A Wellspring of Hope
Newsletter of The Recovery Group


January 2006
Volume 8, Issue 1


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ser*en*dip*i*ty ~ (noun) First appeared 1754:
the faculty or phenomenon of finding
valuable or agreeable things not sought for.


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THIS MONTH IN SERENDIPITY




FROM THE SERENDIPITY TEAM

Dear Readers,

Happy New Year! Welcome to our first edition of Serendipity in 2006! As always here at Serendipity, we provide you with information about the latest events taking place in The Recovery Group community. Each month, our TRG administrators, coordinators and other trusted servants report about what's occurring in our various divisions, programs and loops. You will also find Big Book articles, personal shares from fellow members, letters, comments from our readers and much more. We encourage your input and welcome you to send us your suggestions and articles. Our mission is to get our message of hope and recovery out to as many people as possible. We therefore invite you to use our newsletter as a personal resource, share it with others, mail it to a loved one, or encourage someone to look at Serendipity on the website.

This month, along with our regular articles, you will learn about exciting new changes to our Newcomer's Loop, the first Quarterly Big Book Study and our 2006 Trusted Servants lineup. Marilyn provides an insightful interview with our new Step Study Leader Shlomo, and introduces you to newcomer Karen G. in Newcomer's Corner. Lanaya gives us her thoughts on the topic of honesty through as interpreted though the lens of the Big Book and Helen provides us with an article on the art of listening.

I hope you enjoy reading this month's edition of the Serendipity newsletter. On behalf of the all of us here at the Serendipity Team, we wish you a peaceful and prosperous New Year!

Love in recovery,

Rob, Serendipity Editor & The Serendipity Team
Contact:
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RECOVERY MEDITATION
Progress, Not Perfection

"Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail."
    . . . Ralph Waldo Emerson

One of the major premises of our recovery program is "progress, not perfection." No one but me expects me to be perfect. I have a history of driving myself in the quest for perfection. I've set goals that are so lofty that I could never achieve them. In that respect, I'm probably my own worst enemy. However, I can also be my own best friend. I don't have to set standards that are impossible for me to meet. In fact, we're told we need to live one day at a time.

If I can do that, then I don't need to live up to my impossibly high standards. My goals aren't so out of reach if I can see them as daily things. What happens if I fail to meet even the "one day at a time" goal? I start over, knowing that I don't have to stay down. I can rise up and begin again. That, for me, is the greatest thing.

ONE DAY AT A TIME ...
I will rise above my failures and shortcomings, and know that I'm making progress. I don't have to be perfect any more.





QUOTATION OF THE MONTH


"Kind words can be short and easy to speak but their echoes are truly endless."

~ Mother Teresa ~



FOUNDER'S CORNER


Happy New Year, Dear Loopies,

As we say goodbye to a significant year for The Recovery Group, we say hello to an even greater one in 2006. More and more we are going to focus on what brings us all here together - the desire to quit compulsive eating. While there are programs which are almost akin to fat serenity, we here at TRG cannot do that if we are to remain a credible organization. The solutions to our food problems will be found in the Twelve steps and it will be these solutions which will be the main topics of all the loops, meetings and programs of our community.

Four events begin on Jan 1. It is the first day of the 2006 WTS Working The Steps study. With a deep love for the Steps and the Big Book, Shlomo S. brings us once again a "different" kind of study ... a workshop. We hope you'll get a sponsor and join us. It is also the day we are announcing the 2006 Trusted Servants of the Recovery Group and you will find the list in your mailboxes as soon as the Recovery Intergroup votes them in. Our OA Newcomers Loop begins the first Orientation session of 2006 today and we welcome 12 Speakers who will each speak on a different topic for 12 weeks after which those ready will graduate to a Home Loop. And finally, the Big Book will launch an exciting new way of presenting the Big Book Study. Each chapter of the Big Book will be presented once a week for 12 weeks and The BB Leader's shares will be highlighted on The Recovery Website for all to read and enjoy.

You can read more details about all of these in this issue of Serendipity.

