A Wellspring of Hope
Newsletter of The Recovery Group


January 2004
Volume 6, Issue 1



ser*en*dip*i*ty ~ (noun) First appeared 1754:
the faculty or phenomenon of finding
valuable or agreeable things not sought for.


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THIS MONTH'S FEATURED ARTICLES

From Our Editor
Founder's Corner
From the TRG Administration
From Our ODAT Committee
From The Recovery Loops' Coordinator
From Our TRG Sponsor Program
Letters to the Editor
Announcement ~ WTS: Twelve Steps in Twelve Weeks
For Kids, Teens and Parents/Guardians
January Loop Spotlights:
Spanish and Recovery
Sponsors and Recovery
Strong Recovery
Teens ODAT
From The Recovery Group Members
Recovery Writers' Series
From the Literature
Recovery Meditations Calendar
The Recovery Group Online Meetings
Overeaters Anonymous Contacts
Recovery Group Contacts
Serenity Prayer





~ FROM OUR EDITOR ~

Hello, Serendipity Readers,

Happy New Year to you all; I hope it brings a year of happiness, good health, and steady recovery to each one of you.

This issue, the first of 2004, is one I hope you enjoy; there should be something for everyone in it. In her Founder's Corner, Mari reminds us that the WTS Twelve Steps in Twelve Weeks Step Study begins on January 1, and is a wonderful way to better ourselves in this new year. Several other articles emphasize and describe this quarterly step study, also. If you haven't already joined, please consider doing so, at least as one who receives and reads the leader's shares and questions.

A related item to note is that the topics for online meetings will be aligned with the step currently being worked in the WTS step study. This means that meetings for the first week of January (and future studies in April, July, and October) will have Step One as their primary subject, with sub-topics relating to that step. And so on, through each week of each quarter.

As regular items, we have articles from various TRG administrators, who work very hard and give service to TRG. With their help, jobs are spread out and work loads lightened. We have also spotlighted and focused on several of The Recovery Group loops; they cover a broad range, from COEs with disabilities to Spanish-speaking COEs to COEs who are kids or teenagers. Perhaps one of these descriptions will spark an interest in you to join or offer service.

This month's Recovery Writers Series again focuses, as it did a year ago, on the writings in "The Odyssey: a personal Journey". For this and the next two months you will get to hear from a wonderful man who has been on his journey to recovery for over a year. His is an inspiring story, and we are fortunate that he is sharing it with us.

Myrlene has chosen a Big Book reading for us this month concerning our perception of a Higher Power, about which she has also given us her own thoughtful, personal reflection.

As always, I ask that you send me any comments you would like to make (positive or negative); I look forward to your input. That's what the Letters to the Editor column is for, as well as the column: "From The Recovery Group Members". This is your newsletter; I value your input.

Love and blessings for a good year ahead,

     Marty
     Editor, SERENDIPITY
     Newsletter of The Recovery Group





~ FOUNDER'S CORNER ~ HAPPY NEW YEAR~


Dear Friends ~

Benjamin Franklin wrote "Be always at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let each new year find you a better man."

We have begun a new year and it's a time when many of us reflect on the past year and make resolutions to "do better." I can think of no better way to begin the new year than by working or re-working the Twelve Steps. The WTS Twelve Steps in Twelve Weeks Step Study begins on January 1, 2004 and will conclude March 31. I'm not sure which vices we will uncover, or if any of us are not at peace with our neighbors .... but I can almost guarantee that at the completion of working the Twelve Steps we will be better people.

Thank you all for being part of our Recovery Group Twelve Step community. May the year 2004 hold many blessings for each of you.

@-}-}-}------
Love in recovery,
Mari




~ FROM THE TRG ADMINISTRATION ~

The highlight of January is always the announcing of the new term of Trusted Servants for the Recovery Group. Each of us shares a connected space in our chain of recovery ... and this chain reaches around the world. Soon, the list of the 2004 Trusted Servants will be sent to the Recovery Intergroup and, shortly after that, announced to all members of TRG.

