A Wellspring of Hope
Newsletter of The Recovery Group


May 2006
Volume 8, Issue 5


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the faculty or phenomenon of finding
valuable or agreeable things not sought for.


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THIS MONTH IN SERENDIPITY




FROM THE SERENDIPITY TEAM

Dear Readers,

Welcome to May's edition of Serendipity. Our job here at Serendipity is to provide you with information about events taking place in The Recovery Group community. Each month, our TRG administrators, coordinators and other trusted servants report about what's occurring in our various divisions, programs and loops. We encourage you to send us your suggestions and articles. The input of our readers is always welcomed. It is our mission to get our message of hope and recovery out to as many people as possible. Feel free to use our newsletter as a personal resource and to share it with others. Mail it to a loved one, or invite someone to look at Serendipity on the website.

This month, along with our regular articles, you will learn about TRG's new Loop Sponsor program and new trusted servant appointments in The Recovery Group. Our newest TRG Topic Team member Quenby reflects on the subject of "Worry". Janie shares on the subject of "Indecision," and Helen contributes an article entitled "Sanity."

I hope you enjoy reading this month's edition of the Serendipity newsletter. Have a wonderful May!

Love in recovery,

Rob, Serendipity Editor & The Serendipity Team
Contact:
SerendipityNewsletter@yahoo.com





RECOVERY MEDITATION
Control

"I know God will not give me anything I cannot handle.
I just wish He didn't trust me so much."

    . . . Mother Teresa

There was a time when I asked God to handle only the impossible. How dare I ask someone as busy and important as God to help me with a simple thing like food? After all, this was just a matter of using a little will-power ... of pushing myself back from the table. Or so I had been told. As I began to trust my Twelve Step program more and more, I found myself turning issues which triggered my compulsive eating over to God. It was with great relief that I began to surrender my food and other problems to Him. It was with enormous gratitude that I realized what a gift it was finally to be able to give up control and put my life in my Higher Power's hands.

ONE DAY AT A TIME ...
I relinquish control of my food.
I relinquish control of people.
I relinquish control of my life.





QUOTATIONS OF THE MONTH


"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."BR>
~ Albert Einstein ~

"Insanity runs in my family. It practically gallops."
~ Cary Grant ~



FOUNDER'S CORNER ~ MAY


OUTSIDE INTEREST

For me, May is one of the most beautiful months of the year. I've always looked at it as the last month of work before a long vacation. This is not true any longer, of course ... but I used to be a teacher and the decades of teaching set into motion a mind-set that this was the way things were supposed to be. I still tend to reassess things in May and I am going to do that in this article.

As part of my reassessment, I, and a lot of others who serve here, have had to take a hard look at what The Recovery Group is - and - isn't. A few months ago, someone wrote and wanted to know if we were an "Outside Interest?" US? Of course, not. How could a wall-to-wall 12 Step Community like the one we spend daily time in be even considered to be an "outside interest?" Mind boggling ridiculous!

We began to be told that we couldn't have our 12 Step Study translated into languages and sent to our members. Then there were some complaints that our meeting leaders were announcing our Big Book, Newcomer events and 12 Step Studies to members attending our meetings and that by doing so that we were violating Tradition Four? NO WAY! If we couldn't do that, how were we going to carry the message that we were trying to convey by WTS and the Big Book Study and the Newcomer's Orientation?!

So, I read and re-read Tradition Four and based on my interpretation and that of many others, our beloved TRG community honors this tradition as we do all the traditions. After all, they've been our guidelines for over a decade of 12 Step service.

After months of discussions, we have an answer to give to those dozens of you who wrote letters to us and to OA about the subject of Founder's Corner this month. Yes! The answer is YES. The Recovery Group is not OA. It is not part of OA. It is not affiliated with OA. It is not endorsed, sanctioned or approved by OA. OA has no opinion of The Recovery Group. The OA Board of Trustees interprets Tradition Four in this way. TRG does not. We accept that we are an Outside Interest to OA. But let me unequivocally say that OA will never be an Outside Interest to The Recovery Group.

