The Recovery Group's

12 Step Community Newsletter

December 2009 ~ Volume 10, Issue 12

 

CONTENTS

From the Editor
From the Administration
Founder's Corner
OA Newcomers
Recovery Stories From
Jacqueline ~ Hope, Peace & Joy
Denise ~ Holiday Bingeing
Anonymous ~ Nepenthe
MKW ~ Amends
Audio Podcasts
Rosalie
Overeaters Anonymous
Recipe of the Month
All About Meetings
Rozanne's Recent Audio Tape
OA's 50th Birthday
Leaders Stories
Janet
Linda S.
Linda K.
Jodi
Barbara
Gracie
Dave
Kids and Teens

FROM THE EDITOR:

For all who celebrate holidays in December, Serendipity would like to send our best wishes. The Trusted Servants and OA Meeting Leaders of The Recovery Group are honored to give service to you in every way possible. We would like to thank Linda Silkwood, our Reporter for this issue. Linda ambles through our loops and meetings and always finds articles and stores of interest and we hope you enjoy what we have for you this month. Happy Holidays!

FROM THE ADMINISTRATION:

Trg's Administration Team has never been busier than in the past month. In addition to our membership growing, so are our programs. The Administrators (Nancy, Sharon, Athena and Linda S) work with the coordinators of dozens of support groups and there is never a day that there is not more to do than hours in the day. Dodee keeps everything organized and she and Nancy finished up the month with detailed reports on every loop. Linda K. does the same with the meetings and throughout the month of December has been kept on her toes. Patt and Cate manage the entire Sponsor Program for TRG and this once again has proven to be one of the busiest resources of our community. If you would like to make any comments or have questions about any administrative activity, please make a note of these addresses:


 
SHATTERED ILLUSIONS
 
"The lust for comfort, that stealthy
thing that enters the house a guest,
then becomes a host,
and then a master."

~ Kahlil Gibran ~


Dear Friends on the Journey ~
 
I have learned more about myself from you than in any self-help book I've ever read, from any sermon I've ever heard preached, from any doctor, therapist, sponsor I've ever had and from any teacher I've had bless my life.  What I have learned and continue learning each day is that most every problem I've ever had and most issues I've ever been called upon to deal with have had my compulsive personality at its roots. Compulsion is self-will gone berserk. For those of us with this disease our compulsions have taken us for enough rides and around more blocks for several lifetimes. For many of us, compulsions have become our master!
 
Food Addiction, Relationship Addiction, Love and Sex Addiction, Co-Dependency are just a few of the manifestations of this disease. Far more troublesome are the other more insidious forms it takes. It takes a person whom God has made perfectly imperfect and it heaps on us characteristics that are not us. We awaken one morning not the authentic person we were created to be but a person who begins to wonder who they really are.
 
This disease of compulsive over-eating is especially seductive. When we were first becoming COs all we knew is that when we ate something and enough of it we began to feel better. Better than better .... we began to feel good. So what did we do? If one is good, two will be better ... and three will be even better than two ... and we learned how to binge. And that first binge told us something. It told us that if we stuffed ourselves enough it would block our pain. That binge seduced us and made us think that we wanted to do that again ... that we "deserved" that emotional "block" that the binge allowed us to put on our feelings.
 
We loved how we had learned a new technique to "take care" of all our problems. We wake up in the morning and have a job to go to that we don't want to go to ... and we stuff ourselves. We drag ourselves to our job and we get through the day and say to ourselves ... "I have worked hard today ... it's time for ME now" .... and to the refrigerator we go. FOOD. And then we begin. And we continue. And with each bite, we become less of our real self and our authenticity once more slips into that hazy self that is our disease. And we make it through another night.
 
We reach a point in our life that our disease had developed so gradually as to be well established before becoming apparent. In other words, while we've been going along our merry way of life, our disease has been doing push-ups, just waiting for opportunities for us to become vulnerable. The insidiousness of this disease is scary. There is no "test" we can take for propensity. There is no "shot" we can take for immunity. We just wake up one morning ... probably while we're reading program material .... or when we attend our first meeting ... or we talk to someone who is another CO .... or maybe we've bottomed out and finally reach out .... we wake up that morning and scream silently to ourselves ..... WHAT IS HAPPENING TO ME?
 
