OAsis is a 12 Step Online Meeting Loop.  Its mission is identical to that of a face-to-face meeting.  The only requirement to join is to have the desire to quit eating compulsively.
 
 
 
 
OUR TOPIC ~ "POWERLESSNESS"
 
"The fact is that most alcoholics, for reasons yet obscure, have lost the power of choice in drink.  Our so-called will power becomes practically nonexistent.  We are unable, at certain times, to bring into our consciousness with sufficient force the memory of the suffering and humiliation of even a week or a month ago.  We are without defense against the first drink."  Alcoholics Anonymous pg 24
  
 
OUR QUESTIONS
 
1. Why are we 'without defense against the first drink?'  (How does this apply to you?)
2. Tell us about your experiences as a compulsive overeater during the holiday season.  (How was it? Do you remember the holiday event itself or do more memories linger over what was served? How did you feel about yourself after the holidays were over?)
3. How do you plan to stay abstinent during this holiday season?
4. What are your 'relapse revelations?'  (What have you learned about yourself?)
5. What can you do 'Just For Today' that will strengthen your program?
 
 
ADDITIONAL TOPICS FOR SHARING ~ ESSAY QUESTIONS
 
1.  OA's 12&12, p. 2:  "Compulsive Overeaters, however, often have an abnormal reaction when we overindulge. We can't quit. A normal eater gets full and loses interest in food. We compulsive overeaters crave more."
ESSAY:  How has craving more hurt me in the past?  Am I able to stop on will power alone?
 
2.  FOR TODAY, p. 112:  "I readily admit I have no self-control when it comes to eating. God can and does, however, do for me what I cannot do for myself."
ESSAY:   Why do I have no self-control around food?  How does God 'Do for me what I cannot do for myself?'
 
3. BIG BOOK, pg. 25:  "If you are as seriously alcoholic as we were, we believe there is no middle-of-the-road solution."
ESSAY:  Do you believe a 'middle-of-the-road solution' is possible this holiday season? Or do you agree that there is 'no middle-of-the-road solution' possible for a compulsive overeater during the holidays or of that matter, all year long? Why?
 
4.  FOR TODAY, p. 359:  "Today I know that the pain of compulsive overeating is worse than any problem I may have to face. . . Although my life is better than it has ever been, I need a daily reminder that abstinence is the single most important thing in my life.  I have paid my dues as a compulsive overeater. . . I never want to go back to where I came from."
ESSAY:  What is your daily reminder that abstinence is the single most important thing in your life?
 
 
OUR PRAYER
 
As we begin the week, can we stop for a moment this morning and quietly say these words:
 
God, grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change;
The courage to change the things we can;
And the wisdom to know the difference.
 
 
OUR LISTENING 
 
Speakers: John K. and Michael K. 
Topic:  "There Is A Solution"
(2006 AA Big Book Study)
1 Hour
 
 
 
 
 
OUR READING
 

The Ghost of Bingeing Past

 

On a quiet Christmas Eve in the house of an OA maintainer, everyone had gone to bed for the night. Carole lay awake in her bed, though, contemplating tomorrow's planned gathering of family and friends. She thought of two Christmases past, when she'd been losing weight and couldn't partake of the various treats at the party. But this year would be different; she'd been maintaining since March. "Maybe I could taste just a little bit," she thought as she drifted off to sleep.

Klump! Klump! Klump! Carole awoke and sat up quickly. 

There at the foot of her bed stood a rather obese woman in a torn flannel gown holding a plate of food. Her hair was a mess, hanging down as she stared at her plate. She slowly looked up at Carole, her face smeared with jelly and crumbs and a tear trickling down her cheek. Carole gasped and thought, "She looks just like I did before I came to OA!"

Who are you?" Carole asked. "What are you doing here?"  The sad-faced lady at the foot of the bed said with a shaky voice, "I am the ghost of Christmas-Bingeing Past. I have come to remind you how it was." As quickly as she'd appeared she was gone.

"What a dream," Carole thought, "I must be on a guilt trip about all the food I'll be serving tomorrow." She went back to sleep but was soon awakened, this time by a voice. A woman stood in front of Carole's mirror; from the woman's reflection, Carole could see the hurt and anger in her eyes. The woman was cursing her dress, which she couldn't zip up. She gave up in frustration.

"I don’t understand it," the woman said as she looked into the mirror. "I didn't eat any more than anyone else over the holidays! Why me? Well, I’m not going to that OA meeting now that I don't have any clothes that fit right." Carole asked, "Who are you?" The woman in the tight dress replied, "Well, if you have to know, I'm the ghost of Christmas-Bingeing Present. All I had was a couple of small pieces of fruit cake and some eggnog." With that, she vanished.

