Serendipity
 
THE RECOVERY GROUP'S
12 Step Community Newsletter
 
May 2009 ~ Volume 10, Issue 3
 
CONTENTS
 
From the Editor
Founder's Corner
From the Administration
From the Executive Committee
From the Loops
From the Meetings
Announcements
TRG Sponsor Program
Spotlighted Meeting of the Month
Spotlight Loops of the Month
Recovery Division
ODAT Division
Discovery Division
Low-Fat Recipe of the Month
Recovery Stories
OA's Lifeline
TRG'S Recovery Writings
Qualifications
TRG's Trusted Servants
Serenity Prayer
Serendipity Website
 
 
 
*** SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT ***
BEGINNING TODAY
NEWCOMERS EIGHT WEEK ORIENTATION ~  MAY 1 ~ JUNE 31
 
 
 
FROM THE EDITOR:
 
FEARS VS TRUST
 
 "Fear is a habit; so is self-pity, defeat, anxiety, despair, hopelessness and resignation.
You can eliminate all of these negative habits with two simple resolves: I can! and I will!"
. . . . Anonymous
 
Fear has run the major part of my not so many years.  I've always operated my hopes, my dreams, and my expectations in direct relation to what those around me thought.  For instance, if those next to me thought having a writing career was ridiculous, then I seldom brought up my one true dream.  I would never even think of practicing what I loved to do out of fear of being teased, ridiculed or made fun of.  Fear ruled every aspect of my life before program.  Fear has kept me from experiencing life.
 
It isn't easy to risk failure in plain sight of those around you.  Before OA it was hard to take a chance on life when I didn't feel that I was worth that chance.  It is even harder to make a new beginning and yet somewhere deep inside I knew that a new beginning, was the right choice, it was the only choice.  It was in that decision, one day at a time, that I have learned to face my fears, to step outside of my shell and to do what I knew was the right thing, regardless of what people thought.  I choose a life of recovery. 
 
Although I have six and half years of recovery, within this program, it can still be difficult to risk everything, to go against the grain, or to even seek a different way of life.  That is where trust in my Higher Power comes into play.  I had to trust in him that he does have a plan for my life.  I have to trust that I am worth his time, attention and love because that knowledge plays a huge part in helping me to overcome my fears.  With him, I don't feel so alone.  The best part is that with him I know that I am not alone. 
 
To trust, is an absolute necessity if I am to continue to grow within this program.  It is by taking Steps 1, 2, and 3 that I began to learn to trust in something else other than myself.  When I began to trust in my sponsor I learned what it was like to confide within one person while having complete trust that those secrets would never be uttered anywhere else.  For me, trusting a sponsor was a leap of faith and a risk that had to be taken if I wanted recovery.  Little by little, I learned that by trusting in both; my Higher Power and my sponsor, I could begin to trust in myself and those around me.
  
One step at a time, I have realized there is a whole world out there for me to explore.  As I have begun to grow within this program I've finally begun to live my life as God had intended for me to live it.  Now I look forward to each day as a new beginning and a second chance at the life I almost let pass me by.  
 
"In giving to the world, it is I who must make the first move, I who must run to meet life with a smile that says, 'I am happy to be here.'  To like oneself, to enjoy life and to have enthusiasm for its precious gifts is to give to the world."  ~ For Today, Page 185
 
Sincerely,
Heidi  L ~ Editor
 

 

FOUNDER'S CORNER

HONESTY
 
Honest people are easily deceived.
    . . . . Anonymous
 
Lies are terrible things.  Because they are so terrible, sometimes we don't call lies lies.  The very word, "lies" is offensive.  To be called a "liar" is even more offensive.  Dishonest is a much more palatable word.  It means the same thing but somehow it's just a little less difficult to swallow.  We can do even better - gossip.  "Oh, it's not really a lie ... it's just gossip."
 
With the exception of a loaded pistol or a terminal disease, nothing on earth is more harmful to others than a lie.  Those who lie learn a second skill after they have mastered the art of lying.  They learn ways of telling their lies by finding honest people who trust and believe them.  Once they establish credibility and have ingratiated themselves to those they want to manipulate, it becomes very easy to tell very believable lies. Pretty soon you'll have an army of people to do your work for you and you can just sit back and reap the benefits.
 