TRGAdm is the administrative hub from which all the loops, meetings, studies and services come together to make up The Recovery Group Community. It is quite a busy place. We are a family ... and fight, make up, love, grump about things, help one another and are always there when someone needs us. TRG Administration is a conduit through which the life blood of the community flows and if we do our job right, we find a common thread connecting the loops, meetings, studies and services.

Our Trusted Servants range from newcomers to old-timers and everything in between. Some have found abstinence for the first time and others have been blessed for decades. There are times when a newcomers imparts the wisdom found mostly in the oldtimers and the oldtimers go back to their roots and begin again. Our Trusted Servants understand this disease ... and carry the message via their service.

We invite anyone interested in serving others to join our Trusted Servant Pool by sending a blank email to:
TrustedServantsPool@yahoogroups.com.

It is here that positions are announced first, and it is here that the beginning of what may turn out to be the best job you've ever had begins.

TRGADM administrators





~ FROM OUR ODAT ADMINISTRATION ~

The Recovery Group is made up of several branches, the ODAT loops being one of them. ODAT loops are special-focus loops, and there are many, many of them! You might say that there's a loop out there for every possible interest, but in reality, we just have a lot! The main premise for having the ODAT loops is that it's a lot easier for a compulsive overeater to share and communicate with others who have similar interests or problems. We have loops from A-Z; from an "AA" loop to a "WLS" (Weight Loss Surgery) loop; well, _almost_ A-Z!
A full list of ODAT loops can be found at:
http://recovery.hiwaay.net/odat/index.html.

Take a look at the list, poke around a bit, and you're bound to soon find a loop to which you'll be able to relate.

The ODAT committee's mission is to serve the members of TRG. We work hard to keep the loops as safe places for you to share your experience, strength and hope with each other.

http://www.TheRecoveryGroup.org/odat/index.html





~ THE RECOVERY LOOPS COORDINATOR ~



Hi, Everyone!

January 1st is the time that we have rotation of service for those who want to move on, so we are looking for people to do service on the loops to which they belong. Here are some items of interest in TRG's loops:

~ Newcomers loop is a short-term loop for people just finding out about OA or about TRG. Members are either new to the program, new to online OA, or are seasoned members who help to answer questions.

~ Anorexia and Bulimia is a vital loop, which is working hard to stay in the solution and give hope to those still in the problem. They have their Trusted Servants all set for 2004.

~ OA Friends has survived an administrative probe and is moving on. I'd like to see more participation, but enjoy the conversations -- similar to those I have with my OA friends.

~ Relapse and Recovery has some new members coming back to the program and heading in the right direction.

~ Big Book will be starting the book again January 1st.

~ Working the Steps (WTS) will be starting a step study in January. I have been asked to lead this study and am looking forward to it.

~ Journey to Recovery is still a checking-in place for many members.

~ HOTJ is small right now. Do you have or have you had 100 pounds to lose? You could share your ESH there.

~ Italian JTR, French and Recovery, German and Recovery, and Spanish and Recovery still exist for members who speak and write those languages.

~ There is also a loop called The Recovery Loop, which was one of the first -- if not the first -- loops in The Recovery Group. There are people sharing there with much recovery.

Dodee
Coordinator of Recovery Loops
RecoveryLoopsAdm@lists.TheRecoveryGroup.org





~ FROM OUR RECOVERY GROUP SPONSOR PROGRAM ~



Dear Friends,

The Recovery Group maintains a Sponsor Program because we believe that Sponsorship is the key to success in the Twelve Step Recovery Program.

There are as many kinds of sponsors as there are individuals. Some sponsors feel their role is that of a friend. Others are more rigid and take a highly structured approach to sponsoring. Some are easy-going and laid back. Others use tough love. As the sponsor and sponsee get to know one another, their relationship evolves and becomes one where each others' needs are met.

"Having a sponsor is the best way to learn how to be a sponsor: we are taught by example. We also learn to sponsor by doing." (from 'A Guide for Sponsors', Overeaters Anonymous)

Having a sponsor is an essential part of our recovery from our disease of compulsive overeating, anorexia, bulimia, binge disorder (or any of the other descriptions for our disease) which is, for all intents and purposes, killing us.

