A Wellspring of Hope
Newsletter of The Recovery Group


April 2006
Volume 8, Issue 4


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ser*en*dip*i*ty ~ (noun) First appeared 1754:
the faculty or phenomenon of finding
valuable or agreeable things not sought for.


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THIS MONTH IN SERENDIPITY




FROM THE SERENDIPITY TEAM

Dear Readers,

Spring has sprung and with it April's edition of Serendipity. In our newsletter, we endeavour to provide you with information about events taking place in our community. We value your input and invite you tendeavorknow what you think. Reader suggestions and articles are always encouraged and welcomed! Each month, our TRG administrators, coordinators and other trusted servants report about what's occurring in our various divisions, programs and loops. We want to get our message of hope and recovery out to as many people as possible, so we urge you to use our newsletter as a personal resource and to share it with others. Mail it to friend, or invite someone to look at Serendipity on the website.

We have a great deal of news to share with you this month! Along with our regular TRG articles, we will give you details about three exciting Programs commencing in April - the second quarter WTS Step Study featuring John S., our second Quarter OA Newcomers Orientation and a New Writers Series from Lee Anne. Karen gets us into a comptemplative state with her article entitled "Quiet Time." Lanaya gives us a 12 Steps share called "Promptly Admitting Wrong". Marilyn will introduce you to Joe in Newcomer's Corner and also share some personal insights in an article entitled "Inhaling."

I hope you have a wonderful April and enjoy reading this month's edition of the Serendipity newsletter.

Love in recovery,

Rob, Serendipity Editor & The Serendipity Team
Contact:
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RECOVERY MEDITATION
Struggle

"Our way is not soft grass, it's a mountain path with lots of rocks. But it goes upward, forward, toward the sun."

    . . . Ruth Westheimer

I've been in a Twelve Step program for a while now. I look back and sometimes I think how easy the journey has been to find the peace, serenity and love I've been given, thanks to the program. Just as I brought much denial with me when I joined, apparently I'm still in some denial. I'm so grateful to be where I am today that I have forgotten the struggles I've faced to get here.

No wonder some newcomers look at longtimers and think they'll never be able to get there! When I stretch my memory, I remember running headlong into the Fourth Step, thinking it the scariest thing I'd ever faced in my life. I know that first one was traumatic -- holding my pencil to do it, getting the first page down, admitting so many things that had been shaming me for decades. I usually don't think about that today. Now I know firsthand the cleansing of a good Fourth Step, and I look forward to them as I peel the onion and find more defects.

When I look back over my journey, I can remember sitting in an emergency room using the slogan "One Day at a Time" for the first time. I changed "one day" to "five minutes" because it was all I could handle. But it got me through that day and the next two days. A few years ago I read that the slogans are the handrails to the Steps. I wish I'd known that before. For me, to use that slogan when I did was an act of faith, and at the time my faith was shaky.

Maybe the fact that I have faith now, having proved to my satisfaction that there is a Higher Power out there wanting the best for me, is why I look back on my journey and have a hard time finding the struggles. Maybe it's my new attitude of gratitude; it keeps me looking to the positive and not the negative. Whatever the reason, I'd like to say that I struggled in the program, but it was worth it.

ONE DAY AT A TIME ...
I will remember to turn to the program to help maintain my peace and serenity, especially through the bad times.





QUOTATION OF THE MONTH


"Expect to have hope rekindled. Expect your prayers to be answered in wondrous ways. The dry seasons in life do not last. The spring rains will come again."BR>
~ Sarah Ban Breathnach ~



FOUNDER'S CORNER ~ BEGINNINGS ~


"The distance is nothing; it's only the first step that is difficult."
     --Marquise du Deffand

I don't know if any of you are like me or not ... but I have a difficult time getting started with things sometimes. This wouldn't be so bad ... except that when I get started with things I also have a difficult time stopping. The latter is called tenacity or possibly compulsive. The first could be called laziness or inertia.

