have been socialized to believe that this is ugly. It really isn't. I had a strange experience a few years ago with my doctor ... a well-known gynocologist. I've known him for quite some time and he was about to do an endometrial biopsy on me and as one who talks with his hands a lot, he began rubbing my stomach. (Now don't laugh at this ~ this is just the way he is.) I was laying on his surgical table, he was rubbing my tummy and it felt good.
As he did that, he was oblivious and I laughed and said something like "Jeez, I wish you would give lessons to my husband" and we began to talk about sex and foreplay and body image. He then told me to lay down someday and take my hand and do to my tummy what he was doing. I did. It was wonderful.
And I thought about how much more interesting foreplay it would be than our backs . . .
The beauty of the OA program is the fact that a person can come from any background, religious or not, and benefit. We have members who are Christian, Jewish, Catholic, Protestant, Wiccan, etc. We all come for the primary purpose of recovery and we use a Higher Power that works for us individually.
Weight watchers, Nutra-system and most other diet based programs focus on losing the weight as the only problem. That is, if we lose the weight then the problem goes away. We are all here in our Twelve Step program knowing that it doesn't work that way for the disease of compulsive eating.
OA teaches us that this is a three-part program ... spiritual. physical and emotional. If we focus on the spiritual first then emotional, the physical part of recovery will fall into place. It usually doesn't work the other way around.
In my personal experience in this program this has been true for me. I have been in and out of this program for 13 years and no matter how hard I tried I kept focusing on the weight more than the other aspects of this program and as a result of that I ended up going back to bingeing. When I finally accepted I had to focus on the spiritual and emotional aspects as well. I finally began to truly recover and now I am abstinent. The fact that this was a spiritual program really helped me because I did not have to believe in someone else's Higher Power. I could choose my own. That alone opened up many doors for me.
The Discovery Kitchen is a wonderful place "to share recipes,
food plans and food ideas with those seeking recovery in our
Discovery Group Community." This is the official statement
of the mission of this group. In actuality the group is a
warm and wonderful place filled with warm and wonderful people
willing to share what they do with food to recover.
Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, television, and other public media of communication.
~~ BIG BOOK QUOTE ~~
STEP NINE: Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
MY SHARE...(From Myrlene, Big Book and Recovery Group)
I wanted to put the Promises on for the beginning of the new Serendipity Newsletter. I think it is an apt lesson, because it tells us that if we read the Big Book and work the 12 Steps that all these good things will gradually be ours.
I am here to profess that it is true. I've only been in Recovery Program for two years. I always knew there was something missing from my life, that I was just not getting something that needed to be there, like a piece missing from a puzzle. After I started studying the BB and doing the 12 Steps, I was just amazed at how much better I was starting to feel. I reached what some called the "Pink Cloud." It was as if someone had taken an enormous weight off my shoulders and I felt lighter. My whole spirit was lighter and happier. I can't tell you when it started, but that it happened to me. I can suddenly handle problems that used to baffle me and cause me a great deal of unhappiness and misery.
I'm not done yet. I have Progress, not Perfection, but I want those who are just beginning to know that these writings are true. It can be yours, as it is mine and anyone else who decides to go on this Journey.
May your Higher Power/God bless you on your journey, too. You'll never be sorry you started to make it.
Love in Recovery,,
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~ THE RECOVERY GROUP CONTACTS ~
What we could never do alone ~
One day at a time, ~
The Recovery Group and our newsletter has as its mission and purpose that of carrying the message of recovery to those who suffer from the disease of compulsive eating. We are an anonymous organization and follow the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions of Overeaters Anonymous; however, we are not affiliated with that group. Your articles, announcements and information are welcome. All opinions in this newsletter represent only the opinions of the writers and not necessarily that of The Recovery Group or OA, Inc.
Volume 6 Issue 11 © Copyright 2004 THE RECOVERY GROUP All rights reserved.