At 4:00 a.m., Carole felt like she had just dozed off when she was awakened by the loudest, most uncontrolled sob­bing she had ever heard.  It was coming from the kitchen.  She approached the room cautiously; as she looked in, she was shocked!  It was a mess; dirty dishes were stacked on the counter with open food containers everywhere. The cup­boards were open, and food was all over the table. A woman weighing over three hundred pounds stood peering into the refrig­erator, sobbing loudly. "God, please make me stop," she wailed. "I don't want to die of overeating!"

          Carole couldn't stand it. She approached the sobbing woman and said, "Who are you? Haven't you ever heard of Overeaters Anonymous?" 

"Who am I? Have I ever heard of OA? I'm the lady who was in OA for three years and maintained my weight loss for ten months," the woman answered. ''I'm the one who quit going to meetings because my size-nine dress wouldn't zip up, and my pride was hurt. I'm the ghost of Christmas-Bingeing Future, and I could be you!" Carole ran back to her bed as the ghost disappeared. Mercifully, sleep finally came to her.

Carole awoke in the morning without any doubts of her absti­nence. She thanked God for the beautiful day and for her family both at home and in OA. As Christmas day progressed, guests arrived and gifts were exchanged. There were also many treats. Each time Carole was asked to sample something, she just smiled and said, "No, thank you. I'm quite full with what I have inside right now.”

      Anonymous  - Canada

                 

Relapse Revelations

 

 Two weeks ago I gave in to the compulsion to overeat, and I've been in a major relapse ever since. I'm by no means happy about this, but looking back, I've learned a lot of lessons I hope I'll never forget.

   

        • I can no allow longer allow myself the luxury of a "one-day" binge. My illness has progressed far beyond that point.

   

        • When I'm in relapse there's never enough food. I run franti­cally from sweet to salty, from cold to hot, and start the cycle all over again - never finding that one elusive "magic" food that will sedate me at last. I'm like a wild woman, cramming down food well past the point of feeling sick and stuffed - yet already planning what to eat next.

   

        • The food I binged on didn't do one thing to make me feel better. All it did was steal two weeks of my life.

 

        • When I'm in relapse, I become so obsessed that I can think of nothing else. Each evening is spent planning my binges for the next day, wrestling with the compulsion monster far into the night, wondering: "Will I binge tomorrow? What will I binge on? How will I sneak the food? Where will I hide the wrappers?" Even in sleep the obsession controls me.

       

        • When I give in to the food, my disease rapidly reactivates. I find myself behaving as destructively as I did in my pre-OA days waking up each morning thinking: "This is it! I'm going to be okay today"- only to find myself diving desperately for the food just a few hours later .

       

         • I haven't forgotten how to be sneaky. I caught myself secretly eating large amounts of food when no one was around, then hiding the trash. What I had forgotten was the tremendous amount of guilt and self-hatred that go along with that behavior. When I'm sneak eating, I feel like a phony while my true self gets lost under mounds of food and negative behavior.

 

But perhaps the most important realization that's come out of this is that I do know how to surrender after all. I always questioned the concept of surrendering to a Higher Power. But now I see that for the past two weeks totally surrendered to food! I'd given food complete control and power over me. I was no longer in charge of my life or how I spent my time; the obsession decided that for me.

Since I already know what it means to give something complete power over me, why not surrender to what will truly care for me and love me as food never can: a loving Higher Power that choose to call God?

As I've heard said so many times, and now truly believe: "It's much harder to get abstinent than to stay abstinent" and "Nothing tastes as good as abstinence feels."

- Florida USA

Just For Today

Just For Today:

I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle my whole life problem at once.  I can do something for one day that would appall me if I felt I had to keep it up for a lifetime.

Just For Today:

I will be happy.  This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, that, “Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.”

Just For Today:

I will adjust myself to what is and not try to adjust everything to my own desires.  I will take my “luck” as it comes and fit myself to it.

Just For Today:

I try to strengthen my mind.  I will study.  I will learn something useful.  I will not be a mental loafer.  I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.

Just For Today:

I will exercise my soul in three ways.  I will do somebody a good turn and not get found out; if anyone knows of it, it will not count.  I will do at least two things I don’t want to do, just for exercise.  I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt; they may be hurt, but today I will not show it.

Just For Today:

I will be agreeable.  I will look as well as I can, dress becomingly, talk low, act courteously, criticize not one bit, not find fault with anything, and not try to improve or regulate anybody except myself.

Just For Today:

I will have a program.  I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it.  I will save myself from two pests; hurry and indecision.

Just For Today:

I will have a quiet half hour all by myself, and relax.  During this half hour, sometime, I will try to get a better perspective on my life.

 

Just For Today:

I will be unafraid.  Especially, I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful and to believe that as I give to the world, so the world will give to me.

      
 . . . . . . . . . .Reading During an OA How Meeting
 
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