Today our community has two "beginnings." They are both important and I hope that many of you will see their worth. If you have a tendency to not take that "first step" in things, then I hope you'll stop reading this right now and do one of two things:

1. If you're a newcomer reading this, pull out your keyboard and send a blank email to:

OANewcomers-subscribe-request@therecoverygroup.org
A new 12 Step Orientation is beginning and if you have never worked a 12 Step program this is the place you should be. Twelve Speakers have prepared 12 topics which will enable you to graduate on March 31st. This will prepare you for the adventure of a lifetime ... the beginning of your 12 Step Recovery Program, a food plan, a sponsor, working the Steps, a home loop and spiritual, emotional and physical growth. A by-product will be serenity, weight loss and a closer relationship with your Higher Power.

2. If you're not a newcomer, but have never worked the 12 Steps or are ready to work them now, send a blank email to:

WTS-subscribe-request@therecoverygroup.org
You can join hundreds of others just like yourself as the 12 Steps are worked in an interactive group. John S. will be the leader this quarter; the study begins today and ends on June 30th.

You will need a sponsor for both of these. If you don't have one, we'll help you find just the right person to make your experience a cherished one.

Happy April, Loopies.

@-}-}-}------
Love in recovery,
Mari



~ LETTERS TO SERENDIPITY ~



To submit your comments or letters to the editor, simply send an email to:
SerendipityNewsletter@yahoo.com

All comments and suggestions are welcome.

Good Day All,

It's been a few weeks. I got fired from my job which was also my email address for the loop. I'm back on line now at home and I've MISSED you all.

I start a new job Monday and all is well. The old job got a new boss and I was the 5th fired, so I'm not taking it personally. I'll check back as soon as I get caught up with everyone.

Just for today, I commit to 3 abstinent meals, exercise and lots of gratitude. Have a great day if you want to.

Love, Marsha
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Dear Marsha:

It's good to have you back with us. Congratulatons on the new job and your commitment. Way to go!

Love in recovery,

Rob
Serendipity Editor

Dear Serendipity,

I was reading on the sponsor page about joining a recovery loop and I don't see anywhere on the page how to. Could you direct me how to join a recovery loop? It would be greatly appreciated.

Carolyn

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Dear Carolyn:

The information you are seeking can found at: www.therecoverygroup.org. Links to the loops can be found if you scroll down about half down the page or, go to this page and click on the loop you wish to join.

http://www.therecoverygroup.org/map/sitemap.html
A good place to start would be the the Newcomers Loop. This is the place to have all your questions answered and to find the support you need.

To join, send a completely blank email to:
oanewcomers-subscribe-request@lists.therecoverygroup.org
If you need more help, please write to:
TRGAdm@Lists.TheRecoveryGroup.Org

Love in recovery,
Rob
Serendipity Editor



~ INHALING ~



I used to inhale my food. Most of the time I was 1/2 or 3/4 of the way through my meal before even slowing down enough to really taste it.

When I was in a restaurant, I would order based on how much food I would get, as opposed to what I really had a taste for. Only after inhaling most all that food could I begin to relax, think straight, and regret my decisions.

Of course, I was deep into the disease... and like most, I was ashamed of my eating behavior, so I only indulged publicly under certain circumstances, and usually kept my binging to myself.

For me, finding abstinence was like a miracle... because abstinence counts even when nobody is looking.

Even so, sometimes when I am feeling emotional, I have to take a few deep breaths, exhale slowly and ask myself, is this really hunger, or am I wanting to eat over my emotions?

When I start to feel anger or resentment start to rise, I take a deep breath and ask myself.... am I angry because of some unmet expectation... and, are my expectations rational?

When I am feeling afraid, not wanting to go, having no confidence in myself, I try to take a few deep breaths, and remind myself that the fear is all in my head, and I have nothing to lose by exploring my fear if I am already feeling the fear. Also, I try to remind myself that most of the time, my fears turned out to be all in my head, and not based on truth or fact.