Have you noticed that those who lie always, always do their best work one-on-one.  That's the first rule of becoming a good liar.  Take your comrades one at a time until you have a group and, before you know it, you have solidarity and what may have been a simple lie to begin with becomes the truth.  And once that metamorphosis has taken place, you have a weapon so lethal and a skill so carefully honed that you can do practically anything you want to do with it.  
 
Aren't we lucky to be working a 12 Step Program?  No liars in our program, right?
 
"Make the lie big ... 
Make it simple ... 
Keep saying it ...
And eventually they will believe it."
   . . . . Adolf Hitler
 
Love in Recovery,
@-}-}-}-------
Mari     
 
 
 

MONTHLY HAPPENINGS AROUND TRG

FROM THE ADMINISTRATION:

Are you feeling like you want to be a part of the trusted servants team? You can send an email to TRGAdm@lists.TheRecoveryGroup.org to let us know.  If you would like to read the qualifications for giving service in The Recovery Group community, please read the following URL:
  
Your TRGAdministrators are:
 
 Nancy ~  TRGAdm@hotmail.com
 Sharon ~ TRG_Adm@yahoo.com
 
 
 
 
FROM THE EXECUTIVE COMMITTEE:
 
You're in a loop and sharing your heart out and suddenly you start getting posts that have nothing to do with recovery and to make matters worse, they're rude and flaming others and making fun of those who share.  What you do is write TRGAdm@TheRecoveryGroup.org and you will be hearing from a member of the committee before the day is over.  Suppose you have a coordinator and you have been admonished for doing something you shouldn't have done in your loop and you want an impartial group to listen to your complaint.  Again ... write TRGAdm@TheRecoveryGroup.org.  TRGAdm is the direct link to the Recovery Executive Committee and is where experienced coordinators, administrators and others listen to a wide variety of matters dealing with all aspects of TRG. 
 
Day in and day out, the Executive Committee deals with issues about everything imaginable and there is very little they haven't heard.  With over 100 years of 12 Step service among them, you will not find a more dedicated, compassionate and board of caring Trusted Servants than TRG's Executive Committee. 
 
 
 
 
 
  

FROM THE LOOPS:
 
Many times we are asked by newcomers to The Recovery Group ... "what is a loop?"  Loops are support groups and those who join them are called "loopies."  We have many loops of just about every kind imaginable.  If one can only join one loop, it should be a 12 Step General Sharing loop.  Many prefer to be active in two loops, a general sharing one and another with a special focus in addition to their eating disorder.  A third loop isn't really a "loop loop" because it's not specifically for sharing ... it's a study, a workshop, an orientation.  You can find all our loops and their missions here.  By clicking RECOVERY and ODAT, you can find our general sharing loops and our special focus ones.
 
The Recovery Loops are world wide and serve compulsive eaters who speak many languages.  A special thanks to translators who make it possible for many resources of TRG to be available to all.  After all, recovery is a special language .. A language of the heart. 
 
 
                 
 
 
FROM THE MEETINGS:
 
Recovery Meetings are held daily every three hours around the clock beginning at midnight Eastern time.  Dedicated meeting leaders volunteer to lead the meetings and many special focus and foreign language meetings are held.  If you would like more information about meetings or to volunteer to lead a one hour meeting each week, please contact Linda, the Recovery Meeting Coordinators at MtgAdm@TheRecoveryGroup.org. If you would like to take part in a brief training program and give service once a week as a Meeting Leader, contact us.  Brenda H. And Linda will welcome you with open arms. If you would like to attend a meeting, here's the doorway.
 
 
 
 
 
TRG MEETINGS ~ CLICK DOORWAY
Midnight, 3, 6, 9 AM Eastern Time
Noon, 3, 6, 9 Eastern Time
Please arrive and leave on time.
OA Protocol Observed during the meeting.
Type * to share
Type "done" when finished
 
 
 
 
 
 

ANNOUNCEMENTS

 

     

  

Dear Serendipity Readers,

 

Are you a creative person?  Would you like to express that creativity while giving service?  The Serendipity Newsletter is looking for individuals, like yourself, who are interested in writing articles, obtaining stories from other OA members within the TRG, and proof-reading the next month's edition before it is released to the TRG community.

