Day Ten
Ten Ways To Love Ourselves


Dear Friends on our Journey

DAY ONE

~ ~ STOP ALL CRITICISM ~ ~

CRITICISM NEVER CHANGES A THING.
REFUSE TO CRITICIZE YOURSELF.
ACCEPT YOURSELF EXACTLY AS YOU ARE.
EVERYBODY CHANGES.
WHEN YOU CRITICIZE YOURSELF,
YOUR CHANGES ARE NEGATIVE.
WHEN YOU APPROVE OF YOURSELF,
YOUR CHANGES ARE POSITIVE

DAY TWO

~ ~ DON'T SCARE YOURSELF ~ ~

DON'T SCARE YOURSELF.
STOP TERRORIZING YOURSELF
WITH YOUR THOUGHTS.
IT'S A DREADFUL WAY TO LIVE!
FIND A MENTAL IMAGE THAT GIVES YOU PLEASURE
( MINE IS A WATERFALL),
AND IMMEDIATLEY SWITCH YOUR SCARY THOUGHT
TO A PLEASURABLE THOUGHT.

DAY THREE

~ ~ BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENT ~ ~

BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF.
BE KIND TO YOURSELF.
BE PATIENT WITH YOURSELF
AS YOU LEARN THE NEW WAYS OF THINKING.
TREAT YOURSELF AS YOU WOULD
SOMEONE YOU REALLY, REALLY LOVED.

DAY FOUR

~ ~ BE KIND TO YOUR MIND ~ ~

SELF HATRED IS ONLY HATING
YOUR OWN THOUGHTS.
DON'T HATE YOURSELF
FOR HAVING BAD THOUGHTS.
GENTLY CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS.

DAY FIVE

~ ~ PRAISE YOURSELF~ ~

CRITICISM BREAKS DOWN THE INNER SPIRIT.
PRAISE BUILDS IT UP.
PRAISE YOURSELF AS MUCH AS YOU CAN.
TELL YOURSELF HOW WELL YOU ARE DOING
WITH EACH AND EVERY LITTLE THING.

DAY SIX

~ ~ SUPPORT YOURSELF ~ ~

FIND WAYS TO SUPPORT YOURSELF.
REACH OUT TO FRIENDS AND
ALLOW THEM TO HELP YOU.
IT IS BEING STRONG
TO ASK FOR HELP
WHEN YOU NEED IT.

DAY SEVEN

~ ~ BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES ~ ~

ACKNOWLEDGE THAT
YOU CREATED THEM
TO FULFILL A NEED.
NOW YOU ARE FINDING NEW,
POSITIVE WAYS
TO FULFILL THOSE NEEDS.
SO, LOVINGLY RELEASE
THE OLD NEGATIVE PATTERNS.

DAY EIGHT

~ ~ TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY ~ ~

LEARN ABOUT NUTRITION.
WHAT KIND OF FUEL DOES
YOUR BODY NEED TO HAVE FOR
OPTIMUM ENERGY AND VITALITY?
LEARN ABOUT EXERCISE.
WHAT KIND OF EXERCISE CAN YOU ENJOY
AND TOLERATE ACCORDING TO YOUR ILLNESS?
CHERISH AND REVERE THE TEMPLE YOU LIVE IN.

DAY NINE

~ ~ MIRROR WORK ~ ~

LOOK INTO YOUR EYES OFTEN.
EXPRESS THIS GROWING SENSE OF LOVE
YOU HAVE FOR YOURSELF.
FORGIVE YOURSELF,
LOOKING INTO THE MIRROR.
TALK TO YOUR PARENTS AND LOVED ONES,
LOOKING INTO THE MIRROR.
FORGIVE THEM TOO.
AT LEAST ONCE A DAY SAY:
"I LOVE YOU.
I REALLY LOVE YOU"

DAY TEN

~ ~ LOVE YOURSELF ~ ~

DO IT NOW!
DON'T WAIT UNTIL YOU GET WELL,
OR LOSE THE WEIGHT,
OR GET THE NEW JOB,
OR THE NEW RELATIONSHIP.
BEGIN NOW....
AND DO THE BEST YOU CAN!

This is the final day ~ ~ Day Ten ~ ~ in a series on How to Love Ourselves. I hope that each day we have come to a place in our lives that we realize how lovable we are. And how essential it is that we feel that way.

My name is Mari. I am a compulsive person in recovery. I have an addiction. I have a disease. First and foremost, recovery has to be the most important thing in my life. If it isn't, I have no life. I am back to that place we have all been when we realize that a cunning, baffling and insidious disease has taken hold of us ... and this disease is constantly and forever doing push-ups preparing to pounce on us when we are at our most vulnerable.

Do you remember in the movie "The Exorcist" when the priest would hold up the crucifix to the devil and the demon would go into all sorts of machinations to fight off the spell caused by just the act of seeing the crucifix? Our disease is like that. There are things we can do ... things we MUST do constantly to fight off this disease. I've often said there were two .... Abstinence and the Twelve Steps. When one is abstinent and actively working the Twelve Steps, we are empowered to fight this disease. Without both, we have no chance.

There is a third thing that just by writing this series on How To Love Yourself made me realize is important enough to include. Loving Ourselves. I have come to realize that if we are not abstinent, if we are not working the steps and if we do not love ourselves that we don't have a snowball's chance in hell of being joyous, happy and free.

This Journey-to-Recovery series has opened doors for me on how to love myself. I hope it has also done so for you. I am going back over all of these exercises and many of them, if not all of them, I will do each and every day. They will become rituals. And, although I love many people in my life, I have a tendency to leave the most important person of all out. ME.

I'd like you to scroll back up now if you would ... and read the titles to each day over ... and see if you, like me, have taken one baby step more to that one-day-at-a-time place we know as recovery. I hope so. Loving oneself is something many of us just simply never learned to do. And loving ourself is not an option. Because if we don't love ourselves, we will hate ourselves. And, if we hate ourselves, our disease will take over .... it will quit doing those push-ups .. and pounce on us ... it will start the "stinking thinking" all over again ... it will tell us how rotten we are ... it will seduce us with our drug of choice ... and it will grin while doing so.

Dear God,
Please help me to be kind to myself.
To be gentle with my thoughts and feelings.
I know that the more I can love myself ...
And the more honest I can be
With my own emotions ...
The freer I can be
To love and give joy to others.



Love,
Mari
Marisok@aol.com
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