When I am feeling low, down on myself, full of self-pity, unlovable, alone and depressed, I take a few deep breaths and try to remind myself that this will pass, the negativity is just part of the disease, and I need to continue on and act "as if" until the unwarranted emotion passes. I need to remind myself of my accomplishments, and continue to learn to be my own best friend.

Every day, I try to take my breathing to the next level, and spend some time meditating/relaxing with my thoughts. It helps quiet my mind, gather wisdom, recognize truth, and find peace. It helps me make decisions, take action, and affect my outcome.

Love in service,
Marilyn (Marils)



~ TRG ADM ~ The Administrative Hub ~



We have just completed a 12 step study presented by Shlomo and will be beginning a new study April 1, on the Working The Steps list.

Thank you so much for being the leader of a very enlightening study these past four months, Shlomo.

The leader for this quarter will be John. John has been around the Recovery Group for quite some time and previously led one of our Step Studies in 2001. It's not too late to join John and work the steps. Just send an email to this address:

WTS-SUBSCRIBE-REQUEST@LISTS.THERECOVERYGROUP.ORG
You'll get back an email asking you to confirm your subscription. When you get that mail, click on reply, type ok in the body of the email and send.

An OA Newcomers Orientation will also be starting on April 1st. Newcomers are encouraged to ask questions in regard to both the 12-Step program and The Recovery Group. Guest speakers will also present a series of 12 topics during this orientation period which range from newcomers basics to a brief outline of the 12 Steps and the 12 Traditions.

OA Newcomers meetings are also offered. Here, those new to the program may ask questions and learn more about the OA on line meetings.

We would like to thank all of the volunteers who work so diligently at their jobs. Each of you play a very important part in keeping these loops and services available for all compulsive eaters throughout the world.

In loving service to all,
Nancy & Dodee, Administrators
The Recovery Group

http://www.TheRecoveryGroup.org
Contact: TRGAdm@TheRecoveryGroup.org


~ THE RECOVERY GROUP ~
ADMINISTRATIVE HIGHLIGHTS

~ ODAT LOOPS DIVISION ~

The ODAT Group Loops

The ODAT division is a group of loops which allow COEs to share their Program with other COEs who share a special focus.

We have groups for people in the same age group (Silver, Teens); groups for those with similar diseases (Disability, Depression, Pain, PMS, Diabetes); groups for those with family/relationship/experiential challenges (Divorce, FFOA (Al-Anon), Parenting, Pregnancy & Motherhood, Relationships, Grief, Isolation, Anger, Homebound,) and groups for those who are also addicted to other substances (SexandLoveAddicts, Spending, Drug Abuse, AA). We also have groups for those who choose a special food plan (Grey Sheet, HOW) and diverse groups such as Israel (those who have an interest in Israel); Strong Recovery (those who identify themselves as working a strong Program) and Oanon (family and friends of COEs); Abuse (a group for victims of abuse); Creative (a group for people who are creative); Rainbow (for those who are gay, lesbian and transgender); and Weight Loss Surgery (for those who have had, or are considering weight loss surgery).

We also have groups for those who share the same faith. We have strong and active sharing in the Jewish group. They regularly share wisdom from the Torah and from Jewish scholars, and relate this wisdom to working their Program. The Christian group shares scriptures, and has regular prayers. The Pagan group has sharing that relates to others who share an earth-based religion. We also have an LDS group, though it is not currently as active as the others.

If you want information on any of the ODAT groups, please contact me and I will be glad to answer any questions.

Blessings,
Donna
ODAT Division Chairperson

Email:
odatadm@yahoo.com
Web page: www.theRecoveryGroup.org/odat/index.html

~ RECOVERY LOOPS DIVISION ~

The Recovery Loops Division is made up of TRG's Twelve-step general sharing support groups. Our common mission is to provide a safe and supportive space for anyone who wants to recover from the disease of compulsive eating to share their experience, strength, and hope with others. In addition, some of these loops also have a special focus. The loops that make up this Division are: Anorexia and Bulimia, The Big Book, 200 Plus, Journey to Recovery, Meditations, OA Friends, OA Newcomers, OA Recovery, Relapse, Sponsor-Sponsee-Talk, Working the Steps ("WTS"), and WTS Weekly.