Thank you for being a part of our Community.

Happy New Year To All,

@-}-}-}------
Love in recovery,
Mari



~ LETTERS TO SERENDIPITY ~



To submit your comments or letters to the editor, simply send an email to:
SerendipityNewsletter@yahoo.com

All comments and suggestions are welcome.

Dear Serendipity,

I cannot figure out how to get my comments into a meeting. I need instructions. When I went to FAQ board, I couldn't get to information because it is contaminated with pop-up ads.
Gratefully,
Athena

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Dear Athena,

Please contact TRG Administration at:
MTGADM@LISTS.THERECOVERYGROUP.ORG and they will be happy to assist you.

Love in recovery,
Rob R
Serendipity Editor

Hi, I'm new (2 weeks.) I've been trying desperately to find a sponsor. I've written for one and received about 7 replies and responded to about 5, but I've never heard from anyone again. I'm really needing someone to help me start working the program. Any ideas?

Lorianna

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Dear Lorianna,

Contact Patt & Cate at
Sponsors@TheRecoveryGroup.org and they will get this cleared up. You can also place an ad for a sponsor at your home loop or you can approach individuals about sponsoring at meetings. Congratulations on taking this important step on your road to recovery, Lorianna.

Love in recovery,
Rob
Serendipity Editor



~ LISTENING ~



I use certain elements in the environment as external "chimes" to remind me to reconnect to reality.... which usually means getting out of myself and being present for another person or experience. I first heard of this technique when I was learning about meditation. A randomly rung chime or gong reminds those meditating to focus and not become lost in stray thoughts.

Some of my favorite "chimes" are autumn trees in flaming salmon orange (my first chime) and the act of standing still and taking a breath, consciously focusing my attention on them. I use the latter with my staff mostly because I am so frequently physically and mentally on the go. If I become aware of a problem or someone comes to me with the need to talk, I will stop often, touch their arm, take a deep breath and say, "Tell me, I am listening!" Some of the staff who are particularly perceptive have turned the tables on me. They will ask me to stop and take a deep breath so I can get into the "Tell me, I am listening" space.

God, reading this, I sound like some kind of dervish!!! I'm not. Usually, I am very aware of others and easily available for them, but I do have a backup plan and this is it!

Of course, we addicts have many issues and I can often use meeting the needs of others to be reason to avoid spending time in my own head with my own problems. Every coin has a flip side and some of our coins have a third, I think!!! LOL!!!

Happy celebrations to everyone of whatever spiritual persuasion!!!

Love,
Helen



~ TRG ADM ~ The Administrative Hub ~



As the 11th year of The Recovery Group begins, we would like to look back at a few of the many things that have taken place this past year.

More lists have been added to our home as they were requested and a need for them has been demonstrated. More meetings are now available, including two a week for OA Newcomers. Meanwhile, the OA meetings "around the world ~ around the clock" continue to flourish. OA Newcomers list now has guest speakers to help newcomers learn about both OA and the services offered here at TRG while being supported by others just beginning their journey of recovery. "Oldtimers" are also there to share their ESH.

The year ahead looks to be just as busy. The division heads have been very busy recruiting and filling the coordinators positions for all of our lists. "Working the Steps" (WTS) has all of the leaders positions filled for 2006...and great leaders they are! More new lists are being discussed, new service positions contemplated. It looks as if another exciting year is on the horizon.

We would like to thank all of you who are a part of The Recovery Group. You are the reason this home remains for all of us who need a place of understanding as we deal daily with our disease of compulsive eating.

In loving service to all,
Dodee, Nancy and Audrey, Administrators

http://www.TheRecoveryGroup.org
Contact: TRGAdm@TheRecoveryGroup.org


~ THE RECOVERY GROUP ~
ADMINISTRATIVE HIGHLIGHTS

~ ODAT LOOPS DIVISION ~

The ODAT groups are groups of people who are compulsive overeaters, but who also have a common focus. We discuss our common focus, and how it effects our journey to recovery. We have groups for people who share the same faith; who share the same age group; who have other addictions than food; and who have medical issues in addition to our addiction to overeating.