The OA program has helped to make me an authentic person. It has enabled me to see who I really am and what really hurts me and what really makes me happy. It has also made me feel feelings that I didn't want to feel and to acknowledge truths that I didn't want to acknowledge. It has enabled me to see in others things that I had not seen before! Some of the things I liked ... but some of the things were merely illusions.
 
The OA program is notorious for making us shatter illusions. For helping us to discern the authentic from the unauthentic. And doing so can be painful ... and makes us want to head back to that safe world of food. And to relapse. When an illusion is shattered, we have to question ourselves. What was it about us ... what defect did we have .... what were we lacking to make us have an illusion in the first place? And, if we can't stuff it, how do we deal with it?
 
Hard questions.
No easy answers.
Dear God,
The brief moments of comfort
I get from being compulsive made
my life miserable. Please help me
not to go back to that.

Love,
Mari
 

RECOVERY STORIES

SANITY  . . . JANET'S STORY
 Big Book, Page 25
‘That we have had deep and effective spiritual experiences which have revolutionized our whole attitude toward life…”
This year had the quietest, calmest, sanest Thanksgivings of my life.    My youngest son invited me to his home to share the first Thanksgiving meal he had ever prepared.  It was wonderful.  But the best part of it was that the people at the table were all sensible eaters.  My portion was not much smaller than anyone else’s.  No one stuffed themselves or gorged till they were ill.  My son is very weight conscious, and my daughter in law was a runner until her pregnancy.
It was also my first Thanksgiving without my husband.  Up until last year, my husband loved to prepare the holiday dinners.  He would plan and shop and make everything just right for everyone.  My family saw to it that I didn’t miss him too much.  My 3 ½ month old twin granddaughters saw to that.  There wasn’t TIME to think about missing him.
Counting my blessings or having an attitude of gratitude has literally changed my life.  My “deep and effective spiritual experiences” helped me look at what I have rather than what I don’t or can’t have.
I got a new sponsee today.  His first words were “I can’t eat this and I can’t eat that.”  That was what his doctor told him.  I told him to make a list of what he CAN eat instead, while still doing as his doctor said.  He started, but said, “That would take all day.” There is so much more good to be found.
And the same is true of my health challenges right now.  I could focus on the cancer and the chemo and the bad things.  Or I can focus on the fact that I am strong enough to sing with Adelines and the church choir, I am able to drive, shop, and do so many other things.  It would take all day to list them.  There was an article in the paper this past week about me and my positive attitude.  They ran it on Thanksgiving Day.  My attitude came from my Higher Power and working the 12 steps.  It came via my “deep and effective spiritual experiences.”  And for this I am grateful.
Your grateful sister in recovery,
Janet C.
Ormond Beach, Florida
(Maintaining a weight loss of approximately 250 pounds by the grace of God and the OA program of recovery.)

HOPE, PEACE & JOY
 
"There I humbly offered myself to God, as I then understood Him, to do with me as He would.  I placed myself unreservedly under His care and direction.  I admitted for the first time that of myself I was nothing; that without Him I was lost.  I ruthlessly faced my sins and became willing to have my new-found Friend take them away, root and branch."   BB pg 13.
 
Two weeks ago my best friend died.  We had been friends for over 30 years.  She took ill and died the same day.  Her husband said, "One minute she was breathing, the next minute she wasn't."  She was supposed to come and visit me this month.  Now the only visiting that will go on will be at her grave.
 
I feel sad.  I feel angry.  I am in shock.  I cry.  Nothing unusual?  For me it is.  When I was in the food, I was totally out of touch with my feelings.  If this had happened before recovery, it would have been good for mounds of food from boxes, bags, cartons, and drive throughs.  I would have eaten my face in.  It would not have helped.  At the time, however, it was the only thing I knew to do.  That nonproductive, maladjusted reaction to life got me up to 250 pounds.
 