WTS will be beginning a new 12-Step Study in April. We hope that many of you will be joining us for this study. As always many of the participants in this study will be looking for sponsors to help guide them through the Steps. Why not improve your own recovery by sponsoring another?

Several of the Recovery Group Loops are in need of coordinators. I know that giving service by being a coordinator of a loop has added a lot to my own recovery and hope that you will consider this opportunity to give service. If you are interested in becoming a coordinator, please contact me at: the address below.
Respectfully submitted,

CherylS, Chair
The Recovery Group Loops Division

More details about these support groups can be found at:
www.theRecoveryGroup.org/trg.html
Contact: recoveryloopsadm@yahoo.com

~ DISCOVERY LOOPS DIVISION ~

Hello, everyone.

*Warning: food mentioned*

Hello from Abstinent Kitchen, Discovery Division.

This month I thought I'd include two sample recipes for anyone interested in vegetarian meals. I've gotten more interested because of various medical conditions as well as being a recovering COE. All of these you can find plus many others by going to the Discovery Division, clicking on the Abstinent Kitchen and then choosing the low-fat recipes and clicking the vegetarian site there.

The url is:

http://www.therecoverygroup.org/discovery/index.html
One other note: We still need a second coordinator for Abstinent Kitchen and for Exercise loops, and one or two coordinators for Co-Kids. If interested please contact me at:

Here are the two Vegetarian Recipes:

Southwestern Salad

Ingredients (Preparation Method)
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2 cups cooked brown rice or other whole grain
1 can black beans (drained & rinsed)
2 cups frozen corn kernels
1 red bell pepper(chopped)
1 small onion (chopped)
1/4 cup white wine vinegar (or to taste)
1/4 cup cilantro -- chopped
1 jalapeno pepper (minced) or cayenne to taste
1 teaspoon chili powder

Combine all ingredients. Tastes even better if you let it stand, refrigerated or at room temperature, for 1 hour before serving. This salad keeps for days.

Calories: 162
Total Fat: 1 gram
Dietary Fiber: 6 grams
WW Points: 2.62

Greens, Beans and Grains

Ingredients:
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2 tablespoons lite soy sauce
1 tablespoon hot pepper sauce, or to taste
2/3 cup of barley
2/3 cup of wild rice
10 oz. package frozen spinach, thawed (broccoli works, too)
2 tablespoons Italian herbs
1 1/2 tablespoons lemon juice
1/4 teaspoon ground black pepper
1/2 teaspoon garlic powder
1 cup small white beans, precooked or canned
pinch of crushed red pepper to taste

Directions:

Bring two cups of water to a boil. Stir in the soy sauce and hot sauce, then the grains. Bring back to a boil and then lower heat to a simmer, covered, for 45 minutes or so, until it reaches the texture you enjoy most.

If the mood strikes while the barley and rice are cooking, you could saute a bit of fresh garlic and onion to add in when the grains are cooked instead of using garlic powder. When the grains are done, take off the heat, add in the rest of the ingredients except the red pepper and mix well. Place in serving dish and sprinkle hot pepper over the top.

Serves: 2 or 3

Preparation time: less than 1 hour including cooking
In loving service,
Athena
Discovery Division Chair

Contact:
Web page: www.TheRecoveryGroup.org/discovery/index.html
Email: DiscoveryAdm@yahoo.com
or DiscoveryAdm@lists.TheRecoveryGroup.org

~ THE RECOVERY OA ONLINE MEETINGS ~
On-Line Meeting Division

Meetings Around the World ~ Around the Clock


We want to welcome all the new leaders who have joined us in the past month. Audrey has worked hard to make sure that everyone knows how to lead meetings and what to do to make our room safe. She has also asked for help with the training of new leaders. Those who are helping Audrey are Lyndsay, Michael, and Nelida. We want to thank these people for stepping up.