One of these groups is our Diabetes group. It is a group of compulsive overeaters who are diabetic, and want to discuss the challenge of working the Program as a diabetic. We discuss regulation of our food, and our medication; as well as balancing activity with rest and leisure. If you are a diabetic who would like to discuss your compulsive overeating with other diabetics, please send a blank email to:
diabetes-subscribe-request@lists.therecoverygroup.org

Donna
ODAT Division Chairperson

Email: ODATAdm@lists.therecoverygroup.org
Web page: www.theRecoveryGroup.org/odat/index.html

~ RECOVERY LOOPS DIVISION ~

The Recovery Loops Division is made up of TRG's Twelve-step general sharing support groups. Our common mission is to provide a safe and supportive space for anyone who wants to recover from the disease of compulsive eating to share their experience, strength, and hope with others. We also have non-12 Step focused loops which include Anorexia and Bulimia, The Big Book, 200 Plus, Journey to Recovery, Meditations, OA Friends, OA Newcomers, OA Recovery, Relapse, Sponsor-Sponsee-Talk, Working the Steps (WTS), and WTS Weekly.

As many of you already know, TRG has been working on realigning the OA Newcomers loop to its original mission. Mari is overseeing this process. The OA Newcomers loop is an orientation loop that anyone new to a 12 Step program should join for several weeks and ask questions and informally discuss program things with "old-timers." It is expected that, after becoming more familiar with the workings of OA and the TRG loops that the Newcomer would then adopt one of our general sharing loops as their "home"loop. The move to an existing general sharing loop rather than moving as a group to a new general sharing loop was confirmed by a group conscience taken this month.

Loops in need of coordinators are Anorexia and Bulimia (1), Relapse (1), Meditations (2), and Sponsor-Sponsee Talk (2). Please send an email to:
RecoveryloopsAdm@yahoo.com if you would like to provide service as a coordinator for one of these loops.

Respectfully submitted,

CherylS, Chair
The Recovery Group Loops Division

More details about these support groups can be found at:
www.theRecoveryGroup.org/trg.html
Contact: recoveryloopsadm@yahoo.com

~ DISCOVERY LOOPS DIVISION ~

Hello Everyone,

This month we're featuring the Exercise loop. Especially during holidays, things may seem rushed and frenzied, and that can easily become a downer. On the Exercise loop, you can let off steam, feel good about your exercise efforts, and benefit from others' ESH while others, in turn, can benefit from yours.

Several of us post daily on our exercise goals or we list what we've done for our exercise that day, or do both. For me, it's been excellent accountability to know I will post each day. We share tips on types of exercise, on how to avoid and/or deal with injury, and what exercise videos or machines are particularly good.

Exercise is a very caring and friendly loop. I look forward to reading others' shares, seeing if each person made their goal, celebrating when they do and providing encouragement if they are discouraged about a setback. In turn, I appreciate their encouragement when I have my own setbacks.

Exercise can be a valuable part of our self-care and recovery efforts. Many of us have medical conditions in addition to being COE's and exercise can really be helpful here. For some of us it can be a tool in relieving depression or in managing diabetes, for example.

We also have links to running and walking organizations, and to compulsive exercising.

So try out this loop. We'd love to see you there.

http://www.therecoverygroup.org/discovery/exercise/index.html

Love and hugs,
Athena
Discovery Division Chair

Contact:
Web page: www.TheRecoveryGroup.org/discovery/index.html
Email: DiscoveryAdm@yahoo.com
or DiscoveryAdm@lists.TheRecoveryGroup.org

~ THE RECOVERY OA ONLINE MEETINGS ~
On-Line Meeting Division

Meetings Around the World ~ Around the Clock

Happy new recovery year to everyone!! Thanks to all who participated in the Holiday Marathons, making our meeting room a real place of comfort for those who struggle with so many issues during the holiday period. Well done for keeping the room open and extending many much needed hands of fellowship right across the world.