Being a sponsor, and giving back what we have so generously been given is just as essential as having a sponsor! It is a spiritual axiom that we cannot keep what we do not give away. We must give back!

Having confidence as a sponsor is not difficult, because we have a sponsor ourselves; someone we can emulate in the way that we now sponsor, and also someone we can go to for help when needed as we sponsor others.

To find out about the Recovery Sponsor Program go to:
http://recovery.hiwaay.net/sponsors.html.

For both Sponsors and Sponsees there is a loop within The Recovery Group to join and ask questions, share our experience, strength and hope, as well as any issues that come up as we sponsor or are sponsored. The loop is "Sponsors and Recovery" at
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sponsorsandrecovery/.

If you have questions, suggestions or need the Sponsor Directory and Biographies for TRG's Sponsor Program, please write the address below, and don't forget you _must_ include the name of the Recovery Group to which you belong. Write to:
Sponsors@TheRecoveryGroup.org.

If you wish to contact all the sponsors at once, and describe the kind of sponsor you're looking for and a little about yourself, please write the address below, and (again) don't forget you _must_ include the name of the Recovery Group loop to which you belong:
RecoverySponsors@yahoogroups.com

If you would like to become a Recovery Sponsor and serve The Recovery Community in this very important way, please let us know by writing to:
TRGSponsorsAdm@lists.TheRecoveryGroup.org

Thank you.

In loving service to all,

   Dreena and Patt, Sponsor Coordinators
   The Recovery Group Sponsor Program Trusted Servants
   www.TheRecoveryGroup.org



~ LETTERS TO THE EDITOR ~



~ Please consider submitting a Letter to the Editor. ~



~ ANNOUNCEMENTS ~



ANNOUNCING: WTS: Twelve Steps in Twelve Weeks (1st Quarter, 2004)

Begining January 1, 2004, Dodee will be leading the first Quarter "WTS: Twelve Steps in Twelve Weeks" study.

By virtue of her being involved in many aspects of The Recovery Group, Dodee has the advantage of observing the human nature of COES from many perspectives, and promises to bring a unique leadership to this twelve- week study.

Each week of the study, Dodee will share her insight on a different step. She will then pose questions about the step, to which the participants respond, both to the other members and to their sponsor. It sometimes happens, during the quarter, that a member's share will inspire another member to share his/her own experience, strength and hope and a thread will develop. When this happens, it makes for a particularly "well-worked" step.

One requirement to becoming an active participant of this group is to have an individual step sponsor. If you already have one, that's fine. If, however, you need one, TRG has a wonderful Sponsor program, through which you can find an online sponsor. More on this subject can be found in these Serendipity articles: "FROM OUR RECOVERY GROUP SPONSOR PROGRAM" and the "SPONSORS AND RECOVERY" loop spotlight.

Please note that WTS is not a general sharing loop. That is, all shares must specifically relate to the Steps and how they apply to the member's own recovery. Private sharing is done outside the loop, on a member-to-member basis only.

If you would like to join the January 1, 2004 Step Study, please do the following:

Send an email to Listserv@Maelstrom.stjohns.edu
No subject necessary
In the body of the message type:
     Subscribe WTS FirstName LastInitial

If, however, you just want the Leader's shares, please join WTSStudy by sending a blank email to:
WTSStudy-subscribe-request@lists.therecoverygroup.org. This is a non-sharing loop, whose members receive and are able to read only the leader's Shares and Questions each week.

As Mari stated in her Founder's column, this is a wonderful way to have a new beginning in this new year. Come climb on board; the journey begins today!

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~ FOR KIDS, TEENS AND PARENTS/GUARDIANS ~



We care about the children in our world, and are offering a safe place for them to "hang out", and share their thoughts, worries, and frustrations. Since we, as adults, are aware that our own overeating problems had their seeds "way back" in our childhood, we see the value in having children learn how to deal with the worries, frustrations, stresses, etc. that they may be experiencing and then heading to food over. To this end, we at TRG offer three different groups/loops: COKids, Kids and Discovery, and Teens One Day at a Time.

"COKids" is for adults (parents or guardians); a place for them to share and discuss the problems they may be seeing developing in children in their lives. It is a place for them to share and discuss the problems their children are experiencing.