Happy May, Loopies.

@-}-}-}------
Love in recovery,
Mari



~ LETTERS TO SERENDIPITY ~



To submit your comments or letters to the editor, simply send an email to:
SerendipityNewsletter@yahoo.com

All comments and suggestions are welcome.

Hey all!
I'm new to this. I hope I'm doing everything right.
Jen

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Dear Jen,

Welcome to The Recovery Group!
If you are brand new to TRG, you may want to join the Newcomer Orientation Session by sending a blank e-mail to:
OANewcomers-subscribe-request@lists.therecoverygroup.org

Love in recovery,
     Rob
    Serendipity Editor

Dear Serendipity,

I've been in OA almost a year, and I have a sponsor, however, I am having trouble with a food plan. I am vegan and don't eat sugar or fruit either and breakfast is really a difficult time for me. Any suggestions are welcome. Oh and I'm a newbie as far as the online meetings go. The site looks super!

PJ

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Dear PJ:

Welcome to The Recovery Group! You may find this website helpful:
http://www.therecoverygroup.org/discovery/kitchen/index.html

OA also has a leaflet with severval food plans that you can purchase by going to: www.oa.org and clicking where it says "literature."

I don't think they have a vegan plan...but many of the vegetarian plans can be modified to become vegan.

Love in recovery,
    Rob
    Serendipity Editor



~ INDECISION~



My favorite promise is,"We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us." Yet now it baffles me that intuition seems to evade me. In fact, I've been praying for the right answer per Chapter 6, page 86, of the Big Book:

In thinking about our day we may face indecision. We may not be able to determine which course to take. Here we ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought or a decision. We relax and take it easy. We don't struggle. We are often surprised how the right answers come after we have tried this for a while.
I am facing a decision I'm not sure I need or have to make. Now doesn't that sound odd? If I choose to take action it may be healing for me or it may hurt me. However, it cannot hurt me if I surrender it and the power I am giving it.

Sometimes I let tiny grains of sand build themselves into giant dunes in my mind, and this is when I need to connect with Program friends and share what's going on. It never fails that after one of these talks I'm once again feeling calm and more serene, and the clarity has returned. It left when I took back my self-will like I did when I wanted and needed instant gratification.

Haste does make waste, and most times I do "know when to hold and when to fold." Yet when I'm unsure I need to stop and ask God what to do, and He/She does answer. Now it seems the answer is "wait," and I'm going to do that for now.

Love,
Janie



~ TRG ADM ~ The Administrative Hub ~



The OANewcomers Orientation and the WTS study with John S are on their way. Both have good participation.

TRG has opened a new position (loop sponsor coordinator). In addition to our TRG Sponsors program, lists are being made within each loop. Our new coordinator Shlomo, is contacting each list and asking for members who are willing to sponsor other members of the loop.

One of the loops that has had an influx of new members is Exercise. This is a good way to commit your exercise and let the loop know when you have completed it. No goal is too small. If you're interested in a daily accounting of your exercise, please subscribe by sending a blank email to:
Exercise-SUBSCRIBE-REQUEST@LISTS.THERECOVERYGROUP.ORG

Another list we would like to mention is the ODAT loop, Creative. A very thought-provoking topic is presented each day with answers from list members that are filled with ESH. To join this list, send a blank email to:
Creative-SUBSCRIBE-REQUEST@LISTS.THERECOVERYGROUP.ORG

We would like to thank all that work so diligently to keep these rooms of recovery open for COE's throughout the world.

In loving service to all,
Nancy & Dodee, Administrators
The Recovery Group

http://www.TheRecoveryGroup.org
Contact: TRGAdm@TheRecoveryGroup.org


~ THE RECOVERY GROUP ~
ADMINISTRATIVE HIGHLIGHTS

~ ODAT LOOPS DIVISION ~

The ODAT Group Loops

The ODAT loops are for compulsive overeaters who want to discuss their Program journey with those who share a special focus. We have groups for those who share the same faith (Jewish, Christian, LDS, Pagan); groups for those who also have other addictions (Spending, Drug Abuse, AA, SexandLoveAddiction); people who are challenged by present or past relationships (Relationships, Divorce, Rainbow, Parenting, Pregnancy & Motherhood, Isolation, Homebound, Anger, Alanon, Oanon) and people who are in the same age group (Teens, Silver); those who use specific food plans (HOW, Grey sheet) and those who share a disorder/disease (Disability, Pain, Depression, Diabetes, and PMS).

