A Wellspring of Hope
Newsletter of The Recovery Group


August 2003
Volume 5, Issue 8



ser*en*dip*i*ty ~ (noun) First appeared 1754:
the faculty or phenomenon of finding
valuable or agreeable things not sought for.





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THIS MONTH'S FEATURED ARTICLES

From Our Editor
Founder's Corner
From the TRG Administration
From Our ODAT Committee
From our Recovery Group Sponsor Program
Letters to the Editor
Special Announcement ~ RecoveryTalk Happy Hour!
Kids' Corner
Twelve Steps of Overeaters Anonymous ~ A Kid's View
Teens' Corner
August Loop Spotlights
Italian and Recovery
Journey to Recovery
Latter Day Saints
Meditations and Recovery
From Our Recovery Group Members
Recovery Writers' Series
Selection from OA's Lifeline
From the Literature
Recovery Meditations Calendar
The Recovery Group Online Meetings
Overeaters Anonymous Contacts
Recovery Group Contacts
The Serenity Prayer





~ FROM OUR EDITOR ~

Dear Serendipity Readers,

BYOC: Bring Your Own Coffee! That's what we invite you to do when you come to the Recovery Happy Hour, every night at 10:30 PM EDT, right after the 9:30 PM OA meeting on the #Recovery channel. The #RecoveryTalk room will be a place to just hang out and unwind. It will be a fun way to meet other compulsive overeaters at the beginning (or end!) of each day. So, remember, 10:30PM EDT, #RecoveryTalk, and BYOC! Further instructions can be found below, under Special Announcement.

Once again, friends, our team is changing before our very eyes! It was in June that I said that on any team, change is constant, and we are holding true to that here in The Recovery Group! After years of devoted service, Patt and Cate moved on, and their position (TRG Administration) was filled by Sande and Mari. Marl filled the position of Chair of ODAT, a position previously held by Sande. And yet another program changed hands, when Dreena took over the entire TRG Sponsor Program, truly the best sponsor program on earth!

Not to be outdone, Serendipity Newsletter is seeing some changes this month, too! I have an assistant now! Christine is joining me, and I welcome her creative ideas and energy! she's already making life easier for me, and she's only just begun!

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With love in recovery,

     Marty
     Editor, SERENDIPITY
     Newsletter of The Recovery Group





~ FOUNDER'S CORNER ~


~ Children ~

She was only twelve ... a normal little girl in every respect except one. She was a compulsive eater and when she was in kindergarten weight began to pile on her and every year after that. She was taunted at school and even though recess is mainly a time of fun, it was the time of day she dreaded the most. Cries of "Fatty Fatty Two By Four .. Can't Get In The Kitchen Door" were sung by the other children playing Hop Scotch and skipping rope. She came home from school one afternoon, took a bottle of her mother's pills and was finally at peace.

I ache for the children. I believe childhood was when most of us had the seeds of compulsive eating planted within us. We may not have had excess weight at that point but somewhere deep inside us we knew the comfort that food gave to us, and as we grew into the not-quite-so-carefree days of adulthood, we called on that comfort because we knew it was there. As life went on, we struggled with the disease called COE.

For years, we have attempted in the Recovery Group to provide a place for these children who need us so desperately ... But we have not even gotten beyond the tip of the iceberg. We built it, but they have not come; nor have their parents.

Kids and Recovery ~ support loop for children with eating disorders.
    
http://www.TheRecoveryGroup.org/discovery/kids/index.html

COKids ~ A support loop for parents, grandparents, teachers, therapists and physicians who have an overweight child in their life.
    http://www.TheRecoveryGroup.org/cokids/index.html

Please, let's help the kids so they won't struggle in adulthood, as we have.

@-}-}-}------
Love in recovery,
Mari




~ FROM OUR TRG ADMINISTRATION ~

Dear Friends:

On July 1st, our wonderful Administrators for the past 2 1/2 years, Patt and Cate, moved on to other things and early in July we were pleased to announce that Sande, one of the longest serving members of The Recovery Group and Mari, the Founder of the Recovery Group became the TRG Administrators. One of the first things they did was to activate the Recovery-Intergroup. The future policies of TRG will rely on that body for decisions.