"Kids and Discovery" is for kids, a place that offers them a place to share what's going on in their lives; a place where they are welcomed with open arms and listened to by other kids with the same sort of problems. What these kids cannot do alone, they _can_ do together.

"Teens One Day at a Time" is a discussion group for teen-agers who have eating disorders and wish to have a safe place to share their experience, strength and hope about this disease, as well as the worries and frustrations that are often felt at this stage in their lives. This month, TeensODAT welcomes Rose, its new coordinator! There is more on this loop below, since it is in the "spotlight" this month.

If any of these loops interests you, please check them out at the urls below. If you know of someone else who might be interested, please pass the information along, and invite him/her to join us.


~ JANUARY LOOP SPOTLIGHTS ~

SPANISH AND RECOVERY

Spanish and Recovery is a loop which is conducted completely in spanish, for those compulsive overeaters who need or prefer this medium. There are close to 500 members of this loop, which was formed almost five years ago. Here is the welcoming paragraph of the group's home page:

"La lista de Recuperación en Español es un grupo de discusión formado por hombres y mujeres de habla hispana que son comedores compulsivos y desean compartir su experiencia, fortaleza y esperanza el uno con el otro. Nuestro grupo de discusión por internet es un grupo afiliado a Comedores Compulsivos Anónimos y nos guiamos por medio de las Doce Tradiciones de CCA. Solo existe un requerimeinto para afiliarse a Recuperación en Español, y es el deseo de dejar de comer compulsivamente. Creemos que lo que nunca pudimos hacer solos, lo podemos lograr juntos--un día a la vez."
If you are interested in this loop, or know of someone who might be, here are the urls of pages (in Spanish!) which will help you with more information:

http://recovery.hiwaay.net/special/spanish.html or
http://espanol.groups.yahoo.com/group/SpanishandRecovery

Suscribir:
SpanishandRecovery-subscribe@gruposyahoo.com

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/address.html/"TARGET=_top> SPONSORS AND RECOVERY

Sponsors and Recovery is a loop within The Recovery Group community which provides a place for both sponsors and sponsees to share their experience, strength and hope, as well as ask questions and participate in discussions regarding sponsor/sponsee issues. Whether it be that a Sponsor needs to share anonymously about a particular difficulty with a Sponsee, or that a Sponsee has a question about something their sponsor is doing and wants to get input from others, this loop is dedicated to that purpose. Please remember, though, to maintain anonymity and to not use personal names of either sponsor or sponsee.

To read more about this group, please visit the following webpage: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/sponsorsandrecovery/

To join Sponsors and Recovery, please send a blank email to:
SponsorsAndRecovery-subscribe-request@lists.therecoverygroup.org

For more information about TRG's Sponsor Program, see "FROM OUR RECOVERY GROUP SPONSOR PROGRAM" in this newsletter, and the following url:
http://recovery.hiwaay.net/sponsors.html.



STRONG RECOVERY

Strong Recovery is loop for compulsive overeaters who have reached their individual recovery goals and wish to have a safe place to discuss Maintenance issues. We welcome all: both those who have reached their goals and those haven't yet. All are welcome. If you have reached your goal weight, congratulations ... and welcome home. If you have not, stay with us until you do ... and beyond, as we maintain recovery, one day at a time.

To find out more, please visit:
http://recovery.hiwaay.net/odat/strongrecovery/index.html or http://groups.yahoo.com/group/StrongRecoveryODAT/

To join, please send a blank email to:
StrongRecoveryODAT-subscribe-request@lists.therecoverygroup.org.



TEENS ODAT

Teens One Day at a Time (TeensODAT) is a discussion list for teen-agers who have eating disorders and wish to have a safe place to share their experience, strength and hope about this disease. Eating disorders begin at an early age and by the teen-age years, damage is already being done both physically and psychologically. If you are, or know of, a teen-ager who is a compulsive eater, an anorexic or bulimic, please join us. You will be safe here. You will find recovery here.