 

If you feel this is a form of service you would like to try please write to: SERENDIPITY@LISTS.THERECOVERYGROUP.ORG

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
TRG'S SPONSOR PROGRAM
 
 
A CALL FOR SPONSORS
 
 
Dear Members of The Recovery Group:
 
New Sponsors often have a few  questions as they begin with their first sponsoring experience.  The simple answer to the "How to Sponsor" question is to simple say, sponsor someone in the same way your sponsor was a sponsor for you :)  It is often also quite helpful to ask your own sponsor the questions that may come up for you as you begin.

In addition, there are several other resources available to you. TRG has  a  loop called Sponsor/Sponsee/Talk where you can share and also ask  questions.
 
You can join it by sending a BLANK post  to:
SPONSOR-SPONSEE-TALK-SUBSCRIBE-REQUEST@LISTS.THERECOVERYGROUP.ORG 

(They will ask you to confirm by email in just seconds after you  send this. You click reply to that confirmation, type OK and then click  send.)

We also have a website that has all of our WorkingTheSteps on  it. You may want to check it out for additional help.

WTS ~ Working the  Steps
http://www.therecoverygroup.org/wts/index.html

OA offers a very helpfulSponsorship packet. You can order them by going to this  website:
https://www.oa.org/store/all-products/program-literature/pamphlets--booklets/210-sponsorship-kit--single-packet/

As the popular phrase says about so many things, JUST DO IT!!   You will learn along the way :) We have a Solution and we want to share it with all those who still suffer and are ready to receive help.

Please join us as a TRG sponsor today!! For more information, please write to:
Sponsors@therecoverygroup.org
 
Waiting to hear from you,
Patt and Cate
TRG Sponsor Coordinators
 
 
 
 
 

 

 

 

QUOTES TO LIVE BY

By CM

“No one among us has been able to maintain anything like perfect
Adherence to these principles. We are not saints. The point is, that we
Are willing to grow along spiritual lines. The principles we have set
Down are guides to progress. We claim spiritual progress rather than
Spiritual perfection.” ~ Big Book - Ch. 5: How It Works P60.
 
* * *
 
"As a compulsive overeater, I have an impulse, a compulsion if you will
(among so many compulsions), to think that if I am not doing something
Perfectly, I am failing miserably at it. At the very same time, in the
Broader sense, I have the belief that if I am not doing something
Perfectly, in general, that I am a miserable failure."
 
* * *
 
"Firstly, it is only misguided thinking that leads me to believe on any
Level that I know the “perfect” way to do anything, or even that there
IS some “perfect” way at all."
 
* * *
 
"I do not have to do anything any better than I am capable of doing it
Here and now, today, so long as I AM WILLING TO GROW ALONG SPIRITUAL
LINES. Am I willing to do that? Yes! Have I done it perfectly? Heck no!
Is that good enough for today? Absolutely!"
 
* * *
 
"For today, I will be grateful for my willingness to grow along
Spiritual lines. I will be grateful for my progress without letting my
Imperfections discourage me. I will embrace the guides to progress of
This program and will accept progress without perfection as being good enough."
 
* * *
 
 
 
 
BEGINNING May 1ST
"We Agnostics"
You are invited to join us for the start of Chapter 4
You may join our study at any time during the year.
We'll be happy to have you.
 
 
 
 
THE BIG BOOK TRUSTED SERVANTS
 
Co-coordinators:
 
 
Greeter:  Patty ~ PJEB45@aol.com
12 Step Within:  Cheryl ~ c_mcdermott1550@yahoo.com
Alternate Greeter and 12th Step Within Person:  Irene ~ yrene@aon.at
 
Additional Trusted Servants:
Co-chairpersons:
Sunday:  Charles ~ aloisio03@EARTHLINK.NET
Monday:  Carolee ~ maranelfen@comcast.net
Tuesday:  OV, overeater anonymous ~ oveater@GMAIL.COM
Wednesday:  Linda ~ the-smallwoods@pris.bc.ca
Thursday:  Marlene Brooks ~ dietrich12000@yahoo.com
Friday:  Gracie ~ ackme194@aol.com
Saturday:  Robin ~ rwheat05@yahoo.com
 