We also want to give a special thank you to Kimber, who provides many "behind the scenes" services for The Recovery Group. In addition to doing our scheduling, she keeps our filing and meeting lists updated, and regularly leads online meetings. Kimber has now volunteered to do the monthly meeting reports. Thank you, Kimber!

Our first speaker meeting will be Friday, March 31, with Phyllis (aka "recoveryroom") as our first TRG speaker. She will be the speaker at the 6 PM meeting. We are excited to learn more about Phyllis and welcome her as our first speaker.

In loving service,
Terri and Audrey
(Meeting Division Chairs of TRG)

Enquiries to: MtgAdm@lists.TheRecoveryGroup.org
www.TheRecoveryGroup.org/meetings/index.html



~ TRG PROGRAMS & SPECIAL SERVICES DIVISION ~



Programs & Special Services Division has had another busy month. I'm pleased to announce Marilyn (Marils) has taken over as Telephone Angels Coordinator. TRG Topics Team welcomes new writer Quenby aka "Q" and Phyllis to its ranks. Our Sponsor Program is busy getting ready for an influx of sponsor requests for next upcoming WTS Quarterly. We also just finished launching a special Writer's Series. One of our most active Trusted Servants, Lee Anne, was recently diagnosed with cancer and is finding comfort in writing a journal as she begins her journey to wellness.

We're ALWAYS on the hunt for those willing to give service. I'm still looking for someone to help handle Serendipity subsriptions and someone to coordinate the 12-Step Anniversay Program and Sponsor/Sponsee Talk loop. With our new WTS Quarterly study coming up in April, TRG Sponsor Program requires an influx of new sponsors. If are you interested in giving service in these areas - or are interested in ANY of our programs, please contact me at the address given below.

Love in Recovery,
Rob R.

TRG Programs And Services Division Chair
The Recovery Group
(
tarryrob@yahoo.ca)



~ TRG SPONSOR PROGRAM ~

It is now the season of SPRING in some parts of the world. During this delight-filled time of year, we are surrounded by new growth and life of all kinds! What a boost this is after the long winter season!!

How is your recovery this SPRING Season? Could you use a boost of new life? Why not become a TRG Sponsor, and embrace the gift of sharing your recovery with another member?

The OA tools say: "By working with other members of OA and sharing their experience, strength and hope, sponsors continually renew and reaffirm their own recovery. Sponsors share their program up to the level of their own experience."

Is today the day you want to "renew and reaffirm" your recovery? Sharing your 12 step experience through sponsoring is like a breath of fresh air for your recovery!!

JUST SAY YES TODAY!!!!!!

Please write to us at the address given below. We will get you the information you need to become a TRG Sponsor Today.

TRG Sponsor Coordinators
       Patt and Cate
       TRG Sponsor Coordinators

www.TheRecoveryGroup.org/sponsors.html
Contact: Sponsors@TheRecoveryGroup.org



~ THE RECOVERY TELEPHONE ANGELS ~

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Dear Telephone Angels,

My name is Marilyn (aka TRGMarils) and It is my privilege to serve as the new Coordinator of the TRG Telephone Angels program.

Early in my career, I worked as a headhunter in the investment industry, and I learned that the telephone could be a very useful and powerful tool. Just before coming to OA, I learned that again, on a more personal level. In fact, my recovery began with the telephone.

I had hit rock bottom, and my life was falling apart. Someone gave me the name of a well-respected therapist who specialized in addiction. Since this person no longer practiced in my area and was now semi-retired, we agreed to have our sessions by phone.

I must say, I dreaded that first session. I had not even been to an OA meeting yet. I did not want someone prying into my personal life. I did not want to spill my guts, only to have someone trample all over them with criticism. Still, I knew I needed to make a change in my life.

My experience, however, could not have been more wonderful. The person was kind, friendly, and very understanding. He was a big supporter of the 12-Step process. From our first conversation, my life changed. I learned about shame, fear, and how insulating myself from hurt was isolating myself from life.