The three dozen members of The Recovery Intergroup just finished their first Group Conscience by overwhelmingly voting "Yes" to Mari's proposal that Trusted Servants and Meeting Leaders of any other online group may also, simultaneously, be Trusted Servants of The Recovery Group.

Marl has become Chairman of the ODAT Committee, rounding out her extensive service by guiding this committee, which serves the three dozen ODAT lists. Marl goes at things with gusto and has already been visiting each of the ODAT loops, evaluating their needs and implementing her ideas to better serve those members.

If you should want to contact either of the Administrators, their addresses are as follows:

Sande - Hopeful@bigzoo.net
Mari - Marisok@aol.com

TRGAdm@TheRecoveryGroup.org
http://www.TheRecoveryGroup.org





~ FROM OUR ODAT ADMINISTRATION ~

Hi, everyone!

I was asked to take on the role of the new Chairperson for ODAT earlier this month, and am being gradually indoctrinated into the job by Mari and Sande. Somehow, I think I am probably only touching the tip of the iceberg, but it is an honour to serve you, and in doing so help my own recovery.

I first found the Recovery loops three Christmases ago when I had been very ill and couldn't get to a f2f meeting. Going to the OA website, I was led to a Recovery meeting room which is still there to this day. There I met the young lady who was then the Coordinator for "Teens and Recovery" (now TeensODAT). We got to talking, and I said I would help her, as there was little activity. From there I found the "Big Book and Recovery" loop, and with my deep love of the Big Book, soon found myself loving every minute of the sharing and study there. I became Coordinator of both loops. Then, one other time, when Mari was suggesting people visit "Pain and Recovery" (now PainODAT), I did, and again began to give service that loop, where I am still the coordinator. Last year, when my dad was dying, and I found it difficult to cope, I asked if "Grief and Recovery" could be formed to help people like me, who are coping with a loss, or an impending loss. When Dad died, without that loop and its strong support, loving understanding and care, I would have found it much harder to cope. As it was, I had a firm foundation, and after the initial bereavement continued to give service.

So here I am, still Co-coordinator of these loops, and now taking on the new role of Chairperson. I hope you will find me approachable. If you see anything you don't like or that needs doing, please do write and I'll be happy to help or find someone who can.

One of the first jobs I took on was to visit all the loops and moderate spammers and offensive mailers especially in loops without a coordinator. This is something I hope everyone is on the lookout for as we need to keep our loops safe and comfortable.

Thanks for having me on board. Thanks for the opportunity. Thanks for your loving support.

In fellowship,
Love,
Marl
ODAT Committee Chairperson
    
http://www.TheRecoveryGroup.org/odat/index.html





~ FROM OUR RECOVERY GROUP SPONSOR PROGRAM ~



A most important service that The Recovery Group provides is our online Sponsor Program for Recovery Group Members.

Sponsorship is one of the vital keys to success in Overeaters Anonymous. The sponsor maintains recovery from compulsive overeating by sharing the Twelve Step Program with others. The newcomer, in reaching out for help from a successful OA member, transcends the long-held idea that self-sufficiency must be maintained at all costs --- and acquires a state of humility so necessary for practice of the Twelve Steps. The sponsor and the newcomer both benefit equally from the relationship. The best way to learn to be a sponsor is to have a sponsor.

If you have questions, suggestions or need the Sponsor Directory and Biographies for TRG's Sponsor Program, please write:
Sponsors@TheRecoveryGroup.org.
Please don't forget to include to which Recovery Group you belong.

If you wish to contact all the sponsors at once and describe the kind of sponsor you're looking for and a little about yourself, please write:
RecoverySponsors@yahoogroups.com.
Again, don't forget to include to which TRG Home Loop that you belong.