Our newest group is the Cancer group. It was created for COEs who have been effected by cancer. Its coordinator is writing a series of shares about how her own journey to recovery has been impacted by her cancer. The group is now small, but it is there for whoever might need it. If you want to join this group, or want information on any of our ODAT groups, please write to the ODAT Division at the address below.

In service,
Donna
ODAT Division Chairperson

Email:
odatadm@yahoo.com
Web page: www.theRecoveryGroup.org/odat/index.html

~ RECOVERY LOOPS DIVISION ~

The Recovery Loops Division is made up of TRG's Twelve-step general sharing support groups. Our common mission is to provide a safe and supportive space for anyone who wants to recover from the disease of compulsive eating to share their experience, strength, and hope with others. In addition, some of these loops also have a special focus. The loops that make up this Division are: Anorexia and Bulimia, The Big Book, 200 Plus, Journey to Recovery, Meditations, OA Friends, OA Newcomers, OA Recovery, Relapse, Sponsor-Sponsee-Talk, Working the Steps ("WTS"), and WTS Weekly.

WTS began a new 12 Step Study in April. A new OA Newcomers Orientation session also began in April. It is not too late to join either of these groups.

Several of the Recovery Group Loops are in need of coordinators. One of these loops is the 200 Plus loop. The 200 Plus Loop focuses on compulsions and addictions relating to food. Most of our members weigh over 200 pounds... some of them considerably over that.... and this is our place to discuss the problems that come about with the disease we suffer from. We have dreams and goals and through the process of working towards these dreams and goals we hope to reach them. Although many of our members are also members of Overeaters Anonymous (OA) and other world-wide groups, the only requirement for being a member of 200 Plus is to have the desire to quit compulsively overeating. This was an active loop until it lost its coordinators at the beginning of the year. If you would be interested in becoming a coordinator or coordinator-in-training, please contact me at cheryl_stanley@msn.com. If you aren't interested in a coordinator service position but would consider sending welcome and/or farewell letters or posting daily topics, please contact me as well.

I know that giving service by being a coordinator of a loop has added a lot to my own recovery and hope that you will consider this opportunity to give service. If you are interested in becoming a coordinator or coordinator in training for one of the other Recovery Group Loops, please contact me at the email address below.

Respectfully submitted,

CherylS, Chair
The Recovery Group Loops Division

More details about these support groups can be found at:
www.theRecoveryGroup.org/trg.html
Contact: recoveryloopsadm@yahoo.com

~ DISCOVERY LOOPS DIVISION ~

This month we focus on our two kids loops. We have all read articles and heard news reports about the growing problem of obesity in young children and teens. One source I checked suggests that between 16 and 33 percent of children and teens in the United States today are obese. And as we also know, overweight children tend to become overweight adults. I know that was true for me. Overweight chldren suffer emotional and physical health problems. But there is hope. The source I checked had several suggestions:among them, changing eating habits slowly, planning meals and making healthier food choices,using portion control, eating meals as a family, not using food as a reward, and attending a support group (and OA was one of those mentioned).

I'm sure each of us knows, and may have concern, for an overweight or obese young person or teen. Cokids was designed for those of us seeking support and sharing experience, strength, and hope in our relationships with these young people. Whether friend, parent, mentor, coach, teacher, you are encouraged to check out this loop at:
http://www.therecoverygroup.org/cokids/index.html

Kids in Recovery is a loop meant especially for kids. They can join and share with each other their thoughts and feelings. If you know a young person or teen who might be interested, let them know they can check this loop out at:
http://www.therecoverygroup.org/discovery/kids/index.html

In other news, we continue to look for a second coordinator for the Exercise loop and for the AbstinentKitchen loop and one or two coordinators for Cokids.