Welcome to all our new leaders!! Thank you for so willingly giving service to our meetings. We still have some meeting times that need to be filled, and we especially need leaders from outside the US to fill those early morning timeslots!! If you can help out, please write to:
mtgadm@lists.therecoverygroup.org. We would love to hear from you!!

In loving service,
Terri and Christine
On-Line Meeting Co-Coordinators

Enquiries to: MtgAdm@lists.TheRecoveryGroup.org
www.TheRecoveryGroup.org/meetings/index.html



~ TRG PROGRAMS & SPECIAL SERVICES DIVISION ~



Programs & Special Services Division is a rapidly growing area of The Recovery Group and contains a variety of TRG programs and projects including TRG Sponsor Program, TRG Telephone Angels, Serendipity, Serenity, TRG Topics Team, Recovery Meditations, Recovery Meditations Book Project, Recovery Message Board, Recovery Photo Album, Recovery 12 Step Anniversaries, Recovery Talk Room on Main Website, Recovery Guestbooks and Counters, Recovery Bravenet Features, Outreach Programs with other Online Groups, and the Writer's Series.

We need creative energetic people to serve in a number of areas. With a new WTS Quarterly coming up, TRG Sponsor Program requires an influx of new sponsors. Telephone Angels also has need of volunteers willing to give a few hours a week of their time to take phone calls from those in need. We also are currently looking for new submissions for Recovery Meditations for 2006 and for writers to help with the TRG Topic Team. If you interested in giving service in these areas - or are interested in ANY of our programs, please contact me at the address below.

Love in Recovery,
Rob R

TRG Programs And Services Division Chair
The Recovery Group
(
tarryrob@yahoo.ca)



~ TRG SPONSOR PROGRAM ~

Many of us look at a new year as a time to review our lives and renew our commitments through resolutions. If you are seeking a new way to share and strengthen your recovery, perhaps it is time to serve as a TRG sponsor. Here are a few resources to assist you in this service!

OA says that we can sponsor up to the level of our own recovery. Most of us sponsor members through the 12 steps in the way we were sponsored by our own sponsor.

Some members act as a "food sponsor" and their sponsee sends their food plan into them on a daily basis.

TRG has a program called "Working the Steps" and you can read the different ways that the leaders have sponsored on that loop over the years by going to the following website, and reading what is there:
    
http://www.therecoverygroup.org/wts/index.html

Also, you can purchase two great pamphlets (.75 cents each ) by going to these OA official websites:

If you are ready to serve as a sponsor, please write and we will add you to the sponsor directory right away!

Happy New Year!

For information on becoming a TRG sponsor, please write to the contact address given below.

Happy New Year!
       Patt and Cate
       TRG Sponsor Coordinators

www.TheRecoveryGroup.org/sponsors.html
Contact: Sponsors@TheRecoveryGroup.org



~ THE RECOVERY TELEPHONE ANGELS ~

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THE RECOVERY GROUP TELEPHONE ANGELS PROGRAM

Ever feel alone? Has the sound of silence ever been too loud? Here is an opportunity to change this for someone else, and give service at the same time!

If you have a telephone number and are willing to accept calls from TRG Members (only), you can "carry the message" to those who are in isolation!

A life will be touched and changed for the better just because a TRG Member saw your listing in the Telephone Angel Directory!

I was once 386 pounds of isolation. To me, this was normal and a part of my condition. Isolation was what I got, and talking with someone or making a friend were for those other fortunate "normies." After all, no one would understand what I was going through, or so I believed.

Just listening to someone who is hurting can ease the pain and lift the spirit.

Please consider becoming a Telephone Angel. It is such an amazing way to give back and serve at the same time.

