There needs to be some energy put into each loop -- either from the coordinator or from some of the members. Just writing something and posting it to several loops doesn't give each loop the energy it deserves, in my opinion. (I'm sure there are exceptions).

In my face-to-face group, there is an aura of acceptance. When you walk in the door, no matter where you've been, what you've done -- this is the one place where you are accepted without conditions. I'd like to see that same acceptance demonstrated on the loops. It's done differently -- in my f2f group it's done with smiles, head nods and hugs. Online, it has to be done with words in an email. I think the attitude is "if you want to be a part of our group and you qualify, you ARE a part of our group." Of course, the qualification is that you have a desire to stop eating compulsively.

Some coordinators introduce topics for discussion. I think it's a good idea for them to also ask the members to introduce topics. Or as a facilitator, you see something in a post and say "Abby just mentioned loneliness. How do each of YOU handle it when you become too lonely?"

The coordinators are available to answer questions about the focus of the loop, but shouldn't feel they have to respond to every person's post individually. They have a good grasp of the scope of each loop and let the members know if a topic is beyond that scope. They watch for Guideline violation and tactfully handle them.

Thank God for the loop coordinators.

~ Dodee

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