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Question Twenty-Five

Dear Web Visitors and Recovery Friends,

My name is Donna and I am a compulsive overeater. I am going to be sharing with you my own experience, strength and hope as it relates to Questions 20-30. I have been a member of OA for about 20 years now. The responses that I will give to the questions represent my own views ... they may or may not echo yours. I hope you will share your responses with your home loop. I am honored to share these words as my service. I pray you will find something useful in the words that I write.

Please note that previous questions are already up on the web site and can be found at


Dear Loop Friends: My name is Donna and I am a compulsive eater.

Question 25

Read Step 3. Discuss and reflect upon spiritual dependence as the only means of escape from the destruction of compulsive overeating.

When we work step 3, we are learning to "try not to try". We are "planning not to plan"; "working not to work". In other words, whatever we have tried to do, in the past, in order to recover from our compulsive eating and its resultant behavior... we are giving these things up, in order to let God (as we understand Him) take control of our lives. I have always been a person of deep faith, yet after almost 20 years in the Program I find myself often wondering about why I so often "take back control" of my own life, and forget to rely on God. I know He can handle my life better, and I have heard from other people in Program that He can grant me the serenity that I seek. So why do I try to do it on my own?

I could say it is human nature, and it is. I could say it is fear of the unknown... and it is. But, whatever it is... I have to get to the place where my desire for recovery is greater than my pride. Where I am willing to do whatever it takes, to get what I need to get through each 24 hours.

Many people come to OA because they want to lose weight, and that is not a bad motivation. But if weight loss is our primary goal, we will fall short again and again. Because OA is a threefold recovery Program: physical, emotional and spiritual. And, to me, it is in the spiritual realm that we can make the profound changes which will equip us for daily recovery from our addictions and its resultant behavior. Only when we are willing (and, sometimes, we can begin merely by being "willing to be willing") are we able to trust and rely on our HP to the extent that we must, in order to hear His guidance and tune into His conncection in our fellow addicts. We glean, from them, the strength and support that is essential to our recovery.

Dependance, in this case, does not denote weakness. On the contrary, it is our ultimate Source of strength.

May you find strength in the Program today

Blessings Donna - food addict


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