To become a Telephone Angel, please email:
Telephoneangels@yahoo.com and provide us with the following info:

  • Your name
  • Email address
  • Publish your email address? (Yes or No)
  • What State you live in (this way people can find someone closer to them)
  • Your phone number ~ area code and number
  • Your time zone (like Eastern Standard)
  • Best times to call?
  • Should folks leave a message or not?
  • And, any other info you want callers to know
Note:
  • We do not publish website mentions.
  • No advertisements or spam is allowed.
  • The Telephone Angel Directory is published as an outreach tool for our
    TRG Recovery Loop members ONLY and is PRIVATE and CONFIDENTIAL!
  • Phone numbers should never be shared under any circumstances.
Thank you for considering performing this service for those who still suffer.

Yours in recovery, and for the TRG Administration,
January Keck
Coordinator, Telephone Angels Directory
The Recovery Telephone Angels Program
Telephoneangels@yahoo.com.



~ THE RECOVERY GROUP TRUSTED SERVANTS ~


Today we will announce the 2006 Trusted Servants of the Recovery Group and you will find the list in your mailboxes as soon as the Recovery Intergroup votes them in. Our Trusted Servants are the special people at TRG who provide their time, energy and talents to keep the various loops, programs and service of THE RECOVERY GROUP running ship shape.

In 2006, there have been some changes to the TRG Trusted Servants policy. We have an established protocol for appointing new Coordinators and Coordinators-in-Training. All new appointees by the Division Chairs will be known as Coordinators -in-Training for a period of three months while they receive training. A Trusted Servant training website has been created to help ensure the that all new Coordinators have access to the information they will need to handle all situations they may encounter as a Trusted Servant. The Coordinator- in-Training will work closely with their Division Chair, TRGAdm and TRG's Founder in becoming comfortable with the job. Coordinators are appointed and announced only after it's assured that the new Coordinator has thoroughly read the Coordinator's website, read and committed to the Recovery Guidelines and Traditions and understands and has committed to the terms of Service.

TRG's goal is to have two Coordinators for every loop by 2007. To be trained to be a Trusted Servant, send a blank email addressed to:
TrustedServantsPool-subscribe-request@lists.therecoverygroup.org.

We are most grateful to all our Trusted Servants at The Recovery Group - they are our most precious commodity.



~ NEWCOMER'S CORNER ~

Newcomers meetings are Monday and Tuesday, 8PM EST and Thursday 10PM EST

~ MEET Karen G. ~

Karen G comes to us from NY state and tells me that it was the cold weather, in part, that drove her to the internet in search of a way to keep those pesky, winter pounds from "creeping-up" on her.

"During the warm months I get a lot of exercise from being outside. During winter, however, I have a tendency to burrow into my home and not even go to the gym. Before I know it, I have gained 10, maybe even an extra 20 lbs. through the winter months in addition to my regular extra pounds."

"For years I tried lots of diets, lots of exercise, and even a couple of diet centers, but my success never lasted very long. Finding this site was totally a new experience for me. I came, looking for a diet. What I found was much more. For the first time, I was thinking about non-food issues, and realized that there was much more behind my eating than what I had suspected. Suddenly, it all started to make sense, and I was looking at fixing the problem in a whole new way, and with a whole new attitude."

"I have a tendency to be very willful. I did not know that when I started. Since coming to meetings, however, I have seen how I created a lot of the problems associated with my compulsive eating, and have made strides in paying more attention to my needs, and my family's needs on a physical level. I have also begun to come out of my shell and realize that talking about it helps a lot, as does finding people who understand. It is now something that I can talk about with my children (ages 9 and 14) and husband. (Something that I was always too ashamed to do, before.)

"It is so wonderful to be able to sit down with my family and discuss what our food choices are. I do not want my children to go through what I have gone through with excess weight and a lack of self-esteem because of it."
Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us, Karen. It is a pleasure to have you as a member of our group.

Love in recovery,
Marilyn (TRGMarils)
Newcomer's Meeting Leader

Email:
mtgadm@lists.therecoverygroup.org



~ CHANGES TO 'OA NEWCOMERS' LOOP ~

The OA Newcomers Loop 2006 has undergone some very big changes! In its new format, the loop has been divided into four quarterly Orientation sessions. The sessions are led by twelve experienced Trusted Servants who will give the Newcomers the benefit of their ESH on pertinent topic areas. Newcomers are given questionnaires to complete at the end of each topic and are given the opportunity to ask questions and share concerns daily at the Newcomer's Loop. After completing the 12-week orientation, Newcomers will experience the the highlight of their orientation as they graduate and are all settled into one of three new home loops - - Journey to Recovery, OA Recovery and OA Friends.