If you would like to be a Recovery Sponsor, which is a very worthwhile and important service, please write to Sponsors@TheRecoveryGroup.org. You may also simply write to me.

In service to all,
Dreena (dreenagoode@earthlink.net),
Sponsor Coordinator




~ LETTERS TO THE EDITOR ~



SUBMITTING LETTERS

Letters to the Editor are encouraged and welcomed. Please send your letter to SerendipityNewsletter@yahoo.com, with 'Letter to the Editor' in the subject line.


SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT

~ #RecoveryTalk Happy Hour ~

Introducing the new "Recovery Talk Happy Hour"

When: Join us at 10:30 p.m. Eastern Standard Time (after our regular 9:30 meeting)

Where: In our 24 hour chat room called #RecoveryTalk

How to get there:
http://www.starchat.net/chat/?chan=recoverytalk

Please come in and join us for an hour to be with your friends. This is not a meeting room. It is a room in which other compulsive eaters come together as a group to laugh, to cry and to share our experiences with one another. It is a place where we will have informal chats, and great friendships will grow among us.

Remember to BYOC: Bring Your Own Coffee!

http://www.TheRecoveryGroup.org



~ KIDS' CORNER ~



KIDS AND DISCOVERY
www.TheRecoveryGroup.org/discovery/kids

We care deeply about children here in The Recovery Group. We have a special loop, just for kids, and hope that those who join will find the welcome and acceptance they need to learn more about the problems associated with overeating, eating the wrong kinds of foods, or even undereating.

To find out more, please visit:
http://www.TheRecoveryGroup.org/discovery/kids/index.html.

From another viewpoint, if you are a parent concerned about your child, please check out COKids, a loop where parents can discuss different problems their children may be facing as a result of compulsive overeating, at:
http://recovery.hiwaay.net/cokids/index.html.



~ THE TWELVE STEPS ~
~ A KID'S VIEW ~

STEP 1: We told ourselves that we didn't eat like other boys and girls and that we could not stop eating when we wanted. We felt different.

STEP 2: We thought that God could help us stop thinking about food so much.

STEP 3: We decided to stop worrying about food and let God help us with our problems. (Some people use the words Higher Power instead of God.

STEP 4: We wrote down everything we ever did that bothered us.

STEP 5: We read our list to God (Higher Power), then to a person who cares about us.

STEP 6: We felt ready for God to take away the sad or upsetting things we do.

STEP 7: We honestly asked our Higher Power to take away the sad or upsetting things we do.

STEP 8: We wrote down the names of people we had hurt and felt ready to say we were sorry.

STEP 9: We told these people that we were sorry, unless it would hurt them or others. We tried to make up for what we had done.

STEP 10: Every day we thought about how we acted and how we could improve.

STEP 11: We asked God what to do and for help to do it.

STEP 12: Because it had helped us, we told people about OA and the twelve steps when they asked. We kept using the steps everyday.



~ TEENS' CORNER ~



I get fed up sometimes with my mother and father telling me I should behave a certain way, or of my teachers ordering me about. No matter what I do it's never good enough. And when they moan about my hair, or how I wear my clothes, or the music I play, I could scream "Doesn't anyone understand me?"

I go up to my room sometimes and look out of my window and I think how easy it seems to be for everyone else, but then 'they' haven't got people on their back like I have.

Sometimes I really try, I really do, to be all they want me to be, and they find fault anyway. Why bother? They are going to believe what they want to believe anyway, so I might as well do what I want, and if it gets me into trouble, so what?

Since finding a bit of recovery I am learning that sometimes they are sick, too, and they have their own problems to sort out. Thank goodness I have a program that can help sort out my feelings. I know I'm not a bad person. I am just a sick person trying to get well. My HP knows me as I really am, and I can get a sponsor who I know will love me as I am, too. I don't have to stare into space wishing things were different anymore.