I came to Overeaters Anonymous for weight loss.  I got it.  However, it only came after I went several times through the 12 steps.  This made it possible for me to surrender.  I threw in the towel.  Like Bill, I admitted that of myself I was nothing.  I became convinced that without God I was lost.  I ruthlessly faced my sins.  I became willing for God to remove them, root and branch.  I now humbly offer myself each day to God for Him to do with me as He wills.
 
Today, despite my grief over my friend's loss, I am abstinent.  I have hope, peace and joy.  I have experienced God's kindness and mercy.  I pass all these wonderful things on to others.  These blessings come back to me in a never-ending circle of recovery.  
 
Love
Jacqueline
Length in program 24 years
Current abstinence 20 years
100 pound winner

NEPENTHE
 
Dear Friends,
 
I am a compulsive person in many areas. The Twelve Steps have made my life better because it has given me hope and that hope has improved the quality of my life.
I was reading this morning and came across a word I hadn't heard of before ... nepenthe. Usually I can tell what a word means by its use in a sentence but this time I decided to look it up. Nepenthe (nuh-PEN-thee) is something capable of causing oblivion of grief or suffering. Over the last few months and especially last night I needed some nepenthe. In ancient days nepenthe was a potion used to induce forgetfulness of pain or sorrow. It is important to know that nepenthe is not for physical pain ~ it is for emotional pain which so many of us have.
During the holidays this year, I have had a lot of emotional pain caused by the loss of someone dear to me. During times like this, I say the Serenity Prayer a lot and know for an absolute fact that if I didn't have the hope offered by the Twelve Steps the pain would be so much worse. I am very grateful for my spiritual program .... it is my nepenthe.
I thank my Higher Power for allowing me to feel my feelings. And even though they may be very painful at times, I know that if I keep putting one foot in front of the other, everything will eventually be okay.
 
Anonymous

HOLIDAY BINGEING

Binge season is here again. It used to be my favorite time of year, when all the holiday goodies came out. How I used to look forward to stuffing myself with my favorite treats. Our brains are funny, aren’t they? The only thing I could remember from year to year was how good my favo rite treats tasted. My convenient brain always forgot the misery, pain and weight gain these goodies caused. It made me forget my vows of “I’ll eat just one; I’ll go on a diet tomorrow; I’ll skip supper.” I could remember only the joy of getting my hands on the goods and snarfing them down. I felt good at the time, until all the food and crazy behavior caught up with me. Then I paid the price.
Year after year, I carried on this crazy behavior of bingeing followed by remorse. Only when I reached my top weight, was miserable and hated myself was I willing to do something about the insanity. I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. I had hit bottom and needed help. I had heard about Overeaters Anonymous through friends in another Twelve- Step program. I decided to give it a try. I went to OA for eight months and knew I’d come home. This place was for me. But I was not willing to be abstinent through that time and give up my binge foods. Who would I be? How would I act? How could I live without my junk food? I’d die if I couldn’t eat what I wanted when I wanted it. The very thought of abstaining was scary. After I’d binged through another holiday season, God finally said, “I know you are ready to be abstinent, so just set the date.” Uh oh. A direct order from God. He told me clearly to stop messing around. So I chose January 1,1992, as my first abstinent date (a week after I got my orders from God) .
Boy, I had the mother of all binges that New Year’s Eve. I ate it all. If I were never going to eat any of this again, I would go out in a blaze of glory. By Go d’s grace, I’ve never felt the need to do that again. I have surrendered my food to God and let him guide me through 12 Halloweens, 12 Thanksgivings, 12 Christmases, 12 birthdays and 4,331 days of living without excess food.
God can do for me what I can never do for myself: abstain from compulsive eating and enjoy life. Today I choose God and the abstinence that comes with him. I can’t, God can, and just for today, I’m going to let him. I’ve never regretted becoming abstinent. Having a normal weight and feeling good is better than any food can ever taste.
 
One day at a time.
 
Denise H.

From Lifeline.  Subscriptions available from www.oa.org

AMENDS
 
Step 9: Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, accept when to do so would injure them or others. Alcoholics Anonymous, pg. 59.
 