The first quarterly Newcomers Orientation Session will begin Jan 1-March 31. To join, e-mail:
OANewcomers-subscribe-request@lists.therecoverygroup.org.



~ GENERAL ANNOUNCEMENTS ~

TO SUBMIT AN ANNOUNCEMENT:
To submit an article to Serendipity Newsletter, simply send an email to:
serendipitynewsletter@yahoo.com



~ HONESTY ~


"Who wishes to be rigorously honest and tolerant? Who wants to confess his faults to another and make restitution for harms done? Who cares anything about a Higher Power, let alone meditation and prayer? Who wants to sacrifice time and energy trying to carry A.A.'s message to the next sufferer? No, the average alcoholic, self centered in the extreme, doesn't care for this prospect - unless he has to do these things on order to stay alive himself." 12&12 p. 24

WOW! That sure sums up the program and where honesty fits in, doesn't it?

That pesky honesty proposition. I was at the bank the other day and I am ashamed to tell you that my pen was starting to run out of ink and I wanted to take the pen the bank sent me in the tube at the drive through! I really wanted that pen and wanted to take it! I said so to my husband. He said it wasn't worth it and he was so right. I am ashamed to say that I really was considering taking the pen.

The wonderful thing is that God moved my lips and I said it out loud, which was a defense against the insane action.

There are a thousand little places where I can lie or be dishonest each day and the measure of how much I do so is the extent of the health of my spiritual condition. If I believe that I can tolerate even an iota of dishonesty - I am fooling myself! If I believe that I can present one picture to the world while knowing that I am someone different on the inside I am in trouble.

My entire recovery has been spent trying to sync this up...inside and outside matching. I am not talking about sharing things that are best left unsaid or about having to share everything with everyone. I am talking about my motives and whether fear is my counsel in general.

If I want to be abstinent, which I believe is another word for removing that which blocks me from myself and God, then I must be honest - rigorously so. And it is SUCH A WONDERFUL relief and release. Talk about waking up a new "man" and being rocketed into a 4th dimension of existence! Woohoo....!

Thank God, I did not take the pen.

Love,
      Lanaya



~ FROM THE TWELVE-STEP LITERATURE ~




~~ FROM THE AA BIG BOOK ~~

THE TWELVE PROMISES

"We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity. And we will know peace.

No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others.

That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain insight in our fellows. Self-seeking will slip away. Our whole attitude and outlook will change.

Fear of people and economic insecurity will leave us. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us. We will suddenly realize that

God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves."
    c. 2001, AABB, page 53

MY SHARE...

I decided to do the PROMISES as the last Big Book article for the newsletter this YEAR! (Unbelievable already!) These are the promises given us by years of constant recovery from thousands of people. All we have to do is a Simple Program, but NOT Easy. It is TOO easy for us to slip back into our old habits and I know all too well how that goes.!! It takes study every day, praying and meditation to LISTEN to our Higher Power/G-d's Will for us.

I have the bad habit of feeling very serene and self-confident and then slacking on the study and meetings that brought me to that point! I say this as an awareness for others following in my footsteps. I am presently starting again what we call the Waltz Step. Going back to Steps 1 -2 -3.

I "know" this program works. I've already been there and felt the effects of some of the Promises. But I have to keep reminding myself again that I am NOT G-d, and that I have to quit taking Control of everything!

It is a constant process, ODAT (One Day At a Time)! It is my promise to you that you will feel the wonderful new effects as you work through the Steps. You have to remember that weight loss is not the main part of this Study. It is Mental as well. Trying to Change the bad habits of a lifetime, but this time with a Higher Power's help. Also with the help of all the ones in the The Recovery Group.