Alternate Co-chairs:
 
Reports Person: Linda ~ the-smallwoods@pris.bc.ca
Assignments Person: Marlene Brooks ~ dietrich12000@yahoo.com
Outreach Coordinator:  Linda ~ the-smallwoods@pris.bc.ca
 

 

 
TRG SPOTLIGHTED LOOPS OF THE MONTH
 
Recovery Division ~  200 PLUS
ODAT Division ~  H.O.W.
Discovery Divisioon ~ OA FRIENDS
 
 
 
 
THE RECOVERY DIVISION
 
 

The 200 Plus Loop focuses on compulsions and addictions relating to food. Most of our members weigh over 200 pounds... Some of them considerably over that.... And this is our place to discuss the problems that come about with the disease we suffer from. We have dreams and goals and through the process of working towards these dreams and goals we hope to reach them. Although many of our members are also members of Overeaters Anonymous (OA) and other world-wide groupsthe only requirement for being a member of 200 Plus is to have the desire to quit compulsively overeating.

"To be nobody but myself
In a world which is doing its best night and day
To make me everybody else
Means to fight the hardest battle
Which any human being can fight
And never stop fighting."

Our group differs from most other cyber recovery groups in many ways. One of the ways is that this group focuses on those of us who are challenged in our disease by a great deal of overweight. Another way we differ from other groups is that this is a topical group. Each week we try to focus on a topic to aid our recovery. Anything that one would share at a recovery meeting is welcome here. Users are particularly encouraged to share their own recovery stories knowing that no matter how insignificant the share might be to a person not deep in our disease our words can be life saving to one who is.

200plus-request@lists.therecoverygroup.org

 

 
 
 
 
THE ODAT DIVISION
 
 
H.O.W.
 
Honesty Openness and Willingness
 

If you are a compulsive eater who wishes to follow the H.O.W. Program we invite you to join our H.O.W. Discussion loop.
 
HOW offers a disciplined and structured approach to compulsive overeaters who accept the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions as a program of recovery. The HOW concept is based in the belief that our disease is absolute and therefore only absolute acceptance of the HOW program will offer any sustained abstinence to those of us whose compulsion has reached a critical level.
 
To be certain much of our strength is found in the structure of meetings and in the daily adherence to the program as it is written in our literature. We also firmly understand that after our recovery has begun through abstinence and the taking of the first three steps our further surrender to the additional steps of recovery offers us a promise of happiness contentment and achievement in all areas of our lives.
 
We insure our continued abstinence from compulsive overeating by being forever aware that God is doing for us what we have never been able to do for ourselves.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
THE DISCOVERY DIVISION

 

 

OA FRIENDS

 

OA Friends is a discussion group for compulsive eaters and we would love to have you join us. Most of our members are also members of Overeaters Anonymous and our guidelines are the Twelve Traditions.


OA Friends has a very special mission. Unlike many recovery lists in cyber space we focus on becoming a recovery family. We are here to build each other up ~ not to tear each other down. We are here to accept each of us as we are ~ and not to judge. We offer safety and serenity resources to work a complete 12 Step program and most of all hope. The OA Friends Support Group uses OA protocol in sharing. We ask our members not to cross talk give feedback or send shares publicly that would be more appropriately sent privately. When we share using the "I" word we do not offend others. By writing our own experience strength and hope we can inspire others and that is done by letting our fellow members know how our life was as a COE what happened when we were introduced to Overeaters Anonymous and the 12 Step Program and as a result of program how things are now ... Or how we hope they will one day be if we continue working the program.


OA Friends is a place where 24 hours a day 7 days a week you will have a safe haven where you can interact with others who are suffering from the disease of food addiction. The OA Friends support group does not just focus on our physical problems. We focus on our emotional and our spiritual needs as well. Our recovery home is not a religious program ... It is a spiritual program. We are not a church ... We are a group of men and women who are hurting physically spiritually and emotionally. We are not bad people trying to be good ... We are sick people trying to get well.