We are pleased to announce that Rose, a very special lady, has agreed to be Teens ODAT Advisor. Rose will work directly with the teens and TRG to make sure that TeensODAT is a safe recovery home for you. It will be up to the teens to participate and invite their friends who have eating disorders, also, to come share with the loop. Those who would like to volunteer for service are most welcome and will find such service very fulfilling.

If you would like to subscribe,simply send a blank e-mail to:
TeensODAT-subscribe-request@lists.therecoverygroup.org.

If you would like to know more, or would like to refer a friend to these pages, please use the following urls:
http://recovery.hiwaay.net/special/teens.html or
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/TeensODAT/



~ FROM OUR RECOVERY GROUP MEMBERS ~





~ SPECIAL FOCUS: DISABILITIES SPECIAL INTEREST GROUP ~


One of TRG's Special Interest groups is called "Disabilities". It is a loop for overeaters who have any kind of disability. It is a place where we can focus on our recovery from compulsive overeating, while at the same time talking about our disabilities with others who understand what we are going through. People who are disabled have difficulty dealing with day to day problems, and may even be housebound, depending on the disability. Others can get around, but often with difficulty, sometimes having to depend on others to get where needed. This loop is a blessing for COEs with disabilities. If you would like to know more, please visit these websites:

http://recovery.hiwaay.net/odat/disabilities/index.html or
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/DisabilitiesODAT/


~ RECOVERY WRITERS' SERIES ~

~ Recovery Inspirations ~

In this column we bring you shares from Recovery Meditations, Odyssey, Danny's "Letters To God", Journey to Recovery, Reflections, The Promises and many others. About a year ago, we brought a few selections from "Odyssey, A Personal Journey". This month we will return to this collection and bring you three more selections. The writer is a wonderful gentleman whose journey started when he weighed 725 pounds. He has shared his extraordinary journey with us, and we are grateful recipients of his experience, strength and hope. (Note: if you wish to read all of his Odyssey, the entire collection can be found at:
http://www.therecoverygroup.org/odyssey/index.html.)



Dear Journal,

My A/C unit died a week ago, but finally got it working on the eve of July 4, had to replace the first unit within 24 hours as it only ran for 20 hours then died. How many times have I heard, "this part never does this, this is very unusual!".. :-) They must learn that line somewhere in their repair courses.... cars, stereo stuff, anything I've ever owned it seems.

The A/C guy did reduce his bill by $150 for my inconvenience though, so that was a nice gift. I was able to get through the week without air conditioning without letting it affect my mood, I learned to appreciate the afternoon rain as it cooled and cleansed the air, it was quite enjoyable in fact. I have been able to set the thermostat up a couple of degrees and still feel comfortable now after a week in the 90's in the house.. so that may prove to be yet another positive that came from this experience - a reduced electric bill. :-)

The day of the 4th had some surprises: my wife was off work and offered to fix my breakfast which I enjoyed, and it wasn't until getting ready to send my food later that day to my sponsor that I realized I didn't have my protein for breakfast, and the most curious thing happened, I began to fixate on the fact that I had missed having something that I would have had normally and began thinking about it being okay to "make it up" by having more, or something extra now that I realized I had missed it. This thought would just not leave me alone... even this morning it still haunts me a bit... and the fact that I also slept through my snack last night has made it even worse... I will not give in to this, but I am finding it a very tenacious thought.

I just finished my breakfast, had a cereal that I don't normally have, something my wife got for me, that she should have known I didn't like... a puffed cereal, and in the 27 years we've been married, I NEVER have eaten puffed cereal.. to her credit of course, she did get a "healthy" version, no sugar, no additives, but still... :-) I ate it anyway as it was the only thing in the house and what I normally get wasn't available at the store last night.. I had run out and she was doing me a favor... I AM grateful, and I did eat it, telling myself it doesn't really matter if I like it, it fits my food plan, and it's what I have available.. it's nourishment and that's all that really matters.

This feeling of being "behind" in my food intake has lessened but it's still there... I'll have to delve into that a bit I guess. Obviously something else is going on in my head.