First, they said I was to get connected to a sponsor; then, other people in the program. Then I am to go out to these other people and get more connected? This from a person that dressed and acted inappropriately using the "F" word and riding a Harley. When I could not keep up that front anymore, as the bad girl, I went to the college and studied sign language so I could pretend I was deaf and not have to deal with people.
 
Our text book tells me it's not enough just to have stopped binging my way over two hundred pounds or compulsively exercising  till I was underweight, back and forth very quickly for 13 insane years. I have been like a tornado roaring through the lives of others and now I get to make amends.
 
The clear-cut directions for step 9, pages 76-84, in our beloved Big Book and my sponsor pointing them out, has enabled me to see the truth of how I operated. If I want things to be different, the Book tells me I must be painstaking about this phase of my development. 
 
Things I have been taught in making amends.
 
1. Pray first! Amazing results happen in Divine Timing:
  • elevator doors have opened with the person staring me in the face
  • getting a group of family members together for a memorial service for the love of my life
  • shinning shoes for a co-worker when I had deliberately messed up my Dad's  when asked to do it. (Dad had passed and I did not even know I was making the amends at the time.)
  • the best amends happen when things just unfold without me even knowing why I am doing it.
 
2. For planned amends, this is what I learned:
  • Ask if they would be willing to hear my amends.
  • Make the amends staying on my side of the street. 
  • Ask if I have left anything out and listen. 
  • If appropriate ask what I can do to make things right
  • If appropriate let them know the good they brought into my life. 
  • Our real purpose is to fit ourselves to be of maximum service to God and other people about us.
  • The pay off - the promises are more than I could have imagined possible.. 
     
    Thank you Dear God, My Friend and so it is.  Blessed be.
MKW

 


Audio Podcast

PODCAST ONE
  
Rosalie
She Kept Coming Back

PODCAST TWO
 
Overeaters Anonymous Podcast
 
WELCOME HOME PODCAST.
Please click the OA logo for a reading of a member-written story called
"Welcome Home" from the OA book, Lifeline Sampler. For more information on
Overeaters Anonymous, please go to www.oa.org or call the WSO in the United States at 505-891-2664.

RECIPE OF THE MONTH

SUPER STUFFED TURKEY WRAP
 
INGREDIENTS
 
For Corn Stuffing
1 1/2 tbsp. yellow cornmeal
1 tbsp. fat-free liquid egg substitute (like Egg Beaters Original)
1 tbsp. chopped jarred roasted red peppers
1 tsp. reduced-fat Parmesan-style grated topping
1/2 no-calorie sweetener packet (like Splenda)
Optional: 1 jarred jalapeno slice, chopped
 
For Wrap
1 La Tortilla Factory Smart & Delicious Low Carb High Fiber Large Tortilla (or alternative below)
1 tbsp. light blue cheese dressing with about 25 calories per tbsp. (like the one by Wish-Bone)
5 mandarin orange segments packed in juice, drained and chopped
1 tbsp. dried cranberries
3 oz. cooked skinless lean turkey breast, chopped
1/4 cup chopped romaine lettuce
 
DIRECTIONS
 
Combine all ingredients for the stuffing in a microwave-safe bowl sprayed with nonstick spray, and stir until thoroughly mixed. Microwave for 30 seconds. Use a fork to break up the mixture. If needed, microwave for another 15 seconds, until no longer liquid-y. Set aside to cool.
 
Lay tortilla on a plate and warm in the microwave for 10 - 15 seconds.
 
Spread dressing onto the tortilla, and sprinkle chopped orange segments and dried cranberries down the center of the tortilla. Top with turkey, stuffing, and lettuce.
 
Wrap tortilla up tightly like a burrito, folding the sides in first, and then rolling it up from the bottom. (Or serve it wrap-style, with one end left open.)
 
Note: This thing will be SUPER-STUFFED.  Now eat up, turkey!
 
MAKES 1 SERVING
 
Serving Size: 1 wrap (entire recipe)
Calories: 326
Fat: 5.5g
Sodium: 624mg
Carbs: 43g
Fiber: 14g
Sugars: 11g
Protein: 37g

ALL ABOUT MEETINGS

Why meetings?  Why 90 meetings in 90 days? Maybe because it takes what it takes and we have to be "willing" to go to any length? NEVER has it been so easy to do 90 meetings in 90 days. As you read the following personal experiences I am sure you will agree, we are so blessed!
 