For tonight I remember: I am a very special person. There is only one person in the whole world exactly like me. Even if the best scientist who ever lived threw together some chemicals, he couldn't come up with the specialness that makes me "me". If other people have a problem, that's their problem. I can come on here to the loop and be me. I can write to my friends and be me, and you know? I like me, just as I am.

[ Editor's note: For information, please see:
http://recovery.hiwaay.net/special/teens.html.
To join TeensODAT, send an empty email to: TeensODAT-subscribe-request@lists.therecoverygroup.org. ]



~ AUGUST LOOP SPOTLIGHTS ~

Italian and Recovery

The Italian JTR loop was started by a few members in December 1998. Since then, it has grown larger: on the average, we have more than one hundred registered members. This loop affords the chance for Italian-speaking COEs to share with others, since it is operated entirely in Italian.

In the past years, most members contributed actively to the loop, as they shared their feelings, emotions, difficulties and questions fervently, and the number of messages was about ten or more per day. True, they manifested sometimes quite different, or even opposite, opinions, which caused real confrontation. But, not even considering the national character, the ability to manage the difficulty through the debate became an important factor for the spiritual and emotional growth and a stimulus for large participation.

If you are interested in being a part of this loop, we would welcome your participation!

To find out more, please visit http://recovery.hiwaay.net/special/italian.html
or http://it.groups.yahoo.com/group/ItalianJTR/.

To join, please send a blank email to: ItalianJTR-subscribe-request@lists.therecoverygroup.org.





JOURNEY TO RECOVERY (JTR)

JTR is a wonderful loop full of loving, caring people. There is lots of positive sharing, lots of encouragement and lots of love on this loop. We are a topic loop, though many of us share on what is going on in our lives and how our disease affects our daily living.

We have members from all over the world, different races, creeds and religions, but yet we all get along, bound by this one major common factor: we are all COE's. We share our experience, strength and hope along with our lives. I, along with the others, will send my prayers when one of our members has to go to the doctor, celebrate when one of us achieves a long awaited goal, or the birth of a child, or grandchild. We reach out through the computer to touch each other with our love, our happiness and yes, to share our sorrow and pain, also, where we find ourselves quickly surrounded by cyberhugs, love, prayers and encouragement to stay abstinent.

I check in daily to see how each and everyone is doing. When I haven't heard from one of our members, I worry if he/she is okay. I guess the best way to describe JTR is as a loving family of people, all joined in heart and love, helping each other daily to live a life of abstinence and serenity.

To read more, please visit the following webpages: http://recovery.hiwaay.net/jtr/index.html.
To join JTR, please visit:
http://maelstrom.stjohns.edu/CGI/wa.exe?SUBED1=Journey-To-Recovery&A=1.

Love and Blessings,
Tanya
JTR Co-coordinator



LATTER DAY SAINTS

"?Our mission is firm...our purpose is resolute?"

A visit to the Latter Day Saints ODAT loop is uplifting and welcoming. Many members have found great comfort in sharing with others as they journey together towards recovery. This loop offers support for each other and acceptance of everyone - just as they are. This loop is a place of hope and faith for those who believe they can recover.

To read more about Latter Day Saints ODAT , please visit our webpages:
http://recovery.hiwaay.net/odat/latterdaysaints/index.html or
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/LatterDaySaintsODAT/.

If you would like to join this loop, to experience their message, please send an email to:
LatterDaySaintsODAT-subscribe-request@lists.therecoverygroup.org.




MEDITATIONS AND RECOVERY

The wonderful meditations and corresponding shares that arrive in our mailbox each day are an important piece in our personal recovery ?puzzle?. Thought provoking, spiritually uplifting (yet simple) messages of peace and hope that inspire change and soothe our recovering souls; almost 800 members receive these meditations each day?

If you would like to subscribe, or know someone who would benefit from this wonderful loop, simply send a blank e-mail to:
RecoveryMeditationsList-subscribe-request@lists.therecoverygroup.org.

Of course, you can also visit these web pages:
http://recovery.hiwaay.net/special/meditations.html or
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MeditationsAndRecovery/.




