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RELIGION IN TWELVE STEP SUPPORT GROUPS
The Recovery Group is blessed to have members from all over the world. We represent dozens of different countries, cultures, lifestyles, occupations, religions, colors, talents and ages. What binds us together, though, is that we all share the disease of compulsive eating. As a result of this we have a common goal.
One of the issues that creates more controversy than any other in 12 Step Groups is the subject of religion. The Recovery Group cared enough about this issue to create Special Focus loops and meetings for those who wish to work their program in a religious environment. But the great majority of our members work the 12 Step program for spiritual reasons and not religious ones. Therefore, our regular 12 Step loops and meetings avoid the use of deity-specific names which relate to specific religions. Instead we use the terms, God (meaning the God of Our Understanding) and Higher Power. Why? Because these words cause no controversy and allow us to express our deepest spiritual feelings and keep our loops and meetings at peace.
As a result of this, our loops and meetings provide a recovery home conducive to sharing our experience, strength and hope. We leave religion to the churches, politics to the government, specific foods to the diet books while we're attending 12 Step TRG meetings or participating in Recovery or ODAT Division loops.
Occasionally, a newcomer will not understand this and may start a religious discussion or use specific deities. We ask our Coordinators and Meeting Leaders to not make a big deal of this because sometimes that creates more problems than it solves. Ignore it and move on with the meeting or loop sharing. If a member persists in this, a private message will usually take care of it ... but be aware COEs are sensitive creatures and some may react to even the most gentle of warnings. If there is a reaction, you have only done your job and an apology isn't necessary. This becomes the member's problem to work out with his/her sponsor and not yours. It is not a good idea to make an announcement to the whole loop or meeting soon after an offense even if names are not mentioned. Everyone knows who you're referring to even if the name isn't used.
The most successful loops at solving this issue are those with coordinator or meeting leaders who, perhaps, monthly, send out a loop protocol. The protocol should not highlight this one problem ... it should be included in the total protocol lest it be given too much emphasis.
Thank you for reading and filing this Training Post. And also thank you for your service to others via TRG.
Questions? MtgAdm@TheRecoveryGroup.org or TRGAdm@TheRecoveryGroup.org
Thanking and Being Silent During a Meeting
In a perfect meeting in a perfect world, it would be desirable for everyone to be able to welcome someone about to share and to respond to their share afterwards. We are, however, online and that is not in the best interest of our one-hour 12 Step Meetings. Most meeting attendees now understand that TRG Meetings do not encourage everyone to say "Welcome" or "Glad you're Here" before someone begins to share. We do allow brief comments after the share as the Meeting Leader calls on the next person to share but that is not mandatory nor should it be.
What would not ever be appropriate in our meetings is for the Meeting Leader to kick anyone from our meeting for any reason unless they were disrupting the meeting.
Who, Who Is & Who Was
As a Recovery Meeting Leader, there will be many occasions when you will want to use the technically neat features of mIRC called the "Who," "Who Is?" and "Who Was?" commands.
These three commands give information about everyone on IRC and some of it can be used to identify interlopers who become infamous as they prowl around doing their damage. In addition to giving the domain the member is using, it gives other information that you and/or the #Starchat techies will find helpful.
To find out who is in any channel on Starchat, you use the "Who" command.
To do a "Who," type the following command /who #Starchat
It wil return the folowing
#StarChat Krycek H*@ jedstar@ServOp.StarChat.Net :3 B.Jedstar
#StarChat Phoenix H*@ bcradio@ServOp.StarChat.Net :3 Justin
#StarChat Blaze H*@ Frost@ServOp.StarChat.Net :3 Slightly chilled with a twist of humor
#StarChat BlkDragon H*@ snake@ServOp.StarChat.Net :2 BlkDragon
#StarChat littleone H*@ littleone@ServOp.StarChat.Net :3 littleone
#StarChat Luverly H*+ Luverly@NetAdmin.StarChat.Net :2 Luverly
#StarChat Ariel H*@ howdy@SRA.StarChat.Net :2 No chocolate in heaven? I'm not going
#Starchat End of /WHO list.
To do a "Who is", simply type the following command: /whois Jane123 It will return this:
Jane is Jane@cpe-071-076-056-159.sc.res.rr.com * Jane
Jane on @#OARecovery
Jane is using Wildcat.UK.EU.StarChat.Net The pack is back!