I can honestly say that my life changed with that very first phone call... and subsequent calls really rocket launched me into my recovery. I wish all could have that kind of experience.

Thank you to those willing to donate your time and offering to be a lifeline to those who need to speak with someone. It is an honor to be working among you.

To join our list of telephone angels and share your recovery with others through this service please contact:
Telephoneangels@yahoo.com

In your email please include the following information so that you may be properly listed in the directory:

  • Your name
  • Email address
  • Publish your email address? (Yes or No)
  • What city and state you live in (this way people can find someone closer to them)
  • Your phone number ~ area code and number
  • Your time zone (like Eastern Standard)
  • Best times to call?
  • Should folks leave a message or not?
  • And, any other info you want callers to know, such as: "What is the focus of your Recovery?"
Note:
  • We do not publish website mentions.
  • No advertisements or spam is allowed.
  • The Telephone Angel Directory is published as an outreach tool for our
    TRG Recovery Loop members ONLY and is PRIVATE and CONFIDENTIAL!
  • Phone numbers should never be shared under any circumstances.
Thanks in advance for considering giving service.

In service,
Marilyn (Marils)
Coordinator, Telephone Angels Directory

The Recovery Telephone Angels Program
Telephoneangels@yahoo.com.



~ NEWCOMER'S CORNER ~

Newcomers meetings are Monday and Tuesday, 8PM EST and Thursday 10PM EST

~ MEET Sam.~

Twenty-six year old Sam hails to us from Toronto, Ontario Canada; and like many who attend these online meetings, finds that without an OA meeting in his local area, commuting back and forth from meetings can be a frustrating and time-consuming experience.

Sam, what did you think when you attended your first online meeting?

"I thought wow this is NEAT! I wish I found out about online meetings a long time ago, I would be more likey to be a part of it as I am online all the time... rather than having to commit myself to Sunday mornings at an f2f that takes over an hour to get to by public transportation."

"The flexiblity of the meetings, having one every three hours is wonderful, I can look at my clock and just jump in anytime I have free... but I really like the support you get from here."

Sam, is there anything that you would like to say to the folks that come to The Recovery Group?

"Yes. 'You have found the right place, support, and unconditional love! Give it a chance to work the program and it will work for you. I have just found my sponsor and I am starting the process myself, so I am excited.' "

When not at a meeting or at his computer, however, you would probably find him kicking back, ie. hanging out with his friends, going to movies, or going out for coffee.

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and experience with us, Sam. It is a pleasure to have you as a member of our community.

Love in recovery,
Marilyn (TRGMarils)
Newcomer's Meeting Leader

Email:
mtgadm@lists.therecoverygroup.org



~ OA SECOND QUARTER NEWCOMERS' ORIENTATION ~



OA Newcomers is pleased to announce a new Orientation Session which will begin April 1 and end June 30.

OA Newcomers provides Newcomers with a temporary haven before they move on to a permanent home loop. While at OANewcomers, members participate in an Orientation Program in which they are introduced to The Recovery Group and 12 Step basics. The orientation period lasts for 12 intensive weeks of orientation during which time the newcomers are encouraged to ask questions and are introduced to various topics.

We invite Guest Speakers to present the following topics; Basics; Netiquette, Subscriptions, tips, what to do first, etc., The Twelve Steps, spirituality, the Twelve Traditions, Sponsors, On-line and Face-to-Face meetings, The Recovery Group Loops, Studies and Services, Food Plans, The Three Legged Stool, Literature with a focus on the OA 12 & 12, Big Book and TRG writings, Recovery Topics on The Recovery Website, Service and How to Share appropriately F2F and on Home Loop. The speakers send their articles, that includes questions for review, to the loop. The newcomers then post their responses to the loop, ask questions, discuss the topics,.. etc.

We also invite the Coordinators from OA Friends, OA Recovery, and Journey to Recovery to share about those loops as they will become the 12 Step Home loop for many of the Newcomers when they move on from OANewcomers.

