The Recovery Group
Dear Web Visitors and Recovery Friends,
My name is Donna and I am a compulsive overeater. I am going to be sharing with you my own experience, strength and hope as it relates to Questions 20-30. I have been a member of OA for about 20 years now. The responses that I will give to the questions represent my own views ... they may or may not echo yours. I hope you will share your responses with your home loop. I am honored to share these words as my service. I pray you will find something useful in the words that I write.
Please note that previous questions are already up
on the web site and can be found at http://recovery.hiwaay.net/questions/index.html
Read pp 25-29 in the BB. Discuss and reflect upon the concept that
recovery depends on huge emotional displacements and rearrangements.
I have found that the issues that surround my compulsive eating are
very emotional. Sometimes I feel extreme sadness; sometimes anger;
sometimes fear. I feel loneliness, depression, boredom. I feel many
things, and I feel them very strongly. If I focus on the intensity of my
feelings, I can be overwhelmed with them. As long as I continue to focus
on the problem, my eyes are not on the solution.
For me, the true lessons of the Program deal with my daily choice of
how to direct my energies. I can stay rooted in my problems, and be
overwhelmed by the emotions that they inspire, or I can focus on the
positive changes that my recovery work and HP are bringing about in my
life. Even serious problems which demand my immediate attention can be
handled by a shift in focus. I take a look at each situation, as it
occurs and ask myself what I must do, for that present moment only. What
feelings do I have? Can I talk about them? Journal about them? Tell my
sponsor about them? I do not have to let them overwhelm me, any more than
I should ignore them. Feelings are a valid human response to crisis - or
even to everyday life. So feeling them is what we must do, but we can
choose to feel them in the correct context. We can see them not as things
which take away from the quality of our lives, but as challenges meant to
be met by our own inner resources, as helped by our connection to our HP.
Many of us addicts have highly emotional personalities, and I am no
exception. But as I learn each day, to focus not on the problem but the
solution, my HP is changing my viewpoint. I displace my negative emotions
with positive emotions - and it can make a difference, for this 24 hours.
Blessings Donna - food addict
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