~ FROM OUR TRG MEMBERS ~


Hi, I'm Helen, a recovering Compulsive Overeater, recovering one day at a time for the past 23 years, 4 and a half months.

Although my mother gave birth to me in 1932, my life began when I entered my first meeting. I recall seeing those who weighed about 400 pounds, and I decided that perhaps I can give them hope by sharing my experience.

I grew up in a very warm, loving home with parents who went out of their way to see that both my brother and I had what was needed. My brother was born in 1929, so it was hard times for all. However, I do not remember there ever being no food on our table or that we lacked clothing or shelter. Both my brother and I are compulsive overeaters. Unfortunately, he does not recognize it. As it is painful to me, I need to let go of it and I have to the best of my ability.

I was born and brought up in Toronto Canada, and moved to Israel as a young adult; maybe I thought the change would help!!!!!. As a child, I was what they called "pleasingly plump." However, in those days a thin child was considered a sick one. At about five years old I had my thyroid tested and was given tablets, but later it was found out to be an error and I should not have been given them. However, for years I continued to blame my perfectly healthy thyroid. When I was 11, my mother passed away from LUPUS. In those days it was really difficult to recognize it; no cure or way of controlling it. Today there is still no cure, but it can be controlled with medication. I need to always remember that I, too, have a disease with no cure, but which is controllable as long as I take my medication daily: do the Steps, pray, medidate, and last (but not least) stay abstinent.

After my mother's death, I decided I could not rely on anyone to stay around, and, therefore, I would not allow myself to get close to anyone, At the time, I had a good father, a very quiet man who could not express his feelings. When he passed away at the age of 84, after losing two spouses, he still could not express himself. I had loving grandparents, but they had just lost their only daughter, though they did have sons. I also learned very quickly that I do not express my feelings. Also, my brother left home very young; he also could not cope. Food was what I turned to, and I kept gaining and gaining. I reached about 350 pounds and uttered the famous last words, "I'll lose the weight as soon as I decide I want to." The truth is I always managed to lose if I made the effort; it always lasted long enough for me to be photographed thin, and then I would start going up again. Today I know I needed the fat for protection and for the ability to cope. My family did everything they could to help, but I was not ready.

My school work suffered because I was too stuffed up to learn. I was always a very good girl and did as was expected, but I was shy and withdrawn. There is no way I would have shared with anyone what I am now sharing. But I now know that if I want to keep what I have so generously received, I need to pass it on.

Late in 1979, an alcoholic friend (sober about two years) told me about O.A. which was quite new to her in Israel. There was only one meeting a week, a three-hour trip from where I live. Although it took me a few months to get to the first meeting, I felt at home immediately. Also at the time, we had no phones where I live, so together with this same friend, I needed to get into the literature. Back then there was only the Big Book and A.A s 12&12, so I needed to do a lot of footwork. I took a food plan at that very first meeting. At that time they were given out at meetings. Being compulsive, I followed it so exactly that it turned out it was a very bad one for me. True, I lost about 160 pounds in the first four months, but that shows how bad it was for me. I knew I needed to make changes and I feared gaining weight, but I really had no choice. I did gain back about 20 pounds, and since then I have held the weight lost, and in the past year I have lost another 8-10 pounds. I AM healthy; I do more now at my age then I did in my twenties and thirties.

To those who are new or those who are still looking for recovery, I can only say that, if it happened to me, it can to you. Find what works for you and stick to it. If it does not work, look for something else. There is a SOLUTION and there is HOPE. If I managed to help one person, I feel my effort was worthwhile.

I have already helped myself, just by writing this.

With love,
Helen




Dear GOMU,

I pampered myself yesterday... I bought a Dirt Devil vacuum sweeper...light weight; has a hose and other attachments... 'on sale'. Now to put this Devil together.

Also bought a PUR water filtration system, the small one. Since my well-pump was replaced, my water has not been the same so I've been buying cooking and drinking water. Now to hook up the PUR filter.