Our slogan speaks well - it says, "Together we can do what we could Never do alone!! "

Many Blessings on your Path To Recovery,

Much Love in Recovery,
    Myrlene (Big Book and Recovery Group)



~ BIG BOOK STUDY CHANGES - 2006~

The Big Book will be introducing exciting new changes for the Big Book Study presentation in 2006. Each chapter of the Big Book will be presented once a week for 12 weeks and The BB Leader's shares will be highlighted on The Recovery Website for all to read and enjoy.

We would like the whole internet to know of our newly formatted Big Book Study, so we can reach out to COE's who don't have access to tools like this - so spread the word!

The Big Book First Quarter Study will begin Jan 1-March 31. To join, please e-mail:
TheBigBook-subscribe-request@lists.therecoverygroup.org.



~ MEET OUR NEW STEP STUDY LEADER ~ SHLOMO ~
Marilyn's Interview

Shlomo's Introduction:

"I joined the program 10 years ago and have been active in OA ever since working the steps, giving service, leading step work shops and sponsoring.

In all my time at OA, I was never without a sponsor and always gave service which I will continue to do for the rest of my life. I was also active in TRG, gave service and led a step study in 2002.

This program literally saved my life since I was very obese and had all kinds of diseases as a result of my constant binging.

The Doctors didn't give me much time to live unless I lost the excess weight and I tried but could not. I tried dieticians, physicians, psychologists, psychiatrists, hypnosis and self hypnosis pills, alternative medicine like acupuncture, homeopathy, all kinds of energy healings, spiritual groups, whatever. You name it I tried it. All except surgery. I knew it would not work for me since I already understood that for surgery to work it should be done on my mind and no one knew how to do it, not even all kinds of spiritual groups and classes, and self help methods. Nothing worked.

The only thing that worked at last was the 12 step program. So here I am to share how it works for me."

Marilyn: "Shlomo, how do you see the WTS Study facilitating recovery? (Especially for those who are relatively new to the program)"
Shlomo:

"The earlier one begins working the steps the better."

WTS gives a time frame for the work and this is important since procrastination is one of the most prevalent character defects. One is encouraged to work with a sponsor, which is essential since one cannot work the steps alone. Participating and sharing with others gives encouragement to carry on."

Marilyn: Can you describe briefly what the WTS study is and how it works?
Shlomo:
"It will be a workshop: In this workshop one will be given action instructions for each step in addition to the information needed to carry out the actions and will share about his carrying out the actions in the present and the results of the actions.

The participants will be encouraged to ask me questions ask for clarifications and for explanations of unclear points or untouched points. This part is very important for the better understanding of the workshop and the carrying out of the action instructions. One can generally group the participants into two groups, those who worked all twelve steps at least once and are continuing to work them, and those who have not worked the steps yet or have not worked all the 12 steps.

Parts of the work assignments to the two groups will be different. So that part of the work will be divided into two levels. For example: When one has worked all the steps and is abstinent and free of food obsession for some time, his current connection to step one is different than for one who just begins the work. The only 12 step text book that will be used in this workshop is the book ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS (the BIG BOOK), with the needed adaptations to food.

This is the only book that really works for me and it simplifies matters if there is only one book to study in the workshop."

Marilyn: Is there anything you would like to say to those who are signed up for the study?
Shlomo:
"What we have is recovery from the addiction to food via a spiritual awakening as the result of working all 12 steps. The first requirement for recovery is the willingness to go to any length which means the firm commitment to do all actions that are needed to work all twelve steps. There is also a clear explanation that half measures avail us nothing which means that doing just part of the work does not result in partial recovery. It results in no recovery at all. This is an all or nothing package deal. So to all of us, who are sick and tired of being sick and tired, just commit to work all the 12 steps and do it no matter what.

The results are beyond our wildest dreams."



~ THE SERENITY PRAYER ~

God, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.



~ OVEREATERS ANONYMOUS CONTACTS ~

Overeaters Anonymous
World Service Office (WSO)
PO Box 44020
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