My name is Linda E(S) and I am a compulsive eater! When I joined The Recovery Group in 2005, I joined several loops but I was completely unwilling to try online meetings. I had several face to face meetings I attended so in my beginning stage of recovery I was having a big enough challenge just in trying to absorb all the information from those meetings and my loops.
 
I have to admit I "snuck" into the online meeting room about three times in the first three years. Of course I signed in as a guest so I could remain anonymous since I didn't have a clue what I was getting myself into!
 
The thing that scared me the most were those emoticons and abbreviations. Like KCB (Keep coming back), TFS (Thanks for Sharing) WTG (Way to Go) ODAAT (One Day at a time), and the list goes on and on. It was greek (GEEK?) to me! 
 
Plus I didn't understand any of the rules or what was appropriate--or not!!! So, I usually stayed about 10 minutes max and skeedaddled out of there!
 
Then I became a loop coordinator for RECOVERY loop. Then I took on the ABUSE loop. The service really helped me learn how to connect better online in our community and I began to think I might try one of those meetings again. Wow, I discovered I had actually outgrown some of my fear. I began attending more regularly and learned they needed meeting leaders. Once I was trained, in May of 2009, I finally took the plunge into that sea of abbreviations and emoticons. Now I can Emote with the best of them!!!  LOL
 
I lead the 6AM meeting everyday. I love the meeting and the people who come into that room.  Some of the things we have gone through together in the last 6 months just boggle the mind. We have had deaths of loved ones, a recent engagement, people traveling on their jobs and joining us from motel rooms, and members who have no face to face meetings at all. They live all over the world!! (Africa, India, all parts of the US), Canada, the UK, Australia, Morrocco, the list goes on and on.)
 
We even have started our own meeting email contact list!  We have contact between the meetings and we also exchange photos if we want. I realize that with other meetings where the leader rotates that probably isn't helpful but the beauty of our program is our meeting has autonomy and within reason we can do what works for us unless it affects all of us as a whole.
 
Some of our leaders have been leading meetings for many years. Some are very recently trained, and a few are still in training. I love the way we back each other up to substitute at meetings. It truly is a community of caring trusted servants.
 
Probably one reason our meetings are so strong is because we use the 12 steps as Topics and follow the schedule of our WTS (Working The Steps--another one of those strange abbreviations) study.
 
Recently we have started our Telephone meetings and just like any new venture we all have to adjust to the technology!  I like what it says in the AA BB about whether connecting in person, by phone or modem-to-modem, we speak the language of the heart.
 
Here are some shared experiences by a few of our meeting leaders .... leading off the group will be Linda K., the Coordinator of TRG's Online OA Meetings.
 
TRGLINDA aka Linda Silkwood

LINDA K.

My name is Linda and I am a COE and FA. I lead the 6 PM EST meetings here at TRG and I have been doing so since 2002.  I can only speak for myself, but it was in these meetings that I discovered that I was NOT alone..and I am as close as a button to meetings. If I feel the need to talk to someone, there is usuall y someone in #Recovery during off-times, where I can get stuff of my chest.
 
Leading meetngs has been one of the most humbling things I can do for myself and my recovery. Just because I  have an "@" or the letters TRG in front oy my name doesn't make me a superstart and I don't WANT to go there. I hear stories from all of you  that are just like my own. It enhances my recovery and keeps me from being isolated.
 
I've heard it said that you go to meetings when you don't want to, when you DO want to, and when you HAVE to. That sums it up pretty well for me in a nutshell.

I am grateful for these meetings and for the people in them. Although their names may differ from week to week, they are all my Family of Choice, my HP with skin on.
 
Thank you for letting me share about this....
 
Love In Recovery and Service,
 
Linda  (AKA TRGLindaK)

JODI
 
I became a meeting leader after I asked how I could provide some service to The Recovery Group; especially since I’ve been so blessed by the service given to me.  I’ve always admired our meeting leaders and was honored that I would be given this opportunity.  The best type of training for me is “on the job” and my trainer provided that with lots of love and encouragement. I was nervous to lead my first meeting, but found that you don’t really have time to be nervous. It’s a rather fast-paced action that requires a lot of patience and love. I anticipate my Saturday afternoons with much joy and enthusiasm. It’s one of the best decisions I’ve made in recovery!
 
