~ Day Six ~
Ten Ways To Love Ourselves

~ Dear Friends on the Journey ~

DAY ONE

~ ~ STOP ALL CRITICISM ~ ~

CRITICISM NEVER CHANGES A THING.
REFUSE TO CRITICIZE YOURSELF.
ACCEPT YOURSELF EXACTLY AS YOU ARE.
EVERYBODY CHANGES.
WHEN YOU CRITICIZE YOURSELF,
YOUR CHANGES ARE NEGATIVE.
WHEN YOU APPROVE OF YOURSELF,
YOUR CHANGES ARE POSITIVE

DAY TWO

~ ~ DON'T SCARE YOURSELF ~ ~

DON'T SCARE YOURSELF.
STOP TERRORIZING YOURSELF
WITH YOUR THOUGHTS.
IT'S A DREADFUL WAY TO LIVE!
FIND A MENTAL IMAGE THAT GIVES YOU PLEASURE
( MINE IS A WATERFALL),
AND IMMEDIATLEY SWITCH YOUR SCARY THOUGHT
TO A PLEASURABLE THOUGHT.

DAY THREE

~ ~ BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENT ~ ~

BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF.
BE KIND TO YOURSELF.
BE PATIENT WITH YOURSELF
AS YOU LEARN THE NEW WAYS OF THINKING.
TREAT YOURSELF AS YOU WOULD
SOMEONE YOU REALLY, REALLY LOVED.

DAY FOUR

~ ~ BE KIND TO YOUR MIND ~ ~

SELF HATRED IS ONLY HATING
YOUR OWN THOUGHTS.
DON'T HATE YOURSELF
FOR HAVING BAD THOUGHTS.
GENTLY CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS.

DAY FIVE

~ ~ PRAISE YOURSELF~ ~

CRITICISM BREAKS DOWN THE INNER SPIRIT.
PRAISE BUILDS IT UP.
PRAISE YOURSELF AS MUCH AS YOU CAN.
TELL YOURSELF HOW WELL YOU ARE DOING
WITH EACH AND EVERY LITTLE THING.

DAY SIX

~ ~ SUPPORT YOURSELF ~ ~

FIND WAYS TO SUPPORT YOURSELF.
REACH OUT TO FRIENDS AND
ALLOW THEM TO HELP YOU.
IT IS BEING STRONG
TO ASK FOR HELP
WHEN YOU NEED IT.

Why do we have to love ourselves? Why can't we just go on with our lives and be the way we are? So what ... if we weren't programmed when we were little to love ourselves. Is it really that big of a deal? This is Day Six of "How to Love Ourselves" and these exercises just aren't as easy when you do them everyday as we would like them to be.

I've gone all week trying not to cricicize myself. Day One. And I believe I've done a pretty good job of it ... but today I am having trouble not doing that. It's a fine line between justifying things ... and not criticizing myself. Why I am doing that ... justifying? And when is it appropriate that I criticize myself?

I do really good each day on not scaring myself. Day Two. I couldn't do that before recovery ... before I learned how harmful it was to let scary thoughts linger in my mind. I've learned how to stop in my tracks and put bad thoughts out of my mind. Visualization. Couldn't do this before I learned how to visualize.

I also think I've done pretty good on being gentle, kind and patient with myself. Day Three. Not doing particularly good with that today, however. I'm running behind on some things. I'm chastizing myself for that ... I'm not patient ... I'm pushing ... trying to put out fires and still get things done that I need to do. I'm feeling guilty about not completing some things. I need to work on this some.

It has been a long time since I've felt any self-hatred toward myself. Day Four. It took me years and years to conquer that one. It even took some therapy along the way. And it took working the steps.

I believe the hardest one is to praise myself. Day Five. I have high expectations and usually don't praise myself unless I exceed those. Lately, though, I feel a sense of accomplishment for just getting about anything done. So, I guess, as time goes on and we begin to simplify our life one can get just as much a sense of accomplishment from making up a bed as they can for creating a masterpiece. Mari, you did a fabulous job making up that bed this morning. It was truly magnificent!!!!!

This is Day Six. Being strong. Support ourselves. Reaching Out. Asking for Help. Sometimes we aren't strong enough. We can't do certain things alone. Why is it so hard for me to reach out? Why is asking for help so difficult? I need to reach out today. I need help. I'm going through another crisis with the copyrights on my writing. I can't handle this alone. I'm going to be strong. I'm hanging in there at the moment. But it's tenuous. I'm going to communicate before the day is over. Will it sound like whining? Be strong? How strong am I supposed to be. Ask for help? Will I appear weak if I do?

Day Seven tomorrow. No wonder we don't love ourselves. Do people who love themselves really do all of these things? Does it just come automatically to them? I believe it does. I wish I could raise my children over. I didn't teach them all of these things about loving themselves. Maybe because I taught them what I did teach them, however, they don't need to learn all of this. Maybe it just comes automatically to them.

Dear God,
Loving myself today
is not as easy as it was
yesterday. Help me to learn
to do all of this automatically.
Help me to really love myself.



Love,
Mari
Marisok@aol.com
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