Bought an upright Eureka Enviro Steamer Floor cleaner...also 'on sale'. While I was gone, a mouse problem developed in my house. When I left for my 'daytrips' what I thought was a problem taken care of and solved, developed again... So I must have had a momma mousey left over. The house smells terribly 'mousey'... and I trapped 13 mice the first night home. Cocoa caught three the next two days, and I've now caught four more... There must be a mouse hole someplace. Those sticky-board-traps are well worth the money!!! Now to use all my 'new tools' to clean up and try to get rid of the 'mousey smell'.

Oh, yes, and my best 'Pampering Purchase' of all... :)))))) XCingular Wireless had a promotion going on in our New SuperWalmart... Granny now has a 'new toy' to take on her DayTrips. I bought the lowest 'Nation-wide'plan until I see what I really need. Now those who are upset with me because they can't chart my whereabouts should be happy... :)) My sis will be the first I call... :)) When I learn how to use it. :)) Spent four hours reading directions last night... It's still in the box this morning.

Thank You God of mine... All of this brings me to the 'real' problems of my life... My 'old' work tools were worn out, not doing the job... Soooo, it was time to replace them.

I found OA, these rooms of RECOVERY, these friends to lead, hold, and share on this journey and some 'new tools' that work... IF I use them!!! The Stink of my Stinking Thinking keeps me in line when there are 'rats in my Belfry'...and lets me know that whatever is there WILL multiply to situations out of control... "Houston we have a Problem"...

So God, I leave the clean-up to You; to use Your 'PUR' wisdom. Help me to "Stop, Watch, Listen" as You Control, Help me to Stay Connected, to dial You at the moment of a problem, to reach out to You first, then my sponsor, and finally, these friends who know how it is, who share ESH to help one another. Now be with us all; give the gifts of recovery and Life... Thank You for Your Power, Stength, and Wisdom. Thank You for Your Love.
Amen.

Hugs, grannysyl
    ...gathering all 'workable' tools. :)