Jane has been idle 44mins 11secs, signed on Mon Mar 09 16:05:34
Jane End of /WHOIS list.
Occasionally the person you want information about has already logged off, in which case you would do a "Who Was." That command is: /whowas Jane It will return this:
Jane was Jane@Star892904.sc.res.rr.com * Jane
Jane using irc.starchat.net Mon Mar 9 21:05:33 2009
- After reading the shares of a specific loop and privately feeling out anyone you think has the qualifications to make a good coordinator, you should write TRGAdm for the names of all loops they've registered for and review the archives of that potential candidate.
- You may want to write the Trusted Servants and see if any existing Coordinators would like to take a second loop. You should also ask the existing coordinator for suggestions.
- Do not offer a position to anyone ... but "feel out" those you feel are qualified. Discuss the person with other administrators and Mari and then write the candidate and see if there's interest. But do not offer the job. Let them know that you're talking to several people. If they're interested, then ask them to read the following URLs and see if there are questions. www.therecoverygroup.org/guidelines.html; www.therecoverygroup.org/training/index.html; www.therecoverygroup.org/coordinators.html
- When you feel you have a good match, that's the time to ask if they're interested in the job and then to begin the process of the actual appointment.
- Send a brief bio of the candidate to email@example.com
- When you are notified that the committee has approved one of your nominees for Coordinators, please appoint them and immediately after see that their name is on the Master List of Trusted Servants, added to the appropriate trusted servant's list and ask TRGAdm to add his/her name to L-Soft headers to be notified of all new and departing members.
- After the above is done, then announce the appointee to the following:
- TrustedServants@lists.therecoverygroup.org, ODATTrustedServants@lists.therecoverygroup.org and MeetingTS@TheRecoveryGroup.org
- Be sure in your announcement to include the address of the new coordinator so that those who might like to welcome them can do so. You might also want to include a line or two about them
- Each month your coordinators should send you a report and you are asked to synopsize the reports in one e-mail and send to TRGAdm@TheRecoveryGroup.org with the following on the subject line: MAY 2009 REPORT ~ YOUR NAME ~ YOUR OFFICE ADDRESS.
- Regularly throughout the month you should touch base with each coordinator and ask how things are. You should also check and make sure that articulate welcome and greetings are being sent faithfully. Believe it or not, we have had greeters who weren't greeters and 12th Step Within T/S who weren't saying goodbye.
Constantly keep your eyes open for good people.
The 12 Concepts of OA Service
1) The ultimate responsibility and authority for OA world services reside in the collective conscience of our whole Fellowship.3 Overeaters Anonymous, Inc. Bylaws Subpart B May 2010.
2) The OA groups have delegated to World Service Business Conference the active maintenance of our world services; thus, World Service Business Conference is the voice, authority and effective conscience of OA as a whole.
3) The right of decision, based on trust, makes effective leadership possible.
4) The right of participation ensures equality of opportunity for all in the decision-making process.
5) Individuals have the right of appeal and petition in order to ensure that their opinions and personal grievances will be carefully considered.
6) The World Service Business Conference has entrusted the Board of Trustees with the primary responsibility for the administration of Overeaters Anonymous.
7) The Board of Trustees has legal rights and responsibilities accorded to them by OA Bylaws, Subpart A; the rights and responsibilities of the World Service Business Conference are accorded to it by Tradition and by OA Bylaws, Subpart B.
8) The Board of Trustees has delegated to its Executive Committee the responsibility to administer the OA World Service Office.
9) Able, trusted servants, together with sound and appropriate methods of choosing them, are indispensable for effective functioning at all service levels.
10) Service responsibility is balanced by carefully defined service authority; therefore, duplication of efforts is avoided.
11) Trustee administration of the World Service Office should always be assisted by the best standing committees, executives, staffs and consultants.
12) The spiritual foundation for OA service ensures that:
a) No OA committee or service body shall ever become the seat of perilous wealth or power;
b) Sufficient operating funds, plus an ample reserve, shall be OA’s prudent financial principle;
c) No OA member shall ever be placed in a position of unqualified authority;
d) All important decisions shall be reached by discussion, vote and whenever possible, by substantial unanimity;
e) No service action shall ever be personally punitive or an incitement to public controversy; and Overeaters Anonymous, Inc. Bylaws Subpart B May 2010;
f) No OA service committee or service board shall ever perform any acts of government, and each shall always remain democratic in thought and action.