In addition to the three-month orientation, we have a Sponsor Program for newcomers and special Newcomer Meetings. We urge all members of our Newcomers' Orientation Group to choose a sponsor soon after they arrive and to attend as many Newcomer Meetings as possible.

PLEASE SPREAD THE WORD TO ALL NEWCOMERS WHO NEED US. ORIENTATION BEGINS APRIL 1ST.

Thank you.
In Loving Service,
The Trusted Servants of TRG

CONTACTS:
Newcomer's Coordinator, Lisa: OANewcomers@yahoo.com
TRGAdm: TRGAdm@TheRecoveryGroup.org

TO JOIN: OANewcomers-subscribe-request@lists.therecoverygroup.org

NEWCOMERS WEBSITE: http://www.therecoverygroup.org/newcomers/index.html
RECOVERY WEBSITE: http://www.therecoverygroup.org



~ PROMPTLY ADMITTING WRONG ~

Boy is this hard to do, but nothing pays off like doing so! I just had a tiff with my husband. We are under a great deal of stress right now and some it boiled over for both of us.

The wonderful thing is that I have a program and within moments I could see where I had been wrong and was able to admit it and apologize. I did not lead with the chin, but asked him if he was calmed down yet and he said yes. We can move on with the rest of the night together and we tackle solving the issue when we are both in a better frame of mind to do so.

I do not have to eat over this, stuff my anger, cave in on myself with shame, relive the incident over and over or blame him over and over. It is finished! Wow!

Thank God for the 12 steps and for living in steps 10, 11 and 12.

Love,
Lanaya



~ GENERAL ANNOUNCEMENTS ~

TO SUBMIT AN ANNOUNCEMENT:
To submit an article to Serendipity Newsletter, simply send an email to:
serendipitynewsletter@yahoo.com



~ NEW WTS QUARTERLY STUDY ~



Please mark your calendar for the WTS Second Quarter Step Study which will begin on April 1st. If you have 12-Step Friends in other groups or belong to other 12-Step loops, you have our permission to forward them this invitation.

Working The Steps (WTS) is a quarterly, in-depth e-mail study of the Twelve Steps. Members actively work each Step with their personal sponsor, the WTS Step Leader and one another by posting their Step work to the loop and by encouraging other members as they post.

The WTS group is completing an intensive and extraordinary 12 week workshop with Shlomo S. as the Step Leader. Beginning April 1 and ending June 30, the WTS Step Leader will be John S. We look forward to another wonderful three month study with John. For those who join now, you will be able to observe a bit of the current study and review it all on the website at:
      
www.therecoverygroup.org/wts/2006/index.html

In addition to the 2006 study, the text and questions used by the WTS loop for the past ten years can be found right here online at: www.therecoverygroup.org/wts/index.html Our Step Leaders have been among the most inspirational Step Leaders imaginable and have brought to the online world of recovery something very special. Our deep gratitude goes to all of them.

We ask that you have a sponsor when you join the study. If you do not have one, we have a sponsor program and ask that you read: www.therecoverygroup.org/sponsors/index.html If you already have one, please encourage them to join the study with you.

WTS is not a general sharing list. There is no crosstalk on WTS and members respond only to shares and questions by the Step Leader. There is no required literature but the AA Big Book and the OA Twelve Steps and Traditions are good to have as you make your way through the twelve steps. Both can be purchased online at www.oa.org.

All questions should be directed to:
WTSAdm@lists.therecoverygroup.org .

In loving service,
The Trusted Servants of WTS
www.TheRecoveryGroup.org/wts/index.html



~ QUIET TIME ~


Do you take time each day to just be with yourself and your HP? While I started praying right off the bat, this notion of spending quiet time with myself and my HP seemed a bit unnerving. Thoughts continued to race through my head at a million miles per second, so I would quickly give up.