Spent some time discussing "Life" with a friend today, talking about the need most of us have to want to "blame" something or someone for all the bad things that happen in our lives. If it happens to our family, we blame ourselves, if it happens to us, we blame others or God. It is my view that Life just happens, there is not a "god" directing every event, it is random by design and what our Higher Power does for us is gives us a way to deal with that randomness. Acceptance of the way things are, whether we can understand them or not. I have come to believe that the "Creator" set the environment for life to exist and then just let it unfold. Guiding us in how we deal with that life, but not down here stirring the pot just to mess us up. It doesn't matter what happens to me, only how I deal with what happens to me! How I grow along spiritual lines makes it possible to accept what happens to me.

Had a few doctors appointments recently, and for the most part am in the best shape in a long time, all blood work is great, am still reducing my weight, almost done with the diabetes meds.. have been reducing those steadily over the last year, and in another 3 months will evaluate again and hopefully will be able to be taken off all together. Resting heart rate was 52, the cardiologist was thrilled, EKG looked great, and don't see him for another year. The colonoscopy evaluation is in a couple of weeks, so don't know anything new about that yet, but worry about it is not in my plans.

I continue to walk my 1.5 miles in the mornings, extended to 1.8 a few times, and 2.75 on one other occasion... I was feeling very strong when I started, but went through a lot of mental exercises to finish that one. I shared on that earlier.

This morning I felt absolutely skinny when on my walk, my legs felt strong, my wind was good, I didn't start sweating till almost 3/4 of the way done... had a nice chat with my daughter on the walk, it was just a great morning.

More and more the good days overshadow the not so good ones... I am excited to get up in the mornings and I look forward to my days now with anticipation.

Am doing some yard work getting ready for a visit from my brother, so muscles are a bit sore, but I feel good about that. Hopefully I'll have some energy left by the time he actually gets here. LOL He's travelling in a 30' motor home so I needed to clear a path through my "wild" area to get him near the electric box. It needed it anyway.. :-)

All in all, I'd have to say, Life is Good! Learning to appreciate all the things that happen, looking for (and finding) the positives in each situation has been a wonderful serendipity for me. Having the clarity of thought that being abstinent provides is beyond description, suffice to say, it is joyful!

Thank you all for being there,

Stay Strong!

love and hugs,
me
"Odyssey, A Personal Journey" ~ Part 38



~ FROM THE LITERATURE ~




~~THE TWELVE STEPS ~ STEP ONE~~

We admitted we were powerless over our compulsive behavior with food - that our lives had become unmanagable.



~~ THE TWELVE TRADITIONS ~ TRADITION ONE ~~

Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon the unity of Overeaters Online Recovery.



~~ BIG BOOK QUOTE ~~

BIG BOOK READING
"The word 'God' still aroused a certain antipathy. I could go for such conceptions as 'Creative Intelligence', 'Universal Mind' or 'Spirit of Nature', but I resisted the thought of a Czar of the Heavens, however loving his sway might be. I have since talked with scores of men who felt the same way.

My friend suggested what then seemed a novel idea. He said, "Why don't you choose your own conception of God?"

That statement hit me hard. It melted the icy intellectual mountain in whose shadow I had lived and shivered many years. I stood in the sunlight at last.

It was only a matter of being willing to believe in a Power greater than myself. Nothing more was required of me to make my beginning. I saw that growth would come from that point."
AABB, P. 12. (Note: The first paragraph was paraphrased).

A REFLECTION...by Myrl
When I started Recovery just a year ago, I had no god. I had given up on the punitive and punishing god of my childhood and knew I could never be perfect, as he wanted. I was so thrilled and relieved after a lifetime of no hope that here were ideas in the Big Book that I'd never heard of. I loved the idea of a "Creative Intelligence" or a "Spirit of Nature". Nature is where I find my greatest sustenance.

I have clung to this idea of choosing my own conception of God!! Finally, some Hope began to build in my life again as I became willing to believe that this WAS a Power greater than myself. Anyone knows that Nature is forever dying down and replenishing itself in minute details every year. Everything has its own sytems. Each tiny plant has its own way of reproducing and dying down and starting over the following year. How did that happen except with a Powerful Spirit of Nature or the Universe???

I had my starting point, and "nothing more was required of me to make my beginning."