Our way of finding recovery is through the Twelve Steps. We have reached a place in our life where this may be the last stop on the bus ~ the last house on the block. And we have come to believe that there has to be a power greater than ourselves and it doesn't matter what we call this power ... But it does matter that we admit to ourselves and each other that we cannot recover alone.

 

TO JOIN :http://lists.therecoverygroup.org/SCRIPTS/WA-RECOVERY.EXE?SUBED1=oafriends&A=1

 

 
 

 RECIPE OF THE MONTH

 

 

HEALTHY CEASAR SALAD

 

Makes: 6 servings
Prep: 25 minutes
Grill: 10 minutes

 

INGREDIENTS

 

2  large fresh portobella mushrooms 
2  teaspoons olive oil
1  tablespoon lemon juice
1  tablespoon red wine vinegar
2  teaspoons Dijon-style mustard
1  teaspoon Worcestershire sauce
1  clove garlic, minced
1/8  teaspoon ground black pepper
1/2  cup fat-free mayonnaise dressing or salad dressing
8  cups torn romaine lettuce
1/2  cup fat-free croutons
1  to 2 tablespoons shaved Parmesan cheese

 

DIRECTIONS

 

Wipe mushrooms clean with a damp cloth. Remove stems and gills from mushrooms. Brush mushrooms lightly with olive oil. For a charcoal grill, grill mushrooms on the rack of an uncovered grill directly over medium coals for 5 minutes. Turn and grill 5 to 7 minutes more or until tender. (For a gas grill, preheat grill. Reduce heat to medium. Place mushrooms on grill rack over heat. Cover and grill as directed above.)

 

Meanwhile, in a small bowl, combine lemon juice, red wine vinegar, Dijon-style mustard, Worcestershire sauce, garlic, and pepper. Whisk in mayonnaise.

 

Slice grilled mushrooms. Toss lettuce with dressing in a very large bowl. Divide among serving plates. Top each with sliced mushrooms, croutons, and cheese.

 

NUTRITION FACTS PER SERVING

 

Servings Per Recipe: 6 Servings
Calories 71                     
Total Fat (g) 3
Saturated Fat (g) 1
Monounsaturated Fat (g) 2
Polyunsaturated Fat (g) 0
Cholesterol (mg) 3
Sodium (mg) 256
Carbohydrate (g) 10
Total Sugar (g) 4
Fiber (g) 3
Protein (g) 3
Vitamin C (DV%) 32
Calcium (DV%) 4
Iron (DV%) 6

*Percent Daily Values are base on a 2,000 calorie diet

 

 

 

 
 
 
         
 
 
QUOTATION OF THE MONTH
 

The Friends We Meet Online

The true friends who we meet online, Are a very special kind
They pierce your shields and see within the corners of your mind.

They're always there when you're in need, With their power to discern.
They feel your pain...They offer hope and genuine concern.

We bare our souls, expose our hearts, And show our inner fears
And then before you know it, The keyboard's stained with tears.

And if we could see them through that screen, Then no one could deny
That to be a TRUE online friend, They too must cry.
 
Unknown
 
 
 
 
 
 ACCEPTANCE
 
 

"There is no finer way to treat people than to accept them as they are."

~ For Today, page 220

 

Truer words were never spoken.  Lack of acceptance has been the cause of all our problems, according to the AABB.  All my relationships changed the day I started accepting people exactly as they are.  Occasionally I forget and revert to my old ways (critical, judgmental), but when I remember to control my instinctive reactions and feel compassion and acceptance for the person, rather than ridicule and rejection, I feel better.  Other people are aware of my changed feelings and respond much better to me than they did in the past.

 

This is a powerful meditation for me.  I remind myself daily to accept people exactly as they are, with all their frailties, shortcomings, and other human weaknesses.  They are just like me: trying to get by in an often unfriendly world and poorly equipped to do so.

 

  ~ Voices of Recovery ~ April 4

 
 
 
 
 
TAKING CHANCES ON LIFE 
 
 
 
 
In November, 1997, I was just another garden-variety addict trying to work her OA program to the best of her ability, but something was missing. I was 47 years old, in a dead-end job, bored with the dating scene and wanting to find someone who I could share my life with.
 