Lately, however, I have taken some steps toward having this quiet time by experimenting with things that worked for me. I have continued to try to find that quiet time, and for me, it is starting to come. Thoughts often flitter in and out of my head but I find myself slowly getting better at listening to what my HP is telling me. I sit in a comfortable chair with a blanket on my lap, a candle lit on the table and the lights off. The chair rocks, so I rock lightly, occasionally, and just watch the flame flicker and dance. In this moment I feel held in the loving arms of my HP, and I know he is with me and will still keep trying to talk to me even when the thoughts roll through my mind.

Love and {{{hugs}}} in recovery,
     Karen



~ FROM THE TWELVE-STEP LITERATURE ~




~~ AN AA BIG BOOK READING~~

If you have decided you want what we have and are willing to go to any length to get it -- then you are ready to take certain steps. At some of these we balked. We thought we could find an easier, softer way. But we could not. With all the earnestness at our command, we beg of you to be fearless and thorough from the very start. Some of us have tried to hold on to our old ideas and the result was nil until we let go absolutely.     c. 2001 AAWS, Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 58
With permission, Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc.

MY SHARE...

Thought to Consider:
    When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.

I really like this Big Book passage because it tells it like it IS! If we want what they have found, we have to go to any lengths, as they did, to get it! It's been nearly four years since I first found the Recovery Group Meetings. I was a very depressed, anxious, and frustrated person. When I got into the meeting, I knew that I had finally found "Home."

As we are doing the WTS Steps online right now, this passage became even more meaningful. I have gone thru the BB with greater depth than ever before, and I'm finding there's always more to learn!

Some of the detailed processes frustrated me and I wondered if I would ever get it done. But I remembered the line, you can't take the "easier and softer" way. This is a process that we never get "done." It is an ongoing daily life process - One Day at A Time. I'm so greatful I found it because I have now added more patience, serenity, and peace to my life than I ever thought possible.

Thank God for the Big Book text and all its rewards.

MUCH love in your Recovery,

    Myrlene (Big Book and Recovery Group Coordinator)



~ NEW WRITERS SERIES ~


As announced to you earlier, because of the high incidence of cancer in obese men and women, we have begun a twelve step support group for compulsive eaters who have been diagnosed with cancer.

We take great pleasure in also announcing a special Writer's Series which begins today. One of our most active Trusted Servants was recently diagnosed with cancer and is finding solace in writing a journal as she begins her journey to wellness. Through her words, you will be invited into her personal life as she receives the diagnosis which was life altering, the feelings elicited by this new knowledge, her chemotherapy and so much more.

Lee Anne's journal will be sent to you as part of the Recovery Writer's Series and will also be a part of the Recovery Website.

If you have cancer or know of a COE who does, ask them to come join our support group by sending a blank email to the address below. It means so much to be able to share things like this with others who understand.

To subscribe, send a blank e-mail to:
cancer-subscribe-request@lists.therecoverygroup.org

In loving service,
The Trusted Servants of Recovery

CONTACTS:
www.therecoverygroup.org/cancer/index.html
TRGCancerAdm@yahoo.com



~ THE SERENITY PRAYER ~

God, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.



~ OVEREATERS ANONYMOUS CONTACTS ~

Overeaters Anonymous
World Service Office (WSO)
PO Box 44020
Rio Rancho, NM 87124 USA

Telephone 505-891-2664
Fax: 505-891-4320
http://www.overeatersanonymous.org/index.html
E-Mail Address ~ info@overeatersanonymous.org

"I put my hand in yours ...
and together we can do what we could never do alone."
~ Rozanne, OA CoFounder ~



RECOVERY MEDITATIONS

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~ THE RECOVERY GROUP CONTACTS ~

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"In the deepest part of a compulsive eater's soul . . .
Is the realization that recovery begins when we find one another."

Disclaimer


The Recovery Group and our newsletter has as its mission and purpose that of carrying the message of recovery to those who suffer from the disease of compulsive eating. We are an anonymous organization and follow the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions of Overeaters Anonymous; however, we are not affiliated with that group. Your articles, announcements and information are welcome. All opinions in this newsletter represent only the opinions of the writers and not necessarily that of The Recovery Group or OA, Inc.

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