Love in recovery
Jodi aka TRGJodi

BARBARA
 
I love contributing to this fellowship!  
 
What I Have Gained from Being a Meeting Leader:
*How to speak gently and in a friendly manner to just about anyone
*Showing respect for all kinds of shares without judgment
*Building my own self-confidence in leadership
*The importance of following the meeting protocol
*Showing compassion and encouragement with ease
Barbara  aka TRGBarbara

GRACIE

 

Why Meetings?
This question gave me a chance to think about leading meetings on TRG.  It is different than leading F2F, obviously.  It was a big adjustment initially.  I seem to simplify it more as time goes by because the meetings need to have as much time as possible for sharing. We have many more people showing up these days.  I am also learning that when I am leading, I am totally there.  I cannot answer the phone and  I close the door to my room and stay focused on everyone in the meeting.  I do try to welcome people as they come into the room, once the meeting starts..  I also switch gears easily during a meeting, especially now, with so many beginners.  I often try to be aware of what someone would see if they are coming into the room for the first time.  I recognize many faces(names) and notice when certain faces(names) are not there.  I keep a list of people from week to week.  I try to relinquish my need to control and just let it all flow.  My job is to be a cheerleader for our message of hope, courage and strength.  I will mention that the only requirement for membership is a desire to not eat compulsively.  That is it, and keep it simple.  I am going to begin to encourage people to message me privately during the meeting to ask any questions.  What I have found is with personally welcoming them, it encourages them to share and message me privately.  But the meetings are growing and I don't have as much time to personalize the meetings, so I will encourage them to ask questions in the opening.  TRG is a wonderful resource with a willingness to take the focus off the food and shine on the solution.  Love it and thanks for giving me this opportunity to express my gratitude. 
 
Love,
Gracie  aka TRGGracie

DAVE
 
Hi, my name is Dave, and I'm a compulsive overeater.
I'm really grateful today to see that all of our open meeting slots have been filled. For me service is essential to my serenity and peace of mind, and for me that service comes in the form of chairing TRG meetings. I have found that the closer I stick to TRG protocol, the more I benefit, perhaps because I need to have defiance and rebellion, along with self-centeredness, and a tendency to be self-serving, as much out of my life as is possible odat. I trust in the process because I believe that ultimately HP has a hand in it.
 
Also being a meeting leader gets me to meetings when I otherwise might not go. I need at least 1 meeting every day, and I'm grateful to know that and to be able to follow-up on it.
 
Welcome! To all our new meeting leaders, and any who might be returnees!!  HOORAY!!  :)))
 
Love in recovery
 
Dave K.
TRGDave
Tinevalen

ONLINE OA MEETINGS SCHEDULE
Meetings Around the World ~ Around the Clock

TIMES

SUN

MON

TUES

WED

THUR

FRI

SAT

Midnight

**Joan

Hardy

Kate

Kate

SherrI

**Joan

Jeanne

3:00AM

Sharon

JimmyD

Karen

Juliana

Nelida

JimmyD

Juliana

6:00AM

LindaS

LindaS

LindaS

LindaS

LindaS

LindaS

LindaS

9:00AM

Cindi

TBA

LisaJean

TBA

Gracie

Laura

**Virginia

NOON

BettyMae

Karen

Keri

Barbara

KarenR

Lissy

Newcomers

3:00PM

Denise

Ken

Barbara

Tiff

Gracie

Newcomers

Tiff

6:00PM

Dave

Dave

Linda

Luann

Ren

Meter

Jodi

9:00PM

Joni

Patt

Newcomers

Pete

JennL

**Virginia

Nelida

 
 
TRG's OA TELEPHONE MEETINGS SCHEDULE
 
Tuesday 8:00 PM Eastern Time
Saturday 4:00 pm Eastern Time
Telephone 712-432-3900
Access Code 260185#
 
TRG'S TELEPHONE ANGELS
 

OA TELEPHONE MEETING SCHEDULE
 
 

OA's Telephone Meetings and Rozanne, OA's CoFounder
 
I think you will enjoy hearing Rozanne, the CoFounder of Overeaters Anonymous tell us how exciting OA birthdays are and one has to smile when she says she plans to attend the 50 birthday even if she has to go in a wheelchair.  :-)  Rozanne is such a spunky little lady.  Just click here or the 50th birthday logo at the top if you would like to hear Rozanne. 
 