~ RECOVERY WRITERS' SERIES ~

~ Danny's Letters to God ~

In this column we bring you shares from Recovery Meditations, Odyssey, Danny's Letters To God, Journey to Recovery, Reflections, The Promises and many others. For the next three months we want to highlight the series, "Danny's Letters to God". The second letter we have chosen is called "Lucky me".

~~~~~
Dear God,

Oh my, how my heart sings this morning as I sit here, realizing You have granted me another of Your marvelous days in which to enjoy my life. The newly risen sun is so bright with clean, fresh, cool air to breath; thanks. This man has absolutely no idea as to why he has this current feeling of joy, however it is readily accepted as another gift. There have been so many mornings in my life filled with dread and fear of some unknown thing that never happened. Just an empty void, filled with some unseen terror. Then somehow the courage to call an unseen God to dispel the unknown terror; thanks.

As I sit here with my java close by and the woman You sent to run my life safely snuggled in her bed I am complete, and I am happy. Her ability to wake up with that little girl smile and gentleness is something I am so grateful for; thanks. There is a certain amount of wisdom forced upon me by the years I have lived. I should say survived, because until I gave up being God I merely survived, and now I may live; thanks. Yesterday, I told You I considered myself the luckiest man alive, and this morning I know why and where I heard the phrase. It was spoken by Lou Gerhig during his farewell to 60,000+ people at Yankee Stadium in the 1940's. He knew he would die a slow painful death, but was full of gratitude for the short life he would have. Thanks for the memory.

My life has been blessed with role models, some good, some not, but all are a part of me. They have shaped and molded me as surely as You have directed, and this bit of information is what gives me the feeling of happiness and joy this morning brings. It is, in fact, those dark valleys that allow me to appreciate the pure freshness at the top of the mountain; thanks. Because I'm so full of life today, and there are no contractors to deal with, my thoughts turn to replacing the shower head which has seen better days, and in fact does not operate as it should. You know how poorly I do at fix-it stuff, so stay with me on this.

Meanwhile, I'm ready for this day to unfold as You wish and am prepared to do my best with all You send my way. I will, of course, need the wisdom to know and power to do same. Please watch over the family, friends, fellow loopies, those who still linger at Step Three, and the folks I just don't like.

And Why Not?
Danny



~ LIFELINE SELECTION ~

~ I Didn?t Get It ~

When I walked through the doors of my first meeting, I knew I was home. I had found unconditional acceptance and love. After a few weeks, the warm, fuzzy feeling left, and reality hit me. I did not get this program. What were those Twelve Steps? They seemed like 100 Steps, so many to do. What was abstinence? What do you mean give up the stuff I like? Then there?s God! He doesn?t have time to spend on me. He has more important things to worry about than my lack of self-esteem and willpower.

Then I find out I?m supposed to get a sponsor, someone who has what I want. Well, I didn?t see any point in that, because I could do just fine by myself. (I had run things so well up to this point.) Journaling was out, too. I?m the world?s worst speller. How do you find time to do all this stuff: call and correspond with people, write in a journal, read and pray? I decided I didn?t have time to do this, and off to the fridge I went.

Despite my strong willpower to resist the OA program, I continued going to meetings. Maybe I didn?t get it, but OAers were a fun group of people. I could identify and share feelings with them. I enjoyed being part of something wonderful, and they seemed to like me - warts and all. WOW! I had friends for the first time in my life. I thought that was all I needed. I didn?t need the rest.

Guess what? The program got me! It crept in through the cracks of my well-built wall. Before I knew it, I wanted God, abstinence and a sponsor in my life. As it turns out, God has time for me - when I ask. There are only Twelve Steps. And I discover that no one cares if I can?t spell or write well. Journaling helps, too.

I have learned much from this program and from my friends. Without the patient help of God and my fellow OAers, I would not be headed in the right direction - toward a sane life. I would still be spinning my wheels and mistreating the people I say I love.

Thank you, God and everyone in OA. Without you, I wouldn?t be where I am today.

? C.W., Bloomfield, Iowa USA
Overeaters Anonymous' Lifeline, August 2002



~ FROM THE LITERATURE ~




~~THE TWELVE STEPS ~ STEP EIGHT~~

Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.



~~ THE TWELVE TRADITIONS ~ TRADITION EIGHT ~~

Overeaters Online Recovery Group should remain forever nonprofessional.



~~ BIG BOOK QUOTE ~~
Big Book reading: "Unless one's family expresses a desire to live upon spiritual principles we think we ought not to urge them. We should not talk incessantly to them about spiritual matters. They will change in time. Our behaviour will convince them more than our words. We must remember that ten or twenty years of drunkeness (or diets, purging, starving, compulsive eating) would make a skeptic out of anyone."

Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book - Page 83 (all editions)
I love this paragraph, as it reminds me of how offended I used to get when no one believed me that OA could work for me where other things had failed. My sponsor drew me to this paragraph and it gave me the gift of acceptance and understanding of my family and their thinking towards me.

  [Marl, Big Book and Recovery]




~ RECOVERY MEDITATIONS ~


~
August Meditations Calendar ~
(http://www.therecoverygroup.org/meditations/august.html)





~ THE RECOVERY GROUP MEETINGS ~

Online Meetings Update

Our new noon (Eastern) meetings are going well. As with the night meetings, these meetings are held every day of the week. While the number of attendees has been somewhat small so far, the topics and sharing have been great and attendance should pick up as the meetings get to be known. In addition to these new meetings, we continue our popular evening meetings, held every night at 9:30 PM Eastern time. Please join us as often as you can for the noon and evening meetings.

Now, for our latest news. Once again, we are working on adding another block of meetings. These new meetings will be special focus meetings; for example, we are talking about starting a meeting for teens and a meeting on the Big Book. We also are talking about having a meeting for Newcomers. Tentatively, we have decided on a time of 4:00PM Eastern time. Please contact us if you would like more information. We can be reached at
MtgAdm@lists.TheRecoveryGroup.org.

Finally, we would like to invite you to join our wonderful team of meeting leaders and partners. We are in need of new leaders. No experience is necessary...we will train you. There really isn't a lot of work associated with being a leader; it is easy and fun. And you would be working with an incredible and loving group of people dedicated to helping others. Being a meeting leader is a great way to give back what you have so generously been given. If you are interested in knowing more, please send an email to: MtgAdm@lists.TheRecoveryGroup.org.

To reach the Recovery Group website:

Or, go directly to the meeting webpage at: http://therecoverygroup.org/meetings/index.html.

For AOL members, there is a direct link to #Recovery: #Recovery on StarChat.Network. AOL users need to first go to the Meeting website and look at the special instructions for AOL users before they can fully participate in the meetings or they can go to: http://www.starchat.net/aol.php.

#Recovery is the meeting room for Recovery Group. There is a doorway to #Recovery on the Recovery Group website, www.therecoverygroup.org. The meeting room can be directly accessed by going to either of these sites: http://www.starchat.net/recovery or http://www.starchat.net/chat/?chan=recovery.

You can find other helpful information, including on-line meeting protocols at:
http://recovery.hiwaay.net/support/meetings.html.

Again, if you have any further questions or we can help you in any way, please write either of us, at:
MtgAdm@lists.TheRecoveryGroup.org.

Thanks,
Vicki and Pat
Meeting Cocoordinators

.....Don't forget.....

The RECOVERY HAPPY HOUR begins at 10:30PM Eastern in #RecoveryTalk on IRC. Come have coffee after the meeting ... or even if you don't attend the meeting, come join us and relax until bedtime. Remember to BYOC! ;-)





~ OVEREATERS ANONYMOUS CONTACTS ~

Overeaters Anonymous
World Service Office (WSO)
6075 Zenith Ct. NE
PO Box 44020
Rio Rancho, NM 87124
USA

Telephone 505-891-2664
Fax: 505-891-4320
http://www.overeatersanonymous.org/index.htm
E-Mail Address ~ info@overeatersanonymous.org

"I put my hand in yours ...
and together we can do what we could never do alone."
~ Rozanne, OA CoFounder ~





~ THE RECOVERY GROUP CONTACTS ~



Newsletter Editor ~ SerendipityNewsletter@yahoo.com ~ Marty or Chris
Newsletter Subscriptions ~ SerendipityNewsletter@yahoo.com(Subject=Web/Email Subscription)
Letters to the Editor ~ SerendipityNewsletter@yahoo.com(Subject=Letter to the Editor)
Sponsor Coordinator ~ sponsors@therecoverygroup.org
Recovery Meeting Coordinator ~ MtgAdm@lists.TheRecoveryGroup.org
Technical Support ~ RecoveryTech@mail.com
TRG Webmaster ~ Mari
Recovery Group Administrators ~ TRGAdm@TheRecoveryGroup.org
Recovery Group Founder ~ Mari


"In the deepest part of a compulsive eater's soul . . .
Is the realization that recovery begins when we find one another."


~~ The Serenity Prayer ~~

Grant us the SERENITY to accept the things we cannot change;
The COURAGE to change the things we can;
And the WISDOM to know the difference.


What we could never do alone ~
We can do together.

One day at a time, ~
One step at a time.


Disclaimer


The Recovery Group and our newsletter has as its mission and purpose that of carrying the message of recovery to those who suffer from the disease of compulsive eating. We are an anonymous organization and follow the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions of Overeaters Anonymous; however, we are not affiliated with that group. Your articles, announcements and information are welcome. All opinions in this newsletter represent only the opinions of the writers and not necessarily that of The Recovery Group or OA, Inc.
The Trusted Servants of Recovery

Volume 5 Issue 8 © Copyright 2003 THE RECOVERY GROUP All rights reserved.