In loving service,
Athena
Discovery Division Chair

Contact:
Web page: www.TheRecoveryGroup.org/discovery/index.html
Email: DiscoveryAdm@yahoo.com
or DiscoveryAdm@lists.TheRecoveryGroup.org

~ THE RECOVERY OA ONLINE MEETINGS ~
On-Line Meeting Division

Meetings Around the World ~ Around the Clock


We held our first Speaker Meeting on March 31st at the Friday 6 PM meeting. We were honored to have Phyllis share her experience, strength and hope with us. We had almost 60 people in our meeting room and were pleased with the turn out. Everyone seemed to enjoy it. We are planning on having at least one speaker meeting a month.

We have also added a special focus meeting to our schedule. The new meeting, HOW, is now held in our room called #HOWODAT. They meet twice a week on Tuesdays at 7 PM and Thursday at 8 AM (EST).

Our foreign meetings are also off to a good start. We now have a Italian meeting started in our room called #ItaliaOA. We are grateful to Lyndsay who will be leading our Spanish meetings starting in May.

Audrey and I will be doing a Big Book Study Meeting. These meetings will be held every Saturday night at the 9 PM (EST) meeting in the recovery room. Please bring your Big Book and join us as we start this new adventure.

We are always adding new leaders. A BIG welcome to them and a BIG thank you to our faithful leaders for making these meeting the best on the internet.

In loving service,
Terri and Audrey
(TRG Meeting Division Chairs)

Enquiries to: MtgAdm@lists.TheRecoveryGroup.org
www.TheRecoveryGroup.org/meetings/index.html



~ TRG PROGRAMS & SPECIAL SERVICES DIVISION ~



We've had some new additions to the division this month. Carolyn and Lisa have been appointed co-coordinators of our ODAT Meditations Project. They have been working hard and have already provided us with another brand new month of meditations.

As newly appointed Loop Sponsor Coordinator, Shlomo has been very busy contacting each loop, asking for members who are willing to sponsor other members of the loop in order to provide an up to date list of available sponsors in the various TRG loops.

Along with coordinating Telephone Angels, Marilyn will also be taking over the reins of the TRG Topics Team. Marilyn's e-mail address at TRG Topics Team will be:
trgtopicsteamadm@yahoo.ca

Penny and Carolyn have offered their services to assist me with miscellaneous aspects in running and producing Serendipity and will be learning the ropes over the course of the next few weeks.

My heartiest thanks to each of these TRG members for contributing their time and energy to the Programs & Services Division.

We're always looking for anyone willing to offer service. I'm currently looking for someone to help coordinate the 12 Step Anniversay Program and we're always on the hunt for those willing to sponsor. If are you interested in giving service in these areas - or are interested in ANY of our programs and services, please contact me at: TRGProserve@yahoo.com

Love in Recovery,
Rob R.

TRG Programs And Services Division Chair
The Recovery Group
(tarryrob@yahoo.ca)



~ TRG SPONSOR PROGRAM ~

WHAT DOES A SPONSOR DO?

  • A sponsor's primary responsibility is to help a sponsee work the 12 Steps.
  • A sponsor helps us work the 12 Steps by providing explanation, guidance and encouragement.
  • A sponsor helps us get established quickly in our
  • Fellowship by explaining basic concepts and terminology and by introducing us to other members.
  • A sponsor is a safe person whom we can learn to trust.
  • A sponsor can answer the many questions that we can have as newcomers or develop as "mid-timers."
  • A sponsor can help us in the process of self examination that the Steps require.
  • A sponsor encourages us to read the basic text of our Fellowship and other program literature and to engage in Fellowship activities and service work.
  • A sponsor reminds us to apply 12 Step principles in our lives.
  • A sponsor models the 12 Step program of recovery.
Serving as a sponsor reinforces our physical, emotional and spiritual recovery. It also provides an opportunity to strengthen our relationship with another and our Higher Power. Sponsoring stops us from isolating and teaches us how to be supportive of another human being seeking recovery.