 
ENTER OA by MAIL
 
I asked for a copy of the OAPenPals list and began to look through to see if I could find an online friend and I could email back and forth etc. Maybe this would take my mind off finding a mate.
 
I happened to find a name....and I wrote to this person and since it was only a first initial and last name I had NO clue who it would be.
 
That person answered BACK!! He was a COE like me, in recovery and wanted to be a pen pal. I never thought that it would lead to anything further.
 
As weeks passed we wrote back and forth and getting a letter from him in the mail was like a present my HP gave to me.
 
It was finally decided that we would meet. He would drive from his home in NY to mine in FL and we would spend time together. I never thought that we would follow through until one Saturday morning, I got a call to say "Hi, I am at XXX, when can you be here?"
 
We spend a wonderful week together and the night he was to drive back, HP nudged us together. I looked deep into his eyes into his soul and then knew I found my soul-mate and he did the same. We both began to cry because we knew that we would never be apart again.
 
Although he DID go back to NY, I did go to NY in April of 1998 to meet his family. We were married in July of 1998 in Florida and I left a job, my family (who was dead-set against this, but wanted me to be happy) and started a new life here in NY with him.
 
NEVER in my wildest dreams could I have imagined this to happen to me, but program taught me to think outside the box, take risks which may seem un-popular and risk rejection, and the results are a miracle today. We are happily married for 12 years and "practicing the principles" in all our affairs.
 
Thank you God for putting Dave in my life and for giving me the gift of willingness to go to any lengths in order to make this work  ODAT!!
 
Love In Recovery and Service,
 
Linda K
 

 

 
 
STEP FIVE: TRUSTING OTHERS

 

 

The fifth step of AA, "Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs."

"Trusting Others" is more than a name of a poem. It is a valuable lesson that needs to be learned when a person is in recovery. In my active days, I didn't trust anyone. Why should I? I didn't trust myself. My first major decision in recovery was trying to find that right person to trust - 100% - with the intimate details with the wrongs I had inflicted on others. It was not an easy decision and one I didn't just "jump into."

But when that decision was finally made and I completed my fifth step, I knew I still had the power in me to make healthy choices. I had the ability to trust... And with that... I also became trustworthy.


A step into the unknown
A step into an… experience
With the new and unexplored
With a Being… I couldn’t comprehend
Nor quite understand

With uncertainty around feelings
Was told to… trust
Easier said then done
Against everything I stood for
Against everything I practiced

A way of life… had to die
So a new way… could begin
I had to trust… first my Friend
And His guidance…
To help with my instincts

A choice had to be made
The biggest choice…
In early recovery
To tell another human
The nature of my wrongs

To talk… for the first time
Honestly and openly
With no excuses… or reasons
Why friendships were ruined
And love destroyed

Didn’t know what to expect
But if instincts were correct
He would be… by my side
Giving me strength and courage
To let it all go

More importantly though
He would also…
Be by the other person’s side
When done… acceptance
Love and forgiveness
Would light the way

©2007 DaveHarm
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
DECIDING TO TRUST AGAIN
 
 
Many of us have trust issues. Some of us tried long and hard to trust untrustworthy people. Over and again, we believed lies and promises never to be kept. Some of us tried to trust people for the impossible; for instance, trusting a practicing alcoholic not to drink again.

Some of us trusted our Higher Power inappropriately. We trusted God to make other people do what we wanted, then felt betrayed when that didn't work out.

Some of us were taught that life couldn't be trusted, that we had to control and manipulate our way through. Most of us were taught, inappropriately, that we couldn't trust ourselves.

In recovery, we're healing from our trust issues. We're learning to trust again. The first lesson in trust is this; We can learn to trust ourselves. We can be trusted. If others have taught us we cannot trust ourselves, they were lying. Addictions and dysfunctional systems make people lie.

We can learn to appropriately trust our Higher Power -- not to make people do what we want them to, but to help us take care of ourselves, and to bring about the best possible circumstances, at the best possible times, in our life.

We can trust the process -- of life and recovery. We do not have to control, obsess, or become hypervigilant. We may not always understand where we are going, or what's being worked out in us, but we can trust that something good is happening.

When we learn to do this, we are ready to learn to trust other people. When we trust our Higher Power and when we trust ourselves, we will know who to trust and what to trust that person for.