Some exciting things are being planned in February 2010 and it will be a wonderful opportunity for some of you to give service to Overeater's Anonymous.  OA's Unity Day is February 27th and there will be two Marathons to celebrate Unity Day.  One is scheduled for February 27th ... the other February 28th.  There is a very dedicated lady devoted to seeing that OA's telephone projects are the best they can be.  Her name is Michelle R. and her address is michelleleerosen@yahoo.com.   If you would like to volunteer to help in February or for OA's 50th Birthday on January 17th please write her and offer to serve.  This will be an exciting time for all OA members.

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SPOTLIGHTED LOOPS OF THE MONTH
 
The Trusted Servants of The Recovery Group believes that there is an epidemic of children with obesity.  We have had state-of-the-art resources of all kinds for more than a decade to serve young people and the parents, grandparents, physicians and therapists of young people.  We believe that these resources are not being used to the advantage of children and that is not going to happen unless and until adults take the responsibility for seeing that they know about these resources.
 
Overeaters Anonymous has a publication called The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions for Kids.  Utilizing our support groups, meetings and programs and introducing children to the Twelve Steps at an early age will certainly set them on the right track during these years when they are so vulnerable to using food as a comfort.
 
The Advisor to our Children's program is Jodi F. and the Administrator over the program is Linda S.  If you have a child who needs help or if you want to be a part of our children's program, please contact us at TRGAdm@TheRecoveryGroup.org.
 
Here is a poignant letter from Jodi ... please help her reach the children.  Help your children and grandchildren grow into men and women without the issues most of us have struggled with in our own adulthood.
 
KIDS ~ THE DISCOVERY DIVISION
 
One of the life changing affects my disease has had on me is the inability to have children of my own. All of my life I have wanted to work with and be with children. My first goal in life was to be a music teacher for elementary school students.  I was a nursery worker in a church for five years taking care of children from infants to four years old. I love children!

I love their honesty. I love their minds. Growing minds learn with such beauty and open honesty. I have been truly blessed with service. The Recovery Group is allowing me to advise the Teens and Kids Discovery Loops. I hope to work with them to help understand their eating problems and grow with them in our recovery. 
 
In love and service,
 
Jodi F

THE TRUSTED SERVANTS OF THE RECOVERY GROUP
 
The last month of the year is an exciting time in The Recovery Group.  Our Trusted Servants and Meeting Leaders begin to look back over the year and see the cumulative effect that giving service to others has made in their own lives.  The Trusted Servants who were new last year are now 'old times' in service ... their technical skills have been hones .. and they have learned people skills beyond their wildest dreams. 
 
Because our members are diverse we experience pathways sometimes very different than our own ... and we learn how to walk in the shoes of others and deal with them in our service with understanding and  compassion.  There is never a dull moment here. 
 
The term for TRG's Trusted Servants is January 1 through December 31st.  We encourage our Trusted Servants to continue their work in this technical community which becomes our recovery home.  There is a learning curve required for virtual recovery that one does not need the expertise for in the 3D world.  By the end of the year, those skills have been honed and it is in the second year and subsequent years of service that Trusted Servants find their positions easier and more rewarding.  Coordinators have learned to handle many different situations.  Meeting Leaders have fine tuned their abilities and many develop a following.
 
Here are our Trusted Servants and you are invited to join them and be on the slate presented to The Recovery Intergroup for a vote of acclamation on January 1, 2010.

God, grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change;
Courage to change the things we can; and the wisdom to know the difference.
 
One day at a time.
One step at a time
 
"In the deepest part of a compulsive eater's soul
is the realization that recovery begins when we find one another."

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