Are you willing to share your recovery with others? Please contact us at:
Sponsorsadm@yahoo.com

TRG Sponsor Coordinators
       Patt and Cate
       TRG Sponsor Coordinators

www.TheRecoveryGroup.org/sponsors.html
Contact: Sponsorsadm@yahoo.com



~ THE RECOVERY TELEPHONE ANGELS ~

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Dear Telephone Angels,

Thanks for your great response to the Telephone Angels notices. Below are a few FAQ's that give you the 'skinny'' on what questions you asked most here at Telephone Angels Headquarters.

Question: What exactly is a Telephone Angel and what do they do?

Answer: A Telephone Angel is a member of TRG who donates their time and attention to helping other TRG members by giving them someone to talk to, share their ESH with, answer questions, or simply listen.
Question: What is the difference between a "Sponsor", a "Buddy", and a "Telephone Angel"?
Answer : A Sponsor is your formal guide through the program. Sponsors work just with you, or a very small number of people, and oversee your progress and program on a continuing basis. Contact is usually daily, or several times a week, and the arrangment is usually fairly longstanding. A Buddy (from the Newcomers Buddy Program) is a program designed to help newcomers meet other newcomers, so that the two can work as a team while learning to work the steps together.. A Telephone Angel is open to helping all members of TRG. They are members who are no longer newcomers, and they can help answer your questions and concerns regarding recovery by sharing their experience, strength, and hope.
Question: What sort of things do Telephone Angels talk about?
Answer: Telephone Angels talk about all kinds of subjects... Some samples would be: FRUSTRATION (as in dealing with family members or co-workers. They talk about SADNESS (as in the loss of a loved one). They talk about DEPRESSION (as in the loss of a job). They talk about their ABSTINENCE (and ideas to keep from binging). There are no set topics... as Telephone Angels usually let you choose the topic (rudeness, vulgarity, and obscenity, however, is not appreciated).
Question: How do I get a copy of the Telephone Angel Directory?
Answer: You must be a member of a loop in order to receive a copy of the directory. As a member, TRG will send you a copy of the Telephone Angels Directory as least twice a month. If you do not have your copy of the directory, you can write to Telephone Angels Administration at:
telephoneangelsadm@yahoo.com
and request a copy of the Telephone Angels Directory. (Please be sure to include the name of your loop, otherwise we will not be able to process your request, as this program is offered to TRG members only.)
I sincerely hope that you take advantage of this wonderful opportunity. It is just one of many ways in which The Recovery Group shows its commitment to helping its members find recovery; as someone just said recently, "every day, we just keep getting better and better."

To join our list of telephone angels and share your recovery with others through this service please contact:
Telephoneangels@yahoo.com

In your email please include the following information so that you may be properly listed in the directory:

  • Your name
  • Email address
  • Publish your email address? (Yes or No)
  • What city and state you live in (this way people can find someone closer to them)
  • Your phone number ~ area code and number
  • Your time zone (like Eastern Standard)
  • Best times to call?
  • Should folks leave a message or not?
  • And, any other info you want callers to know, such as: "What is the focus of your Recovery?"
Note:
  • We do not publish website mentions.
  • No advertisements or spam is allowed.
  • The Telephone Angel Directory is published as an outreach tool for our
    TRG Recovery Loop members ONLY and is PRIVATE and CONFIDENTIAL!
  • Phone numbers should never be shared under any circumstances.
Thanks in advance for considering giving service.

In service,
Marilyn (Marils)
Coordinator, Telephone Angels Directory

The Recovery Telephone Angels Program
Telephoneangels@yahoo.com.



~ NEWCOMER'S CORNER ~

Newcomers meetings are Monday and Tuesday, 8PM EST and Thursday 10PM EST

~ MEET Andrea R.~

Andrea, mother of 2 (ages 3 and 4) comes to us from Kentucky and works part time in one of her passions -landscape design.

Andrea, please tell us a little about yourself and how you came to be here at TRG.