Perhaps we always did. We just didn't listen closely enough to ourselves or trust what we heard.

Today, I will affirm that I can learn to trust appropriately. I can trust myself, my Higher Power, and recovery. I can learn to appropriately trust others too.

Melody Beattie ©
 
 
 
  
 
 
FROM OA'S LIFELINE 
 
 
 

I GAIN

What do I gain from believing I can be supported and loved by a power greater than myself?

Peace that allows me to smile just to smile—regardless of my troubles.

Freedom to do as I please, knowing that spirit will catch me in spite of myself.

Surrender, knowing I no longer need to carry burdens by myself. I surrender to the knowledge that burdens are most often of my own making. Letting them go takes weight off me so I can see the dawn, smell the ocean and ride the winds of change with no drama.

Gratitude so huge it hurts.

Abundance. When I am free, I swim in abundance, in all that is good for me, through me and in me. No limits, containers or bounds exist on the goodness and richness I can have.

Opportunity at every turn—even if it is simply an opportunity to smell a rose in my neighbor's yard, feel the smile of a school-aged child or hold the heart of a dying bird. It is all an opportunity. I make it so.

Joy in knowing I am not alone, ever.

Empowerment that comes from self-atonement and is full of the forgiveness only I can give. As I release myself from the bondage of limits, I am empowered to be. What delicious freedom lies in being completely me.

Honesty. How I wish I could have had that word as a lifelong sword to defend myself from the execution of my soul if I told the unwanted truths of my youth. How thrilled I am to gain this weapon of freedom once again. It is my ticket home to my heart, my soul and the open arms of the one who supports and loves me beyond human measure.

~ Carol P., Long Beach, California

~ Lifeline ~ February 2009
 
*Lifetime Subscriptions can be ordered online by going to the OA Website at www.oa.org
 
 
 
 
TRG'S RECOVERY WRITINGS
 
 

LETTING GO

 

Dear Friends on our Journey

I was told recently that I must "let go." Those words made me panic. They were words that I didn't want to hear ... Because the times I heard them in the past were times that I thought they meant literally. I had always been under the impression that to "let go" of something or someone meant to give them up completely. And if you care for someone ... And don't want to give them up completely ... Then you certainly don't want to let them go.

In my past, I have had to "let go" of some situations in my life. These were situations which were causing me harm ... Or keeping me from realizing potential that I had in other areas. They were retarding my growth ... And in order to pursue other things, I had to "let go" of those situations to make room for things which would be good for me .... And make me a better person ... And more productive.

In my past, I have also had to "let go" of certain people in my life. In one case it was a family member and it was a painful experience but one that was necessary. I have always associated "letting go" with abandonment ... Or extinction.

Letting go does not mean abandonment or extinction in most cases. There may be some that must come to that ... But what I now know "letting go" to mean is not that at all. There is a book called "Stepping Stones to Recovery" and in this book are the following words which I have printed out ... And which I have made a vow to read each and every day until I almost know it by heart.

When someone tells me again that I must "let go", I'm going to not take them literally. At least until I make very sure that I am not holding on to them in one of the following ways:

LETTING GO

To let go doesn't mean to stop caring:
It means I can't do it for someone else.

To let go is not to cut myself off;
It is the realization that I can't control another.

To let go is not to enable,
But to allow learning from natural consequences.

To let go is to admit powerlessness,
Which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To let go is not to try to change or blame another;
I can only change myself.

To let go is not to care for,
But to care about.

To let go is not to fix,
But to be supportive.

To let go is not to judge,
But to allow another to be a human being.

To let go is not to be in the middle arranging outcomes,
But to allow others to effect their own outcomes.

To let go is not to be protective;
It is to permit another to face reality.

To let go is not to deny,
But to accept.

To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue,
But to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them

To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
But to take each day as it comes and to cherish the moment.

To let go is not to criticize and regulate anyone,
But to try to become what I dream I can be.

To let go is not to regret the past,
But to grow and live for the future.

To let go is to fear less
And love more.

Journey to Recovery

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The courage to change the things we can;
And the wisdom to know the difference.
 
"In the deepest part of a compulsive eater's soul
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