~ RECOVERY MEDITATIONS ~


~
January Meditations Calendar ~
(http://www.therecoverygroup.org/meditations/january.html)





~ THE RECOVERY GROUP MEETINGS ~

THE RECOVERY GROUP ONLINE MEETINGS

The OA program offers its members a new pattern of living. One of the basic elements of that new pattern is regular meetings and meeting attendance. For the newcomer, living without Compulsive Overeating (COE) is a brand new experience. All that once was familiar is changed, and the old people, places and things that served as props on the stage of their lives are gone. New stresses appear, no longer masked or deadened by the food. That's why we suggest that newcomers attend a meeting every day. No matter what comes up, no matter how crazy their day gets, we know that a daily meeting will await them. No day should go by without the relief which our fellowship offers.

Then there are the old timers. No matter how long we are in Recovery we must attend regular meetings to reinforce our identity as *recovering* COEs, and each meeting helps us get that much further away from becoming active in our addiction again.

Meetings are a huge part of our new pattern of living.

We attend meetings for a variety of reasons: sometimes we go to meetings to share our experience, strength and hope with newer members; sometimes we go just to connect with our friends; and sometimes we go just because we need a hug (even a cyber hug will do on those days.) Occasionally, we leave a meeting and realize that we really haven't retained a word that was said, but for some reason we still feel better. The atmosphere of love and joy that fills our meetings has kept us abstinent another day. No matter how hectic our schedule, meeting attendance must be a priority.
Our meetings are held every three hours starting at Midnight EST, (12 midnight, 3AM, 6AM, 9AM, 12 noon, 3PM, 6PM, and 9PM. You can get there through the "Blue Door" at:
http://recovery.hiwaay.net/, or directly, at:
http://therecoverygroup.org/meetings/index.html.

Meeting topics each week will coincide with the step being discussed in WTS study, which repeat on a quarterly basis. For example, in the first week of a WTS study, the meeting topics will relate to Step One, those of the second week will relate to Step Two, etc.

For AOL members, there is a direct link to #Recovery: #Recovery on StarChat.Network. AOL users need to first go to the Meeting website and look at the special instructions for AOL users before they can fully participate in the meetings or they can go to: http://www.starchat.net/aol.php.

#Recovery is the meeting room for Recovery Group. There is a doorway to #Recovery on the Recovery Group website, www.therecoverygroup.org. The meeting room can be directly accessed by going to either of these sites: http://www.starchat.net/recovery or http://www.starchat.net/chat/?chan=recovery.

Another way to reach the meeting webpage is directly, at: http://therecoverygroup.org/meetings/index.html.

You can find other helpful information, including on-line meeting protocols at:
http://recovery.hiwaay.net/support/meetings.html.

If you wish to offer your time to lead a meeting, please send an email to:
MtgAdm@lists.TheRecoveryGroup.org.
We will get back to you as quickly as possible.



~ OVEREATERS ANONYMOUS CONTACTS ~

Overeaters Anonymous
World Service Office (WSO)
6075 Zenith Ct. NE
PO Box 44020
Rio Rancho, NM 87124
USA

Telephone 505-891-2664
Fax: 505-891-4320
http://www.overeatersanonymous.org/index.htm
E-Mail Address ~ info@overeatersanonymous.org

"I put my hand in yours ...
and together we can do what we could never do alone."
~ Rozanne, OA CoFounder ~





~ THE RECOVERY GROUP CONTACTS ~



"In the deepest part of a compulsive eater's soul . . .
Is the realization that recovery begins when we find one another."


~~ The Serenity Prayer ~~

Grant us the SERENITY to accept the things we cannot change;
The COURAGE to change the things we can;
And the WISDOM to know the difference.


What we could never do alone ~
We can do together.

One day at a time, ~
One step at a time.


Disclaimer


The Recovery Group and our newsletter has as its mission and purpose that of carrying the message of recovery to those who suffer from the disease of compulsive eating. We are an anonymous organization and follow the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions of Overeaters Anonymous; however, we are not affiliated with that group. Your articles, announcements and information are welcome. All opinions in this newsletter represent only the opinions of the writers and not necessarily that of The Recovery Group or OA, Inc.
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