"I was talking to a friend of mine, and she told me how she was using the steps of AA to lose weight. I was really intrigued by that. I had heard of AA, but had never heard of using steps to lose weight. When my friend told me about OA, I was really surprised. I had heard of OA, but thought that it was just another dieting group. I did not know that OA looked upon overeating as an addiction."

"My friend had been losing weight and had been doing well, so I wanted to find out more about it. Unfortunately, there are no OA meetings near me, and I really did not feel comfortable going to AA meetings when drinking was not my problem. Also, with raising two small children, it would be very difficult for me to attend daily meetings even if I did have OA meetings locally."

"I went to the OA site, and was happy to see that online meetings were listed there. I found The Recovery Group, looked over the website a bit, and started reading the Big Book online."

"Since then I have been coming to meetings, and look forward to them. Even though I am not abstinent yet, I look forward to the meetings, and love hearing the shares. Somehow the meetings take the a lot of the stress out of controlling my eating, and my mind focuses more easily on what I need, as opposed to what I want".
Andrea, is there something that you would like to share with everyone here at TRG?
"Yes. I was in a meeting and someone said, they had been living in the pollution instead of the solution. That really struck a chord in me, as I want to take good care of my body and be around a long time to enjoy my kids. I do not want to continue to pollute my body with excess and bad food."
Thank you for sharing your story with us, Andrea. It is a pleasure to have you as a member of our community.

Love in recovery,
Marilyn (TRGMarils)
Newcomer's Meeting Leader

Email:
mtgadm@lists.therecoverygroup.org



~ SANITY ~

Sometimes nature gives us the gift of wisdom whether we wish to receive it or not. My newly fragile back has led me to start the yard work earlier in the season and to do it in smaller increments so as not to cause undue discomfort. At first I chafed at the idea of devoting such little parts of my day to the yearly monumental task of cleaning up over an acre of leaves and tree limbs, but as I look out over my yard, it is cleaner earlier than it has ever been and I am not at all stressed out about having to spend several days rushing to clean it up. Doing an hour or half hour at a time, it's almost seemed as if I wasn't doing it at all, but today I noticed, with surprise, that I am over half done!

I've always told my children and staff to break up tasks into manageable chunks but it was never advice that I thought applied to me. However, having seriously begun to practice the 10th step for the first time in my life (a lot of "firsts" this year) I can see a similar wisdom in ending the day in reflection and then laying it aside. Living one "chunk" of twenty four hours at a time, I am finding that I sleep better and awake without the residual of yesterday's regret. If some part of my behavior requires apology or amends, it's right there on the pad for me to address as soon as possible. I'm amazed that such a simple activity as writing the answers to 15 reflective questions works such a wonder in my life!

I expected the program and HP to lead me to the sanity promised in Step Two, but I expected the clarity to be related to food. It's wonderful to realize that any of my insane behaviors (like the way I've always done yard work, or reports or cleaned house, etc., etc.) can be mitigated by practicing the steps.

Love in recovery,
Helen



~ GENERAL ANNOUNCEMENTS ~

TO SUBMIT AN ANNOUNCEMENT:
To submit an article to Serendipity Newsletter, simply send an email to:
serendipitynewsletter@yahoo.com



~ TRG LOOP SPONSOR PROGRAM ~



The Executive Committee and I are pleased to announce that Shlomo S. has agreed to become TRG Loop Sponsor Program Coordinator and a Recovery Speaker.

This new position does not affect the current Sponsor Program in any way and Patt and Cate will continue to manage that as they have in the past. The TRG Loop Sponsor Coordinator will focus on those loops which would like to have a Sponsor Directory within their support group. Shlomo will begin with the loops the Newcomers migrate to upon graduation (OA Friends, Journey to Recovery and OA Recovery) and also our study groups, WTS, WTS Weekly & The Big Book. We ask the Coordinators of these loops to do everything possible to elicit volunteers for their respective loop's Sponsor Directory.

Most of you know Shlomo from his work in the past as Coordinator of the OA Recovery loop, a Recovery Administrator and as WTS 12 Step Leader on two occasions. He has been in program for 10 years and a member of the OA-Israel Service Office where he is Chairman of the 12 Step Within Committee. He was Chairman of OA Israel for four years. Currently, he leads 12 Step Workshops and Retreats for OA Israel and is devoted to our program of recovery.

If you are a Coordinator and wish to have Shlomo begin a Sponsor Directory for the loop you serve, please contact him at:
shlomosh@actcom.co.il . We know you will enjoy observing the interactivity between Shlomo and your members as he recruits and activates your loops' Sponsor Directory.



~ WORRY ~


Worry is a subtle foe for me. Worry does not present itself to me as a form of fear - which it is. Nor does it present itself as some nasty character defect - which excessive worry is - most certainly.

Worry parades around in my mind like a prideful know-it-all, much smarter than everyone else who isn't worried, even smarter than God Himself.

Worry demands "What if?...", when the question ought to be, "What is my next right step, God?"

Worry likes to waste my time going over the same territory again and again. I become paralyzed watching the hypnotic revolutions of my own mind. I do not move; I am a deer caught in the headlights.

Worry says I have to figure out a solution. No one else, not even God can help. I'm on my own.

Worry is a thief that steals my "now," my peace, my joy, my strength to move ahead, my positive attitude, my energy, my zest for life. Worry destroys the quality of my life.

Some helpful things I have heard concerning worry that help me are:

  • I should doubt my doubts.
  • If I pray, why worry? If I worry, why pray?
  • I should ask myself: What is the net result of this train of thought? If it is positive, then it is not worry, it is just working through things.
  • I should talk back to my worries. I should tell them to go away and that I don't believe them. I should also tell them that I am trusting my Higher Power.
  • Sometimes my worries are really anger in disguise.
  • Sometimes I worry because I am not taking care of myself well with exercise, sleep, etc.
  • Caffeine can cause me to worry.
Blessings,
     Q (Quenby)



~ FROM THE TWELVE-STEP LITERATURE ~




~~ AN AA BIG BOOK READING~~

"It is easy to let up on the spiritual program of action and rest on our laurels. We are headed for trouble if we do, for alcohol/COE is a subtle foe. We are not cured of alcoholism/COE. What we really have is a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition. Every day is a day when we must carry the vision of God's/HP's will into all of our acivities. "How can I best serve Thee--Thy will, (not mine) be done." These are thoughts which must go with us constantly. We can exercise our will power along this line all we wish. It is the proper use of the will..(AABB page 85)

"As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day, "THY will be done". We are then in much less danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity or foolish decisions. We become much more efficient. We do not tire so easily, for we are not burning up energy foolishly as we did when we were trying to arrange life to suit ourselves.(Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, p. 87-88)

    With permission, Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc.

MY SHARE...

These paragraphs speak very loudly to me right at this moment in time. I have been worrying, fretting, crying, depressed, etc. because "I" couldn't make something important to me happen in my group. I am once again trying to take control. MY will be done not God's will. This was very upsetting to me for several days until I began to feel sick again and then finally realized that I am getting WAAAYYYY too emotionally involved in all this!

I really wanted those who read this to know that this is a very Subtle foe. I don't overeat, but I do overworry and try to control those things I cannot control. At this moment I am reminded of our beautiful Serenity Prayer. "Grant me the SERENITY to ACCEPT the things I CANNOT change, COURAGE to change the things I can, and the WISDOM to know the difference.

I really pray for all of us as we struggle DAILY, sometimes one minute at a time, to remember THY will be done!!

Many blessings and Prayers to all seeking Recovery,
    Myrlene (Big Book and Recovery Group Coordinator)



~ THE SERENITY PRAYER ~

God, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.



~ OVEREATERS ANONYMOUS CONTACTS ~

Overeaters Anonymous
World Service Office (WSO)
PO Box 44020
Rio Rancho, NM 87124 USA

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"In the deepest part of a compulsive eater's soul . . .
Is the realization that recovery begins when we find one another."

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